Partnership in a womans point of view

Every time I encounter women with the dilemma of discontented years, the next thing I learn is
that they are with men. Then these questions in consecutive order, usually come into my mind
What is the relationship between men and discontented lives of women? Is this a spurious
correlation or a causal association? Which comes first, discontentment then men, or men then
discontentment? I thought a relationship with a man makes a woman cheerful, isnt it the
reason why women nowadays fight so hard for their men? They say a woman who is unhappy
needs a man. So she gets a man then she becomes happy. When she stays with the man she
gets that makes her happy, she becomes discontented. It seems that there is a sequence and it
begins with a woman being unhappy and ended discontented. And what is in the middle of this
sequence is a man that makes her happy. I wonder, what will happen if a woman choose to be
with a man who makes her anything except happy, will this change the outcome?

Women choose their men, and once they made a choice, the rest of the story transpires. A
discontented woman will give a sad story. But women do not need to tell sad story, they do not
have to be discontented if only they fulfill Gods plan for their lives and live their God-given
talents. Why cant it be that as men aspire for their endeavour, so is are women? As women
support their partners aspiration, so is men must also give the same support. Isn't marriage
about partnership, supporting one another. There is no need to compromise because this is not
Gods will. God has a purpose for each individual and that is what women has to know, what is
Gods will for you and fulfill it.

Marriage is not easy, and when someone chooses it to be easy then the problem arises.
Culture and upbringing affect the dynamic of marriage, some men want an easy marriage that
eventually results to demand and command for women to compromise, and uses the phrase for
the sake of the family to induce emotional guilt to women. I wonder, why men cannot
compromise also for the sake of family when it is their family too, unless, these men see
themselves not part of a family. If so, then if a man demand from a woman to compromise for
the sake of family, then what woman should do is live with her family (the children and herself)
and be separated from him (not part of the family), that is what I call compromise.

I wonder could it be that when men demand women to compromise is in fact a reflection of
mens inadequacy in household activities. Maybe all of these issues about marriage are a
matter of cleaning, cooking and laundry, just a speculation. Anyway, men cover up the
scantiness of their household training by commanding and demanding from women, which is
comparable to the usual act of male Homo erectus of the prehistoric age when the society was
hunterer-gatherer. Now if your man does not know the Homo erectus, beware because he is
not human but a bacterium. Good for you if so, because all you need is Domex to get rid of him.
Going back to the parallelism of men and Homo erectus, during the time of Homo erectus, the
language they use could be ohh, ahh, and non-verbal communication (which in modern time
liken to charade, the kind you usually see when men start to fight). At that time houses were
caves, kitchen was made of stones and dried branches, and clothes were leaves (they may not
be wearing clothes at all that time, but I prefer to be decent in this portrayal). In the modern age,
the Homo erectus can be the kind of men clothed with clothes that they do not wash, eat the
food that they cannot cook and live in a house that they do not clean. And you may be dating or
married to one of them, so beware, because what you see is an extinct species that happens to
be re-emerging* in the present age because of climate change. This kind of men is not a
product of congenital anomaly, but a matter of upbringing. It could be that they were raised in a
family with no hands-on experience in doing household chores because they are surrounded
with people who do the household chores. However, if you prefer a big family then you might
find his family captivating because you might end up living with him and the individuals who do
the household activities. As well, you no longer need to raise a family because you already have
a clan. However, if he just happens to be a lazy guy with no idea of cleanliness and orderliness
despite the consistent effort of his family to instil the habits in him, and your aspiration is to be a
household maid, then you just met your prince charming. You are the Cinderella of his life, the
one who will put his life in order (literally!).

It has been a frequent** argument of man to use the division of labour by Adam Smith every
time he finds himself mentally challenge to do household chores. My goodness, if your man is
mentally challenged on this aspect of life, have him visit a neurologist or psychiatrist, and get a
medical certificate that will officially declare his capacity for marriage remember marriage and
not sex! Going back to his Adam Smith, a man may usually argue that according to Adam
Smiths division of labour, the job of women is to do household chores and men to earn a
living. With his argument in my mind, I tend to wonder if he is in the same present age where
we are or he is trapped in an age of long time ago where John Snow was not yet born to figure
out the epidemic of cholera in some London districts. If your man is adamant on this belief of
division of labour, show your love by accompanying him as he visits a psychiatrist. Or maybe,
show your concern by sending him back to school for history classes. Or, express your
agitation by throwing to him a cooking pot. If you have difficulty on making a choice which action
be fitting him, you can use an economic decision of cost-effectiveness go for the cooking pot.

Women, remember that having and keeping a family is hard work, a decision made by two
people that must work together as partner. Keep in mind that both of you are in a family living in
a house and both must do their share in making things work. Supporting and strengthening
each other. Women I encourage you to be particular when choosing a suitable partner.
Someone that is capable to keep a family, someone with values and integrity, because there will
be children involved, a house to keep, a dog to bath (I want a dog so I include it here), plants to
water, trees to prune, grass to cut, pool to clean (I love to swim), chicken to feed (organic egg is
good for health). Choose a hardworking partner that has godly values and godly vision. Choose
not by sight but by the Spirit of God. Because before you can raise a family or end up with a
clan, you have to get a partner first then the rest will follow. Woman, you will not be
discontented but satisfied if you will make the important choiceHave you considered being a
nun?


*I am using this term in a figurative context and in no reference to an infectious disease.
**I am using this term in a figurative context not statistical.