Study Circle Assignment

Surah Al Furqan; verse 74

Mohd Hazim Mat Salim : Mohd Firdaus Izzuddin Mohd Omar

3/27/2014

Mukaddimah

In the name of Allah, the Beneficent and the Merciful. For this assignment of Study Circle subject, we have chosen verse ! from Surah Al" Fur#an in our holy boo$ which is Al"%uranul &arim. 'his verse is very (o(ular and always been read in our du)a. 'his verse tells us to be a (erson that as$s from Allah to have a family that obey all *is order to get a shelter from being incited from devil. As we $now, Allah is the only one can hel( us and all *is (lan is already on *is $nowledge. So, we must always $ee( (raying every day and every time so that we will not forget to our great Creator. 'here are +, times that we are really encouraged to ma$e our du)a and these times will ma$e demand efficacious Insha"Allah. 'he times are Arafah day, in -amadhan month, in Friday, when ta$e brea$ fasting, between a.an and i#amah, after (raying, during raining, when in war /fi sabilillah0, after finish read Al"%uran, when (rostration and +12 of night. 'he verse is3

4hich means 3 And those who say, 56ur 7ord, grant us from among our wives and offs(ring comfort to our eyes and ma$e us an e8am(le for the righteous.5 4hy we choose this verse9 'his is because this verse is very interesting to discuss because it is related to us that one day we will become a husband and a father Insha"Allah. 'his is a little bit discussion from us.

Wife
4ho is wife9 It is im(ortant to us9 Can we live without a wife9 A wife is a female (artner in a continuing marital relationshi(. A wife may also be referred to as a s(ouse. Marriage is one of the Sunnah of our (ro(het Muhammad s.a.w. 'raditionally, the wife in Islam is seen as a (rotected, chaste (erson that manages the household and the family. She has the ever im(ortant role of raising the children and bringing u( the ne8t generation of Muslims. In Islam, it is highly recommended that the wife remains at home although they are fully able to own (ro(erty or wor$. 'he husband is obligated to s(end on the wife for all of her needs while she is not obligated to s(end even if she is wealthy. 'he :ro(het commanded all Muslim men to treat their wives well. In fact in the hadith he even said 5'he best of you are those who are best to their wives5 'he (ious wife is the greatest thing in the world. 'he (ious wife is a woman that obeys her husband and (erforms order of Allah and *is messenger. But a man, who is called husband, must show a (ath to his wife to become a (ious wife. 7i$e in Surah An"nisa) verse 2! ;'he men are the (rotectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made some of them /men0 over others /women0, and because they /men0 have s(ent most of their wealth.< ;Men are the (rotectors of women means, com(rehensive in the sense that as leaders, heads of state, judges, educators or mentors to women< /'afsir Ibn &athir0. 7eading wife means he is in charge of teaching the characteristics of a Muslim woman, morals, worshi( and res(onsibilities as a wife and the Muslims without forgetting the res(onsibility of himself /husband0. 4hich means her husband must have $nowledge of the true Muslim to teach his wife. 'herefore, the unmarried woman should choose her future husband a Muslim to understand and obey her husband in order to be eligible to be leader of the household. *andsome and wealthy is also im(ortant, but not as im(ortant as obedience and their $nowledge of their religion. :ro(het has e8(lained the ways of educating women in general, but clear and concise. From Abu *urairah3 ='he :ro(het said, ;teach woman with the

best way she surely made /such0 from the ribs. And most croo$ed rib is above all. If you are forced to straighten, *e /bro$en0 and if you leave it alone, it will always bend. For that reason, she should loo$ in a way that is best.</Sahih Bu$hari and Sahih Muslim0). 'hat means that if the husband is too strong /very strong, tem(ered or otherwise0 would not be a ha((y marriage. If let alone the wife, for e8am(le, let the wife do not cover themselves at home, mi8 freely or just let it ma$e arbitrary, then the household is also not ha((y. Should be in the middle of them, which (ut gentle demeanor, assertive or angry fit on the (lace and circumstances. 'he husband should also be faithful to his wife. Faithful to his wife is also a sunnah of the :ro(het, as Allah>s loyal to his wife &hadijah bint &huwaylid /the four best women in the universe0 even after he died. *ow we want to choose a wife9 :ro(het Muhammad in the hadith means, ;Marry a woman for four reasons, for her wealth, for her lineage, because of its beauty and because of his religion. Choose a religious woman, thou shall be saved.< If we choose a woman because of her beauty the beauty will decrease when old, if we choose because of wealth it will decrease day by day, if we choose because of lineage it will not guarantee us ha((iness. All of these are only tem(orary. If we choose a woman because of his religion, it will bring ha((iness forever to us Insha"Allah. In Surah Al"Ba#arah verse ,,23 ;4ives, you are your fields, so go in unto the farm as you (lease.< 'hat means we can do whatever we want with our wife to reach ha((iness in a right way as long as our wife not in menstruation. Besides, we must remind that =women im(ure for men im(ure (rovided. And men im(ure for women im(ure (rovided anyway, and (rovided a good woman for a good man, a good man and (rovided for the women stand a good turn)/An"?ur 3 ,@0. 'herefore, a (ious and good man will get a (ious and good woman. From a good woman will (roduce a good children and this cycle will $ee( re(eating. So, let us increase our Iman and Amal and try to be a good (erson so that our live will be ha((y.

Child
4hen man and woman ma$e the decision to marry and start a family they are securing their future children)s rights. :ro(het Muhammad, may the mercy and blessings of Aod be u(on him, advised his com(anions and all believers to ma$e the following su((lication to Aod before having se8ual intercourse. ;I begin with the ?ame of AodB 6 AodB :rotect me from Satan and (rotect what Cou bestow u(on us /our offs(ring0 from Satan.<D+E 6nce a child is conceived it is im(ortant to remember that this is a trust from Aod. Although the child is most certainly a blessing, it is not a (ossession. *e or she has Aod given rights that must be fulfilled. 'hroughout the (regnancy, the e8(ectant (arents must ta$e care to (re(are for the new arrival. 'he mother must ta$e care of herself by eating the correct food, getting the re#uired amount of rest, and see$ing medical aid when needed. :re(aring for birth also includes remembering Aod and see$ing *is aid. ;6 my 7ordB Arant me from Cou, a good offs(ring. Cou are indeed the All"*earer of invocation.< /%uran 232F0 ;It is *e 4ho has created you from a single (erson /Adam0, and /then0 *e has created from him his wife Gve, in order that he might enjoy the (leasure of living with her. 4hen he had se8ual relations with her, she became (regnant and she carried it about lightly. 'hen when it became heavy, they both invo$ed their 7ord /saying0, ;If Cou give us a child, good in every as(ect, we shall indeed be among the grateful.<< /%uran 3+FH0 ;6ur 7ordB Bestow on us from our wives and our offs(ring the comfort of our eyes, and ma$e us leaders of the (ious.< /%uran ,I3 !0 Muslims believe all children are born submitting to Aod, this means they are born innately inclined to love and worshi( Aod alone. In his traditions, :ro(het Muhammad, may the mercy and blessings of Aod be u(on him, made this very clear. *e said that no child is born e8ce(t on his true nature /Islam0 and that his (arents may choose to give him1her a different religion other than submission to 6ne Aod.D,E 4hen a child is born it is a cause for much ha((iness and celebration. In Islam there is no (reference for either a male or female child. %uran says that both the male and the female were created from a single (erson /Adam0 and that are e#ual e8ce(t in terms of (iety and righteousness. ;And Aod said, =6h human$indB Be dutiful to your 7ord, 4ho created you from a single (erson /Adam0 and from *im /Adam0 *e created his wife /Gve0, and from them both *e created many men and women.< /%uran !3+0

Islam was revealed at a time when the Arabs (racticed infanticide and would often bury their female babies alive. 'his was an ignorant (ractice and :ro(het Muhammad stated categorically that female children are a blessing and that raising them to be righteous believers is a source of great reward. ;And when the news of /the birth of0 a female /child0 is brought to any of them, his face becomes dar$, and he is filled with inward griefB *e hides himself from the (eo(le because of the evil of that whereof he has been informed. Shall he $ee( her with dishonour or bury her in the earth9 Certainly, evil is their decision.< /%uran +@3IF J IH0 4e have also learned much about the Islamic view of children from :ro(het Muhammad)s beloved wife Aisha. 'raditions narrated by her show clearly that male children should not be (referred over female children and that raising daughters is a source of great reward. A lady along with her two daughters came to me /Aisha0 as$ing for some alms, but she found nothing with me e8ce(t one date which I gave to her and she divided it between her two daughters, and did not eat anything herself, and then she got u( and went away. 'hen the :ro(het came in and I informed him about this story. *e said, ;4hoever is (ut to trial by having to raise daughters and he treats them generously /with benevolence0 then these daughters will act as a shield for him from *ell"Fire.<D2E ;4henever a child was born among them, Aisha would not as$ if it were a boy or a girl. Instead she would as$, =Is the child healthy /and without defect09) If she was told, =Ces,) she would say, All (raise is for Allah, 7ord of All the 4orlds.) 4hen the great day arrives, a new life joins the im(erfect world. *e is (laced into the hands of his (arents and becomes entitled to even more rights. Islam sets out very clearly that there are ways of welcoming and dealing with infants and children. 'hey are entitled to have their (hysical and emotional needs met and they are entitled to being taught how to worshi(, love and maintain a connection to Aod. :arents, e8tended families, guardians and the Muslim community at large have been given a trust, a tiny life com(letely de(endent u(on its caregivers for (rotection and care. For many children the world is immersed in terror. *unger, (ain, suffering, torture, se8ual abuse, and other horrors are the realities of life. 4hen their small attem(ts to reach for comfort are rejected or their cries are silenced Aod is watching, and angels are recording.