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Introduction

Meet Ups

BOOK STORE
OPERATION SHOEBOX
CAKE DECORATING CONTEST
ICE BLOCKING
TOY STORE
DRIVING RANGE/PUTTING CONTEST
THE ZOO
PICNIC & PLANES
POTTERY/CERAMICS PAINTING
SALSA DANCE LESSON

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(Seasonal) Meet Ups

HALLOWEEN COSTUME SHOPPING

THE PUMPKIN PATCH
HAUNTED HOUSE
HOLIDAY SHOPPING
PIE BAKING

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Hey, Action Jackson here with The Matchbook Method, and as goofy as some
of the Meet Up locations & ideas in this chapter may sound, they are all fieldtested and proven to score you major points with the girl. Not only do they
demonstrate adventurousness and spontaneity, they are also specifically
designed to do 5 Very Important things:
1) Set you apart from the clich, boring dates shes probably used to.
2) Create optimal opportunities to flirt, kiss, and escalate!
3) Let you control the frame and be the leaderthe alpha male!
4) Hit multiple venues/locations, which accelerates comfort building.

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5) Begin at a public placeand end up back at your place.

WAIT!! What About Meeting For Coffee, Food, or Drinks?

In a moment Im going to show you various meet ups that will win her over and
get you more action than Hugh Hefner. But first, let me say something about
the clich meet ups and dates were all used to. Ill admit itsometimes Im
lazy and just go out for coffee, food, drinks, etc. But heres why its not
recommended: If you arent careful these types of dates can easily get you
thrown into the friend zone. Why? Because you have to rely primarily on your
conversational skills to generate attraction and build rapport. This can turn into
a chore unless you and her naturally have great chemistry. If you do find
yourself on one of these dates here are a few guidelines to give you the best
chance of winning the girl over:

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Avoid the following:

Sitting across from each other.
This limits opportunities for playful touching & sealing that first kiss early on!

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Boring, interview-style conversation.

This usually happens when you run out of interesting things to talk about.
Its good to ask her questions, but give her a run for her money. Ask her
stimulating questions like what would she want to be if there was no chance
of failure? Or if she could only call one person in the next 24 hours who
would it be?
Paying for all her drinks, food, etc.

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This sub-communicates a weak frame and shows shes already won you
over. Its best to split the tab 50/50 or go back and forth (i.e. you buy the
movie tickets, she buys the popcorn). P.S. That wasnt a recommendation to
go see a movie. A three-hour date with a two-hour movie is not a good way
to build attraction and comfort.
One exception for paying is if its only a few bucks, in which case dont be a cheap ass,
pick up the tab and tell her she can get it next time.
Sharing too much too soon.
No matter how trustworthy you think she is or how comfortable you feel
around her, dont spill your guts! Sharing too much personal info screams
desperate and needy. Likewise, if she starts sharing too much a red
CAUTION flag should go up in your head.

I Forgot To Mention One Last Thing

Normally, if you were meeting someone for the first time in person youd want
to limit your options and put safety first. For example, drive your own car, meet
in a crowded public place, and keep the meet up short. But remember, a 6 to
8-message conversation online using Matchbook Method attraction techniques
is equivalent to spending 2-3 hours with each other at dinner. By the time you
meet up you should (and will) feel like you have known each other a long time.
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Book Store

Venues: Book Store

Cost: FREE

A T C H B O O K

SUMMARY: Meet at a bookstore. Each of you picks out your favorite

childrens book. She reads you the book you picked and vice-versa.
Book Store: Have her meet you at a big bookstore that has a childrens
section with seating. Tell her to pick out her favorite childrens book and you
do the same. Find a little kids table or some chairs, get cozy, and have her
read you the book you picked out. Then read her the one she picked out. You
can seed this meet up idea in your online conversation by telling her you have
to get a book for your little cousins birthday and shes going to help you pick
it out. The beauty is you dont have to buy a book that day. You can always
say, None of these seem right for her, I want to get her something else.
Kiss/Escalation Opportunities: You can get in some playful flirting and teasing
while looking around for books, but your main escalation/kissing opportunity
comes when you sit down next to each other and read. For this reason, try to
pick out a book about a prince and princess to set the tone.

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Operation Shoebox
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Venues: Shoe Store, Superstore, Your Place

Cost: $15
SUMMARY: Meet at a shoe store and get an empty shoebox. Then bounce to
a superstore and fill shoebox with items for a soldier overseas. Then bounce
back to your place to pack and wrap it. This activity scores major points with
the ladies, plus you're supporting the troops. Check out
www.operationshoebox.com to see what items are recommended and how to
mail your shoebox.

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Shoe Store: Have her meet you at a shoe store. If she asks, Why? just tell
her, Youll see. Spend time at the store browsing the shoes and doing some
playful teasing and flirting. Ask someone in the store for an empty shoebox.
No shoe store near you? You can skip that part and get a shoebox from the
shoe section of the superstore.
Superstore: Walk around together filling the shoebox with items for a soldier
fighting in the war.
Your Place: Invite her back to your place to pack and wrap the shoebox. Tell
her that she can only stay a few minutes because you have a lot of
work/studying to do. Shell be much more open to coming over.
Kiss/Escalation Opportunities: You should get in some good flirting and playful
touching at the different stores. At your place is where the two of you will be
alone and you can easily kiss her and more!

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Cake Decorating Contest

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Venues: Grocery Store, Your Place, Main Street

Cost: $10
SUMMARY: Here's another philanthropist-style meet up. Either bake or buy
two undecorated cakes and have a cake-decorating contest. If you get messy
and have fun it's a great opportunity for some physical escalation. Afterwards,
go find a couple homeless people to give your cakes to. They especially
appreciate it if it's Rum Cake. j/k., but seriously...they do.

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Grocery Store: Have her meet you at a grocery store near your place. If she
asks, Why the grocery store? just reply, Youll see. Pick out two small,
undecorated cakes and get some icing and toppings. If they dont have small
cakes just get one and each decorate a different half of the cake. This is
actually better because it forces you guys to be close during the messy
decorating. When she meets you at the grocery store tell her the game plan:
The two of you are going to have a cake decorating contest, and youre going
to win, and then youre going to give the cake to a homeless person.
Your Place: Invite her back to your place to decorate the cake If she refuses to
go back to your place then have an alternate plan set up (i.e. A park nearby).
Main Street: Head off back into the city and find someone to give the cake
too. If youre in a nice suburban or rural area and there are no homeless
people around then you can always deliver it to a friends house as a playful
surprise for him or him. Or just keep it and eat it yourself. Or tell her she has to
stop back by this week to have some. The possibilities are endless.
Kiss/Escalation Opportunities: You should get in some good flirting and playful
touching at the grocery store, but the main venue for escalation and kissing is
at your place while youre decorating the cake. Its especially fun if you get
into a food fight with the toppings. The next thing you know youre doing body
shots off each other with the icing. Squirt some icing on her face near her
mouth then casually say, Let me get that off for you. Dont be surprised if
youre making out within 10 minutes.
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Ice Blocking

Venues: Grocery/Convenience Store, Grassy Park with Hill/Golf Course

Cost: $5
SUMMARY: This is only for the adventurous. Find a grocery or convenience
store near you that sells blocks of ice. Buy two of them and find a park or golf
course with some hills. Climb to the top and race each other down the hill on
your ice blocks! I like sneaking onto private golf courses at night to add the
extra thrill of hoping security night watch doesn't catch you. Also, at nighttime
it's easier to physically escalate at the bottom of the hill after a few runs. Bring
towels to put on the ice blocks so your ass doesnt freeze off!
Grocery/Convenience Store: Have her meet you at a grocery or convenience
store where you know they sell big blocks of ice, (they are about the size of a
large shoebox). Grab a couple blocks and drive her to a grassy park with a
hill or find a golf course.
Park/Golf Course: Grab your blocks of ice and towels and climb to the top of
a hill. Race each other down the hill on your ice blocks! Be carefulyou get
going really fast! The ice blocks arent that big so you can either sit on it with
your feet out or curl up in the fetal position so your butt and heels fit on it.
Kiss/Escalation Opportunities: You should get in some good flirting at the store
to warm things up. The real opportunity comes after you two have wiped out at
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Toy Store

Venues: Toy Store, Convenience Store, Grassy Park/Your Place

Cost: $15-20
SUMMARY: Have her meet you at a toy store. Pick out a board game to play
at a park or your place. Stop by a convenience store and get some ice cream,
drinks, or snacks before heading to the park. Play the game and make fun,
special prizes for the winner. I recommend kisses.

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Toy Store: Meet at a toy store and pick out a fun board game. There are some
really good ones that are inexpensive, like the one with the slides and ladders
(I cant say the real name for Trademark reasons).
Convenience Store: Stop at a convenience store on the way and get some
drinks or snacks for the park. If youre headed back to your place you could
stop for ice cream.
Park/Your Place: Throw a blanket down on the grass at a park or the carpet in
your living room and play the game. Winner gets a special prize!
Kiss/Escalation Opportunities: The best opportunity to kiss her and escalate will
be at the park or at your place. You can throw in a little kiss prize for the
winner of the game. I like to bring a few chocolate kisses and give her one as
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Driving Range/Putting Contest

Venues: Driving Range, Putting Green

Cost: $8
SUMMARY: This is the grown-up, less clich version of mini-golf. Putt-putt is fun,
but taking full swings is even better! You do need your own golf clubs though.
Meet at a local driving range, buy a bucket of balls, and whack away! Then
go have a putting contest on the putting green. Putt for kisses!
Driving Range: Have her meet you at a store or restaurant NEAR a driving
range. Then have her hop in your car or follow you to the driving range, (this
preserves the spontaneity of the date. Buy a bucket of balls, pull out your
driver, and start whacking away. Do NOT try to impress your date. Instead,
have fun and turn it into a game. See who can get closest to a flag. If the golf
ball collector is out there in his caged cart try and aim for him! See who can do
the most successful Happy Gilmore swing impression. Etc. etc.
Putting Green: Make sure you save a few balls for the putting green! Start a
putting contest with her where the winner gets a kiss. Hint: Make it so if she
wins she gets to give YOU a kiss. Youre the prize to be won.
Kiss/Escalation Opportunities: If youre an avid golfer you can do the ol
stand behind her and show her what a proper swing feels like. The main
kissing opportunities come on the putting green where you can have contests
and make special prizes and more! The first contest could be for an Eskimo kiss
(rubbing noses together) the second for a kiss on the cheek the third for the
lips. Shell be more open to kissing you if you work your way up instead of
going caveman on her.

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The Zoo

Venues: Your Local Zoo

Cost: $10/Ticket

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SUMMARY: Have her meet you at the zoo! This one is self-explanatory.
Zoo: Meet at your local zoo and enjoy yourselves! Take pictures together with
the animals. You can pay for the tickets and have her pay for lunch or treats.
The zoo will score you a lot of comfort building points so you can escalate like
crazy the next time you hang out.
Kiss/Escalation Opportunities: The zoo isnt the best for escalation, but you can
sneak in some kisses and playful touching if youre slick. Tell her to give you a
kiss on the cheek while taking a picture together. Use the animal-human
relationship to demonstrate how much humans and animals are alike. For
example: getting aroused through hair pulling, neck biting, etc. You must do
these correctly or else shell just feel awkward.

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Picnic & Planes

Venues: Grocery Store, Airport

Cost: $15
Summary: Remember the scene in Waynes World where they are chilling on
the car watching planes fly over and land? Thats sort of what this is.
Grocery Store: Have her meet you at a grocery store. Pick out some food or
snacks. Ice cream is always a good one.
Airport: Take YOUR car and drive her to your local airport. Find a good spot
underneath where planes descend in to land. Make a picnic and watch the
planes fly over.
Kiss/Escalation Opportunities: You should get in some good flirting and playful
touching at the grocery store. At the airport is where the two of you will be
alone and you can easily kiss her and more!
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Pottery/Ceramics Painting

Venues: Ceramics Studio

Cost: $12-15

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SUMMARY: Have her meet you at a ceramics studio or arts and crafts place.
Pick out some ceramics and paint them to your desire. I guarantee you she
hasnt done this in a long time, if ever!
Ceramics Studio: Research a ceramics studio near you that lets you buy and
paint ceramics. Have her meet you there but dont tell her what the place is,
just give the address or describe the building, location, etc. Shell be thrilled
when she finds out. Since this is YOUR idea, tell her youre each going to paint
each others ceramic. Shes sure to remember you when she takes your painted
ceramic home. Also, women are usually more artistic than men so youll wind
up with the better-looking one!
Kiss/Escalation Opportunities: There arent a lot of opportunities for kissing,
but you can get in a lot of playful touching and flirting while sitting at the table
painting. This activity begs for playful teasing and poking fun at each other,
which builds a lot of comfort and keeps her attraction temperature up at the
same time!

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Salsa Dance Lesson

Venues: Dance Studio/Salsa Club

Cost: FREE
SUMMARY: When it comes to physical escalation nothing is better and more
natural than a salsa dance lesson. Have her meet you at a studio or club
where they give free salsa lessons. Every city Ive lived in has had a venue that
offered free group lessons.

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Dance Studio/Salsa Club: Invite her to the local salsa club to dance. When
she asks, You know how to salsa? you can playfully reply, I will soon.
Similar to the driving range golf meet up, dont worry about your performance
or trying to impress her. It will take all the fun out of it.
Kiss/Escalation Opportunities: This whole damn activity is sexual, so take
advantage of it! However, since salsa is such a sexual dance, I recommend
using it as an opportunity to use a lot of push/pull and teasing. For example,
go in for the kiss, get as close as possible, then pull away. Falsely accuse her
of slapping your ass and call her naughty for it. Bite her neck. Dig your
fingertips into her upper back. Pull her neck back by the roots of her hair.
There are unlimited options for escalation, and because its appropriate for the
situation shes going to enjoy it that much more!

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Halloween Costume Shopping

Venues: Costume Store

Cost: FREE (unless you find a good costume)

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SUMMARY: This one is pretty straightforward. Meet at a Halloween costume

store and try on costumes together.
Halloween Costume Store: Have her meet you at a big Halloween costume
store where they have dressing rooms for trying on costumes. Browse around
and try on silly ones, sexy ones, etc. If she tries on a sexy costume make sure
you dont gawk at her.
Kiss/Escalation Opportunities: This is great scenario to escalate and tease her
at the same time. Like we talked about earlier, if she tries on a sexy costume
dont stand there drooling over her. Use it as an opportunity for a playful
push/pull tease. For example, when she comes out of the dressing room
looking hot as hell you could casually say, That looks cute on you, more or
less. The best scenario is to sneak into a dressing room together so you are
isolated and can go for the kiss. Hint: If she allows you to go inside a dressing
room with her that means she WANTS you to make a move. Nows not the
time to be shy. Kiss her already!

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The Pumpkin Patch

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Venues: Grocery Store, Pumpkin Patch, Your Place

Cost: $20 ($10 - Tools & Candles, $10 - Two Pumpkins)
SUMMARY: Have her meet you at a grocery store. Buy some pumpkin carving
tools, little candles, etc. Then go to a pumpkin patch and pick out a couple
pumpkins. Take them back to your place and carve them. Turn the carving into
a contest or game.
Grocery Store: Sometimes grocery stores have pumpkins, but try and go to a
real pumpkin patch. Have her meet you at a grocery store near a pumpkin
patch so you can get the tools you need to carve your pumpkins.

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Pumpkin Patch: Cruise over to the pumpkin patch and spend some time
picking out your pumpkins. Dont separate and look for your own, look for
each others together. Pumpkins are cheap so have her pay for them since you
paid for the carving tools. Hint: Get small pumpkinsthey are cheaper and
take less time to carve.
Your Place: Go back to your place to carve your pumpkins. Turn it into a fun,
unconventional carving and have the two of you carve your pumpkins to look
like each other. Dont show each other until youre both done. Have fun with
itmake your carving of her a big bucktooth jack-o-lantern or cross-eyed. If
things are going well have her stick around to bake pumpkin seeds. Watch a
movie or play a board game while theyre in the oven cooking. Or show her
your bedroom ;)
Kiss/Escalation Opportunities: You should get in a lot of playful teasing at the
pumpkin patch. The kissing opportunity comes when youre back at your place.
Just like the cake decorating contest you can let things get messy and sexual.
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Haunted House

Venues: Haunted House

Cost: $10-15/Ticket

A T C H B O O K

SUMMARY: Have her meet you at a professional haunted house. For safety
and comfort reasons, this one is best done with a group of people, so invite
your friends and tell her to bring some of her own. Haunted houses are very
dark so youll still be able to escalate and isolate her, but she will feel much
more comfortable knowing her friends are around.
Haunted House: Meet at a haunted house and be sure to tell her ahead of
time what youre doing in case she hates haunted houses or doesnt feel up to
it. Let her buy her own ticket. Shes not your girlfriendyet. After the haunted
house suggest doing something else, like getting ice cream or hot cider, etc.
Remember to be confident and assertive as opposed to asking. Say, Im
totally craving a caramel apple cider. I know a great place really close to
here. This is important to say because it tells her you arent planning on
keeping her out long. It also lets you isolate her from the group.
Kiss/Escalation Opportunities: There are usually waiting lines at haunted
houses so use that time to get in some playful teasing and comfort building. Its
also a great time to raise her attraction temperature so shell be in the mood to
kiss and stay close to you inside. If the opportunity presents itself, pull her into
a spot out of the main traffic flow and kiss her. After you kiss her playfully say,
Okay, now I feel MUCH safer! I think I can go forward.

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Holiday Shopping

Venues: Grocery/Gift Store, Mall/Shopping Center, Your Place

Cost: $5 Wrapping Paper + Price of the presents you buy
SUMMARY: Have her meet you at a grocery store or gift store where you can
buy wrapping paper. Then go to your favorite mall/shopping center and do
some Christmas/Chanukah/holiday shopping together. Take the presents you
buy back to your place and wrap them together.

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Grocery/Gift Store: Have her meet you at a grocery/gift store near where you
want to shop. Buy some wrapping paper, gift tags, etc. The point of meeting at
the grocery store is also so you can drive together in your car when you go
shopping.
Mall/Shopping Center: Go to a big mall or shopping center and shop for
presents together. This is a pretty open-ended activity so its up to you to make
it a good time. Tease her about what shes going to get YOU for Christmas.
Have her help you pick out gifts for the women in your life. (I dont mean other
girls youre dating, I mean your mom, sister, etc.)
Kiss/Escalation Opportunities: Youll have to create opportunities for isolation
and escalation. A classic scenario is sneaking into dressing rooms together.
Remember, if she goes into a dressing room with you she wants to be kissed,
and maybe more.

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Pie Baking

Venues: Grocery Store, Your Place

Cost: $10
SUMMARY: Have her meet you at a grocery store so you can buy the
ingredients for the pie. This meet up has its own advantage: you have to end
up at your place since you need a place to bake it. Bake the pie together. You
can either invite her to stay while its baking or if she has to go invite her back
later or another day to have a slice.

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Grocery Store: Have her meet you at a grocery store near your place. Bring
the list of ingredients you need and shop for them together.
Your Place: Go back to your place to bake the pie. Driving her back to your
place in your car is always the best scenario, but either way shes going to be
in your home so its not crucial. Throw some aprons on and go to work.
Kiss/Escalation Opportunities: Dont be afraid to let things get messy. Try and
do everything together so youll have a reason for some flirtatious touching.
Use the same escalation and kiss strategy as the cake decorating meet up.

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Last Minute Tips!

Ultimately, your attitude and personality will play a bigger role (than the
actual meet up activity) in determining how much fun you have. Ill say it
again, its up to you to make these meet ups fun and adventurous, instead of
feeling like errands. If youre enthusiastic and excited when you spring the
meet up idea/location on her shell be much more open to doing it.
Dont ask her if she wants to come along, tell her you want her to come
along! Be confident and alpha.

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If she isnt available that day or she flakes on you, dont recycle the
same meet up idea next time. Pick a different one.
Getting a 2nd date vs. getting tossed into the friend zone all hinders on
making your intentions known that you are interested in a romantic
relationship, not just a friendship. You never want to come right out and
say it though, so communicate through physical escalation. Make sure you do
a lot of playful touching and teasing as right from the introduction. Dont shake
her hand when you first meet, hug her! If she puts out her hand say, I only
give hugs.
Kiss her within the first 30-45 minutes. Do not wait until the end of the
night. Waiting until the end will just make it harder to pull the trigger. Why?
Because the longer you wait the more tension will build, and by the end of the
night there will be so much tension it will be very hard to kiss her. I promise
you if you break the ice early with a kiss the rest of the night will be smooth
sailing, and youll definitely get the girl!

To your success,

Action Jackson

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