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PAM MCGRATH
Central Queensland University, Rockhampton, Australia
The following discussion presents comparative findings from hospice patients and
hematology survivors on the topic of talking about dying to significant others within their
network of family and friends. The insights have been gathered from an Australian
research program that is exploring the notion of spirituality in relation to serious illness.
The findings document the participants awareness, acceptance, and fear of dying. It
documents the difficulty associated with talking about dying, which creates voids in
relationships and deprives seriously ill individuals of their sense of normality, at a time
when they have a strong need to talk and share experiences. Six specific blocks to communication are explored, along with as emphasis on the importance of communicating with
others who have a similar life experience.
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family and friend network about this taboo subject. The findings are
compared with previously published data from cancer survivors from
the same study that affirm a similarity of issues. The discussion is set
within the context of an academic program on spirituality that is
demonstrating, through research, that maintaining a strong connection
with others within the intimate network of family and friends affirms
meaning in life for those challenged by serious illness.Thus, it is argued,
the present findings have relevance for those interested in both spirituality and communication.
Setting the ContextMaintaining the Connection
The insights have been gathered from an Australian research program
that is exploring the notion of spirituality in relation to life-threatening
illness. The preliminary findings indicate that although for some spirituality can embrace religiosity (McGrath, 2003a; McGrath & Newell,
2001), for most participants it is quintessentially of the ordinary (full
discussion of this notion published in McGrath, 2002). It refers to the
sense that individuals, be they hospice patients or survivors, are making out of their life experience through their intimate connections with
family and friends, work, home, and leisure. The findings from both
groups indicate that the opportunity to share their experience of serious
illness with others within their network of intimate connections is a
core dimension in the individuals expression of spirituality (McGrath,
2003b; McGrath & Newell, 2002). The comparative findings presented
in this article examine the factors that facilitate or inhibit such supportive and sharing communications. Thus, the findings provide insights
that are directly relevant to understanding both spiritual and communication issues for individuals facing terminal illness.
The Research
The study, funded by the Queensland Cancer Fund for 2 years, examines the relevance of the notion of spirituality and spiritual pain for
hospice patients (Arm A) and their careers (Arm B), and the health
professionals who look after them (Arm C), as well as cancer survivors
(Arm D) and patients undergoing curative care in a hospital setting
(Arm E). The findings reported in this article are from the hospice
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patients (Arm A) and are compared with prior data, presently under
review (McGrath & Clarke, 2003) from the cancer survivors (Arm D).
The hospice patients were consecutively enrolled through the Karuna Hospice Service. Prospective participants were contacted and told
of the study and invited to participate in an interview. Participants were
informed of their ethical rights (such as informed consent, confidentiality, right to withdraw) before agreeing to participate and a written
consent was obtained prior to the interview. The university ethics
committee approved the study and the ethics committee ratified project
descriptions and consent forms. Although it has now been demonstrated
that qualitative interviewing with vulnerable populations can be a beneficial experience for participants (McGrath, 2003c), additional ethical
considerations were built in to the data collection for the hospice
patients. The interviewing was sensitive to hospice patients vulnerable
state and was conducted by a trained counselor who had experience
working with hospice families. The interviews were only conducted if a
carer was present in the home during and after the interview.Vigilance
was maintained during the interview for the need for debriefing and
follow-up support by the hospice staff was available for the patients
post-interview. As outlined in the findings, the participants valued
the interviews as an opportunity to speak about their experience with
someone outside their intimate network.
Target Population
As the findings presented are from the hospice Arm of the research, the
full details of these participants will be provided. Because the cancer
survivor details and data are outlined elsewhere (McGrath & Clarke,
2003), it will suffice to indicate that they (n 12) were individuals who
had undergone intensive treatment for a life-threatening hematological
malignancy. As a separate Arm in the same project, the survivors shared
exactly the same methodology as the hospice patients.
All of the hospice participants met the criteria for the communitybased hospice in that they had a terminal diagnosis with less than
6 months to live, had a general practitioner who would be involved in
their care, and a carer who was able to look after them in their home
environment. Most of the participants were female (n 10; male, n 4).
The diagnostic groups included breast cancer (n 4), bowel cancer (n 3),
lung cancer (n 3), prostate cancer (n 1), ovarian cancer (n 1), and
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There were many that had also experienced the loss of close family
members in recent times, which emphasized the reality of dying.
My husband died (date this year). . . . It was pretty horrific (his dying and the
patient then being diagnosed).
Although most patients were uncertain about the length of time left to
live, acceptance allowed them to talk about and plan for the actual
death,
I would like someone to be with me at the time. (Spoke about the desire to die at
home.)
Interestingly, not one of the participants who demonstrated acceptance could understand or express the process of coming to that state of
acceptance. It was as if it was an unconscious or mysterious process, the
only explicit manifestation of which was the need for time. As one participant summed up,
Yes, that (acceptance) was difficult, that didnt come very easily, that took quite
a struggle to accept it. I think it just happens. . . . (And you cant fast forward
that ?) Nope (You are not really in control ?) Yes, yes that is true. It just happens.
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It is not only the actual dying that some individual fear but also the
unknown of what follows,
Even though I know there is an afterlife there is the fear of the unknown.
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However, some noted that they did not have a fear of the process of
dying,
I am not frightened, no, no way in the world.
Thus, it is important to note that although individuals can be accepting of death this can also be accompanied by fear, which will directly
influence communication.
Death and Dying are Difficult toTalk About
All the participants clearly indicated that the topic of death and dying is
personal, frightening, and difficult to talk about for most people. Hence,
it is not easy to include the topic in general conversation,
Theyre scary subjects and I guess often we dont want to touch on it too much.
It is not normal (in general conversation) you dont talk about it you know. . . .
It is very personal.
Talking about dying is particularly problematic in intimate relationships with family and friends for a myriad of reasons. Putting the topic
out for discussion is confronting as it brings into focus the impending
possibility of profound loss for both the patient and their family. Such
conversations can be met with sadness,
(Do you talk about it with your children?) I have a couple of times, you know.
(Is it really hard?) Mmm (close to tears).Yep, but they are good you know.
Avoidance,
Well I rang my daughter and we were talking about something to do with the
illness. She had to hang up really quickly.
Fear,
No, I havent talked about it. I feel a bit too frightened. Two of my daughters are
fine but the other two I cant get to them.
My family comes to visit but they seem to be frightened to talk.
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Shock,
When you do tell them they get a shock.
And panic,
And when youre told your head never stops. All of these ideas running around
your head.What should I do? And how to go about it and that.
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The fact that they were facing a terminal condition became a strong
factor in depriving them of normal, sociable communication.
Helps toTalk
The participants were quite emphatic about the importance of supportive talk,
Oh I think thats most important to talk.Yes I do. I always say to anybody, talk,
talk. (It is not too threatening for you?) Oh I think it is important!
You really need somebody, even just one person that you can off load on.
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Discussion allows for planning, both for the process of dying and the
care of the family afterwards,
In the event that things are not happening the way they would hope . . . we will
need to think about what would happen if something went wrong . . . I will get
them together and say Ive thought . . .
One caveat to the discussion so far is that there is a limit to what one
can express,
Yes, um, it is a difficult one to express in words.
Obstacles toTalking
Although the opportunity to talk about dying and the terminal illness
was seen as a positive, there was considerable discussion about the obstacles to that happening in a constructive way or at all.
Obstacle 1: Emotion-Laden Dimension of Dying
Some of the participants noted that they were not in the position to
deal with the emotional reactions of intimate others to the fact of their
terminal illness,
I dont want to have to deal with her volatility because I just think Ive got as
much as I can cope with. So I cant have her getting upset and crying and then
Ive got to try and calm her down. So yes, Im very careful what I say. I mean, I
love her dearly but Im very careful.
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Some participants worried, because the topic is considered so emotionally difficult, that individuals will not know what to say if the issue
is raised,
And I dont think they would be real comfortable because they wouldnt know
what to say.
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Some individuals, however, are not comfortable withgiving permissionas the following description indicates,
Ive never been in the company of anyone since Ive been ill that has talked about
(serious illness). I have never brought it up. Ive never sort of said to anyone I am
dying of cancer.
The variation between individuals, even when the patient is comfortable with giving permission to talk, can be seen by the following
description,
That is my nature to be very open. And Im naturally fairly frank. Other people
might find it a bit confronting in fact but I can speak so openly about it. I found
most people will talk to me to varied degrees. I tend to be sensitive to other people and if I feel they are uncomfortable with it, I back off. I have one girlfriend
that if I start to talk about it, just cries. So I dont talk with her.
Obstacle 4: Timing
It was noted that the patients desire to talk was directly related to the
degree of their acceptance of death. Thus, the desire to engage in meaningful conversation depended on appropriate timing. As one participant
summed up with regards to her own reluctance to talk,
I dont want to think of things like that because Im not going to give in yet, you
know. (When the time is right, yes, but not now.Would that be fair to say?) Yep.
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It is reported, however, some health professionals are not always comfortable with exploring the process of dying,
They dont seem to talk about it. They more just sneak around it (laughs).
As with the survivor findings, the important issue was to remove the
taboo about discussing dying and to make the offer of being able to talk
available,
It shouldnt be taboo, I mean it is up to you then if you dont want to talk about it
just say I dont. (So just offer and it is up to the person?) Yes, exactly.
Discussion
There is a plethora of literature that posits the importance of meaningmaking as an important dimension of the human experience, and a core
notion of spirituality (Frankl, 1973; Millison & Dudley, 1992; Neimeyer,
Prigerson, & Davies, 2002; Sumner, 1998; Taylor & Ferszt, 1988;
Wald & Bailey, 1990). The empirical findings from the present study
indicate (McGrath, 2002) that, although meaning-making can be a
significant dimension of spirituality for some, an equally important
dimension is that of affirming the immediate connection with life
through family, home, friends, leisure, and work. The core spiritual task
is that of finding satisfaction in living in the here-and-now. Satisfying
connections with others precede meaning-making, for it is through such
connections that the individual can make sense of life. The findings
presented in this article are set within the context of the importance of
the connection-affirming talk.
The findings from the hospice patients are compared with recent
findings from the same study on cancer survivors need to talk about
the experience of serious illness, published elsewhere (McGrath &
Clarke, 2003). Although the outcomes of the confrontation with serious
illness are very different for hospice patients and survivors, the insights
from both sets of participants on this topic are remarkably similar.
Both sets of data affirm the tension generated from the profound need
to talk juxtaposed with the difficulty of sharing conversations about
the implications of serious illness with intimate others. This finding
resonates with Anderson and Martins work (2003), which highlights
the contradiction between the continuing taboo surrounding family
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communication about serious illness and the fact that supportive relationships are central to healing. Similarly, Reiss, Steinglass, and Howe
(1993) demonstrated that family intimacy can be thwarted during
terminal illness by awkwardness and avoidance.The intent in presenting
such findings is not to pathologize the difficulty of cancer talk as a
dysfunction of any particular family system (Fingerman & Bermann,
2000; Roberts, Baile, & Bassett, 1999; Rothbaum, Rosen, Ujie, &
Uchida, 2002; Yeheskel, Biderman, Borkan, & Herman, 2000), but
rather to normalize the communication difficulty as generic across dissimilar groups such as survivors and hospice patients. Indeed, naming
and normalizing discussions of death and dying are recorded as liberating processes for family members facing the loss of a loved one
(Buckman, 1998). This is an important issue, for as Soothill and associates demonstrate (2001) in relation to cancer patients, the ability to talk
freely to intimate others about the experience of serious illness is one of
the most significant unmet needs. As argued by Leichtentritt and Rettig
(2002), an understanding of such family beliefs and communication
processes is not just relevant to consumers but have significant practical
implications for professionals working with the terminally ill.
In both groups (survivors and hospice patients) the avoidance by
others and lack of opportunity to affirm bonds and share experience
caused by the obstacles to talking about the illness translates into a
degree of spiritual pain. For the purpose of this discussion, the notion
of spiritual pain refers to the definition generated by the present
research program, documentedelsewhere (McGrath, 2003b), definedas,
A sense of diffuse emotional/existential/intellectual pain directly related to the
meaninglessness created as the result of a break with the expected/normal network of relationships that function to connect one to life. A key ingredient in that
pain is the sense that the normal network of relationships and experience with
life are failing to meet the individuals needs, and thus the expected satisfaction
and meaning-making from life are not forthcoming.
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need for personal space. Both survivors and hospice patients reported
the importance of the time and space to deal with their emotional reactions independent of the pressure to communicate. Parkess (1998) findings would also posit the need to strike a balance between anticipatory
grief and the living out of remaining life as a factor, as excessive anticipatory grief may mar this final stage.
For both groups the opportunity to talk to others outside the emotional intensity of the intimate circle was seen as important and appreciated when provided. The benefit included an avoidance of burdening
family members, and the opportunity to access important information
about death or recovery.
The opportunity to discuss issues other than illness is also noted as
important by both groups. Although confronted by a life-threatening
illness, both groups seek to focus on living rather than dying.The opportunity to digress, if only momentarily, from the illness is seen as a
normalizing experience that is valued by both survivors and hospice
patients. Such insights affirm Soothill and associates research (2001)
that links significant unmet needs to the degree to which cancer interferes with social activities. The findings also complement Hunter Jones
research (2003) that demonstrates the importance of holiday taking
in the rehabilitation of cancer patients.
Importantly, both sets of participants emphasised the significance of
what hasbeen labelled theexistentialunderstanding gap (McGrath & Clarke,
2003). The consensus from both groups is that unless others have experienced a similar life situation they were not able to understand in sufficient
depth, or satisfactorily talk about, the core dimension of their meaningmaking (i.e., the confrontation with death and the life-altering sequelae of
diagnosis and treatment).Thus, the opportunity to talk to others with similar life experiences is highly valued. Understandably, as the survivors are
trying to construct a positive vision of a future based on the notion of cure
andclosure of the treatment experience, theyalso emphasisedthe negatives
of talking to others with similar experiences because of the fear of hearing
of relapse and being overwhelmed by the stories of others struggles.
It is interesting to note that in both groups there is strong evidence of
acceptance of death and comfort with discussing the possibility of dying.
Such findings go some way to challenging the continuing misconception
that opening up such discussion is insensitive to the needs of the seriously
ill. In both groups there was both an openness and readiness to talk
about dying. As the data demonstrate, however, sensitivity and timing
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are required for a topic that for all concerned is emotionally challenging.
For hospice patients the acceptance will also be accompanied by a hope
for cure, fear of the unknown, sadness, anxiety, a desire to protect family
members and a need to maintain a sense of normalcy.
Lastly, it should be noted that although the participants only made
cursory comments about the limits to verbal communication, this issue
is explored in greater depth through further findings from the spirituality program (McGrath & Newell, 2002)
Conclusion
The findings in this article seek to make a positive contribution to
responding to Griffins (2000, p. 50) call to deal with death openly, as a
natural part of the rhythm of life, and witha willingness to explore the
issues it creates for us both as persons and as communities. It is the hope
and expectation that the findings will contribute to an understanding of
the myriad of communication issues that individuals coping with the
challenge of serious illness must deal with in maintaining their connection with significant others within their intimate network. The findings
affirm the importance of talk and emphasize the benefit of connecting
with others undergoing similar life experience.
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