Most Important Qualities in any Relationship

(family membership or intimate relationships)

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Introduction:
All healthy relationships whether they are friendship, roommate or romantic have
similar characteristics.
A person needs a good relationship for his/her psychological development. A good
relationship is a necessity in a persons life. A person learns and grows in a good
relationship. Without a good relationship we are like robots; with a bad relationship we
become beasts or worse than beasts.
Points:
i) Respect
ADVANTAGES:
Partners genuinely respect each other and dont engage in words or actions that
express disrespect. It is important that partners in the relationship consider each
other equals. In a respectful relationship everyone involved must first realize that
they may need to let go of preconceived notions about how relationships do and do
not work. They need to accept that the relationship requires hard work, may have
difficulties and may possibly end.
A respectful relationship also means having someone to lean on, when you're broken
and down. In fact, it doesn't always have to be between two people. It can be how
you think of yourself. It can be your outlook on your own life; if you hate yourself, or
the way you look, or even what you do, you don't respect yourself.

DISADVANTAGE:
But when one is being too nice or respectful towards the partner, she may take you
for granted thinking "Oh he's too nice. He won't say anything".

ii) Honesty (I SUPPORT THIS)
In my opinion, the most important quality of a healthy relationship is truth and
honesty. There is no game playing in a healthy relationship. And, I happen to firmly
believe that you cannot expect your partner to be honest with you if you are not
honest with them. Besides, partners trust each other when it comes to affairs of the
heart and in financial matters.
People generally trust that someone is being honest with them until/unless they find
out differently. After someone violates the code, however, theres no way to know
when that person will cross the line again. Thats why cheating is so destructive to a
relationship and why trust is so difficult to repair. For partners to remain strong in a
relationship, they must remain bonded to one another in honesty and good will.
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Therefore, I strongly believe that honesty is the most crucial value that needs to be
practised in any relationships.



iii) Generosity
ADVANTAGES:
True generosity has nothing to do with being flamboyant or extravagant, qualities
that are usually intended to impress. The truly generous individual tends to bestow
his generosity broadly. This does not mean that he is a spendthrift or an extravagant
spender. Rather, the generous man gives within his means and does not limit his
generosity to material things. He will be capable of being generous with his time and
attention, for example. He may be willing to help you out in a time of need.
In addition, the truly generous individual tends not to be highly possessive. He is
willing to share what he has. That's not to say he gives away everything he owns.
However, he does not hoard the things he owns.

DISADVANTAGE:
If you think generous is the most important quality, you may encounter this problem.
"Honey I've zeroed in on this fantastic restaurant for our date tonight. I already made
the booking because I thought you wouldn't mind even though you don't like this
type of cuisine". Get the point, Mr. Generous Guy?

iv) Tolerance
ADVANTAGES:
Friends and partners will support each other in what they want to accomplish in life,
including career goals and/or hobbies. They will celebrate the victories of their
friends or partner, even if they do not participate in the accomplishment. However,
it is important to have some common interests. This will make it easier for me to
spend quality time with the other person.
Partners will not attempt to try to change each other. On the other hand, it is
important to recognize the fact that the majority of humans grow and change as
they mature. As a person in a relationship, it is important to accept the growth and
change in your partner.

DISADVANTAGE:
If you are just being tolerate to your partner all the time, you may find yourself doing
all the work, errands and the boring bits that come as responsibilities of being in a
relationship. Well, there may be times when your habit of going that extra mile for
your partner may backfire.
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Conclusion:
If one wants to increase his or her chances of having a truly healthy relationship, his or
her priority should be to make sure that he or she possesses the qualities that a
genuinely nice person would want in a friend or a partner. If you believe you fall short
in this area, then dont expect to attract the friend or partner of your dreams it just
wont happen!