FAKULTI PENDIDIKAN DAN BAHASA

SEMESTER MEI, 2014

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CONTENTS

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1.0 What does it take to be a good parent?

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2.0 References

Appendix

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WHAT DOES IT TAKE TO BE A GOOD PARENT?

What is the meaning of parenting? Did you know how to be a good parent? When we
thinks about the responsibility to be a parent, it can stop you in your tracks and take your
breath away. There are nothing that can prepare you to be a parent. From toddling,
school, being a teenager, getting their driving lessons; your responsibility as a parent
never stop. But luckily the rewards are huge; the fun, the hugs and the closeness among
you and your child. And the big pleasure is when seeing them grow to be a kind of person
that you can proud of.
By the way, today, Ill giving you a speech about What Does It Take To be A Good
Parent. Richard Templar ( 2013 ) says, everythings that happens over the years will
giving a huge influence to your child whether your child grows up to be screwed up or
well balance. As we known, a child first learn from their parents. Thats means a parent is
a role model for them. So, as a role model we need to be a good parent with these several
characteristics that can help us form a foundation for good parenting.

Firstly, emphaty. A good parent need to listen more than talk. Listen and pay attention to
them when they have feelings to express. You need to put yourself in the childs shoes.
That means, you are willing to tune into their words, tone of voice and even their body
language. And try to treat and please them when you can. But more often, your little child
just need you to give them the safety of our loving presence while they cry or rage to vent
their feelings. With emphaty, its will help us strengthening the parent-child relationship
and sets the stage for open communication. Your relationship with your child is the
foundation for his relationships with others.
Many times it can be hard for parents to deal with childs misbehaviours, mostly because
we dont understand them. And the worst things a parent can do is to take your childs
misbehaviors personally. As part of their growth, children are going to misbehave and do
things that go against the rules. By understanding, its can help parents anticipate and
redirect a child toward more positive and acceptable behaviours.
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As a parent, you have to looks for the need behind your childs behavior. There are
always have reasons for what our childs doing. It might be not a good reason, but its
whats we call a motivation for they behavior. By yelling on his behavior were are going
to change it, that would have worked already. Only by addressing the underlying need we
change a persons behavior. For example, your daughter are trying to put on her own
clothes. You should knows that she is choosing her own decisions even if they dont
match. That is why a parent also commit to be a motivator. Parents who address childs
need pre-emptively by noticing problem areas are rewarded with childs who cooperate.
Besides that, you need to give a level of trust for child. You dont need to control too
many things in a childs life. Allow them to make age-appropriate decisions because it is
a great way to help your child learn how to become more responsible. Besides that you
must remember, cannot be too loving and giving all of your trust for child. You can
established and set somes rules with your child together. Steinberg says, If you dont
manage your childs behavior when he is young, he will have a hard time learning how to
manage himself when he is older and you arent around.( Davis, Jeanie Learche ).

In the other hands, there are important for parents to have leadership. As we know, a
parents main role in their childs life is to be a leader. Leadership in parenting requires
us being firm and willing to put rules in place. Parents have to accept that there will be
times when your child will not like you for putting certain limits in place. I know, it is not
easy sometimes when you are angry. Remember to manage your emotions with kids; take
a breath and says you are role model, dont take it personally. Teach them the rules and
expectations up front. They can't follow a rule if they don't know about it. That its your
job to do whats best for your child. Steinberg says, you as a good parent need to avoid
harsh discipline. Never hit a child under any circumstances. Children who are spanked,
hit, or slapped are more prone to fighting with other children, he writes. ( Davis, Jeanie
Learche ).

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Dr. Laura Markham ( 2014 ) says, you also have to commit guidance rather than
punishment. When we constanly criticize, childs will harden their hearts to us. You have
to address needs rather than focusing on misbehavior, redirect pre-emptively rather than
punish. For example, you says You can throw the ball outside, and set limits
emphathically You are mad and sad, but we dont hit. Lets use your words to tell your
sister how you feel. End up with selfdiciplined childs who want to behave.

As a leader in your family you need to be a good example. Do you want your child to say
please and thank you? Make sure your child sees you saying please and thank you in all
your interactions evens with them. Do you want your child to remain calm when things
don't go according to plan? Make sure they see you doing that yourself. You can
influence your child's behavior by how you interact with them. Are you going to be the
parent who is always bailing a child out of problems? Are you going to be the parent who
is a dictator in the house and always telling everyone what to do? Research seems to
support a style where children can make choices but also experience the consequences. In
order to have influence over someone else's behavior, it is a good idea to examine your
own.

Dear parents;
Have you said these words to your child? I like who you are and who you are
becoming. There we call it gratitude. Gratitude in parenting means appreciate your
child as they are. It helps parents aware of, and help build on childs strengths. You can
accepts the present moment, doesnt fret about past mistakes, or worry about the future.
The most important things to you is to be more approachable, and giving a positive
influence in your childs life. As we know, every child is unique. So you need to take a
different approach for that child to feel seen and loved. You need to accepting whose
your child is and try to cherishing him or her. You should look from what they
perspective and celebrate every step in the right direction.

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Quality time. It is about our connection. A good parent commit to staying connected
with their child even if they are working. It is a challenge for us because of limited times.
Remember that quality time is not teaching and its mostly unstructed. Every morning
before going to work, hug your child. Spend even fifteen minutes solely focused on your
child. At least you have a time to listen, commiserate, hug, laugh and some more with
them. You can devote your evening to your family by stop working before dinner. You
can cook and eat together with your family. And before your child going to sleep at night,
have a chat and a silent snuggle with them. So that your child would feel that you are
always besides them.

Apart of that, a good parent also needs to have confidency. Joan Romeo ( 2009 ) says,
parents who are confident dont have all the answer. But confident in their abilities to do
the best that they can. If they are mistaken in choosing the right path, confident parents
are willing to admit them rather than dwell on it. They will try to find another solution
and make better choices in the future. They can see the problems as opputurnities to learn
and grow better. And as a result confident parents can help their child to develop selfconfident as well.

Happiness is also important in a family. It is not given to a chosen one. But we have to
find and make it a part of our daily life. Never wait for others to make you happy.
Choosing to be happy is a choice that we all can make because it comes from within.
Happiness is not designed to make problems go away but sometimes it may. Its can help
us to rise above our problems and survive in spite of them. Plus, it just feel good to be
happy. Parents who practice happiness in their life have a greater chance to influence
their children perception of happiness. It is important for children to be happy as it can
improve their development. Mostly of them are naturally happy and enjoy being around a
happy family.

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Dear parents,

Before closing my speech today, I would like to put in mind of us that the parents whose
kids are able to look after themselves, to enjoy life and make those around them happy, to
be caring and kind, and to stand up for what they believe inthose parents are the ones
who are getting it right. And if you as a parent with the right attitudes, there are not
possible for you to get a good news about your child. You need to try to be a good parent
because there are lots of right ways to raise your child.

Until here, thank you very much for lending your ears and heart to me.

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REFERENCES

Davis, Jeanie Learche. 10 Commandments of good parenting. [Online].

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Macintoch, Chris. How to dicipline a child according to age. [Online].

Available at: http://wikihow.com/discipline-a-child-according-to-age.

Markham, Laura. (2014). 10 Commitments that will make you a better parent.
[Online]. Available at: http://www.ahaparenting.com/parenting-tools/raise-greatkids/resolutions-better-parent.

Martin, Jim.(2005). Top ten characteristicsof a good parent (conclusion). [Online].

Available at: http://www.godhungry.org/2005/09/11/top-ten-characteristics-of-agood-parent-conclusion. [2005, September 9].

Romeo, Joan. (2009). Characteristics of a good parent. [Online].

Available at: http://www.parenthood360.com. [2009, Feb 7].

Templar, Richard. (2013). Introduction to the rules of parenting: A personal code for
raising happy, confident children. [Online].
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