Self Management

Self Management is really life management, is learning how to accept total RESPONSIBILITY for our self,
have healthy RELATIONSHIPS, play the right ROLE and use the RESOURCES we have in the most effective
ways.
Responsibility - No person or situation is responsible for our happiness; we are the creator of ALL our
thoughts, feelings and actions.
Relationships - It's not what others say that hurts us, it's what we do - with what they say that hurts us,
lets stop emotionally abusing ourselves.
Roles - We are the creators of every scene in our life and hence have the power to play the right role, in
the right scene, in the right way, at the right time.
Resources - How we use our resources - physical, mental and spiritual.
Episode 05
1. We need to see the situation as a detached observer. Detachment is not coldness. Detachment means
to pause, step back and decide our response. If we are not detached then it is a reaction.
2. Whatever we do, we do it for ourselves. When we say we compromise with the other person, we are
doing it for ourselves and not for others.
3. Every person is right from their perspective. We need to be detached from the influence of the
situation and not from the situation itself.
4. When we get detached from our ideas and perspective; we are able to see the perspective of the
other person.
Episode 07
1. When we take too much information from outside the mind gets cluttered and our creativity
decreases.
2. In the morning, we must fill our mind with the most positive thoughts from God and meditate in
silence.
3. We should take out 1 minute after every one-hour and stabilize our mind by consciously creating
powerful thoughts of love, peace, happiness etc. In that 1 minute, we should not waste time on
analyzing the situation rather focus on charging our self and this would empower us to face any
situation during the day.
4. If we are not healthy, then our family will also not be healthy and then we cant even do justice to our
work/job. Therefore, we need to be stable. Prioritizing self first, then work and then others.
Episode 08
1. The four Rs of life are: to manage Responsibilities, to deal with Relationships, to play Roles and to look
at the available Resources.
2. Responsibility is not to do something but to be someone.
3. If the being is right then the doing will automatically be right. In the process of doing we have
forgotten the being.
4. Self-responsibility means that I am responsible for my response, action, thoughts, and perceptions.
The ability of the self to respond is self-responsibility.
5. For self responsibility we need to remember that we are the creator of all our thoughts, feelings,
actions, attitude, words and behavior.
Episode 09
1. We have to realize that even our beliefs and perceptions of the past are our responsibility. So we
cannot even blame the past.
2. Self-responsibility also includes checking the past which is in our sub conscious mind and changing it.
3. As no one is responsible for our state of mind, similarly we not are responsible for others state of
mind. Then there is no blame and guilt.
4. God does not change the problem but will give you the power to face the problem.
5. No one can heal our pain unless we want to finish it.
Episode 10
1. For the same external stimulus different people create different responses. The stimulus does not
create the thought, we create the thoughts in response to the stimulus( ).
2. We can never be happy if we keep on blaming others.
3. Now we are aware that when we get hurt, we have created the pain and then it becomes easier to
change the thought.
4. In order to give out any energy we need to first create it. If we create positive energy then we will give
out the same.
Episode 11
1. To take care of our state of mind (mental health) is our first responsibility.
2. Self responsibility is taking care of the state of being. A stable being will be right in their doing.
3. Even when we change for others we ought to be conscious that we are just changing the stimulus but
not the response of the other person.
4. Are we leading our lives according to ourselves or according to other people. We always have a
CHOICE in every situation.
5. Never say, We dont have a choice, everything we are doing is only our choice. When we make a
choice we should also be ready to face the consequences of our choice.
Episode 12
1. Values cannot be taught, they need to be lived. Take responsibility of challenges that may come when
living by your values.
2. Even when we choose to tell a lie because we feel that the other person will react in a negative way,
we are still making a choice.
3. We have stopped giving value to our values, we blame the situation instead and this weakens us.
4. When we say I dont have a choice, then we are not leading our life the way we want.
5. We need to manage ourselves and manage our choices.
Episode 13
1. Even when we are doing a wrong we seem to have a justification for it and therefore we feel we are
right.
2. Live with the attention that all the decisions are our own choices.
3. Change from we have to do this to we want to do this.
4. The purpose of life becomes clear when we know - who we are, why we are here and what is our role.
5. As we remove all our acquired labels and experience the one who is playing all these roles, we get to
know - who we are.
Episode 14
1. Relationships and profession are the roles we play, they are not the purpose of our life.
2. The answer to why am I here, is to come into action with other souls. This is a natural impulse of the
soul.
3. We are human-being not human-doing. We are a pure being, the energy.
4. We are a powerful, loveful, peaceful, blissful, happy soul. With such awareness of the self, our
purpose of life becomes clear.
5. Our purpose of life is to experience the qualities of soul and express them. Be happy and peaceful and
then play our role. Purpose of life is not situation-dependent.
Episode 15
1. Create a compass of values and use this compass to direct yourself while taking any decision.
2. Relationships are for giving and not taking. Whatever we give to others, we are the first ones to
receive it. The energy flows through us to others.
3. When there is only giving then dependency and expectation from others finishes.
4. We should give because it is natural to give and it goes through us first. If we want love we should
give love.
5. Give according to your own capacity and with no expectations. Energy always flows from inside to
outside and not vice-versa.
Episode 16
1. If our immunity system is strong we will not catch an infection. Similarly, a bad aura of others will not
affect us if we have a strong positive aura created around us.
2. We need to protect ourselves from negative energy of other people by understanding that they are in
pain. We need to take care of what energy we are creating for them.
3. A positive thought will be created when a situation arises, if during the whole day we have
consciously created pure and positive thoughts.
4. We need to first take care of our self and then take care of others.
5. Fundamental responsibility of a parent is to empower the child but to do that the parent needs to be
powerful
Episode 17
1. When we experience a conflict in our relationships, it is because of three reasons -
2. First: any past hurt where the other person has offended or let us down. This breaks the connection
and communication.
3. Second: our present behavior. When we become judgmental about others, it blocks our energy of
love and respect.
4. Third: any future threat. When we feel insecure about the other person, we create a barrier and do
not give a chance to the other person to come close to us. We tend to either overpower or withdraw
from that person. All this is happening because we feel that the other person might take away our
power or prestige.
Episode 18
1. The relationship is first created in our consciousness and is based on our perception and past
experiences about the other person.
2. The foundation of our relationship is the image we have created about that person irrespective of
how the person is behaving or speaking with us now.
3. We tend to create the picture of the other person with his weaknesses in our consciousness.
4. Whenever we meet someone, create this one thought that they are a pure soul, then understanding
or forgiving them becomes easier.
Episode 19
1. We need to be aware of the energy we are giving out instead of blaming the energy we are receiving
from others.
2. It is important to keep an attention about what we think and feel about the other person and not
what the other person thinks about us.
3. In relationships we need to remember that the other person is not hurting us but hurt is our own
creation.
4. When we know that we are the creator of the pain, it is easier for us to deal with it and heal it.
5. As we put labels on other people and thereafter add more baggage onto it, it affects our emotional
health and also our physical health. Let go of the baggage that you are carrying about the other people.
Episode 20
1. Before we create a relationship with others, we need to first create a relationship with ourselves. If
we love ourselves and believe in ourselves, then giving love in any relationship would be natural.
2. Self-awareness is about which thoughts are right and wrong for me. Self-awareness is to know that
we are the creators of all our thoughts and feelings.
3. Self-awareness enables us to have more self-control. Self-control means to let-go of negative and
waste thoughts.
4. Self-awareness enables us to communicate not just with words but also with energy and vibrations
that we radiate.
Episode 21
1. To establish a relationship with God we need to know Him as He is.
2. Each one of us is a pure and peaceful soul. God our Father, The Supreme Soul, is the Ocean of Purity
and Peace.
3. Like each one of us, God is also a point of light. God does not take a body. God and all the souls live in
the Soul World, Paramdham.
4. God does not change our problems but gives us power, peace, love and bliss. We empower ourselves
and face our problems.
5. God is the only being from whom we receive unconditional love and acceptance.
Episode 22
1. When we know God as He is, we experience a direct and personal relationship with Him, we receive
His powers of Peace, Love and Purity
2. God does not transform our sanskars. His Knowledge and Powers help us to transform them.
Connecting with God helps us to become soul conscious.
3. God is always radiating love, but we need to know how to receive it. With soul-consciousness, Gods
love and powers can be felt naturally.
4. When we sit in meditation, the faculties of soul: mind, intellect, and sanskars are involved. Mind
creates thoughts, intellect develops the visual and sanskar means experience.
Episode 23
1. Do not take tension of keeping attention. Attention is the awareness of the self.
2. We do not need to withdraw from people. We should be with everyone with the understanding of
each ones perspective.
3. We need to combine knowledge with power in order to face all situations. Generate power through
mediation but keep attention throughout the day so that the power accumulated in the morning does
not get depleted.
4. We should be loveful with ourselves not careless. Do not create guilt when you make a mistake, but
realization and transformation so that it does not get repeated.
5. We know what to change and how to change but most important is the want to change.
Episode 24
1. Self-management is being aware of the self during each scene in the day.
2. Play all roles with the awareness that - we are creating our role. We not only play our role but also
create our role.
3. When we are creative about every role we play, and are aware of the freedom we have to play our
role, every scene we play becomes new and enjoyable.
4. When we identify ourselves with the role, we do not experience the creativity we can have in every
role. We start playing the role according to set beliefs.
Episode 25
1. Thinking is the foundation of every word and action. Spirituality teaches us to choose our thoughts
and create the right thoughts.
2. We fear being creative while playing our roles, because we feel that life is a competition and we fear
failure.
3. Creativity means self-victory. Self-awareness is how we want to create our role. Everything we do
should make us feel good and it should come from inside not outside.
4. We are in this world drama to play our roles. We have choices to play the role, but also remember the
scene and the role will fade away but I the actor remains forever.
5. The basic energy of creativity is love. When we are creative the energy of love naturally flows.
Episode 26
1. We are the actor, director & even the script writer of the different roles that we play in our lives.
2. The moment we create the feeling of guilt it results in negative energy and depletes us.
3. Acceptance towards other people brings positive energy. So we must not waste our energy in
criticizing others.
4. We must watch the quality of our thoughts and feelings towards others. Also check the intention and
attitude with which we are saying something to others. When everything is positive at our end and even
then the other person is hurt then it is their own journey.
5. The role of a parent, a team leader, is to be aware of the feelings of their child or team. Creativity
when playing the role of parent or boss means being a friend, a counselor, a facilitator who empathises
with them.
Episode 27
1. Everyone has the same resources, difference lies in the way we use them. Self-resources are on three
levels physical, mental, and spiritual.
2. We use stimuli like chocolate, TV, drugs etc because they help to distract the mind from the pain. As
we keep using these, with time it becomes necessary to use them more to experience the same comfort
level and hence it becomes an addiction.
3. Addiction influences our thought process as we become more and more insecure about not getting
that stimulus.
4. Stimulus is dependence and when we have any dependence we create fear and this fear affects our
health.
5. Happiness is the original nature of each soul. When we understand this then there is a shift of
consciousness and we give up our addictions because we do not need external things to create feelings
of happiness inside.
Episode 28
1. Our thinking pattern causes the addiction and also the disease and so a new way of thinking is needed
for healing and giving up the addiction.
2. In a day we create fifty to sixty thousand thoughts, so we need to be aware of our quality of thoughts.
3. The power of mind is to think. When we think we create a vibration that affects us first and then goes
out into the environment. We should create the vibration of peace wherever we go.
4. As the food so the mind and similarly as the mind so the food. When cooking it is important to have
pure thoughts because the same vibration will influence the food.
5. Most of the time our fears are related to past or future. We need to let-go of the past and future
thoughts as the process consumes a lot of our energy.
Episode 29
1. The most valuable energy is thoughts. More we are aware of our thoughts, more powerful will be the
vibration we give out.
2. In Rajayoga mediation we do not stop our thoughts but create powerful positive thoughts.
3. Memory plays an important role in our personality because this memory records all our thoughts,
words, and actions. What we record becomes our personality.
4. Each time we create a particular thought repeatedly we are programming the mind. If we have too
many negative thoughts we need to re-program the mind by changing our thoughts.
5. Our thoughts can be changed by changing our belief systems.
Episode 30
1. When we change the world will change.
2. We souls are rulers of our three subtle organs - mind, intellect and sanskar and of our five physical
sense organs. Which thought to create, how many to create and for how long to create is in our control.
We should stop and check our controlling and ruling power.
3. If we have control over our mind, intellect, and sanskars then we are called self-sovereign. The
physical sense organs are automatically controlled.
4. If we handle our self and our subtle organs, then we get the power to handle other people as well.
5. Whenever we dislike anything in a person, we tend to be judgmental about that person and our
percentage of love of decreases. Whatever be the sanskar of the other person, when we are soul-
conscious we will always give love and see only their positive attributes.
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