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TheBookofWoman

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Quote:
FromAWomanofNoImportance
ByOscarWilde
MRSALLONBY:WhenErnestandIwereengaged,hesworeto
mepositivelyonhiskneesthathehadneverlovedanyone
beforeinthewholecourseofhislife.Iwasveryyoungatthe
time,soIdidntbelievehim,Ineednttellyou.Unfortunately,
however,ImadenoinquiriesofanykindtillafterIhadbeen
actuallymarriedfourorfivemonths.Ifoundoutthenthatwhat
hehadtoldmewasperfectlytrue.Andthatsortofthingmakes
amansoabsolutelyuninteresting.
Everywomanisarebel,andusuallyinwildrevoltagainstherself.
Societyisthebookofwoman.Sheismoreinterestedinsocietythanan
interestingman.Thereisanentiresubjectofsexualityandhowwomen
prefergoodlooking,sexyguysoverplainguyswithIQsover150with
honestyofsaintswomenwouldrathertalktoamanthananangelany
day,butthisessayislongenough,thoughmustitremarkedgoodlooks
=highsocialstatus.
Herfriendspickherboyfriends.Herreligiontellshertodenyhervery
natureandforsomelikeOrthodoxJewsandGreeks,evenplayingroleof
herfriendspickinghermate.Datingneverhappensinavacuumfree
fromoutsideinfluencesyourenotdatingheryouredatingeveryone.In
acertainlight,mendonotgetwomen,womengetsociety.Humando
notfallinlovewithoneanother,butratherwithwhatwegetinreturn.
Ofwhatuseisindependencetoawoman,ifsheisallalone?
Foodforthought:Mostcommonfemaleoccupations.
Salesworkers,retailandpersonalservices
Secretaries
Managersandadministrators
Cashiers
Salessupervisorsandproprietors
Registerednurses
Elementaryschoolteachers
Nursingaides,orderlies,andattendants
Bookkeepers,accounting,&auditingclerks
Receptionists
Notice,saveforafew,allthejobsaresociallyorientated.Alljobsare
eithersociallyormoneyorientated,orboth.Mostcommon(actually,all)
majorsIhearfromwomen:education,sportstraining,psychology,
business.
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Excerptsfrom"Whyaretherenofemalephilosophers?"
DavidQuinn:Womenmaybeintelligent,buttheyhavenosoul.
BythatImeantheyhavenoconnectionatallwiththehighest
wisdom.TheideaoftryingtocomprehendthenatureofReality

withtheirownmindswouldneveroccurtothem.Theyhaveno
appreciationoftheconceptofUltimateTruth.Itdoesntexcite
them.Theyaretotallydeadinthisregard.Allthefemale
intelligenceandenergyintheworldcannotmaskthisfact.For
allherprettinessandenergy,womanisfundamentally
unconsciousandaimless.
[...]
Someofthefactorswhichhaveledmetomycurrentviewson
womeninclude:(a)myunderstandingofReality,whichIknow
tobewhollybeyondthegraspofwomen,(b)thesheerlackof
femalephilosophersofanynoteinhistory,(d)thevirtuallack
ofanyfemalescientistsandartistsofanynoteinhuman
history,and(d)thesheerlackofinterestinphilosophyby
almostallwomenontheplanet.
MartinDudaniec:IdidmeetawomanoncewhoIregardas
livinganelevatedandspiritual/logicallife,butthatisoneina
largenumber.Incidentally,noneofherfeatureswerevery
feminine(face,figure,styleofmovement)andshewasnotvery
interestedinpursuingsexualrelationships.Nothingabouther
thatIsawcouldbecharacterisedasfemaleinthegeneral
senseoftheterm.Inmyopinion,herideasonissueswere
highlyadvancedandtherewasalottobelearntfromher.
Sothepointis,Ihaveabsolutelynothingagainstsomeone
happeningtobeofadifferentgendertome,becauseItake
everyoneastheyare,ontheirownterms.Genderiscertainly
notalwaysindicativeofcharacter,andtodiscriminateagainst
someoneonthatbasisaloneispatheticbigotry.Thepointis
thatthewomenwhodontfitthegeneralmoldarentvery
womanlyinthefirstplaceandtheyareextremelyrare.
I8piggo:Ifwomenaroundyoudonttalkaboutphilosophy,
David,itsprobablybecausetheyreworriedaboutbeinglooked
downuponbyyouforbeingtoomale.
DanRowden:Theremaybesometruthtothatpoint,butits
interestingtomethatpeoplewhoargueagainstmyselfand
Davidonthisissueinvariablymakeourcaseforuswithout
beingremotelyawareofit.
Ouractionsspeaktowhatloomslargestinourpsyche(inour
valuesystem).Ifwomenrefrainfromphilosophicalendeavour
becauseofhowitwillmakethemappeartoothers,thenthis
speakstowhattheyvalueuppermost:i.e.relationship,
community,beinglikedandapprovedofetcetcetc.Itcertainly
doesntspeaktotruthandreasonbeingvaluedtoanydegree.
Suchamentalityispreciselythatwhichislargelyincapableof
realphilosophy,becausethatinvolvesbeinganindividualto
thehighestdegreepossible.Caringabouthowothersjudge
themisananathematosuchaone.Forvariousreasons,males
tendmoretosuchindividualism(hell,evenfeministswillargue
thatintheirownway,thoughnotactuallyrealisingtheyre
doingit).Thismakesthemnaturallybetterdisposedtoa

seriousphilosophiclife.
DavidQuinn:Itsnotjustthefactthatwomenhardlyevertalk
aboutphilosophy(cananyoneimaginethreewomensitting
downanddiscussingthenatureofexistenceforanhour?I
cant),butalsothecompletelackofachievementbywomenin
higherthought.Morespecifically,Ihaventcomeacrossany
womananywhere,eitherinmypersonallifeorinmystudies,
whohasdisplayedwhatittakestobecomeagenuinethinkerof
theInfinite.Philosophicallyspeaking,thefemalelandscapeisa
desert.
I8piggo:I'veseen[womendiscussingthenatureofexistence]
timeandtimeagain!
DavidQuinn:Butyoureamaleandthereforewouldhave
influencedtheproceedings.Sinceveryfewwomenhaveany
realpassionforabstractphilosophy(itistoofarremovedfrom
thereallyimportantthingsinlifenamely,relationshipsand
sex),thechancesofthemsittingdownandhavingasustained,
focuseddiscussionaboutthenatureofrealityareveryremote.
Morethanlikely,youwillfindthemflittingaroundtheir
favouritetopicsmen,clothing,knickers,children,gossip,etc.
Icancertainlyimagineawomanhavingasustained
philosophicalconversationwithaman,andIcanevenimagine,
althoughwithsomedifficulty,twowomenhavingsucha
conversationwithaman.Buttwoorthreewomenby
themselves.....well,Imsorry,theremymindsnaps.
PimpDaddyDave:Twoorthreewomenbythemselves?Icould
setthatupforya,ifthatswhatfloatsyerboat...
DavidQuinn:Thatsthescarything.Icanconceiveofthree
womenengaginginalesbianorgyfarmoreeasilythanIcanof
themsittingdownandhavingarationaldiscussion.Withmen,
itsverymuchtheopposite.
Aretherestillvirgins?Oneistemptedtoanswerno.Thereareonlygirlswho
havenotyetcrossedtheline,becausetheywanttopreservetheirmarket
value...Callthemvirginsifyouwish,thesetravellersintransit.
Forsimplicityinexplainingthetruerelationbetweenwomenandsociety,
turnforamomenttoFreudianpsychology.Herewehavetheidandthe
superego.TheoneandonlypointIbringFreudintothisessayishis
modelhappenstoexplainthingsquitewell.Womanisentirelysexual,
theid.Womanisalsoentirelysocial,thesuperego.Howawomanstrikes
balancebetweenthetwoiswhatmakesupherapparentcharacter.Note
differencebetweenapparentandinherent.Itisquiteinteresting,
annoying,howtheyounggirlswillgothroughquiteamountofdenial,
tryingtoconvinceushersuperegoisherinherentcharacterandthatshe
doesntwanttoactoutbehaviorsotherwiseunderthelabelof'slut'.It
washowshewasbroughtuptothink.Olderwomenaremoreupfront,
butpassitoffasnotabigdeal.
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FriedrichNietzsche
Thereissomethingquiteamazingandmonstrousaboutthe

educationofupperclasswomen.Whatcouldbemore
paradoxical?Alltheworldisagreedthattheyaretobebrought
upasignorantaspossibleoferoticmatters,andthatonehas
toimbuetheirsoulswithaprofoundsenseofshameinsuch
mattersuntilthemerestsuggestionofsuchthingstriggersthe
mostextremeimpatienceandflight.Thehonorofwomen
reallycomesintoplayonlyhere:whatelsewouldonenot
forgivethem?Butheretheyaresupposedtoremainignorant
evenintheirheartstheyaresupposedtohaveneithereyesnor
ears,norwords,northoughtsforthistheirevilandmere
knowledgeisconsideredevil.Andthentobehurled,asbya
gruesomelightningbolt,intorealityandknowledge,by
marriagepreciselybythemantheyloveandesteemmost!To
catchloveandshameinacontradictionandtobeforcedto
experienceatthesametimedelight,surrender,duty,pity,terror,
andwhoknowswhatelse,inthefaceoftheunexpected
neighborlinessofgodandbeast!


InsidetheHeartofDarkness
So,shewithholdsandplaysroleofgoodgirl,becauseitswhats
instructedtoherwhatsgoodbehavior,ofchastity.Whattocognitively
believe.Whatshereallycravestoplayispornstar,butthatsofillrepute,
atoddswithherbeingentirelysocial.Thereforeshemustcomeupwith
certainprequalifications,justifications,toallowkoshersex.Romance.
Wereachedacertainlevelinourrelationship.PrinceCharming,Mr.
Right,ManofherDreams.Theironicproblemiswhilethesesocial
restrictionsareartificialthatwomanisnotofinherentchastity,rather
desiringtoactoutsexualbehaviorstheserestrictionsarenecessaryfor
ifleftunchecked,hersexualitywouldfloodeverywhere.Thetimewoman
ismosttruetohernatureiscollegefreefromherparents,freefromthe
RealWorldsocietalrestrictionsareattheirlowestduringcollegeisthe
hardesttimetosettledownwithawoman.Theirresistibleurgetosowof
wildoatsistoogreatformostyoungwomen.
Anintelligentwomanwillfindathousandcompatiblemen,butanintelligent
manisaloneintheworld.
Thevalueofvirtuesisillusionaryvirtuesonlysupportandconfirm,seal
thedealsotospeak,decisionsbaseduponsexualityandsocialvalue.
Theonlyinterestwomentakeingeniusesishispresenceaddstoher
socialvalue,andtobearoundtohearhisgeniusinsights.Savefor
goodlookinggeniuses,geniusesareonlybutghoststowomen,onlyan
intellectualconcepttoher.
Menwanttobethekindofpersonsthatpeoplelookupto.Girlswanttobe
thekindthatpeoplelookaroundat.
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FromWomenAreFromBras,MenAreFromPenus
ByAnnaCollinsandElliotSullivan
HowToFlatterThePantsOffAWoman
Althoughmenareflatulencepropelled,womenareflatteryoperated.
Womenlovetobeflattered.Butthemanmustknow
thecorrectwaytoflatterinordertoachievehisgoal,whichis
completeandtotalsubmission.Achievingthisillustrious,lowlife
goaltakesabitoftime,andamanmuststartoffslow,
buildingtheflatterytoafinetunedcrescendo.
Todothisamanmustunderstandawoman'sneeds,whichare
simpleandconstant.Womenneedto:
Feelyoung
Feelskinny
Feelsexy
Amanmustmakereferencetotheseneedsunderall
circumstances,ateverypossibleopportunity.Forexample,he
mightsay:
(Herneedtofeelyoung)
Whenthebeamoftheofficer'sflashlighthityourpanicstricken
faceafterhestoppedyouforspeeding,Icouldn'thelp
butthinkhowyoulookedsixteenyearsoldagainjustlikethe
firsttimeyouwerearrestedforshoplifting.

(Herneedtofeelskinny)
Gee,I'mrealsorryyourgrandfatherdied,butasyouwere
leaningoverthecoffintokisshimgoodbye,Inoticedhowslim
yourasslooked.
(Herneedtofeelsexy)
Youknow,whenthosebaggysweatpantsclingtoyour
buttocksasyoulumbertothefridgeforyetanotherDoveBar,I
justgowild!Idon'tknowwhethertograbyoubyyour
expandableelasticwaistband,orwrestleyoutothegroundina
paganfertilityritual.
Noticehowamancanusetheseseeminglyinappropriate
situationsasanopportunityforflattery.Beforeyouknowit,by
usingthesesimplemethods,you'llhaveawomansoflattered,
she'llbeflatonherback!
Mencommitactionswomencommitgestures.PhyllisChesler
Womenreadintosignsbecauseillegalitisforhertodrivetossinghints
becauseforhertothrowwouldbeuncivilized.Ratherthanaskyouout,
sheflirtswithyouandaskswhatyouredoinglater,orpressesher
breastsupagainstyou.
Womenareallboughtinthemarketfromthe*****tothePrincess.The
pricealoneisdifferent,andthehighestprice,inmoneyorrank,obtainsthe
woman.
Whenyouaskherout,sherunslatenightofftothetelephoneandchats
incessantlywithherfriends.TherewasatleastoncewhenIsawa
woman(whomIhadbrieflydated)withafewfriendsandthosefriends
pointedmeouttoher,nowconsiderIhadneverseenthosefriendsinmy
entirelife.Thegirlmusthaveatsomepoint,whilewewerebrieflygetting
together,sentinherfriendstospyonme,tocheckoutwhatacatchwas
I.
SheusesherfriendstoretrieveinformationAreyousingle?Doyoulike
anyone?andothertimestoshowoff,caseinpointthelastparagraph.
Herfriendsinfluenceherdecisionofyourvalue,whichpartlyiswhyits
saidyourenotdatingher,youredatingeveryonewhyoftenitissaid
womenarecommittees,whywomendontthinkforthemselves.Her
friendsdissyouiftheydontlikeyou,praiseyouiftheydoandher
friendsarehereyesandearswhensheisaway.Ifyouarecaughtstaring
downhershirt,herfriendswillreporttoheryouareasexistpig.
Sheisfriendsofmanyandknowseverythingaboutherfriends,even
mundanedailylife,isanengineerofawebofcontacts.Onegreat'game
plan'istobefriendmanywomenintofriends,totakeeverywomanwho
rejectsyouandmakeherintoafriend,andgethookupsfromthemby
factyougethersealofapprovalinstantlygetsyouwayfurtherinthan
hadyoumetthewomanonyourown.
Whenoffincollege,whilemanbecomesastrangertohisparents,she
keepsincontactwithhermom.
Shehatestolosepeoplefromherlife.Evernoticewhentheinstantyou
getoverherandridherfromyourlife,istheverymomentshesomehow
justpopsbackin.TherewasonetimeforamonthIwouldcontinually
bumpintoagirl,everytimeadifferentplace,onacampusof30,000

students,whereyoureluckytoseesomeoneonceamonthandatthe
sametimeIdetectedshewouldmakevisitstomypersonalwebsite,an
addressofwhichInevergaveher.Thiswomanhadblownmeoff,
thoughIdidhavequiteahistorybeforebeingblownoff.
Therearetwokindsofwomen:thosewhowishtomarry,andthosewho
haven'ttheslightestintentionnotto.
Womenliketoattendweddings,tohearthebig,sweet,juicypromisesthe
bridegroommakes.
Womenderivetheirsocialvaluebyhowmuchmaleattentiontheyget.
Atoptheirmatriarchyismarried,followedbyengaged,hasboyfriend,
single,theoldmaid.Womenwilldoquiteliterallyanythingtoavoidbeing
theoldmaid,andmarriageistheultimatesymbolthatHeyladies,look,I
cangetMEN!MyfemininityissostrongIcanensnareamanforLIFE!
Womendreamoftheirweddingdaypreciselybecauseitistheoneday
theyarePrincessandascendtothehighestsocialstatus,married.Itis
theirbiggestorgasm,perhapstheironlytrueone.
Womenenjoymakingmenchaseafterthemduringcourtshipbecauseas
wivestheywillhavetocarrythemen.
Whenwomenfinishcollegeand,perhaps,afterspendingafewmore
yearssingle,theirprioritieschange.Itscommonlymistakenthatolder
womenmatureandrealizewhattheyreallywant,andthusgofor
theniceguys.No.Theysimplychangetheirpriorities.Theyalwayslust
aftersexymen,evengivinghimoptionofhavingachildwithoutever
payingforit.[Marryingthehusbandbutporkingthefather].
Womenaresoalike,thatifamancanwintheloveanddevotionofjustone
woman,hefeelshehasconqueredtheentirefemalespecies.Andifhe
cannot,thentheentirefemalespecieshasconqueredhim.
Successwithwomencomesineitherfeastorfamine,therealmost
seemstobenomiddleground.Theproverbialwomenwantwhatother
womenwant,andhowtheyseemsoalike.
Eveninantisocialenvironmentse.g.punk,goth,emochicksthereis
stillconformitytosociety,albeitadifferentsetofstandards.Tattoos,
piercings,rockershirts,blacknailpolish,dozensofbandlogos,etc.And
hercorefriendsareofthesame.
Thedifferencebetweenrapeandseductionissalesmanship.
Themostprevalentfearofwomenisthatyouregoingtosomehowhurt
her.Youknowyourvalue,buthowcanshe?Exactly.Shecant.Youcan
demonstrateyourwonderfulpersonalityallyouwant,butthatdoesnt
givejacktoawomanwhomjustmetyou.Howisshesupposedtoknow
yourlongtermworth?Butifyougosomewherewithone,two,whatever
numberwomen,itshowsifyoureokayenoughtobearoundthem,and
thereforeperhapsokayenoughineyesofthoseotherwomen,because
thosewomenfoundyoucoolenough,desirableenough,safeenoughto
goaroundplaceswiththem.
Readingmultiplemoviesreviewsandhearingwordofmouthbefore
decidingtoseeamovierelyingonthecriticsfivestarsystemfor
restaurantsbeforeeatingrelyingonquotesandcitationsinresearch
papersitsreallynodifferentfromhowwomenviewprospectivemen.If
otherwomenvalueyou,sowillsheevenwomenwithboyfriends

becausesheneverstopsbeingawoman.
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ExcerptfromTheManualofLove
Importantlyifyoushowthatyouhavehighstandardsthiswill
alienatewomen,becausetheyknowdeepdownthattheyare
nodifferenttoallotherwomen.Ifyouhavelovedmanywomen
thenanyindividualwomanwillfeelasthoughyouloveher
personally.
Behavelikeyoufindallwomenattractiveandthatallwomen
findyouattractive.Becauseawomandoesntthinkforherself
(rememberthatsocietyisthebookofwomen)shewillonlyfind
youofvalueifshethinksotherwomenfindyoutobeofvalue.
Sheautomaticallyassumesagoodlookingmanisaplayerwhohashis
pickofthelitter,butifheweretopickheroverallthoseotherwomen,
itdmakeherfeelspecial.Agoodlookingmanexperiencessomewomen
initiallyshowinginterestinhim,onlytorepelawaywhenheshowsback
interestshebaitedhimtotestherfemininity.


OfLoveandWar
Ivenoticed,throughoutmyjobhistory,itsalwaysmucheasiergetting
girlsnewtoworkwhenImestablished,thanwhenI'mthenewguy.Guys
maysay,Thatsbecausewhenyourethenewguy,youhavent
demonstratedhavingalife,sothegirlsconcludeyoureadesperatelone
wolf.Whichhascertainmerit,butthegreatertruthisInaturallyascend
totopofthesocialsystem,derivingtopsocialvalue.Guysliketalkingto
andhangingoutwithme,girlslikeenticingmewiththeirfemininity.So
whennewgirlsarrive,theylookaroundandconsidermesomesortof
celebrity.Thesocialprooffromfemalefriendsjustaddsgasolinetothe
fire.YeahsureIhavealife,butthegirlsbarelyknowanythingaboutit
theyknowmuchmoreaboutmyambitionsthanmyweekendactivities.
Ateenageboymeetsabeautifulgirl.Hesoonfallsinloveanduponher
dumpinghim,hecriesthinkinghelostsuchaspecialgirl,asounique
typeofgirlhellneverfindagain.Ohdoomtohim.Andthenhefinds
anothergirlandthinksthesamething.Andagain.Pointis,whenthereis
afew,eachonewillseemspecialandvastlydifferentfromallothers
uponmany,thedifferencesceasetoexist.Thespecialwomandoesnt
existthereisnosingletrait,norsetoftraits,anygirlcanpossiblyhave
thatnootherwithinareasonablevicinitydoesnothaveyet
simultaneouslywomenhavepotentialtobecomespecialinoneslife.
WhatIseehappentoguysintheirtwentieswhoareintheirfirstlongterm
relationship,istheyconsiderthewomansospecialandvastly
uniquetheyconsider(orevendo)marryher,evenifinrealitythewoman
isordinary.
Menplaythegamewomenknowthescore.
Womenarethemostpowerfulmagnetsintheuniverseandmenarebut
scrapmetal.
Therearewomenwhoplayhardtogetinordertoprequalifyyouasa
potentialmate,thatMr.Rightwhoridesinfromhiswhitehorseand
battlestowinoverheraffections,bearinginmindheraffectionswere
secretlywonoverafterthefirstfiveseconds.Anexceptionallybeautiful
womancangainrisefromanyman,soshelooksforaguywhos
different.Herparentstoldhertherightmanwouldbepatient,
persistent,soonandsoforth.Herfriendsreinforcedtheconcept.But
shecannottellfromjustlookingatyouoraftercursoryconversation,
whatofyourtruevalue,soshethrowstestsatyousheknowstalkis
cheapandfeelsmorecomfortableinthesolidfactsofaction.
Soherewehaveherbodydecideswithinsecondswhetheryoulleverlay
her,butdependingonhersocializationhermindmayneedsomemore
convincing.
Lady:onewhonevershowsherunderwearunintentionally.
Sheislikeastoneonthehilltop,difficulttobemoved.Yetwhensheisonce
startedshegoethfastandfarnomanknowethherend.Shebelieveththat
ALLmenarevainandeasytobeflattered.Herheartisolderthanherhead
yea,heremotionisthemotherofherreason.Shedesirethmanythings,and
sheishappytillshegetteththem.TWOthingssheholdethdear,mysteryand
mastery.

Sheplayschallengeatfirst,butsteadilyovertimemoreevidenther
interest,hersexualitycomesforth.Thisismostcommonlymistakenas
raisingherinterest.Itsnotreallyherlustforyouincreases,butrather
herobstacles(societalbarriers)witherawayandassuch,themore
blatantherinterest.
Awomanplayshardtogettodistractamanfromthinkingthatshewillbe
impossibletogetridof.
Aftersex.
Inalllegendsmenhavethoughtofwomenassublimeseparately,but
horribleinaherd.
Twowomenplacedtogethermakescoldweather.
Threewomenmakeamarket.
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SoMuchForSisterhood
FromanissueofEllemagazine
Asagraduatestudent,shesluggedamanwhotriedtorape
herbreakingafewribsbeforecartinghimofftothehospital
herself.Forthemostpart,however,PhyllisChesler,awellknown
feministpsychologist,hasrestrictedherbattleson
behalfofwomentotheprintedpage.Her1972polemic,Women
andMadness,positedthatwomensoppressionwasliterally
drivingthemcrazy.Thebooksoldmorethantwomillion
copies,andCheslerwentontoaprolificcareerofpatriarchybashing.
Withherlatestbook,WomansInhumanitytoWoman,Chesler
turnsthetablesandtakesherownsexseverelytotask.
Drawingonmorethan500interviewsandstudieson
everythingfrommurderousfemalechimpanzeestosocial
statusamongMidwesterncheerleaders,shearguesthat
womenoftentreatwomenasbadlyasmendoonlyincovert
waysthatarehardertodetect,andalltooeasytodeny.
EE:Areyousayingthatwomenarejustassexistasmen?
PC:Imsayingthatwomenholdsexistbeliefs,too.Butwedont
knowledgeourbehaviorbecausewedependoneachotherfor
emotionalintimacy.Itsaformofindirectaggression:Women
dontknockeachotherdowntheysabotageeachotherthrough
shunningandgossipandthecreationofcliques.
EE:Asguiltypleasuresgo,isntgossipprettybenign?
PC:Therearedifferentkindsofgossip.Thewayyougossip
againstanotherwomanbecauseyouenvyorfearher,andthat
gossipleadstoassassinationofhercharacterandperhaps
eventoherdeath
EE:Herdeath?
PC:Oneanthropologistdidabrilliantstudyaboutthehonor
killingofanArabgirlwhosebrothersknifedhertodeath.No
fewerthansixwomeninhertinyvillagehadspreadtherumors
abouthersexualbehavior.AnotherstudyaboutAustralian
teenagersfoundthattaunting,ostracizing,andgossiping
amonggirlsleadtosuicideattemptsanddroppingoutof
school.Thisstuffisntmerelybadbehavior,itspotentially

lethal.
EE:ItsoundslikeHeathersisabettermodelforthinkingabout
femalerelationshipsthan,say,SexandtheCity.
PC:Lookattheworkplace:Onestudyfoundthatinlarge,maledominated
lawfirms,thewomenknewtheywouldsucceed
onlyiftheydideachotherin,becausetherewereonlyaflew
slotsopenforwomen.Thewomenhadverysexistideas.They
thoughtthatifawomanwaspromoted,forexample,shemust
havebeensleepingwiththeboss.Orthatthefirmneededa
tokenfemale.
EE:Sothestereotypesofthenurturingfemalebossandhappily
collaboratingfemalecoworkersareunfounded?
PC:Peopleassumethatwomenarefairerandmorelovingto
eachotherthanmenaretowomen.Itsnottrue.Theresavery
interestingstudythatlookedatsmall,womanowned,womandominated
firm.Theownerwasdescribedbyheremployeesas
acaringmotherfigure.However,thiscaringmotherfigure
underpaidthem,overworkedthem,anddidnothireanybodyfor
whomshehadtopayhealthbenefits.Nowhereisaperfect
exampleofthewaysinwhichwomenarewillingtosettlefor
lessjustforthechancetobelong.Weareusedtoafamily
dynamic,andtrytoconnectatanyprice.
EE:Wheredowomenlearntotreateachotherbadly?
PC:Womenssexismisprobablylearnedonceyoureach
schoolage.Younggirlsagesixtoeightbegintopoliceeach
othersothateveryoneisthesameandnobodyisdifferent.
Thatswhyyoullhavewomendressingalike,thinkingalike,and
soundingalike,becausedifferenceissoterrifying.
EE:Andmenarentundersuchpressuretoconform?
PC:Menconformbecausetheywanttosharethespoils.They
runcountriesandarmies.Theyworkitout.Girlsandwomen
don'twantanyonetoleavethemtheywanttobesureof
companionship.
EE:Youdontpresentaparticularlyflatteringpictureoffemale
behavior.Hasthebooklostyouanyfriends?
PC:I'vebeenworkingonthisbookonandoffsince1980,andI
didn'tfinishitsoonerbecausesomanyfeministleaderssaid,
Youdbetternot,andItwillhurtus.
EE:Whataretheysayingnow?
PC:Afewcouldnotbringthemselvestofinishreadingthe
book.Butinordertobegintoevolvecompassionatebehaviors
towardeachother,youhavetofirstacknowledgewhat's
happening.Feministsofteninsistsayingthatallwomenare
sisters.NowthatIvelookedattheresearch,Isay,Gee,they
wereright,buttheydidn'tunderstandwhattheyweresaying.
Itwouldtakesomemenfiveyearstodegradethemselvessufficientlytobe
abletoenjoythesocietyofwomen.
Friendshipamongwomenisbutasuspensionofhostilities.
OnethingIcouldneverunderstandiswhywomenaresovenomous

towardseachother.Listentothemandonegetstheimpressionlifeis
outtogetthem.
WomenarelikeGods.Theyhaveafacefortheirworshippers,andonefor
theirrivals.
Misogynist:amanwhohateswomenasmuchaswomenhateoneanother.
Ioncewentoutonablinddatewitharavingpartygirl,andatonepoint
sheremarkedthatotherwomenthinksheisevil,consideringherathreat
ofstealingmen.Justherlooksalonesparkstheclaws.
Ioncedatedapunk,whoseemedlikeagreatwoman,butwhatshocked
myearsiswhenIdoverhearhertalkingtofriendsandtherateofwhichI
heardSHE.Notshe,butSHE.Iforgetthecontext,forthiswasyears
ago,butforeveretchedinmymemoryiswhatsuchhatredspewedfrom
hermouth.Inthefollowingyears,withmyoverhearingwomenatlarge,I
virtuallyneverhearhe,butsheisnotsurprising.
AtworkIoncerecentlyoverheardaconversationbitbetweenamanand
abeautifulwoman.Atissue,apparently,wastheincominggroupof
women,numberedaboutseven.Themanlookedoveratthegroup,
remarked,Yeahsomeofthemarepretty.But,Iwouldntworryaboutit.
EventhoughthiswasallIheard,thatIwouldntworryaboutittoldme
everythingtoknow.Allthewomenwereprettyatbest,nothingtowow
over,andherethebeautifulwomanwasworried.Itwasntvenom,itwas
fear.Quiteaninsecurityrevealedforanotherwisesecureandconfidentseeming
woman.


TheRealityFactor
Fewthingsaremoreexpensivethanagirlwhoisfreeintheevening.
Tocertainextents,atheartwomenultimatelyaregolddiggers.Women
naturallywantthebestforhernowandfuturefamily,shewantsthe
mosteconomicallycomfortablelifetoraiseherfamilyinandindulgein
herimpulses(shopping).Evenifshedoesntwantkids,shewillstillseek
outthebesthusbandshecanfind.Plainandsimply,womenwanta
provideritsonlyamatterofhowacceptingthewomanisoftheman's
shortcomings.
Womenbelievethatallthemoneyintheworldwouldhavenomeaning
withoutwomen.
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ExcerptfromLadderTheory
Foragirlof16fullpointsformoneymightbeobtainedby
havingaccesstoacarandbeermoney.Whensheisinher
earlycollegeyears,anicercarandenoughmoneytojoina
fraternityisprobablysufficient.Assheadvancesintoher
twentieswhatweconsidertobethenormalmoneychartwill
begintomanifestitselfthatis,she'llwanttherichestmanshe
canget.
Atnopointthatwecandiscerndoesmoneyevernotbecomea
factor.Takeanyguy.Takeawomanthathasthatguy.Inno
circumstancethatisknownwouldshenotratherhaveaguy
justlikethat,butwithmoremoney.Actually,maybeinone
circumstancewhentheguyhasenoughmoneytobuyher
basicallyeverythingshewants.Thisisselfevident,Ishould
think.
Toasinglewomanmenareeitherdates,potentialdates,ordate
substitutes.
FromtimetotimeIseeamanclearlybeingtakenadvantageof,
demonstratedbyamanbeingwithawomanclearlynowhereoutofhis
leagueandclearlynotinterestedinhimbyanystretchofthe
imagination.Beenthere,boughttheheartache.Aphonenumberis
nothingwithoutadateadateisnothingwithoutakissakissisnothing
withoutsexevenwithsex,evenwithmarriage,noautomaticassurance
thewomangenuinelywantstheman.
Womengetalifebygettingamanmengetawifebygettingalife.
Mengive,womenget.
Remember,amandoesnotgetawoman,thewomangetssociety.She
ismoreinterestedinthesocietalvaluethemanbringshersecurity,
integrity,socialstatusthingsshelacksthantheactualman.[Again,
takeaplainandbrokegenius].Whatcanhegiveme?Whatisaman
buttheembodimentofacar,thevehicleofwhichshecandrivetoher
desires.Whatmanevergrewupfantasizingasaboyhedhavekids?
Mostareadamantagainstkidsuntilhebeginscontemplatingmarriage,
orbyaccident.Formostmenwithkids,thetoddlersbecometheloveof
hislife,butthisisdemonstrativemencometoreflecttheirwoman.
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ExcerptfromMythsofWomen
ByR.DonSteele
BITTERMYTH:Womenareoutformoney.
Womenareoutforstatusandfunorforsecurity,depending
upontheirage.Afewwomenareoutforcoldcash,butnottoo
many.Statusseekingwomenarentreadytosettledown.They
justwannahavefun,andtheywanttheirgirlfriendstoknowit.
Theyrelookingforaguytheycandangleinfrontoftheir
friendsandsay,LookwhatIgot!Youdonthavetohave
moneytobethatguy,youjusthavetocomeacrossas
desirable.Ofcourseifyouhavemoneyyoudontneedtodo
anythingelse,buthavingnomoneyisn'ttheendoftheworld.
Thewomenwhoareoutforsecurityhavehadtheirwildfling
andwanttosettledown.Theywantaguywhocanprovidea
stablebaseforthefuture(andthatincludesfinances).
Allinallitssortoflikewhatguysdo(andwomenwhineabout
endlessly):whenyoureyoungyouwantsomebright,bubbly
thingwithhugetits,aniceass,andatrimmedbushwho
screamslikeabansheeinbed,althoughyou'llsettleformuch
lesswhenyourereadytogetmarriedyouwantanicegirlwho
isntgoingtobreakyourballs.Theyreusuallydifferentpeople
unlessyou'revery,verylucky.Youngwomenwantbadboys
whowillshowthemagoodtime.Whentheyrereadytoget
marriedtheywantsomeguywhoisgoingtobeabletopayto
keepthemcomfortable.
Soaswesee,itsnotallaboutmoney,butonceagainaboutthe
womansrelationtosociety.Althoughifyoudresslikemoney,youwill
betreatedlikeit.
Menarerunraggedbyfemalesexualityalltheirlives.Fromthebeginningof
hislifetotheend,nomaneverfullycommandsanywoman.It'sanillusion.
Menare*****whipped.Andtheyknowit.CamillePaglia
Whenyougoonadatewithawoman,whomisincontrol?Her.While
thereareguyswhosayOhyeahIhaveeverythingundercontrol,itsthe
womanwiththepower.Thepursueealwaysgetsinthelastword.Forall
theguyswhothinktheyarepushingherbuttons,howdoyouknowshe
didntpushyours?Why,herexquisitebody,herangelicsmile,herlong
flowinghair,herlettingyoucatchhercheckingyouout,yourthreemonth
dryspell.
ChrisRockonceremarkedguysgoonfirstdateswonderingifhesgoing
togetlaid,womengoonfirstdatesalreadyknowing.Guysjudgedates
byhowclosehegotsex,womenjudgedatesbyhowmuchmoneywas
spent.
Thehorrifyingthingaboutthemysteryofwomanisthatthereisn'tone.
Ugh.
Societyisnowinfluenced,shaped,andeventoalargeextentcontrolledby
women.Thisisafarcryfromtheworldofourchildhood,whensocietywas
controlledby...Well,astheauthorrecalls,societywascontrolledbyMom.
Christmasdinnerforalltherelatives,squaredancing,thePTA,splitlevel
houseswithtwoandhalfbathssurelynomanthoughttheseup.Feminism

seemstobeacaseofwomenhavingwonalegwrestlingmatchwiththeir
ownotherleg.Thereisonlyonethingformentodoinresponsetothis
confusingsituation,whichisthesamethingmenhavealwaysdone,whichis
anythingwomenwant.
IleavethefloortoOscarWilde.
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MRSALLONBY:TheIdealHusband?Therecouldntbesucha
thing.Theinstitutioniswrong.
LADYSTUTFIELD:TheIdealMan,then,inhisrelationtous.
LADYCAROLINE:Hewouldprobablybeextremelyrealistic.
MRSALLONBY:TheIdealMan!Oh,theIdealManshouldtalkto
usasifweweregoddesses,andtreatusasifwewerechildren.
Heshouldrefuseallourseriousrequests,andgratifyeveryone
ofourwhims.Heshouldencourageustohavecaprices,and
forbidustohavemissions.Heshouldalwayssaymuchmore
thanhemeans,andalwaysmeanmuchmorethanhesays.
LADYHUNSTANTON:Buthowcouldhedoboth,dear?
MRSALLONBY:Heshouldneverrundownotherprettywomen.
Thatwouldshowhehadnotaste,ormakeonesuspectthathe
hadtoomuch.Noheshouldbeniceaboutthemall,butsay
thatsomehowtheydontattracthim.
LADYSTUTFIELD:Yes,thatisalwaysvery,verypleasantto
hearaboutotherwomen.
MRSALLONBY:Ifweaskhimaquestionaboutanything,he
shouldgiveusananswerallaboutourselves.Heshould
invariablypraiseusforwhateverqualitiesheknowswehavent
got.Butheshouldbepitiless,quitepitiless,inreproachingus
forthevirtuesthatwehaveneverdreamedofpossessing.He
shouldneverbelievethatweknowtheuseofusefulthings.
Thatwouldbeunforgivable.Butheshouldshoweronus
everythingwedontwant.
LADYCAROLINE:AsfarasIcansee,heistodonothingbut
paybillsandcompliments.
MRSALLONBY:Heshouldpersistentlycompromiseusin
public,andtreatuswithabsoluterespectwhenwearealone.
Andyetheshouldbealwaysreadytohaveaperfectlyterrible
scene,wheneverwewantone,andtobecomemiserable,
absolutelymiserable,atamomentsnotice,andtooverwhelm
uswithjustreproachesinlessthantwentyminutes,andtobe
positivelyviolentattheendofhalfanhour,andtoleaveusfor
everataquartertoeight,whenwehavetogoanddressfor
dinner.Andwhen,afterthat,onehasseenhimforreallythe
lasttime,andhehasrefusedtotakebackthelittlethingshe
hasgivenone,andpromisednevertocommunicatewithone
again,ortowriteoneanyfoolishletters,heshouldbeperfectly
brokenhearted,andtelegraphtoonealldaylong,andsendone
littlenoteseveryhalfhourbyprivatehansom,anddinequite
aloneattheclub,sothateveryoneshouldknowhowunhappy
hewas.Andafterawholedreadfulweek,duringwhichonehas

goneabouteverywherewithoneshusband,justtoshowhow
absolutelylonelyonewas,hemaybegivenathirdlastparting,
intheevening,andthen,ifhisconducthasbeenquite
irreproachable,andonehasbehavedreallybadlytohim,he
shouldbeallowedtoadmitthathehasbeenentirelyinthe
wrong,andwhenhehasadmittedthat,itbecomesawomans
dutytoforgive,andonecandoitalloveragainfromthe
beginning,withvariations.
LADYHUNSTANTON:Howcleveryouare,mydear!Younever
meanasinglewordyousay.
TheprecedingtookmequitesometimetocomposeandcompileIdo
notapologizeforitslengthandthroughthewayonelastquotesums
theexperience.
Evenwhenamanunderstandsawoman,hecantbelieveit.
Whew!
Idolovewomen.Really.