THE MARATHON LADY

Meet Kristi Lovelace

The Quiet Confidence In

Each Of Us

Five Ways to Flip Money Worries

to Favor Your Well-being

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ROCKDALES MARATHON WOMAN

If you dont already know your potential, then you should meet Kristi Lovelace. Not only does she
juggle her job, friendships and marriage, but somewhere in there she trains weekly to compete in 8
triathlons throughout the year. She started running at age 39. and has since entered into over 82
races, 30-40 of them triathlons, clocking more than 1,818 miles/swimming, biking & running. After
her most recent race in China, we say down with Kristi Lovelace to learn more about her passion.
Watch the interview (click the link below) to learn how she juggles her passion and her lifes work.
What motivates her? What are her greatest challenges? Meet another great individual from
the Rockdale County area; an inspiring story to begin our year and to kick off our premier issue of
The Rockdale Connector. It isnt often that a person walks into a weight loss clinic and walks out
with a brand new passion, but thats exactly what happened to Kristi Lovelace.

MORE ABOUT OUR NEIGHBOR, KRISTI

A native of Pike County, Georgia, Kristi visited a Weight Watchers center in 2009 hoping to
get help losing the 50 pounds she wanted to shed. In the midst of accomplishing that goal, she
discovered something about herselfa love for the triathlon.
First they teach you about nutrition, she said. Then they tell you to do
something you enjoyed as a child to help you get fit. For Kristi, those childhood
activities were biking and swimming. I realized that if I combined those two things
with just a little bit of running, I could do a triathlon. That may sound like a huge
feat, especially coming for someone who skipped an entire year of PE back in grade school, but
at age 39, Kristi tackled it and fell in love. In August of 2009, she completed her first triathlon
in Gainesville, Georgia. The first race was just to see if I could do it. I did better than I thought
I would. Five years later, Kristi says shes lost count of how many actual triathlons shes
competed in, but according to her recording athlinks.com, shes completed at least 82 races to
date. About 40 of those races are triathlons, with an impressive 1818 total race miles, in the
categories of swimming, running and biking. When asked about the biggest challenge of
preparing for a competition and the keys to success, the seasoned lawyer and athlete replied,
Prayer and my faith are a crucial part. It requires patience and tenacity. Being consistent is key.
It can get lonely and boring. You have to find time to train every day. How exactly does one
train daily for such a grueling competition? For a long course race, Kristi normally trains daily,
with one day of rest a week. That training generally includes twenty miles of running, 100 miles
of biking and a 2.4 mile swim

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The Learning Corner, with Maria Brown

There is a quiet confidence in each of us that when we enter into a doctors office or see a police officer take notes that they
know what they are doing and are in essence experts in their fields. We expect them to ask and use questions to help make
connections based on what they know or have seen. Children too must be taught to experience life as experts. They are experts
of learning whether it is the alphabet, subtraction facts, algebraic expressions or a literature project. Parents should ask their
children (the experts) about what they are learning. Simply inquiring how they will use their new skill or what kinds of new
students they are meeting in class might lead to discussion about what kinds of changes the students would like to see to help
their world not just their minds grow. Questions are the red carpet that carries dreams from the mind, thru the air and into
action. It is easy to wish for the success of children who can throw, kick or bounce balls into space. Parents can motivate
children by showing a genuine energetic implosion to academic achievements (no matter how small). Education is inch by inch
growth, at different speeds. The adults that care for children are keeping pace alongside their children as they juggle the weight
of life. We hear that reading daily, science and math driven activity is a recipe for successful parent engagement. The recipe
should be artfully crafted to include motivation, tenacity and drive. Parent engagement is at the heart of learning. Educated
adults were once children who stood at the cusp of choice. Student growth within a community benefits us all. Would one wish
to be on a farm surrounded by a desert? Would one wish to be the only pool of water in that desert? Parent engagement
encourages people to bloom where they are and to share the dream of a balanced, fluid mirage. When you make your list of
things to do remember to add encourage a child, thank a teacher and uplift a parent or guardian who is balancing learning on
the same scale with the heaviness of life.
Bio
Maria Browns professional history is one of Exceeding Expectations through Excellence. She is an
accomplished senior manager with a solid track record in operational leadership, project management,
and strategic planning for school improvement and academic growth. Ms. Brown has a keen ability to
navigate through broad executive direction to structure financially justified programs and to build
organizations and teams that deliver. She is certified to teach grades K-12 and has served as a facilitator
of learning for both students and adults for almost twenty years. Her belief that using data-driven
decision making will supplement internal resources including; parents, community members and,
professional development, needs assessment, data analysis, and collaborative planning drives her
commitment to bring out the best in everyone around her.

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SINGLE & SATISFIED

With DR SINCLAIR N. GRAY iii

So many single people want to be married. They talk about it constantly and have a
habit of seeking a marital companion with every new relationship they make. Please
dont get me wrong theres nothing wrong with wanting to be married, but if a person
is unable to embrace who they are as a person (a single person), then they will not be
ready for a relationship that leads to matrimony.
A person whos single is not a broken person. Let me say it this way: Theres nothing
wrong with being single because when youre single, youre able to know who you are,
define your goals, and plan out your life without any outside interference. All too often,
youll have family members push you into marriage without telling you to work on you to
be a better you everyday. If its not family members, youll have those in the church
trying to hook you up and making you feel bad because youre single. Instead of
encouraging you to work on a spiritual relationship with the Creator, they want you to be
hooked-up with the first person that seems logical. Again, I want to reiterate, theres
nothing wrong with being single because being single helps you to know who you are,
what you want, and where you want to go in life.
Whenever I counsel those who are single, I have to remind them that singleness is not
a sin. Thats right: Singleness is not a disease, a curse, or some bad omen. In fact,
singleness has its benefits such as you can do what you want when you want, not
having to deal with arguments or disagreements, no jealousy or insecurity, and no
worrying about someone always being in your business. Even though these are just a
few examples, its important to know that singleness is a time to examine ones life and
gain clarity.
Heres a few suggestions for you if you find yourself single in todays world.
Just about every single person I talk with wants to be loved by someone special. Of
course, theres nothing wrong with that, but when a person cant love themselves and
all of themselves, they are setting the stage for disappointment.
A person who is single and desperate to get married hasnt taken the time to
adequately examine themselves. Without self-examination, an individual doesnt know
who they are. When a person doesnt know who they are, they will quickly become
confined.
I want you to remember this its okay to be single and satisfied with yourself.

Sinclairs Tips
1. Get to know who you are. What I mean by
this is, get to know who you are as a person,
not what roles you play or titles you have. Try
this: Google the meaning of your name and see
how your meaning reflects your identity
2. Dont feel pressured to have someone in
your life because family and friends are
pressuring you.
3. Date yourself. Through dating yourself, you
begin to understand your likes and dislikes
4. Never use the phrase, Im tired of being by
myself. If you use the phrase, Im tired of being
by myself, no one will want to be with you
because youre tired of being with your own self
5. Write out your career goals.
6. Use your singleness for spiritual
development.
7. Travel and explore the world.

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5 WAYS to FLIP MONEY WORRIES

With Felesha Love

When things go wrong in life, it sometimes seems as though we are watching a horror movie. The vivid pictures of hardships,
violence and destruction can cause one to respond in three ways. 1. We take the duck and cover approach dodging issues by blaming
and judging everyone in our path. 2. We take action and fight injustices for ourselves and others. 3. We become complacent with a
noted sigh of relief that the occurrence did not affect us or those we care about. Our society is becoming immune to destruction and
injustices not only locally but in our global community. The echoes of students across this country complain of alienation, loneness, and
lack of motivation. Rape culture, campus shootings, sexuality pressures, depression and addictions of all kinds persist but to what end?
The job market is not promised to graduates, leaving many underemployed or living at home much longer than anticipated, nursing a
false sense of security. Over 4 million, single women heads of household are poorer than men working the same or similar position.
The average income is less than $25,000 a year. Stress exacerbates health and well being. According to the American Psychological
Association, women are more likely to be diagnosed with depression and anxiety disorders (Groh, 2007). Research shows that
mortality rates for women with coronary heart disease appears to be directly related to socioeconomic status (Hemingway, 2007). Low
energy levels, economic deprivation and reduced access to healthy food contribute to obesity for women (Jeffrey & French, 1996).
Isnt it time to rethink our approach to wellness and quality of life? Generations are waiting in the balance for a shot at quality
living. We have no time for the duck and cover approach in the way that our parents have taught us or for prolonged complacency. It
is time for action. Believe it or not, Im not going to tell you to write, call, email or complain to political officials, although in some
cases it might help. I would like to draw your attention to the power you hold individually.
1. Assess your immediate environment. Notice how well you are coping with your current circumstances. The fastest way to organize
your finances is to stop the bleeding. Identify your highest expense and strive to control it.
2. Acknowledge your efforts, as well as, those around you. Sometimes a verbal acknowledgement will go a long way for those in your
household, neighbors or community members. Let someone know that you see them and offer encouragement or resources. The
fastest way to give relief to ones struggle is to let them know that you care.
3. Watch your self-talk. Oftentimes, we unknowingly perpetuate our pain by entertaining negativity and cynicism. Emotional pain is
real, so why add anxiety with negative self talk.
4. It takes two to dance the Tango. If your socioeconomic status is not what you would like it to be. Create additional sources of
income, take a course or learn a new trade. Create a way out. Difficulties in life, only have the power that you yourself give it.
5. Break the cycle of your unhappiness. You can choose to enhance your life with true desire and passion or complain about it. Sorry
to tell you but even helplessness is a choice. Blaming another may provide you with explanation at the time but it is not the real issue.
The real issue is that you feel disempowered. (Continued)

(Continued) From Felecia Love

Take action now to reclaim your power and get closer to your desires.
Conflict has a way of making us fear defeat. Heres the key. Fear is
your mental perception of the outcome it does not mean that your
perception is true. Blaming is the fuel that supports irrational thinking
which causes us to do and say things that are different from the
desires we hold in love. The illusion is that you will have outcomes you
did not bargain for or outcomes that cause you or others pain. Think
about what it looks like to have your hands over your eyes while
driving. You see from a blocked perception. This is why it is difficult to
see the whole truth of your power. Many of us live our lives from this
limited perspective and how we show up in our families, schools, on
our jobs and definitely in the way we relate to others.
Resources:
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/tag/college-graduates-unemployment/
http://regender.org/taxonomy/term/137
http://www.apa.org/pi/ses/resources/publications/factsheet-women.aspx

Bio
Felecia is the author brave Leap To Freedom and is also a veteran
radio emcee/personality. You can find more of Felecia at
www.myspiritfitness.com

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