Teac hi ng Mat er i al s For I nner Ci r c l e

Level Si x

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St uar t Gol dsmi t h




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I nner Ci r c l e Level Si x Gr ade Mat er i al

Warning: This material is confidential. It relates to Inner Circle Level Six grade. Do not reveal this
material to anyone outside of Inner Circle. Do not leave it lying around where others might see it.

This month, I want to turn my attention towards the field of human relationships. In particular, so
called 'romantic love' relationships. The comments in this section apply to you if you are now, or have
ever been:

1. Married to, or living with a partner.

2. 'Engaged' to, or seriously involved with a partner.

If either of these categories apply to you (now, or in the past), then you have been exposed to the
most dangerous con-trick facing normal people today. I fully expect you to have some difficulty in
believing the things I will tell you in this release, but I warned you some time ago that you would not find
all of the material palatable. As ever I point out that the illusions which you most strongly believe are the
ones which you will resist exposing. It is easy to expose the con-tricks which you already suspected.

Prepare for some hard-hitting home truths about relationships.

Dr i f t i ng I nt o ' Love'

Non-initiates enter into relationships for many erroneous reasons. For example:

1. They just 'drift' into relationships. This represents just another uncontrolled and random area
of their lives (see axiom #8).

2. They believe in the myth of 'happy ever after love'.

3. They want sex, and this is the only way they know of getting it.

4. Their sexual (and biological) desires are overriding their logic and making them think that
they are 'in love'.

5. They want a replacement parent (e.g. Mother, Father).

6. They allow their age to influence their decision, e.g. they think it is 'about time' that they
settled down.

7. They allow others (e.g. parents) to pressurize them into (say) getting married.

8. They are just plain scared (of being left alone, left on the shelf etc.).

In stark contrast to this rag-bag of silly and erroneous reasons, open initiates enter into
relationships for one reason only:

1. They perceive that the mutual and honest exchange of values with their partner will lead to a
temporary increase in happiness for both partners.
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Notice the word 'temporary' in the above statement.

For the initiate, relationships are always temporary; just as everything else in the universe is of a
temporary and transitory nature. He recognizes that relationships - like stars, planets, countries, cities,
governments, houses, cars, and pairs of socks - have a finite life. He doesn't expect a relationship to last
beyond its allotted span, and he knows that any attempt to force the relationship to go beyond its natural
time-limit would result in unhappiness for both partners.

This is not a depressing thought. Exactly the opposite. The initiate has a wonderful, joyous, life
enhancing relationship with his partner, and then moves on to the next different, equally wonderful
relationship with a different partner! He is not some kind of latter-day Casanova, always on the lookout
for someone a little bit better than the partner he has; he simply refuses to stay in a relationship which has
'ended'. In other words, a relationship which has become a burnt-out, boring, tedious travesty of the
original relationship.

When you become an Inner Circle Initiate, you enjoy guilt-free, honest, open, loving, non-
manipulative relationships with your partners. These relationships will last exactly as long as they last -
which is typically between six months and six years. The relationship ends when one, or both partners
cease to enhance each other's life values; or it will end when one or both partners start to inhibit,
destroy or harm the other's life values.

A vital point to understand is that the open Initiate is 100% honest with his current partner. He
won't promise that he will stay 'until death do us part'. He will tell her that he will stay until such a time
that they cease to bring happiness to each other, then he will leave.

In contrast, most non-initiates are con-artists because they will promise that they will stay with
their partners forever (using the weapon of lies) - even when they know that this is a wholly unrealizable
fantasy, and that there is only a tiny chance that it will pan-out this way.

Pr ogr ammed For Repr oduc t i on

The Initiate believes that romantic love has, as its primary drive, the purely biological function of
sexual reproduction. In other words, lurking just below the surface of romantic love is the not so
romantic desire to reproduce.

We are all biologically programmed to reproduce. This is our primary directive, because without
this, all other directives (to eat, to survive) are pointless.

Now if you were writing a program to 'control' human beings in order to ensure that they
reproduced as often as possible, might I suggest that you would include the following elements:

1. Ensure that both men and women are fairly obsessed with sex (they are).

2. Ensure that women feel more romantic and sexy during ovulation (they do).

3. Invent an overwhelming emotion ('love') which overrides all logic, rational thought and
common sense and ensures that male and female couple together, no matter what the
consequences and regardless of rational thought. We call this 'being in love'.

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4. On the basis of maximizing reproduction, ensure that men want to have sex with as many
different women as possible (they do).

5. Ensure that the man has an orgasm a long time before the woman, otherwise the woman
would have her orgasm, push the man off before he had his, and thereby prevent conception.

Is it just a staggering coincidence that the program which controls our sexual and romantic
feelings, happens to be exactly the one which also maximizes the chance of reproduction?

I think not.

The male initiate realizes that he wants women for many different things. The female initiate
realizes that she wants men for many different things. Initiates do not confuse these things in their
mind, and attempt to lump them all under one heading called 'love'.

This knowledge confers great power on the initiate. It enables them to focus their energies on
their true desires. It prevents them from marrying or living with a partner who they just want to have sex
with. It prevents them from wasting years of their lives with partners who only fill a tiny range of their
needs. It allows them to recognize the many grades and types of 'love', and take rational and logical
decisions concerning each one of them.

This knowledge prevents you from marrying for 'spiritual love', and expecting a super-raunchy
sex-life with the same partner. These are not mutually exclusive, of course, just highly unlikely.

This knowledge prevents you from trying to 'bed' your close friends and associates, when this
could result in the loss of more valuable aspects of these relationships.

Here are just a few of the things which a man might want from a woman:

1. 'Spiritual' or 'true' love (as distinguished from sexual infatuation).

2. Companionship to avoid loneliness.

3. Sex with no strings attached.

4. Friendship.

5. Someone to care for.

6. Someone to care for him.

7. Someone to boost his ego and make him feel good.

8. A house-keeper/servant.

9. An attractive escort.

10. A mother for his children.

11. A wife.

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12. Someone to dominate.

13. Someone to dominate him.

14. A partner to share his hopes, fears, values, beliefs and ambitions.

Of course, women have an almost identical list of things they want from men. I won't rewrite the
above list again, as it takes too much space. All you have to do is change #8 to 'an odd-job-man, car
mechanic and gardener', #10 to 'A father for her children' and #11 to 'A husband'.

This is quite a list isn't it? Yet the average person does not even realize that they require many of
these things! Instead, they are happy to go 'doe-eyed' and 'fall in love' and marry a person who fills one, or
perhaps two of the above list. In many cases, a man will 'fall in love' because he wants sex - and be
totally unaware (as the sheep nearly always are) of exactly what he is allowing to happen to him.
Remember the Inner Circle axiom that the uninitiated masses almost never know their true reason for
doing anything - they bumble along blindly driven by whims.

Initiates recognize that they have many different needs concerning relationships. They do not
expect to find all of these things in one partner. In fact, they would be amazed and startled if they were to
discover a person who filled more than three or four of these needs.

The result is this:

Male initiates have many different women for different things. He might choose one or more
women for sex, a different woman for intellectual discussions, a different woman again to be the mother
of his children, and so on. Of course there will be much overlap between these women, and ideally it
would be perfect if he could find one woman to fill most of his needs, but he knows that he lives in a real
world, with real people, and he knows that statistically it is most unlikely that he will find one woman to
fill half of his needs, let alone all of them.

Female initiates have many different men for different things. She might choose one or more men
for sex, a different man for intellectual discussions, a different man again to be the father of her children,
and so on. Of course there will be much overlap between these men, and ideally it would be perfect if she
could find one man to fill most of her needs, but she knows that she lives in the real world, with real
people, and she knows that statistically it is most unlikely that she will find one man to fill half of her
needs, let alone all of them.

Remember, I am talking about initiates here, not sheep.

If an initiate desires a house-keeper/servant, then he will employ one, not marry one! If he desires
great sex with many different partners, then he will seek this out, and not marry the first girl who agrees
to go to bed with him! If a woman desires a charming, handsome escort then she will have an array of
men who are willing to fill this desire. She will not marry the first sweet-talking bozo she stumbles
across!

Men have many different desires concerning women. To become an initiate, you must learn to
recognize and sort these desires. You must also understand that you aremost unlikely to realize all of
your desires in one woman.

Women have many different desires concerning men. To become an initiate, you must learn to
recognize and sort these desires. You must also understand that you are most unlikely to realize all of
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your desires in one man. Actually, as a female initiate you have less chance of achieving your desires
with one man, than a man has of achieving his desires with one woman. I don't want to go into this in
great detail, but briefly the reason is that women have been conditioned for centuries to be compliant and
service their man's wishes.

Li f e Sent enc e

Non-initiates allow biological programming to rule their lives. They are more or less incapable of
discerning what is really happening when they 'fall in love', with the result that they make costly mistakes.
These mistakes can, and do, removeten or twenty years from their lives. But this is considered normal
by the sheep, and so they rarely question it.

Non-initiate men marry (for example) beautiful, curvy, sexy blondes when they really might only
want sex with these women. Their ideal partner might be quiet, loving, supportive and kind.

Non-initiate women marry (for example) handsome, hunky, smooth-talking, charming bozos,
when their ideal partner might be caring, supportive, kind, loving, capable, dependable etc.

As I have said many times, non-initiates rarely know their true motives for doing anything (axiom
#8) and this certainly includes 'falling in love' and 'getting married' (or equivalent).

What Men and Women Want Fr om Eac h Ot her

As a general rule (and I must generalize in this section), women seek men to take care of them,
to give them children and then to stay around for twenty years and protect them and the family. If you
understand this, you will understand women and what motivates them to behave in the strange ways they
do!

As a general rule, and in contrast, men desire to have sex with as many different women as
possible, and not stay with any of them for very long. If you understand this, you will understand why
men behave so strangely!

These are clearly conflicting desires! So the male and female sheep play silly love-rituals with
each other with the intention of arriving at some kind of compromise.

This usually means that the woman will promise sex to tempt the man. Once he is trapped (by
marriage, children, mortgage) the sex becomes less frequently available and the men become more
miserable, unfulfilled and disillusioned. At this point, well over one third of the male sheep manage to
escape from this disaster, whilst the rest 'stick it out' and slog along until they die.

On the other side of the game, men will promise security to tempt the woman. Once she is
trapped (by marriage, children, etc.) the security is often withdrawn and the women become more
miserable, unfulfilled and disillusioned. At this point, well over one third of the female sheep manage to
escape from this disaster, whilst the rest 'stick it out' and slog along until they die.

Men walk out far more often than women. There is a good reason for this.

Women are basically fulfilled by the marriage situation since it satiates their desire for security.
Men are almost always unfulfilled by the marriage situation since it is actually the opposite of that which
they most desire, i.e. freedom, space, conquest, multiple partners, sex on demand, achievement, striving,
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fighting, winning. There is no 'right' or 'wrong' in this, I am simply telling it like it is. I also know that this
is a somewhat simplistic view, and that humans come in many varieties, sizes and shapes. I am merely
generalizing and explaining the situation which covers the vast majority of people. Initiates are an
exception. So are the tiny, minute handful of people in happy, long-term relationships. So are a scattering
of other people.

I am aware that this is a somewhat stark view of relationships! My intention is to make some
general points about the real nature of 'romantic love' as practiced by the majority of sheep. I want to
smash the illusion so that you, as an aspiring initiate, can be free of this silly myth. When you become an
initiate, you will be able to love openly, honestly, and in an un-controlling manner.

The open initiate refuses to play any silly games. Instead, he or she openly and honestly tells
their partner what they desire from them. If they decide to give it, then great, otherwise the initiate
will seek other partners who will provide for their needs.

I would like you to reread the above paragraph, because it has profound implications for how you
should conduct your romantic/sex-life from now on, if you aspire to become an initiate.

This is not a purely taking process, of course. Your relationships should be similar to a fair and
reasonable business trade. Few prospective partners will give without receiving roughly equal value in
return (unless they are conned by a closed initiate using one or more of the eight weapons).

For example, if a man has been chosen by a female initiate for sex, then he will almost certainly
be receiving great sex in return - this is a perfect and equitable trade of values. In fact hopefully he is an
initiate himself, and has selected the woman for exactly the same reasons!

Contrast this with non-initiate behavior where a man will try to 'con' a woman into giving him sex
by (say) telling her that he loves her and will marry her (Weapon #4, Misinformation/Lies)

The point here is that the sheep are always trying to con each other (because they are largely
unused to indulging in 'straight' transactions).

Here's how it works:

1. Women attempt to 'con' men into 'marrying' them. By 'marriage', I always mean either real
marriage, or a long-term relationship. They use many weapons to do this, often
subconsciously. They will promise a man that which he most desires (sex) in return for that
which she most desires (security). They often have no intention of delivering for longer
than it takes to trap the man. As I say, this duplicity is often subconscious on their part;
they might even claim to be 'in love' with the guy.

2. Men attempt to 'con' women into having sex with them. They use all of the weapons to do
this, but typically they will promise a woman that which she most desires (security), in return
for sex. They often have no intention of delivering for longer than it takes to bed the
woman.

Women are often not fully aware that they are conning the man.

Men are often fully aware that they are conning the woman.

Yes, I know, all women aren't like this.
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Yes, I know, all men aren't like this.

Chi l dr en

It follows, logically, that initiates make unconventional parents!

In order to be a conventional parent, you have to stick it out in a more or less third-rate
relationship for over twenty years - often thirty or more. The initiate is rarely willing to do this. Statistics
alone tell him that he is most likely to end up with an extremely poor relationship, regardless of how rosy
it all starts out. He realizes that five or six years is usually the absolute maximum for which two,
intelligent, independent human beings can live together without wishing each other dire harm!

I am not talking here about brain-dead sheep. They can totter on together for decades because
they expect, and therefore get, almost nothing from life.

Few initiates are willing to become parents because of the huge, almost unbearable twenty+years
of sacrifice which this will entail. This does not mean that you are completely debarred from having
children if you are an initiate. However, it does mean that you will take such a decision in the full
knowledge of the effects it will have on your life, and that this represents the most important thing you
wish to do with your life, to the exclusion of almost everything else. Certainly an initiate would seriously
question if he, or she, had the ability to make a decision concerning the next twenty years!

The bottom line is that fully-fledged initiates rarely choose to have children.

There is no fear of mankind becoming extinct. Hardly anyone chooses to become an initiate
(Axiom #4), and there are billions of good breeding sheep filling the globe at an exponential rate.

As usual, I have to state that the initiate is not on a crusade to abolish marriage or attempt to get
everyone to 'wake up' and start enjoying honest, open and genuine relationships with each other. He
knows that this would be a futile, Herculean task. He merely notes that most people fall into boring,
sterile, hurtful and dishonest relationships with each other - and stick it out until they die.

I hope by now you know enough to be guilt-free in this matter - you haven't influenced them in
any way to behave like this and so are not the slightest bit responsible for their actions.

Women I ni t i at es

It is far harder for a woman to become an initiate. You might also care to know that male Inner
Circle members outnumber female members by ten to one. This is because, as I have said, most men
desire freedom, power, wealth, control. most women do not desire this - hence the disparity in
membership.

Women have an extremely strong biological desire to reproduce - much, much stronger than
men's desires. Most men couldn't really care less about having children. When women eventually have
children, the bonding is far stronger too. Most men can see little of their children without being
traumatized. They might feel sad sometimes, but they will rarely be climbing the walls in frustration!
Most women, in contrast, are desperate to have children, and desperate not to be separated from them.

Yes, I know, not all women are like this - but most are.

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Notice I am not saying anything about whether this is a 'good' thing, or a 'bad' thing. It is just a
fact, easily observed by anyone with a little life-experience.

This means that most women eventually have children. This means a twenty-year sentence at
least. Often it is more like thirty years. That's thirty years of servicing other people's wishes and desires.
A mother has precious little time to be an initiate! Her situation precludes it anyway. She has almost no
time to be by herself - to be herself. A woman with young children cannot be a fully-fledged initiate
without taking drastic steps - like abandoning her children.

The 'normal' woman who gets married at (say) twenty, has to wait until she is fifty before she can
start to change her life. This is why many women have psychological problems at this age. They realize
that their entire life's efforts have gone into washing floors, feeding babies, washing clothes and looking
after children. Her reward? The children grow up, leave home, and might think about telephoning every
two weeks - if they can find time! This can cause feelings of panic, anxiety attacks and depression. This is
why millions of prescriptions for tranquilizers are written out to women each month.

The I ni t i at e and Nor mal Rel at i onshi ps

I promised, did I not, that Inner Circle material could be quite shocking? To understand it, you
must suspend belief in all the rubbish you have been fed since you were born. You have to get into a
completely different mind-set in order to get what you want and to behappy in life.

As an example, let me explain how it is possible for the male initiate to enjoy a 'normal' stable
relationship if he strongly desires this.

There are three ways in which he can achieve this, and note how strongly they differ from normal
ways of thinking about things:

1. As an open initiate, he can find a female initiate and live fairly independent, open, honest and
mutually supporting lives - without children (as this prevents the woman from continuing to be an
initiate).

2. As an open initiate, he can find a woman who is prepared to fulfill many of his needs,
(including his need for independence). Such a woman would not be interested in being an
initiate herself, but would be happy living with one. The open initiate would not be conning
her into this role (unlike most normal men). He would explain up-front exactly what was
required of her, and why. Then, if she decided to enter into the relationship in the full
knowledge of all that it entailed, then great.

3. As a closed initiate he would use all of the eight weapons to con a suitable woman into
sacrificing her life-values in order that he would have almost everything he desired, whilst
ensuring that she received almost nothing in return. This is typical of many sheep-sheep
marriages.

Female readers, please go through points 1-3 above and swap genders - it all applies to you,
too.

However, the usual way that a male initiate operates is to have many different women filling his
various needs. The open initiate will tell each woman about her place in his life - he will also tell each
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woman about the other women (if she desires to know). The closed initiate will tell each of these women
exactly what they want to hear. He is most unlikely to be honest concerning his other relationships.

A female initiate will have many different men filling her various needs. She will, above all,
retain her freedom and independence. She will be aware that in the vast, boring line of no-hopers seeking
her hand, she is most unlikely to find a man worthy of more than ten percent of her time!

Such women are few though, because of the fundamental difference between men and women.
Men basically crave excitement, danger, challenge, adventure and pitting their wits against an
adversary - if only the economic system. Women basically crave security, a permanent home,
children, safety and stability.

I repeat, I am aware that not all men and all women fit into these categories; but most do. If you
are a female Inner Circle member, it is unlikely that you will fit into the stereotype for women, simply
because you have joined this group!

Let us now take a look at how some of the eight weapons are used by people playing the
relationship illusion. Remember, a weapon is defined as a dishonest means of conning you out of your
life-values:

For c e (Weapon #1)

This is largely a tactic used by men against women; although there are a few cases of women
using force to keep their men in line.

Women greatly fear physical force. The reasons are simple:

1. They are physically much weaker than men.

2. Men are basically violent and have a million-year history of using force and extreme
violence to get whatever it is they want.

3. It is only very recently that laws have been introduced to protect women from the weapon of
force.

It used to be considered perfectly acceptable, normal and reasonable to use whatever force was
required to gain whatever you desired. Thus, if you were a stone-age man and felt randy, you would go
out and 'rape' the nearest available woman. Rape is an emotive word nowadays, but it would probably
have been meaningless then. In those days, the pool of women were considered available for sex any time
any man felt like it. If the women didnt feel like it then tough - this was just part of their sorry lot.

If this situation sounds crude, unacceptable, even 'criminal' to your modern ears then this simply
underlines my earlier statement that conventional morals are purely a function of the latitude and
longitude at which you happen to find yourself, together with the date showing on your calendar.

In those days, if a man decided to take a wife, he did exactly that - he just went out and took her.
If another man wanted her also, then the two fought and the winner got the woman!

A few millennia roll by (the calendar date changes), and then it only became acceptable to inflict
this kind of behavior on 'the enemy'. This would be the tribe just over the hill, or across the water. If you
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found yourself short of provisions, then you would mount a little expedition, kill a few of 'the enemy',
rape their women, and steal their cows (or was that rape their cows and steal their women? I forget.).
Women thus captured would become the sexual slaves of the captors - just as the men would become the
laboring slaves.

More time went by.

The only change is that the 'enemy' were now people further away than before. Thus the Vikings,
Goths, Vandals and so forth, set about raping and pillaging their way across Europe. They put all to the
sword, burnt towns and villages, and destroyed everything in their path. They were almost certainly
guilt-free in this (as much as we can surmise anything about these people). I feel almost certain that they
probably had the same type of mentality as the crusaders who knew that they were doing God's work as
they hacked off the heads of innocent Muslims. Certainly it stretches the imagination to think of a Vandal
or Goth saying:

"Yeh, I know it's wrong and evil to rape and pillage - but I just can't help myself. I agonize about
it for weeks, and feel really guilty after a good pillage."

I feel almost certain that the more raping and pillaging they did, the higher would be their status
amongst their fellow men and women, and the greater the honors would be heaped upon them. If you tried
to explain that what they were doing was wrong, they would quite simply be unable to comprehend what
the hell you were on about!

Up until a few hundred years ago, it was considered perfectly acceptable to rape your black
women slaves if you felt like it, rape your wife; beat her if she was 'disobedient' (i.e. didn't do exactly
what you wanted her to do), rape the chambermaid and throw her out in the snow as a slut if she became
pregnant - and so on. This is all recent history.

And now?

The final bastion of male force-related control over women is finally crumbling. It is no longer
the 'right' of a man to rape his wife, or beat her up. Until very recently, police were most reluctant to
become involved in 'domestics', and until recently, a woman accusing her husband of raping her would be
laughed out of court. These last two things are just changing for the better.

Of course, my comments apply only to the Western civilized world. In many, if not most other
parts of the world, it is still considered normal, acceptable and reasonable to rape your wife when you feel
like it, beat her if the mood takes you, stone her to death if she commits adultery, and so forth. These are
not seen as 'evil' acts by those who commit them; indeed, they receive the full sanction of the law.
Admittedly these laws were made by men, for the benefit of men, but then what laws are not made by
one group for the benefit of that group?

Force is the crudest, but most effective of the weapons. For countless centuries, men have
enjoyed an almost unbridled use of this weapon against women. It has been extremely effective in getting
what they want for minimum effort. Men are still using this weapon, all over the globe, to control women.

The open initiate never uses force (or any weapon) to achieve his desires. The closed initiate will
certainly use this weapon if he can avoid the legal consequences of doing so.

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This section on force would not be complete without mentioning that force is only a weapon
(understood in the Inner Circle sense), if the person to whom the force is being applied has no possibility
of escape.

If you threaten someone with a knife, and there is an open door through which they might easily
run, then this hardly constitutes force (although it does constitute threat of force). If, however, you lock
all the doors and advance menacingly upon the person, then this is force (understood in the sense used
within Inner Circle).

I mention this, because there are very few cases of domestic violence in which the man has the
woman actually imprisoned - chained in the cellar, for example. Instead, most of the women have a front
door through which they could walk at any time they desired. Indeed, they often hold a key to this door,
and have large blocks of time when their violent man is not at home abusing them. Instead of walking
through the door, they wait for the man to return, cook his tea, and then let him abuse her again.

I am not detracting from the misery of these women. I am just saying that they are being
manipulated by other weapons (fear, guilt, need for approval, etc.), and not the weapon of force.

Force is only a weapon when there is no means of escape from it.

Fear (Weapon #2)

As usual, this is often the fear of violence (or force). This is why some (but not many) women
stay with violent husbands. They genuinely fear that if they run away, the man would find them wherever
they are, and do even more damage to them. Women with children are particularly vulnerable, as it is
difficult (but not impossible) to run and hide with three children hanging onto your skirts.

The violent man will almost certainly use fear more often than he will use actual force. People
can be conditioned very quickly with violence. It evokes great fear in them, fear that the violence will be
used again. Torturers know this trick well. They will precede each bout of torture with a certain ritual, e.g.
a bell will ring, a sliding door will clang, two guards will march briskly down the corridor. After a few
sessions of this, the hapless prisoner will associate the bell and door with the torture. At the mere sound of
this sequence, the prisoner will shout and beg for mercy.

The violent man will (often subconsciously) precede his bouts of violence with a standard
sequence of events (moodiness, slamming a door, drinking too much, becoming critical). Merely starting
out on this sequence of events is sufficient to get his wife running around in dizzy circles in an attempt to
appease him and forestall the imminent violence. This is, of course, exactly what the man wants!

He is using the weapon of fear to con his wife out of her life-values. He wants his wife to service
his tiniest whim. He wants her to act like an obedient dog who will respond to his slightest gesture and
whistle.

Some men have this weapon off to a fine art. Their wives are under such a reign of terror that a
man only has to alter the inflection in his voice by a minuscule amount, or raise an eyebrow, or hold his
cigarette a certain way in order to get his wife jumping through hoops and snapping sugar cubes off his
nose!

Why do men do this? The answers are:

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1. It's an easy and crude way of getting what you want - somewhat akin to armed robbery.
Crude, but very effective. Many men are not very intelligent. They are unskilled in the use
of the more subtle weapons, so they use force and fear. It's like the difference between using
dynamite, and acquiring the finesse required to become a master swordsman.

2. As mentioned before, most men are unfulfilled by marriage, most women are fulfilled by it (I
am talking about the institution, not necessarily the partners involved). Men then only have
three options:

a) Get out.

b) Buckle under, and give up.

c) Use weapons to get what they really want.

Many men choose the latter.

Per sonal Ser vant

The majority of men overtly or covertly desire a personal female servant who will comply with
their every whim. This woman would be a housekeeper, nanny, and sex-slave all rolled into one!

If you doubt this, consider the tens of thousands of European and American men who are
marrying young Thai girls (for example). These girls become complete slaves to their 'masters', satisfying
their every whim. The modern veneer of civilization prevents other men from achieving this fantasy, or
even admitting that they have it.

Many men subconsciously seek this personal servant in their choice of wife - then they become
confused and disorientated when they wake up to discover that they have married a real human being with
opinions, needs and desires of her own.

The Wal k -Out

Apart from fear of violence (used mainly by men against women), there is the fear of losing your
partner. In most relationships, one partner is always more dependent than the other. We disguise this fact
by saying that one partner 'loves' more than the other. This is always true - there is always an imbalance.

The partner who is the most dependent is in a weaker position. This exposes him/her to the
weapon of fear. Fear that their partner might leave them. The less dependent partner soon locks onto his
partner's dependence, and he will find it most difficult to resist using the weapon of fear at some point to
get what he wants. Quite simply, he threatens to walk out unless his partner shapes-up (i.e. sacrifices her
life-values to him).

This weapon is very effective if used against a woman with young children, as she is vulnerable
and dependent. After a few threats to walk out, followed by a few actual walkouts, the dependent partner
can quite simply be controlled by a word, a gesture, a sigh, a mood. Again, men are more likely to use this
weapon than women.

Why?

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1. Many men secretly want to walk out anyway (as they are basically unfulfilled by permanent
relationships), but they don't have what it takes.

2. When children come along (and the woman is at her most vulnerable), most men are at an
all-time low (in the fulfillment stakes). This state can last for over a year. This coincides with
their partner being at their most fulfilled because she has just had a baby. This is why many
men choose this particular time to walk out, or use the threat of doing so to cut themselves a
better deal.

Never forget that people do not stay with other people out of a sense of altruism (axiom #5). They
do it because they are getting something out of it. If the exchange of values becomes one-way for more
than a short period of time, then the 'giving' partner will start to think seriously about leaving. Ultimately
this is the only reason why any relationship breaks down. One or both partners consider that they are
losing more than they are gaining. Like any good businessman or gambler, there comes a point where
they decide to cut their losses and move on.

Axiom #12: Successful relationships hinge upon a continued and approximately equal exchange
of values between the partners.

Gui l t (Weapon #3)

Once you show your partner that you are the least bit susceptible to being manipulated by guilt,
then they are open to using this weapon on you, to achieve their desires.

Does this sound cynical? Hard-bitten? If it does, then you have very little experience of the
relationship between the sexes!

You see, most people get married, or enter into a relationship with someone for the silliest and
most infantile of reasons. Rarely have they analyzed their true motivation. Rarely have they considered
what they truly hope to gain from such a relationship, and rarely do they have the slightest idea about
what will be involved, or what they stand to lose. The result is that they have a very big shock after the
'lovely' wedding and the honeymoon period. Most people think something like: "Oh my God....what have
I done???" And I'm talking about weeks or months after the marriage, not twenty years on!

Since most men are a bit clueless anyway, and most women have a more or less 'Girl's
companion' view of marriage; it is hardly surprising that both partners are somewhat stunned by the
reality. But instead of recognizing that they have been silly and naive, they blame their partner and think
that they have a raw deal. They think that they must have been uniquely unlucky to end up with a partner
who doesn't match the fairy-tale. Rarely do they question the fairy-tale itself!

The result?

They try to change their partner's habits. They try to force the partner to be like the fairy-tale.
They will use guilt to do this.

Why Men Mar r y

Most men marry (whether they know it or not) through the desire for sex. In other words, they
find a woman sexually attractive. They have a very rude awakening though, when after a few short
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months or years the woman 'lets herself go'. Most women become much less attractive than when they
were married. This deterioration happens quite rapidly.

Why does it happen?

1. Because a woman's physical looks deteriorate rapidly with age.

2. A woman often spends a great deal of time making herself look beautiful in order to capture
a mate.

This beauty is largely artificial, an illusion if you like, which takes hours to construct.
3. As soon as the woman has attracted her man and won him, her imperative to look beautiful is
diminished, after all, it's hard work keeping yourself at the peak of sexual desirability.

4. Day to day living with real human beings is not conducive to looking perfect all the time. There is
a great deal of difference between looking good because you are going out on Thursday night,
and looking good when you are peeling potatoes or mopping-up baby vomit!

The result of this is that the man eventually experiences a terrible shock. He interprets his wife's
shabby appearance as a signal that she doesn't love him any more. He can then use guilt (if she is
susceptible) to try and bring her back into line. Thus he might say:

"If you cared about me, you would make a bit more of an effort."

Why Women Mar r y

Most women marry (whether they know it or not) out of a desire for security. They basically
want to be 'looked after'. They suffer a severe shock when, after a few months/years, the man becomes
disinterested - even cold and remote.

Why does this happen?

1. A man spends a great deal of his time before marriage, making himself appear to be strong
and protective. He knows that this strategy will maximize his chances of getting a woman.
Thus he will spend endless time fixing her car, putting up shelves, mowing her lawn and so
on - all to sell the illusion that he is dependable and steady.

2. As soon as he has attracted her and achieved his desires (sex), he loses the imperative to
appear so strong and protective - after all, it's hard work doing all of these things for a
diminishing set of rewards.

3. Day to day living with real-life human beings is not conducive to maintaining such a silly
illusion. It's all very well putting up a few shelves now and then as a favor, but not such fun
when you are expected to do that, and fifty other jobs, with no thanks, after a hard days
work!

The result is that the woman has something of a shock. She interprets her husband's disinterest as
not caring about her any more. She can then use guilt (if he is susceptible) in order to try and get him to
comply. Thus she might say:

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"If you really cared about me, you would do all those jobs without being asked."

Since the reality of your partner rarely, if ever, even comes close to the fantasy you allowed
yourself to believe in when you got married, it is hardly surprising that most people feel cheated and
think that they have drawn the short straw. The media and image-makers continue to spin webs of
illusion which make everyone think that everyone else is enjoying a perfect, fairy-tale relationship. They
will then often use guilt in an attempt to force their partner to conform to a fantasy.

Adul t er y

If you want your partner to control you through guilt, then let him/her know about the 'mistake'
you made with your colleague at the office party last year!

Because the sheep are basically insecure and afraid, they become very angry indeed when
someone threatens their stability.

Women are deeply upset by their man having sex with someone else. Why? Because they see this
as a threat to their security (which it rarely is). Women don't often feel that their man's 'fling' reflects
upon her own desirability. The reason is that most women know that they can have any man they desire
(sexually) with only the slightest effort on their part.

Men view sexual infidelity by their wife as a slight to their manhood primarily, and a threat to the
relationship secondarily. The reason is that most men face a gigantic struggle when it comes to
persuading a woman to have sex with them - hence he jealously guards the one person who at least
occasionally grants his desires (his wife). He knows that if he loses her, he is more or less sunk!

Since nearly everyone has massive guilt hang-ups about sex, letting your partner know that you
had sex with someone else, or even thought about it, exposes you to guilt manipulation. Now, every time
your partner wants you to jump around, they merely have to 'remind' you about the time, five years ago at
the office party, when you disappeared for fifteen whole minutes with....whoever.

It is worth mentioning that the open initiate, if questioned, would recount exactly the facts of the
case. This would give his or her partner the information they required to make a balanced choice.

Di al ogue Wi t h An Open I ni t i at e

Let us listen to a conversation between an open initiate, and his partner, J ane. With a view to
getting my point across, I have made the dialogue more logical and formal than it would be in real life:

Jane: "I want to ask you some questions. Will you answer honestly?"

Init: "If I believe that the questions have some impact on your own life and are not merely delving
into my private life, then yes."

Jane: "Last month, when you went with Sue to that conference, did you and she make love?"

Init: "Yes, several times."

Jane: Why didnt you tell me?
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Init: "You didn't ask."

Jane: "Do you love her?"

Init: "No, it was just a sexual fling."

Jane: "Are you going to do it again with her?"

Init: "No, that was the end of it."

Jane: "Would you do the same thing again with someone else?"

Init: "Quite possibly, if I found her desirable."
Jane: "Do you care about me?"

Init: "You are the most important person in my life."

Jane: "OK, I need to think about this."

Now J ane can go away and think about her desires and needs in the full knowledge of what is
going on. If she decides to stay with this man, regardless of his activities, then she has made that decision
deliberately, and in full possession of the facts. She then removes her 'right' to make the initiate feel guilty
at a later stage. Let's see what happens if she tries guilt:

Part way into conversation:

Jane: "You can talk! I haven't forgotten about that little episode with Sue last year." (Guilt).

Init: "We talked that over, and you decided that you would be happier staying with me as I am,
rather than leaving me. Have you changed your mind?"

This throws the argument right back at Jane, who again must evaluate whether she wants to carry
on, or call it a day. Contrast these 'straight' transactions with the following talk between a 'normal'
husband (or closed initiate) and wife. Let's assume that the man has been having sex with Sue (and
probably many others!).

Jane: "I want to ask you a question. Will you answer honestly?"

Husb: "Darling! I could never lie to you! Youre my wife. We have no secrets." (Weapon #4, Lies).

Jane: "Last month, when you went to that conference with Sue, did you and she make love?"

Husb: "Of course not! (Lies). How could you possibly think that of me? I'm deeply hurt! (Guilt).

Jane: "It's just the way you were looking at her last week."

Husb: "Darling, I love you, but I'm not sure how much more of your constant jealousy I can take."
(Fear hidden threat to leave.)

Jane: "I'm sorry, but you're away so much. I hardly ever see you."

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Husb: "Perhaps if I had a better home to come to, with a decent meal now and then, you'd see more
of me." (Guilt, Altruism, Sacrifice).

Jane: "Have you ever been unfaithful?"

Husb: "No. (Lies). Now that's enough, J ane, or I won't be responsible for my actions." (Fear,
possible use of Force.)

Now J ane is in a real fix. The web of deceit and lies which her closed initiate husband has spun,
leaves her without the required information on which to base 'good for her' life-choices. She is lost;
hopelessly floundering around in a thick fog of illusion. He has robbed her of the information she
desperately requires in order to make valid choices.

This is completely intentional on the part of the closed initiate, and subconsciously manipulative
on the part of the 'normal' husband. The very last thing he wants is for J ane to make 'good for her'
choices! He is only interested in keeping J ane subservient to his wishes; prostituting her life-efforts on his
behalf. He wants Jane's entire life to be devoted to making good for him choices!

The closed initiate uses the eight weapons deliberately, accurately, and in a calculating fashion to
ensure that his target sacrifices her life-values to him. In contrast, the normal person uses the eight
weapons subconsciously, and in a haphazard and random manner in an attempt to reach the same aim.
The former is the approach of the trained marksman; the latter is more of a blunderbuss approach.

Li es (Weapon #4)

I'm afraid that I have some shocking news for you!

The whole of the romantic love-myth with which you were brought up, is based upon a blatant
lie! The lie goes something like this:

The Bi g Whopper

There will come a time in your life when you will meet someone 'special'. That 'special person' is
the only person who it is 'right' for you to marry, or live with permanently. You will fall in love with this
person, marry them (or equivalent) and be very happy together for the rest of your lives." End of fantasy.

I'm afraid that it is a fantasy. A complete and utter fairy-tale. If you actually believe this silly
fairy-tale, then I can guarantee that you fall into one of the following categories:

1. You are under 25 years of age.

2. You have never lived with a partner for more than a three year period.

3. You have lived with a partner for longer than this, but have chosen to ignore your
experience and take refuge, again, in the fantasy.

4. You consider yourself 'happily married' (or cohabiting) for more than three years. In which
case you have opted for very little in life and have effectively given up your search for
happiness. The 'happiness' you proclaim is obviously some bland, watered-down version of
the true happiness available to the initiate. In a nutshell, you have settled for less.
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I realize that you might find this, and other statements a bit outrageous, but Inner Circle is
concerned with reality, and not some half-baked version of reality invented by people to justify their
failure to achieve happiness. The amazing fact is that people believe in the myth of everlasting romantic
love, even when faced with the fact that one in three marriages end in divorce! Of the remaining two, one
couple work out some compromise existence whereby they effectively live separate lives and hardly see
each other. The participants in the remaining marriage claim some wishy-washy version of 'happiness',
which almost always means that they threw in the towel long ago, and have decided to settle for very
little.

There are also a statistically insignificant few who are truly, blissfully happy with their
relationship. To all intents and purposes, these people can be ignored, as they are so rare. I have never
met such a couple, and I do not know anyone who claims to have met such a couple. However, I'm told
that they exist, so I accept it as a possibility.

The reality of most marriages and long-term relationships is as follows:

Tw ent y Year s Of Mar r i age

Year one: Blissfully happy, making love every day, being nice to each other, hugging and kissing a
lot. You've had one or two 'lover's tiffs', but making up was great fun!

Year three: First child has come along, both of you seem more tired than you used to be. You've
moved to a larger house, and so the finances are under strain; this is causing some tension. You basically
get on quite well with each other, and still 'love' each other. In your heart of hearts you have questioned
whether you made the right choice of partners, but you've quickly suppressed these dangerous thoughts!
You make love roughly once a week, usually on the same night. You frequently find yourself glancing at
other members of the opposite sex with more than a passing interest.

You have some kind of an argument, or disagreement roughly every week, and it seems to take a
lot longer to patch things up than it used to.

Year five: You have one or two children. Life is a fairly dull routine. Your partner is less attractive
than they used to be. She's put on weight and doesn't seem to care too much about how she looks. He's put
on weight and looks like a bit of a slob!

You try making love about once a week, but on two out of three occasions it doesn't seem to work
out. Either she's tired, or you are, or you've just had a row, or.....

One or both of you have had an affair, or thought seriously about having an affair, or fantasized
about having an affair with someone you know.

You argue once or twice a week, with last week's arguments being carried over to this week.
Long-term arguments never seem to get resolved and are beginning to sound a bit like a 'broken record'.

Year ten: It's unlikely that you are still together. If you are, then life is likely to be as follows:

You rarely make love, except on 'special' occasions, or the rare times when you are feeling okay
with each other, or when you're both drunk! Even on these occasions, sex is often boring and predictable.
Both of you seek (but don't necessarily get) sexual excitement outside of your relationship.
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Your arguments have reached such an intensity that there are several 'taboo' subjects about which
you have tacitly agreed not to speak. However, these subjects lurk below the surface as seething cauldrons
of anger and resentment. You hardly ever have any meaningful conversations with each other, as you
seem to disagree about most things. You have both seriously considered, and perhaps even discussed the
prospect of divorce.

Year twenty: You have accepted that you have 'missed your chance' in life, and are now ruled by fear
of being alone. You have therefore settled for a third-rate relationship for the remainder of your life.

You have come to certain 'understandings' with your partner. Understandings which allow you
both to live together, and remain sane. These understandings might include: .

1. Rarely seeing each other, even though you share the same house.

2. No sex.

3. Total and absolute avoidance of many subjects.

Neither partner wishes to 'rock the boat', as they head towards retirement and death.

Pretty depressing picture, eh?

Yet the above scenario (with certain variations, of course) is common; even normal. Certainly the
opposite scenario is so rare as to be almost non-existent!

The Payof f

What is the payoff for believing in the romantic love myth?

To understand this, you must know why this lie works:

1. People receive this lie as truth during their childhood and adolescence. The lie is perpetuated
by books, magazines, television, video, and Hollywood.

2. People then (not surprisingly) try to make the lie a reality in their own lives. They attempt to
find 'happy ever after' true love.

3. After several years of marriage, or cohabiting, the penny drops, and they realize that
something has gone terribly, awfully wrong with their view of reality.

4. Instead of questioning the lie, they assume that they, or their partner must be at fault. They
will then often get divorced and make exactly the same mistake with another partner. They
will repeat their error until they eventually wake up, or die.

5. They will then pass the lie on to others. They do this because:

a) They want others to make the same mistakes they have, because this makes them look less
foolish.

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b) It is easier for them to continue believing a lie, instead of challenging a fundamental part of
their world-view (the romantic love-myth). They would also have to admit that they were
wrong, and had squandered a large part of their lives in pursuit of an illusion.

c) It's a very comforting lie to believe in. We all want to believe in happy ever after love, just as
we want to believe in a personal God or Savior watching over our lives and protecting us.

This is thesafe and simple reason for believing things, outlined in the Neophyte Grade
material.

And so the lie continues; generation after generation.

Non-Initiates who believe in this lie are risking years of their lives in a potentially futile quest.
They might get lucky, of course, but the odds are stacked so heavily against them, that any rational person
would steer well clear of this particular bet! Would you sell all of your personal possessions; even your
house; and place the money on a 1000:1 outsider in a horse race? Of course not! If you were sensible you
wouldn't even gamble this amount on a 3:1 shot. Yet people willingly gambletens of years of their
precious, finite lives, on a complete fairy-tale!
The Initiate has unmasked this lie. He is not cynical in this respect. The Initiate simply doesn't
expect to meet a partner and live with them 'happily ever after'. The Initiate finds this a rather strange,
amusing, and childish concept - just like the concept of a personal savior. He would not waste his life-
energies in pursuit of such a fantasy; and since he is never prepared to accept a third or fourth rate life, he
would not attempt to convince himself that he was 'happy' with a particular partner, when he was actually
jogging along in a mediocre relationship.

As I have already mentioned, the Initiate will only expect to achieve happiness with one partner
for a strictly limited period of time (typically a few years at maximum). Initiates have their many needs
supplied by more than one person. The open initiate indulges in mutually open and honest exchanges
of values with these people.

Honest y

Within relationships, partners frequently lie to each other, often because they are attempting to
manipulate the other person into performing in a certain way, or in order to retain certain benefits for
themselves.

Thus, a man if questioned about his affairs might answer: "Of course I've been faithful to you,
darling!", when he has been having numerous affairs. By lying, the con-artist is attempting to trick their
partner out of their life-values. In this case, the man is not giving his wife the information she requires to
make 'good for her' choices. Why? Because it is not in his interests to do this. He wants a willing and
compliant slave, and if that means hiding the truth from her, then this is what he will do.

Whist we are on the subject of honesty, it is worth mentioning that the open Initiate is always
ruthlessly honest, as long as the following conditions apply:

1. He or she has been asked for information, and it is obvious that the person expects an honest
reply.

2. The information requested will aid the growth of the questioner, and is not merely idle
curiosity.
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The open initiate is honest because he believes that growth is the most important virtue. To stifle
the growth of another human being is considered to be a 'crime' in the eyes of the open initiate. He or she
is non-manipulative and realizes that restriction of growth is the ultimate manipulation.

In stark contrast, the 'normal' person lies consistently in order to make life easier for himself, or
worse, out of some misguided sense of protecting other people's feelings.

Consider the following trivial interchange:

Woman: "How do I look in my new dress?" (Thinks: "I know it looks a fright. I wonder if he's got
any taste at all, or even cares enough to notice.")

Man: (Thinks: "God, she looks a fright! She obviously likes it though, so I'd better be tactful.")
"You look absolutely lovely, my dear!"

Woman: (Thinks: "What a bozo! He can't even spot a tent when he sees one. Oh well, he likes it,
so I suppose I'd better wear the thing.")

What a hopeless web of illusion and deceit; and all over such a trivial issue! A more important
issue might involve a non-initiate lying out of an arrogant belief that he knows what is best for his wife
(for example). Imagine a deathbed scene. The couple have been married for forty years, the wife is dying
from cancer, and is just about gone. Husband is in attendance at the bedside:

Woman: (Opening one eye and smiling weakly). (Thinks: "I'm just about to die. I would go to my
grave happy if only my lying bastard of a husband would be honest with me just once in his miserable
life! I know! I'll ask him about Sue. He thinks I don't know about his affair all those years ago!")

"Hello J ohn, (coughs weakly) I'm just about to die, but I want to ask you a question. I
always suspected that you and Sue had an affair all those years ago. Did you?"

Man: (Thinks: "Blast! How the hell did she find out about that! Oh well, the last thing she
needs at the moment is the truth. I'll let her die in blissful ignorance...")

No my love, of course not! I've always been faithful to you."

Woman: (Dies knowing that her husband could not even bring himself to be honest on her
deathbed!)

Pl ayi ng God

These intentionally humorous examples are intended to make a serious point. You cannot 'play
God' and arrogantly decide what is best for another person, or decide what you think they 'want to hear'.
As an open initiate, you must always give others the information they require in order that they might
make 'good for them' decisions. If they then choose to evade reality then this is not your problem.

Similarly, the biggest disservice you can do to anyone else is to manipulate them with the weapon
of lies, because this effectively prevents them from taking 'good for them' choices, as they do not have the
correct information required.

As a closed initiate, you can, of course, do what the hell you like!
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Dut y/Fai r ness/Honor (Weapon #4)

This weapon is used by men and women alike.

A husband might try and manipulate value from his wife by saying things like:

"You have a duty to stay at home with the children."

Or: "You should be a good and dutiful wife."

Then again, a wife might try and manipulate her husband into sacrificing his life-values by saying
things like:

"You have a duty to the family."

Or: "It is your duty to support me."

Any call like this on someone's sense of duty is an attempt to manipulate them - basically through
guilt. Implied in the word 'duty' is the following assumption:

That some of your life-values are owned by your partner, and that he/she has a right to call on
these values whenever they desire. This is almost like a deposit account in the bank. When you marry,
you make a deposit to represent the amount of duty you owe. This 'money' is not yours, but your partner's
to withdraw whenever they like. A call upon someone's sense of duty does not represent a straight
transaction, because it is fundamentally manipulative.

Fai r ness

It is said that relationships are based on give and take. It is also an axiom of Inner Circle that
healthy relationships depend upon an approximately equal exchange of values between partners.
Although this is true, many relationships suffer because of the secret 'balance sheets' kept by both
partners.

Sec r et Bal anc e Sheet s

On these secret balance sheets, a score is kept of all the things you believe you have done for your
partner, and all the things which they have done for you. If the scores are not even, one partner might try
to manipulate the other partner by crying: "It's not fair!

This is particularly true of certain people who deliberately do things for their partner, not out
of love for that person, but with a view to keeping the balance sheet firmly in credit. This puts an
obligation on the partner to respond in kind. Of course, the manipulative partner is the only one with
access to the balance sheet, and so the other person has to guess at how much they have to redress the
balance.

A favorite trick of the manipulator is to store up credits without letting on that this is happening -
then wait for a certain day when all the credits fall due! They can then shout and scream and rave about
how they do everything, and how unfair it all is, before reeling-off a vast list of things which they have
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done for you over the last six months. You didn't ask them to do these things - they just went ahead and
did them.

The Inner Circle initiate does not expect fairness, and would not appeal to a partner's sense of
fairness in order to try and extract value.

If an initiate believes that a relationship is starting to represent a one-way exchange of values,
then they would simply state that they required more from the relationship. If this was not forthcoming,
they would leave if the deal was too poor to stay. An Initiate would not say: "It isn't fair." The initiate
does not expect things to be fair. Certainly, the initiate would not give something with the intention of
storing-up 'good boy' or 'good girl' points with a view to calling them in at a later date.
It is worth analyzing your motives for doing anything for anybody. There is nearly always a
secret game going on, whereby you are obliging the person in some way.

Obl i gat i on

A very insidious method of control is to give things which are unasked for, and then expect a
payment in kind at some future date. Every time you give something to someone, you are asserting
control over them because they are then 'obliged' to you. I'm not suggesting that this means you should
never give anything; I am merely asking you to more closely examine your motives. The concept of an
equal exchange of values might seem to be just another way of stating that the relationship should be
'fair'. I am trying to explain a subtle difference between the initiate's concept of 'fairness', and the normal
person's. The initiate does not expect things to be fair. This means that if it transpires that some aspect
of his life isn't fair (highly likely), he is not surprised. Certainly he doesn't whine and moan and whinge
about how unfair the world is. He does not try and manipulate people into handing over their life-values
by appealing to their sense of fairness.

The best analogy is the business deal. The initiate would try and cut himself the very best deal
which he could. At the negotiating table he would not whine and moan, strike the table with his fists and
shout: "But it's not fair!!" If the deal was not equitable and he could not negotiate a better cut, he would
simply walk out and strike a better deal elsewhere.

Next month I will conclude the teaching materials on relationships and then move on to
discussing money. I will be telling you how the con-artists are at work to ensure that you end up with the
minimum amount of money, whilst they end up with themaximum. I will be exposing all of the
weapons in their armory, and how to defend yourself against them. Until that time, I want you to reread
some of the teaching materials you have been given over the past few months.

These concepts are easy to forget, and I want to ensure that you are starting to think, and act like
an initiate. If you can find time to reread everything you have been given so far, then so much the better.
In particular I want you to think about your relationships - past and present. I want you to consider what I
have said in this section and how it applies to you. I know the message sounds cynical. I have to make it
hard-hitting if I am to get through to you, and I am not trying to write some wishy-washy, 'easy reading'
balanced pap which will offend no-one and please everyone.

You are training to be an initiate, in full and powerful control of your life. You are trying to
become one of the elite few - people who have 'woken up' and who possess the keys to power and wealth.
This material is not for 'normal' people. They will continue to dream and fantasize their lives away - they
are beyond salvation!. Until next month...
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