Escolar Documentos
Profissional Documentos
Cultura Documentos
Making Peace with Our Past and Finding Confidence in Our Future
Happiness is found in the present, but many of us continually step out of the present and into
the past with anger or remorse and/or into the future with fear. In sports stepping out of the
present is called choking; in life its called unhappiness. When we make peace with our
past and find confidence in the future we are free to enjoy the abundant opportunities for
happiness in the present.
1
Douglas A. Smith
whitepinemountain.com
2
Douglas A. Smith
whitepinemountain.com
3
Douglas A. Smith
whitepinemountain.com
Negative stories lead to negative reactions. We can either be pawns of these stories or we can
become their masters and rewrite these stories in a more positive and reflective way. Social
psychologists call this process story editing or redirecting. Redirecting requires that we slow
down, take the time to reflect and consider what stories we are telling ourselves and then rewrite
these stories in a more positive, productive light.
7. Finding Purpose, Finding Meaning, Finding Flow
Man is a searcher of meaning. The number one quality
associated with people of high well-being is my life has We all have a purpose, and yours may
meaning and purpose. By engaging in activities that be watching television. David Letterman
utilize our talents in service to others, we feel
connected and of value. When we are fully engaged and energized in an activity and singularly
focused on its achievement, we are in a state which positive psychologists call flow. It is a state
we can attain when the challenge we face matches the strengths and talents we possess. The
experience of flow is spontaneous joy.
If we find meaning and flow together, we often feel intense joy. Think of Yo-Yo Ma playing the cello
or Leonard Bernstein conducting or kids building a sand castle. But it can be any of us doing what
we do well (teaching, leading, practicing medicine, raising children or caring for a loved one) in
service to ourselves and to others.
8. Cherishing Friendships
Living with people is no picnic; living without them is sheer hell. Happiness is difficult without being
in successful, healthy relationship with people we care about and care about us. If we are proactive
goal oriented people, we tend to seek out activities in which we can experience meaningful progress
toward some goal. What we often trade off is relationships. Making time for others, giving them
our undivided attention, sharing our deepest thoughts and appreciating theirs are all means of
finding greater joy in life. For twenty five years this sign has been on my mirror. It was written by
my son Greg and put into our family suggestion box when he was 8. It reminds me what is
important.
4
Douglas A. Smith
whitepinemountain.com