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HYPNOSIS : 40 MARCH 2014 TRANCE : 9

HYPNOTIQUE
40
Years
FOR PRIVATE CIRCULATION ONLY
INTERNATIONAL WOMENS DAY CELEBRATIONS
Theme : Lets Swing in Harmony and Happiness
Hypnotique Circle welcomes you all to celebrate the International
Womens Day on 9th March 2014 at Hotel Palmgrove. Eminent
Corporate Trainers, Psychologists and Consultants will be making
presentations on this special occasion. (Further details available
in the last page).
Faculty :
Ms Nalini Sampath, Motivational Speaker
Ms Swapna Nair, Counsellor & Psychotherapist
Ms Revathy Swarnakumar, Psychologist
Panel Discussion :
Who is under more Stress: Modern Women or Modern Men ?
Panelists :
Ms Ananthi Karthic, Psychological Counselor
Ms Thenkumari Krishnan, Consultant
Ms Vimla Melwani, Corporate Trainer
& Ms Swapna Nair, Counsellor & Psychotherapist
Ms Abi Sankari - Ms Soshina Saravanan
Organizing Secretaries
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THE HYPNOTIQUE CIRCLE
MADRAS
40
Years
Block S-27 C, Rainbow Flats, Ponnambalam Salai, K K Nagar, Chennai 78
PSYCHOLOGY CONFERENCE, BHARATHIAR UNIVERSITY
Feb 20 - 21, 2014
The Psychology Department of Bharathiar University,
Coimbatore had organized the National Conference on the theme
: Enhancing Psychological Well-being on the 20th and 21st of
February 2014 in their campus at Coimbatore.
Ms. Ananthi Karthic, our Committee Member, presented a paper
on Basic Counseling Skills in Stories of Indian Epics .
Mr. Muthiah Ramanathan, our President, presented a paper
on Age Regression in Hypnotherapy and Script Analysis in
Transactional Analysis - A Comparative Study.
Mr. Suryakumar R, Vice President, T A Study Circle presented
a paper on Myths of Work Life Balance.
Dr. C N Ramgopal, our Vice President acted as Chair-person in
3 of the Sessions and evaluated the paper presentations.
Dr C N Ramgopal and Mr Muthiah Ramanathan have
also presented the Valedictory Workshop on Hypnosis and
Hypnotherapy in the Conference wherein nearly 200 Students,
Research Scholars, Teaching Faculty and Healing Professionals
from all over India had taken part.
President Vice President Vice President Secretary
MUTHIAH RAMANATHAN Dr T M PERUMAL Dr C N RAMGOPAL MAJOR V V NARAYANAN
93810-34310 93810-65016 94442-90841 91500-00615
Joint Secretary Joint Secretary Treasurer Joint Treasurer
R.GOPALAKRISHNAN G.GANESAN U M BAFNA SHOWKAT ALI
98844-81760 98401-29523 98415-34999 91766-78980
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ICTA CONFERENCE ON TRANSACTIONAL ANALYSIS
ICTA - Institute for Counselling and Transactional Analysis,
Kochi is organizing its 41st National Conference on Transactional
Analysis in Kovalam, Trivandrum from 30th April to 4th May 2014.
Co-ordinators :
Prof. K M Simon & Dr Aleyamma Simon :
0 94461 01938, E Mail : btatvm@gmail.com.
MADRAS PSYCHOLOGY SOCIETY TRUST
Madras Psychology Society was formed 70 years back in 1944.
The Society was converted as a Trust in the General Body Meeting
held on the 14th of February 2014 at the Madras University.
Mr Muthiah Ramanathan, our President was nominated as
the Managing Trustee of this newly formed Madras Psychology
Society Trust.
The goal of the Trust is to take the use values of Psychology to
large number of people in the Schools, Colleges, Universities and
the community in Chennai and Tamilnadu.
SAATA CONFERENCE ON
TRANSACTIONAL ANALYSIS
SAATA - South Asian Association of Transactional Analysis
will be organizing the International Conference on Transactional
Analysis in Coimbatore from 26th to 28th September 2014. All
those who are interested in participating and/or presenting papers
in this International Conference, are requested to contact our
Offcebearers.
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SIX MINDFULNESS EXERCISES TO EMPTY OUR MIND
(And fnd Relief & Clarity amidst madness)
1. One Minute Breathing
This exercise can be done anywhere at any time. All you have to
do is focus on your breathing for just one minute. Breath in and out
slowly, holding your breath for a count of six as you inhale. Naturally
your mind will try and wander, but just try to just focus on the rise and
fall of your breath and let thoughts go as they arise. Watch the breath
as it enters your body and flls you with life, and then watch it leave
effortlessly from your body as the energy dissipates into the universe.
2. Mindful Observation
This exercise is simple but incredibly powerful. Pick a natural
organism within your immediate environment and focus on watching
it for one minute. This could be a fower or an insect, the clouds or
the moon. Let thoughts of anything else in your life drop away as
you concentrate and visually explore this glorious organism of the
natural world.
3. Touch Points
Think of something that happens every day more than once,
something you take for granted, like opening a door for example.
At that moment when you touch the door knob, allow yourself to be
completely mindful of where you are, how you feel and what you are
doing. The cues dont have to be physical; it could be that every time
you think something negative you take a mindful moment to release
the negative thought. Choose a touch point that resonates with you
everyday and stop and stay with it for a while.
4. Mindful Listening
Choose a new piece of music, something youve never heard
before. Dont think about the genre or the artist, instead just allow
yourself to get lost in the music. The idea is to just listen; to do nothing
else but hear, without preconception or judgement. If you cant fnd
any music you like, simply listen to the sounds in your environment.
Dont try and determine what the sounds are, just listen and effortlessly
absorb the experience.
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5. Fully Experience a Regular Routine
Take a regular routine that you dont think much about and make it
a mindful one. For example, when cleaning your house, pay attention
to every detail of cleaning. Be mindful of what you are doing. Watch
and feel the motion of sweeping the foor or scrubbing the dishes. Be
in the moment, aware and present. Dont simply clean on auto-pilot
as you usually would, feel your way through the routine and merge
with the activity, physically and mentally.
6. The Game of Five
In this mindfulness exercise, all you need to do is notice fve things
in your day that usually go unnoticed. These could be things you
hear, smell, feel or see. For example you might see the walls, hear
the birds, feel your clothes or smell the fowers. Of course, you may
already do these things, but are you really aware of these things and
the connections they have with your world? Its incredible what an
impact learning to truly notice your sense and environment can have
on your life. By becoming mindful of who, what and where we are, we
can experience increased joy, happiness and contentment.
INNER CONFLICT BLACK AND WHITE WOLVES
By Vlad
(Posted in Musings, Law of Attraction)
An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life:
A fght is going on inside me, he said to the boy.It is a terrible
fght and it is between two wolves. One is evil he is anger, envy,
sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment,
inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego. He continued,
The other is good he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility,
kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion,
and faith. The same fght is going on inside you and inside every
other person, too.
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The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his
grandfather: Which wolf will win?
You might heard the story ends like this: The old Cherokee simply
replied, The one you feed.
In the Cherokee world, however, the story ends this way:
The old Cherokee simply replied, If you feed them right, they
both win. and the story goes on:
You see, if I only choose to feed the white wolf, the black one will
be hiding around every corner waiting for me to become distracted
or weak and jump to get the attention he craves. He will always be
angry and always fghting the white wolf. But if I acknowledge him,
he is happy and the white wolf is happy and we all win. For the black
wolf has many qualities tenacity, courage, fearlessness, strong-
willed and great strategic thinking that I have need of at times
and that the white wolf lacks. But the white wolf has compassion,
caring, strength and the ability to recognize what is in the best
interest of all. You see, son, the white wolf needs the black wolf
at his side. To feed only one would starve the other and they will
become uncontrollable. To feed and care for both means they will
serve you well and do nothing that is not a part of something greater,
something good, something of life. Feed them both and there will be
no more internal struggle for your attention. And when there is no
battle inside, you can listen to the voices of deeper knowing that will
guide you in choosing what is right in every circumstance. Peace,
my son, is the Cherokee mission in life. A man or a woman who
has peace inside has everything. A man or a woman who is pulled
apart by the war inside him or her has nothing.
How you choose to interact with the opposing forces within you
will determine your life. Starve one or the other or guide them both.
Cherokee Story
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HOW TO TURN ENDINGS INTO NEW BEGINNINGS
By Marc Chernoff
Every new beginning comes from some other beginnings end.
When you can no longer think of a reason to continue, you must
think of a reason to start over. Theres a big difference between
giving up and starting over in the right direction. And there are
three little words that can release you from your past regrets and
guide you forward to a positive new beginning. These words are:
From now on
So, from now on
1. Let the things you cant control, GO. Most things are
only a part of your life because you keep thinking about them.
Positive things happen in your life when you emotionally distance
yourself from the negative things. So stop holding on to what hurts,
and make room for what feels right. Do not let what is out of your
control interfere with all the things you can control.
2. Accept and embrace reality. Life is simple. Everything
happens for you, not to you. Everything happens at exactly the
right moment, neither too soon nor too late. For everything you
lose, you gain something else; and for everything you gain, you
lose something else. You dont have to like it, but its just easier
if you do. So pay attention to your outlook on life. You can either
regret or rejoice; its your choice.
3. Change your mind. Change is like breath it isnt part of
the process, it is the process. In reality the only thing we can count
on is change. And the frst step toward positive change is to change
your outlook. Prepare for the positive. Prepare for the new. Allow
the unknown to take you to fresh and unforeseen areas in yourself.
Growth is impossible without change. If you cannot change your
mind, you cannot change anything in your life. Sometimes all you
need to do is look at things from a different perspective.
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4. Hold tight to the good things. When lifes struggles knock
you into a pit so deep you cant see anything but darkness, dont
waste valuable energy trying to dig your way out. Because if you
hastily dig in the dark, youre likely to head in the wrong direction
and only dig the pit deeper. Instead, use what energy you have to
reach out and pull something good in with you. For goodness is
bright; its radiance will show you which way is up, and illuminate
the correct path that will take you there.
5. Rest and regroup. Strength isnt about bearing a cross of
grief or shame. Strength is about choosing your path, living with
the consequences, and learning from them. Sometimes you do
your best and end up with a mess. When this happens, dont be
discouraged. You tried. Thats really all you can ever do. You
have not failed; you just learned what not to do. So rest, regroup,
and begin again with what you now know.
6. Take chances. Making a big life change or trying something
new can be scary. But do you know whats even scarier? Regret.
So realize that most of your fears are much bigger in your mind
than they are in reality; youll see this for yourself as soon as you
face them. Dont let them stop you. Live your life so that you never
have to regret the chances you never took, the love you never let
in, and the gifts you never gave out.
7. Keep climbing. Every person who is at the top of the
mountain did not fall there from the sky. Good things come to those
who work for them. You gain confdence and grow stronger by
every experience in which you truly push yourself to do something
you didnt think you could do. If you are standing in that place of
in-between, unable or unwilling to go backwards, but too afraid
to move forward, remember that you cant enjoy the view without
being willing to climb.
8. Appreciate what you have learned. Nothing is more
beautiful and powerful than a smile that has struggled through
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the tears. Dont regret your time, even the moments that were
flled with hurt. Smile because you learned from it and gained the
strength to rise above it. In the end, its not what you have been
through that defnes who you are; its how you got through it that
has made you the person you are today, and the person you are
capable of being tomorrow.
9. Realize every step is necessary. Nothing is ever wrong.
We learn from every step we take. Whatever you did today was
a necessary step to get to tomorrow. So be proud of yourself.
Maybe you are not as good as you want to be, or as great as you
one day will be; but thanks to all the lessons youve learned along
the way, you are so much better than you used to be.
A MODERN TALE FROM THE PANCHATANTRA
Once upon a time, there was a software engineer who used to
develop programs on his Pentium machine, sitting under a tree
on the banks of a river. He used to earn his bread by selling those
programs in the Sunday market.
One day, while he was working, his machine tumbled off the
table and fell in the river. Encouraged by the Panchatantra story
of his childhood (the woodcutter and the axe), he started praying
to the River Goddess.
The River Goddess wanted to test him and so appeared only
after one month of rigorous prayers. The engineer told her that he
had lost his computer in the river.
As usual, the Goddess wanted to test his honesty.
She showed him a match box and asked, Is this your computer?
Disappointed by the Goddess lack of computer awareness, the
engineer replied, No.
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LIVING AN I CAN LIFE
By Shiela
What is an I Can Life?
This kind of life is a life of unlimited potentials. Anything can
happen to you and you will feel alive as ever. Every day will be
an adventure because every task leads you to new discoveries,
new acquaintances and new experiences. It is living a positive
life where you see things in a different perspective. You must
She next showed him a pocket-sized calculator and asked if
that was his.
Annoyed, the engineer said No, not at all!!
Finally, she came up with his own Pentium machine and asked
if it was his.
The engineer, left with no option, sighed and said Yes.
The River Goddess was happy with his honesty. She was about
to give him all three items, but before she could make the offer,
the engineer asked her,
Dont you know that youre supposed to show me some better
computers before bringing up my own?
The River Goddess, angered at this, replied, I know that, you
stupid idiot! The frst two things I showed you were the Trillennium
and the Billennium, the latest computers from IBM! So saying, she
disappeared with the Pentium!!
Moral of the Story:
If youre not up-to-date with technology trends, it is better
keep your mouth shut and let people think youre a fool, than
to open your mouth and remove all doubt!!!
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have heard the sayings A rainbow is just a smile upside down.
or There is always a silver lining behind a cloud. This is the only
way to think and live if you truly want to be happy.
First Step: Stop Complaining
A person who complains constantly sees only the bad things
happening around him or her. In the process, you fail to see the
good things that are happening at the same time. Remember,
there is always a reason for everything. You just have to have faith
and believe that something good will come out of the situation.
I assure you, you will fnd something good out of it always and
everytime.
Second Step: Find a Solution
When a problem arises, do not focus on the problem, what
caused it and who is to blame. Many times we dwell on the anger
and judgment on the guilty person and waste time instead of
fnding a solution. Focus on fnding a solution and stop stating
the problem. Once is enough to inform everyone. But once you
already know the issue, set aside the blame and anger and channel
your energies to fnding a solution.
Third Step: Trust Your Capabilities
When something goes wrong, fear also gets in the way.
Remember, every problem has a solution. Every task has a way
of solving itself. When you begin to lose faith in what you can do,
then you are in a waydead. You are fortunate if there are people
who believe in you and would support you. In most cases, you
are on your own and the only ones you can count on are your two
hands to help you. Whether you succeed or fail, you have to try
and give it your best shot. Remember the saying Winners never
Quit. Quitters never Win. You have to at least try.
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Fourth Step: Take Risks
Try something new and see where it takes you. When life gets
too comfortable and predictable, it also gets dull and boring. You
will feel lost and unsatisfed. It is the risks that you take in life that
will give you be the best memories of your life. If you are offered
an interesting job that you have never experienced before, weigh
the pros and cons and take a shot. If an opportunity comes and
you dont have much to lose, lose your fears and give it a try.
Fifth Step: Stay Positive
The world has its way of making people pessimistic and
negative. The I can person is the one who is thankful for every
waking morning. He or she smiles a lot and is nice to everyone.
An I Can person sees the glass half full and not half empty. I am
not saying you should talk like a hallmark card. All I am saying is
cheer up! Life is sweeter when you look at the bright side of things.
Success and happiness starts with the simple words I can!
OUR WORDS ARE SEEDS PLANTED
IN OTHER PEOPLES LIVES
(Excerpts from An Enemy Called Average by John Mason)
What we say is important. Our vocabulary should be flled with
words of hope and dreams. Be known as someone who speaks
positively.
Recently I saw a sign under a mounted large mouth bass. It
read, If I had kept my mouth shut I wouldnt be here. How true!
Dont jump into trouble mouth frst.
Let me pose this question for you: Starting today what would
happen if you changed what you said about your biggest problem,
your biggest opportunity?
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I dont know if youve had this conversation or not, but last
month I turned to my wife, Linda, while we were sitting together
in our family room and said, Just so you know, I never want to
live in a vegetative state dependent on some machine. If that ever
happens, just pull the plug.
She immediately got up, walked over and unplugged the TV.
Our words create our worlds, says Dean Sikes. Your words
have the power to start fres or quench passion.
Dont be like the man who joined a monastery in which the
monks were allowed to speak only two words every seven years.
After the frst seven years had passed, the new initiate met with
the abbot, who asked him, Well, what are your two words?
Foods bad, replied the man, who then went back to his silence.
Seven years later the clergyman asked, What are your two
words now?
Beds hard, the man responded.
Seven years later - twenty-one years after his initial entry into
the monastery - the man met with the abbot for the third and fnal
time. And what are your two words this time? the abbot asked.
I quit.
Well, Im not surprised, the cleric answered disgustedly. All
youve done since you got here is complain!
Dont be like that man; dont be known as a person whose only
words are negative. If youre a member of the negative grapevine,
resign.
Contrary to what you may have heard, talk is not cheap.
Talk is powerful!
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7 DESTRUCTIVE HABITS OF INCOMPETENT PEOPLE
By Michael Lee
Author of How to Be an Expert Persuader
(WARNING! If you want to have a fantastic life, never engage
yourself in these 7 deadly habits that incompetent people do).
Number 1 - They Think, Say, & Do Negative Things.
They see problems in every opportunity.They complain that the
sun is too hot. They curse the rain for ruining their plans for the day.
They blame the wind for ruining their hair. They think that everyone
is against them. They see the problems but never the solutions.
Every little bit of diffculty is exaggerated to the point of tragedy.
They regard failures as catastrophes. They neither learn from their
mistakes nor move forward because theyre always afraid to come
out of their comfort zones.
Number 2 - They Act Before They Think.
They move based on instinct or impulse. If they see something
they like, they buy it at once without any second thought. Then they
see something better. They regret & curse for not being able to take
advantage of the bargain. Then they spend & spend again until
nothings left. What theyre after is the pleasure they will experience
at present unmindful of the consequences.
Number 3 - They Talk Much More Than They Listen
They want to be the star of the show. So they always engage in
talks that would make them heroes, even to the point of lying.
Oftentimes they are not aware that what theyre saying is not
sensible anymore. When other people advise them, they close their
ears because theyre too proud to admit their mistakes. In their mind
theyre always correct. They reject suggestions because that will
make them feel inferior.
Number 4 - They Give Up Easily
Successful people treat failures as stepping stones to success.
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Incompetent ones call it quits upon recognizing the frst signs of
failure. At frst, they may be excited to start an endeavor. But then
they lose interest fairly quickly, especially when they encounter errors.
Then they go & search for a new one. Same story & same results.
Incompetent people dont have the persistence to go on and fulfll
their dreams.
Number 5 - They Try to Bring Others Down To Their Level
Incompetent people envy other successful individuals. Instead of
working hard to be like them, these incompetent ones spread rumors
and try every dirty trick to bring them down. They couldve asked
these successful ones nicely. But no, theyre too proud. They dont
want to ask advise. Moreover, theyre too negative to accomplish
anything.
Number 6 - They Waste Their Time
They dont know what to do next. They may just be contented on
eating, getting drunk, watching TV, or worse, staring at the blank wall
with no thoughts whatsoever to improve their lives. Its perfectly fne
to enjoy once in a while. But time should be managed effciently in
order to succeed. There should be a proper balance between work
& pleasure.
Number 7 - They Take the Easy Way Out
If there are two roads to choose from, incompetent people would
choose the wider road with less rewards than the narrower road
with much better rewards at the end. They dont want any suffering
or hardship. What these people dont know is that what you reap is
what you sow. Efforts & action will not go unnoticed.
If only they would be willing to sacrifce a little, they would be
much better off. Successful people made it through trials & error.
They never give up. They are willing to do everything necessary to
achieve what they aspire for in life.
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International Womens Day Celebrations
All Women Session - Theme : Lets Swing in Harmony and Happiness
2.29 pm : Welcome Address Abi Sankari, Organizing Secretary
2.35 pm : Self In(tro)duction by Members and Guests
2.45 pm : Women, Creators of Happy & Healthy Homes
- Ms Nalini Sampath, Motivational Speaker
4.01 pm : Tea
4.25 pm : Change Your Questions, Change Your Life
- Ms Swapna Nair, Counsellor & Psychotherapist
4.45 pm : Building Healthy Relationships
- Ms Revathy Swarnakumar, Psychologist
5.01 pm : Panel Discussion :
Who is under more Stress - Modern Women or Modern Men?
Panelists: Ms Ananthi Karthic, Ms Thenkumari Krishnan,
Ms Vimla Melwani & Ms Swapna Nair
6.00 pm : Mass Relaxation
6.15 pm : Feedback
6.25 pm : Vote of Thanks Ms Soshina, Organizing Secretary
Hypnotique Circle (Madras)
Heartily invites all its Members and Guests for the
Monthly Meeting on Sunday, the 9th March 2014
at Hotel Palmgrove, Kodambakkam High Road, Chennai - 34
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