Tutorial weeks 13

How to Enhance Your Personality

Author: Exforsys Inc.

Published on: 29th Jan 2010

Many of us go to great lengths just to improve our personality. We want to be

admired by everyone in terms of the way we look and the way we dress up. That is
why some people would spend money going to salons and derma clinics just to
look and feel good. You want to impress others with the way you think and the way
you interact with them. So those who lack the confidence in their communication
and interaction skills really make an effort to become better in conversations or
socializing with other people.
Many of us are so concerned with how people perceive us and what they can say
about our personalities. And in enhancing our personality, there are different aspects
of our human character that we can focus on. They say that an impressive
personality is a total package of an individuals mental, physical, emotional, spiritual,
and general well-being.
Be Physically Appealing
Our physical traits are one of the aspects in assessing our characters. It is because
how we carry our physical attributes reflects our inner personality. It is usually with
our outer appearance that causes people to initially create an impression. To boost
your personality, you need to make sure you appear physically appealing and
attractive with your manner of dressing, the way you put on make-up, the way you
do your hair, and the way you present yourself to people. It does not necessarily
mean that you have to wear flashy clothes and or a really made-up hairdo just to get
peoples attention. It simply means being neat, well-groomed, maintaining a good
posture, and properly dressed for the appropriate situation.
Everyone is attracted to someone who keeps a neat and well-groomed appearance.
When leaving the house, make sure that your hair is neatly combed or brushed and
the nails are trimmed. Take a shower daily to be fresh all the time. Double check
yourself and your attire in the mirror before leaving and make sure that your outfit
does not catch attention by either being sloppily dressed or overly dressed. You must
care for your body by keeping it healthy. A regular exercise or engaging in sports will
keep you physically fit.
Widen Your Knowledge and Experience
Our everyday encounters with various situations and different kinds of people are
huge factors in molding our personalities. You need to gather as many experiences

as you can wherever you may be. It is through these experiences that we get to
understand who we really are and how we are in dealing with unfamiliar
circumstances.
Never hesitate to learn many new things. Doing so only expands your horizons and
develops undiscovered skills in other aspects. Take interest in your surroundings and
be keenly observant.
Be interested in people and learn what they want. Find out their preferences,
interests, beliefs, and actions. Attend social occasions and gatherings where you get
the chance to meet new acquaintances. Travel a lot to places you want to go and
discover. Traveling provides exposure and is guaranteed to broaden ones knowledge
and experience which, in turn, broaden ones mind to many things.
Develop a Likeable Attitude
If you want to make people like you, learn to like yourself first and be likeable. Once
you develop a good personality, people will easily admire and like you. Reflect on
what you like and what you dislike about yourself. Take note of your assets and
positive aspects. Develop an attitude that will be impressive to others. In
augmenting your personality, this aspect is way more challenging than boosting the
physical appearance.
It is important to learn to admit your weaknesses and flaws and then do something
to correct them. Never tell yourself that this is all that you are and you cannot do
anything about yourself anymore. There is always a chance to change if you are
more than willing to go through it.
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A 'Distinguished Personality'
published: Sunday | September 4, 2005

- CONTRIBUTED
The members of Roots Radics Band were drummer Lincoln 'Style' Scott (back, left), guitarist Dwight Pinkney (back, right), guitarist
Bingie Bunny (front, left), bassist Erol 'Flabba Holt' Carter (centre) and keyboard player Earl Fitzsimmons.

Mel Cooke, Freelance Writer

LAST WEEK, we left off the Dwight Pinkney story when, as a member of The Sharks, he was heading
to The Bahamas to play in a hotel there. Today we complete the tale of a gifted guitarist, from
returning to Jamaica to co-founding Zap Pow in the 1970s, then joining Roots Radics in the 1980s,
finally doing solo albums in the 1990s and forming the Distinguished Personalities (DP) Band at the
turn of the millennium.
It was a few whirlwind weeks between the young Sharks jumping into the big ocean of professional
music at the Calabash Club to going off to The Bahamas. It was also a period in which one of the
great 'what ifs' of Jamaican music occurred, as The Sharks got involved in recording at Studio One for
a tantalisingly brief period.
"One of the first songs we did was 'Put It On' (with The Wailers). We help create the song," Dwight
Pinkney said of the track that preceded even 'Simmer Down'. And he helped give it a signature sound.
MOTOWN SOUND
"Bob sey we waan create a Motown sound. My bassie jus' start play. Sonny Bradshaw gave a ol'
guitar deh, de string high off the fretboard. It talk pon yu finger. It did have a tremolo bar pon it. We a
play roun' an' Bob come wid did 'put it on' ting. Me jus' hol' de tremolo bar an go ...," Pinkney said,
indicating a strong, strumming motion. "And they say same way we want it!" "From we do that every
artiste roun' Coxsone waan record with we," he said. In the two weeks they were at Studio One, The
Sharks recorded with Delroy Wilson, The Gaylads and Ken Boothe, among others. "By the flood come
down we gone Bahamas. Up to now when Bunny Wailer see me him say you could have been
Wailers band," Pinkney said.
And he notes that not only did Coxsone pay each band member 30 shillings per recording session,
but he also provided them with lunch, "which was unusual".
There was no problem with lunch at the Lucayan Beach Hotel in The Bahamas, where The Sharks
went first on a one-month contract, which was expanded to three months and then full employment.
They ended up playing there for two years, returning home intermittently.
It was on one of the trips home that Dwight Pinkney wrote 'How Could I Live', later to be a Dennis
Brown standard, in five minutes. They recorded it at Studio One and it appeared on the flip side of Jeff
Dixon and Marcia Griffiths' 'Words'.
While in The Bahamas, they added Trevor Lopez, formerly of the Carlos Malcolm band, as lead
guitarist.
Once home full-time, The Sharks did not hang around Kingston, as it was straight to the north coast,
where the constant practice and performances in The Bahamas showed. The Sharks played at the

Yellow Bird in Montego Bay, St. James, and Pinkney says "all the musicians at all the other places
used to even cut their gigs short and come take us in."
"While we were there we were like icons of music. We were in our early 20s," he said.
In some ways Dwight Pinkney went through a reverse of the Kingston to Montego Bay journey, as the
band started playing in Ocho Rios, where they broke up in late 1967 to early 1968. "When we go
Ocho Rios is like the vibes change," Pinkney said.
He landed on his feet, fingers strumming, playing with Winston Turner in The Untouchables, which
played at the Hilton Hotel in Ocho Rios. It was while in that band that he met Mike Williams, who was
also a member, with whom Pinkney would form Zap Pow. He also met two other key musicians.
MEETING FRANKIE
"While I was in The Untouchables I was elected parish director of the Sing-Out Movement. That's
where I met Frankie Campbell and Grub Cooper, who were in the Kingston chapter," Pinkney said.
This was even before The Fabulous Five Incorporated was formed.
After some six to nine months with Winston Turner, Pinkney was ready to complete the reverse
journey to Kingston with a band of his own. Williams came up with the name Zap Pow and in 1969
another leaf turned in the history of Jamaican music. The core of the band was Pinkney, Williams,
trumpeter David Madden and drummer Danny Mowatt, Madden adding saxophonist Glen DaCosta to
the roster. Their first song, 'Mystic Mood', which many people did not believe was done by a Jamaican
group at first, was a hit. Pinkney revisited the song on this year's 'Home Grown Jamaican' album.
"Zap Pow grew until we were the highest paid band in the land," Pinkney said. As such, they had their
choice of vocalists and "we went through quite a few." Among them were Bunny Rugs, now lead
singer for Third World, and the deceased Jacob Miller, former lead singer for Inner Circle. The one
who stayed the longest was Beres Hammond, who Pinkney credits with being "our best vocalist too."
"Beres was genuine talent," Pinkney said.
"We were the first show band in Jamaica. Before that all the bands were dance bands. We originate
the concept that you can have your own self-contained band that put on a show," he said.
There was an album for Island Records in 1974/75, entitled 'Zap Pow Now', the band doing their own
production even when they had external executive producers. Among their recordings was 'Sweet
Loving Love' and 'This Is Reggae Music'. "Recording was always priority on our list. We know when
you make a hit record you are top of the top," Pinkney said.
HEADY FEELING
It was a heady feeling that he was to experience from a vocalist's point of view when he returned to
singing with 'Nenge Nenge' in the 1980s.
Zap Pow made trips to Cayman, Guyana, Suriname (for CARIFESTA), Mexico, Canada, Bermuda
and all over the USA. After a decade, though Zap Pow had done its time ("the financial returns were
not carrying the band," Pinkney says, plus "Beres had started building a name for himself") and
Dwight Pinkney, never one to shrink from handling changes, went back to school.

"I got an invitation to further my music at Edna Manley (then School of Music). I did a course in AfroAmerican Music and arranging course under the tutelage of Melba Liston, Peter Ashbourne, Camille
Lewis and Marjorie Whylie, who taught Jamaican studies."
"It was the first time I was getting formal training. It helped me a lot," Pinkney said, although he "neva
got to finish the course 100 per cent." Even then, close to the end of his course he had actually
started teaching. "One of the reasons I did not get to finish the paper work was I got a call to go on
tour with Roots Radics and the recording thing get hectic," Pinkney said.
That recording had started while he was a student, when he was asked by the band to join in on
recording sessions. The pay from teaching simply could not match the returns from touring and
recording.
And there was a lot of that recording with Roots Radics, as "apart from Sly and Robbie we were the
number one band. We were like the house band at Channel One." And Pinkney was voted band
leader of an aggregation that included Bingie Bunny on lead guitar, Errol 'Flabba Holt' Carter on bass,
Lincoln 'Style' Scott on drums and Steelie Johnson on keyboards. When Johnson left, Earl
Fitzimmons replaced him on keyboards.
Roots Radics worked with the Who's Who of Jamaican music, including Grammy-winning albums for
Bunny Wailer, Gregory Isaacs, Barrington Levy, Frankie Paul, Marcia Griffiths, Judy Mowatt and Eeka
Mouse, among others, recording extensively for producer Henry 'Junjo' Lawes.
Then Pinkney got a dream from his aunt's dead husband, who said "is long time I see you in the
business a struggle. I gwine do something for you." That 'something' was 'Nenge Nenge', Pinkney's hit
single, as "the next significant thing I can remember was the song." About a year later he returned to
the voice room side of the studio and did 'Bigger Boss' with Shirley McLean. He then got caught up in
Roots Radics and did not do any more recording of his own again.
THE EARLY 1990S
Then, in the early 1990s, bassist Keith Francis provided the prod. "He said 'a long time you inna de
business an yu no have nothing yet.' I said is like yu read my mind, because is right there so I sit
down and a play the guitar and a pick out the songs for an album," Pinkney said, indicating a corner of
his home studio.
"Me say you can reach around here tomorrow? He came and the rest is history," Pinkney said.
That first album was Jamaican Memories By The Score, the largely Christmas oriented 'All
Occasions' coming in 2001. 'More Jamaican Memories' followed two years later and then this year
came 'Home Grown Jamaican'.
The beginning of the end of Roots Radics came while they were on tour with Israel Vibration "gainst a
place in Australia" after the first album came out. Since then, Pinkney has formed his own DP
(Distinguished Personality) Band in 2004. "Is a band whe rise to the occasion," he said. "The DP band
fluctuates according to what is there."
The core is Francis, Pinkney and an old pal from Roots Radics, Earl Fitzsimmons on keyboards.
MOVED TO ANOTHER LEVEL

The singer who became a rhythm guitarist has now moved to another level ("from I did that first album
people like my lead work ... I love it too. The leaning is towards a lead guitarist ...") and also personal
studio owner, but being solo sometimes does not mean being on his own, as he is a member of the
Jamaica Association of Vintage Artistes and Affiliates, on the invitation of Keith Brown. "It is the first
musicians/artiste social club in the history of Jamaica," he said.
And the discipline instilled by his mother, who raised him entirely on her own, has stood him in very
good stead. "One of the things that my Granny did say to me was you can't spare the rod and spoil
the child. I have spoilt many a rod, but I was saved," Dwight Pinkney said.

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Confidence of the Confident!

September 30, 2012 | Muhammad Rasool Shah

He was one of my class fellows in university. He had that charismatic personality which is a
very rare commodity and makes one's personality really distinguished and impressive among
a lot. When I first met him, I was one like all my class fellows to be impressed of his
personality. He had that confident smile, had a mature and refined personality just like that of
a prince and his belief in him was evident from his every action.
I presumed him to be the owner of so many distinct qualities that have all combined together
to make him appear so. I thought he would be the best student of the class, would be
belonging to a rich family and may be having the gatherings of a community that is
considered to be privileged and advanced. Later on, it was my turn to get surprised after I
discovered the realities about his life, one after the other.
He was not the top student of the class rather he was an average student. Then I saw him
going on an old motorbike and it was again a shock as I was expecting him to be an owner of
a new model car. He belonged to a middle-class family and had a part-time job with which he
not only met his expenses but also of the family.
This was really opposite to our standard thinking approach that one's personality is always
the mirror of his circumstances in which he lives and the perception that a person's
belongings should define his personality and his feelings should be molded accordingly.
Here, one's own thoughts and confidence in himself was doing the job. That was exciting to
discover.
We often witness people who are confident and have the charm in their personality all due to
their wealth, social status, or job position. At times, we are introduced to a person as a CEO

(Chief Executive Officer) of an organization and his appearance, clothing, excessive

confidence often reaching to the level of haughtiness and proud, and his style of walking and
talking make us believe what he is claiming to be and thus we treat him accordingly. On the
other hand, when we are introduced to a person who is not the owner of something, a person
appears the same from his every movement and thus he is treated accordingly.
You might have also observed a person who has at once become wealthy but all his wealth
fail to conceal the cheap practices and thoughts that he used to have before elevating to this
stage of life. However expensive and luxury dress he wears, however new car he rides on and
whatever he does to make his personality appear important, his style of talking, walking,
eating and even his sitting reveal what he is in fact.
Let us try to look at the picture of the above discussed from another angle. No doubt, people
may be well aware of his reality but the fact that is important to understand here is the
condition of the man himself. The wealth has given him the right to feel a confidence and this
kind of confidence is the most difficult according to my imagination. He wants to show
himself to the world what he is in fact not. He also realizes that people around him are giving
him a fake importance and the situation is absolutely contrary to what is shown to him but he
is there with his confidence, standing firm and still like a mountain.
He does not take care of the imaginations of the people or what they take him to be. This is
again an interesting discovery because the wealth he owns is not with him all the time. You
might have never seen a person to be wearing the clothes of wealth but it gives an invisible
confidence. An old man used to say, "If your pockets are full, the lights of your eyes are
increased while an empty pocket makes the world appear dark to you".
Let us try to imagine the above situation from another angle. If a person can get an invisible
confidence from something that we know as invisible, then, can't we use the same philosophy
in the reverse direction? In our daily lives we see that lack of position, wealth or other
worldly belongings snatch our confidence. How it is strange that in our daily lives, with the
exception of a few occasions when we truly feel the lack of something and when it becomes
quite justified to feel so, we change our thoughts, lose our confidence and mould our
personality in a way that we appear to be lacking confidence and deprived of something.
Just as the example narrated in the beginning of the article, there are very few of us who
succeed in overcoming the feelings of being less from others because of something that has
nothing to do with our personality. It doesn't mean that we can ignore the importance of
social status, wealth or other worldly belongings and the fact that they do affect our thoughts
and personality but what about those who have come up with an impressive personality even
without them. Are not they enough to show us a destination that can be achieved and that is
also not bound to any kind of human effort but merely to change the pattern of our thoughts.
Just like me, you might have also witnessed so many impressive trendsetters in the society. In
one of my classes, I was really impressed by the intimidating personality and confidence of a

student who looked as if being perfect from all regards like intelligence, wealth and any other
factor that one can imagine to be responsible for this and once again, to my wildest surprise,
he came out to be average in studies, used to ride a bike to school and was an average boy in
all regards but his confidence made me confident to believe in the confidence of the
confident.
If you revisit your childhood memories and try to imagine a situation that usually happens in
school days when the zip of your pant gets out of order, how could have you dealt with the
situation and the resulting emotional feelings? I have witnessed two types of responses
depicting the two opposite poles of confidence. A boy keeps limited to his seat, feeling shy to
come out and being absolutely crippled with his condition.
On the other hand, a confident boy tightens his belt, comes out of class and keeps playing as
if nothing has happened. Some of his class-fellows even try to bring down his confidence but
he stops, smiles with a rather intimidating smile and says, "So what? I know that".
We have been termed as the best of creatures just because of our mind and intellect and we
would only rise to this distinct position only by using it the way it deserves it to be used

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