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Contents
Acknowledgments 9
Introduction 11
1. Its Aspen, Not Old Spice 19
2. Prepare to Be Broken 37
3. Welcome to the Neighborhood 51
4. Its Cancer 67
5. A Drop in Coverage 83
6. Triple Negative 97
7. Hes Up to Something 111
8. I Dont 125
9. The Seminary of Suffering 141
10. The Mulberry and the Wisteria 159
11. A (Minor) Miracle 177
12. Nothing Can Hinder the Lord From Saving 191
13. Not Just HigherBetter 209
Epilogue: What About My Happy Ending? 223
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Martin of NPR, and Sari Aviv of CBS. You helped this completely unknown pastor become, well, slightly better known.
Thank you to all the people who believed in me when I did
not believe in myself, who kept on encouraging me through
repeated rejections and disappointmentsthere are too many
of you to name here. I would have never made it this far had it
not been for your kind words and exhortations.
Lastly, thank you to my family. To my incredible wife, Carol,
heart of my own heart and my personal hero. To my children,
Sophia, Katie, Jonathan, Lucy, and Xavier. Nothing brings me
more joy than to see your faces and to spend time with you
all. And now that Im nally done with this book, hopefully I
can do a lot more of just that. Maybe we should go to Dutch
Wonderland . . .
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There are many reasons why it is important to address questions about the terrifying and difficult reality of suffering in
human life. There is scarcely a discussion of Christianity that
does not at some point broach this topic, and because of this,
all Christians must put some thought into this issue. It simply
does not do to cast about for right-sounding answers on the
spot, because chances are, we will end up sharing something
both unorthodox and unhelpful. This can have a devastating
impact on others, especially if their faith is just at the point of
beginning, or ending.
Moreover, of all people, Christians should understand suffering. From beginning to end, the pages of Scripture are lled
with trials and hardships of all sorts, from the fall in the garden
of Eden, to the enslavement and exile of Israel, to the persecution of the early church. We place our faith in a Savior who
saved humanity through his death on a cross, and we regularly
take time to remember that sacrice through the Lords Supper. People who count themselves as followers of the suffering
Servant and descendants of a church started by martyrs should
not be strangers to the discussion of suffering.
But these are not the only reasons we answer such questions,
nor the most important. For some, human suffering is largely a
philosophical discussion, one to be tossed around the table at
Starbucks or the local pub. In that context, its okay to agree to
disagree and leave it unanswered until next time. But at some
point in all our lives, we are forced to ask this question not in
the third person, but in the rst. Not Why does humanity
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nally a Christian media empire! If I fade into complete obscurity after telling this story, thats ne with me. Its actually my
deepest hope that this book will be published without a picture
of me anywhere on its cover, but if absolutely necessary, preferably one from the late 1990s, as the last decade has not been
particularly kind to me in the cover photo sense.
What compels me to tell this story is that at its very heart,
this is a story about God. It is a testimony of how I discovered
that even in the darkest and most discouraging moments of our
lives, God does not abandon us. Instead, he is mysteriously and
constantly at work, wending all things to the good of those who
love him. This story is truly Gods, and mine only in the sense
that I had the opportunity to witness it rsthand.
And like any good story, ours starts at the beginning.
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fell in love with Carol the rst moment I saw her. But
I never imagined how much pain this would eventually
cause me.
My wife, an unromantic sort of woman, would deny that love
at rst sight is possible, but I stand by my memories of that day.
It was the rst Sunday of my rst week at Yale, and I was visiting
a small church called New Haven Korean Church, which was
paradoxically located in the nearby town of Hamden and not
in New Haven itself. As I walked through the front doors of this
inaptly named church, there she was, handing out bulletinsa
petite woman whose eyes radiated warmth and kindness, eyes
I could not help but look into for much longer than what was
considered politemy future wife.
Roll your eyes or groan, if you would like. It doesnt matter
to me, as I can neither see nor hear you. Nor would I care if I
could, because it was hardly the only moment that demonstrates
that I loved my wife from very early on. For example, not more
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I spent the next year in a state of deep and unrelenting depression. I struggled to accept the fact that Carol was no longer part
of my life and desperately tried to purge her from my memory.
I destroyed every picture I had of her, threw away every letter
she had written, and gave away every present she had bought.
Unfortunately, this meant that I lost the better half of my wardrobe in a single weekend.
I made feeble attempts to date other women, which went as
well as you probably expect. A woman from my church set me
up on a date with her daughter, and being the desperate soul I
was at that time, I decided to give it a shot. I didnt have high
hopes going into this encounter, but when we met in a coffee
shop in New Haven, I was pleasantly surprisedmy date was
pretty, intelligent, and possessed a sense of humor tinged with
brutal sarcasm, a trait I always found desirable despite the fact
that biting wit is hardly a characteristic you want in someone
you will inevitably disagree with. I was surprised to nd myself
attracted to her, an encouraging sign in itself given that I had a
difficult time feeling any emotion except dejection.
I thought this initial attraction might blossom into something
more, but it did the opposite. Our conversation, which was lively
at rst, became more and more halting and awkward before
nally settling into an impenetrable miasma of uncomfortable
silence. By the end, my attention stood xed on the incredibly
interesting half-empty coffee cup in my hands, while my date
stared forlornly out the window, wondering what other hundred
ways she could have better spent the last hour of her life.
Embarrassed, I apologized to her for being such a terrible
date and blamed my lack of conversation on tiredness. She was
kind enough to give me a sympathetic and sincere smile but
paired it with a wry observation: You know, I think you may
want to consider that youre not quite over your ex just yet.
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She gave my hand a pat, stood up from the table, and walked
away with the slightest ick of her hair, as if to communicate
what she thought of me. And she was right, of course. While
hanging out with an attractive and intelligent woman, the only
person I could think about was a person who was no longer
thinking about me.
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It was with this same delusional mentality that I had approached my relationship with Carol. Never did I imagine that
the person I loved most also held the potential to hurt me the
worst. Instead, I navely clung to the misguided illusion that
love made me invincible, when by its very nature, it did the opposite. So I developed my relationship with her to the exclusion
of nearly all others, graduating from college with a photo album
lled with picture after picture of Carol and me, but precious
few of anyone else and me. Even worse, I made no effort to plan
my life after graduation, except to move to whatever city Carol
lived in. True love required nothing more.
So when Carol and I broke up, I was caught completely unaware and unprepared, like a man who steps out of a plane
expecting to bask in the warmth of the Bahamas but is greeted
instead by a blast of bitter arctic cold. In what seemed like an
instant, I had not just lost my girlfriend, but my best friend,
in many ways my only friend, as well as the past four years of
my life and my plans for the future. And it was love that had
positioned me so perfectly for heartbreak.
This tendency is hardly just my own, nor is it limited to romantic relationships. Whether it is with our careers, our families, our dreams, or with anyone or anything that we love, we
often position ourselves for deeper and sharper pain when we
pursue these things without considering how fragile the oor is
beneath our feet or what would happen should that oor give
way. We imagine that love will never hurt us, which is not unlike
playing catch with an olive-green metal ball that has a curious
circular pin attached to it. And when suffering does inevitably
crash through the front door? We nd ourselves traumatized,
scandalized, demanding to know what it is doing here and who
is to blame, not realizing that it was ultimately we who left that
door unlocked.
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are not legitimate, not true sons and daughters at all. Moreover,
we have all had human fathers who disciplined us and we respected them for it. How much more should we submit to the
Father of spirits and live! They disciplined us for a little while
as they thought best; but God disciplines us for our good, in
order that we may share in his holiness. No discipline seems
pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces
a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been
trained by it.
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One very early morning, I got a call on my cell phone. Groggily I picked it up and looked at the screen. I was bewildered to
nd it crammed with numbers. Why are there so many numbers
there? And what is area code 93? Filled with skepticism and
no small measure of ill will, I answered the phone with a curt
Hello?
In response, a faintly British voice said to me, Hello, is this
Peeteh?
I had never spoken to a faintly British person in my entire life,
much less at ve in the morning, so I didnt immediately answer
yes. Instead, I very intelligently responded with . . . What?
Is this Peeteh, Peeteh Chin?
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Our wedding
day, October
2003.
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getaway. To this day, when my father gets tired, his eyes take on
a reddish-pink tint, a daily reminder of that experience.
When my dads hat business closed down, the ve-foot force
of nature who is my mother decided to start her own furniture
store, never mind that she had absolutely no experience in that
eld. Between them, my parents worked over a hundred hours
a week in that store, assembling and delivering heavy furniture,
never taking a vacation, never buying anything for themselves,
although they shelled out thousands of dollars for lessons of
various sorts, whatever was most likely to guarantee their children entry into an Ivy League school.
They didnt do this because they had a peculiar passion for
selling hats or furniture, or staring down the barrels of shotguns. They endured these tortures solely for the sake of their
children: my older sister, brother, and me. They were willing to
suffer terribly because they loved usbecause they wanted us
to have a chance at a good life in America, go to a great college
and become either a doctor or a lawyer (but certainly not a pastor), and never have to endure the life they were forced to. And
so I dont need my parents to say they love me to know that its
true. Their years of sacrice and suffering on my behalf have
already made that abundantly clear.
Not coincidentally, suffering is also how we can be certain
of Gods love for us.
Jesus life was similarly lled with suffering, from its beginning to its supposed end. He was born in a barn (or perhaps a
cave, some scholars say), which is a pretty bad start for anyone,
rst century or not. But to make matters worse, the king of the
Jews, Herod, wanted to kill him and was willing to massacre
many other boys to do so. When Jesus grew older, he was despised by the religious authorities, who conspired to murder
him. Eventually they succeeded in getting him arrested and put
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