BULLYING

Bullying is a loan word from the English language. Bullying comes from the word
meaning bully bully, those who disturb the weak. Some terms in Indonesian society that is often
used to describe the phenomenon of bullying of which is oppression, bullying, hazing, bullying,
exclusion, and intimidation.
Bullying is the repeated attacks physical, psychological, social, or verbal, which is done in
a power position situationally defined for their own benefit or satisfaction. Bullying is an early
form of aggressive behavior that is abusive behavior. Can be physical, psychological, through
words, or even a combination of all three. This can be done by a group or individual. Performers
take advantage of other people who saw vulnerable.
Bullying is an act in which one or more people try to hurt or control others by force. There
are many types of bullying. Could harm the physical form, such as hitting, pushing, and so on. In
verbal form is insulting, snapped, and using harsh words, while the social forms such as
isolating, and ignore the people. Some examples of bullying most often encountered around us
are seniors confront the younger classes as judged act. Student orientation period that ended
badly because of the excessive seniors work on new students. Classmates were considered
strange excluded, and no one wants to be friends with him.
Impact of Bullying
Impact for victims
Bullying can make a person feel anxious and frightened. Can affect the concentration of
study in school and lead them to avoid school. If the bullying continues in the long term it
can affect the self-esteem of students, increasing social isolation, raises interesting
behavior themselves, make teens prone to stress and depression, and insecurity. Worse
yet, bullying can lead teens to do reckless, even kill or commit suicide. If the override
bullying victim repeatedly, then the victim will feel depressed and angry. He was angry
with himself or against bullies.
Even for those around him and to adults who can not or do not want to help him.
Kemudan it starts to affect their academic achievement. Because no longer able to come
up with constructive ways to control his life, he may be retreated further into exile. The
negative impact of bullying also looks at the decline of intelligence test scores and
students' analytical skills.

Impact on the perpetrators

In general, these actors have high confidence with high self-esteem as well. Tend to be
aggressive with pro-violent behavior, typical of the rampart, irritable and impulsive. The
bullies have a strong need to dominate others and little empathy for the target. Bullies can
not develop healthy relationships. Less capable of looking at it from another perspective.
Considers that they are strong and preferably so as to affect the pattern of social relations
in the future.

By doing the bullying, the perpetrator would assume that they have the power of the
state. If allowed to continue without intervention, bullying can lead to the formation of
other behaviors such as violence against children and other criminal behavior

Why occurs bullying?

The perpetrators bully get satisfaction from oppressing people. He felt stronger and more
powerful because there are people who are afraid of him. It could be that he minded, he would
gain popularity at school because of feared by other students. Another reason is because they
repress their envy in excess of the target of bullying them. They feel threatened by the presence
of someone who is prettier or smarter than them. Or in fact they have a problem that causes them
to channel their anger oppressive to others. They do not know what impact bullyingnya actions
against their victims. So they do not feel guilty for his actions.

Why can become a victim of bullying?

People who are usually targeted for oppression is a person who has a noticeable
difference compared to the others. This difference could be physical, style of dress, and behavior.
The most common examples are seniors do not like the wayward younger class, so dilabrak out
by class brothers. This led the juniors fear or fear wandering around the school act.

Signs Children who are being bullied

Here are some signs to recognize if your child is being bullied or not:
1. There are wounds that can not be explained
Wounds or injuries that tried to hide the child, should be a major concern. Remind
children that none has the right to hurt them. Encourage them to tell me what happened to
you. Such information is needed so that this problem can be handled by the school
teachers, the course aims to put an end to oppression.
2. Clothes torn or missing items
If the children returned from school with torn clothing or circumstances exist that lost
their belongings without reasonable explanation, you should investigate the possible
causes in a way that is appropriate and supportive.
3. Experiencing physical illness
Pain or malingering to avoid school could be an indication of emotional trauma. Bullying
can negatively affect children's physical and emotional health. Therefore it is you have to
be alert to the cause.
4. Lazy to go to school
If your child is a student who has a good performance in school and suddenly lost interest
to go to school or performance starts to decline, you'll want to talk with the child and the
teacher about possible causes. The teacher may be able to give an explanation you can
understand with regard to the child's relationship with his friends.
5. Behave hurt yourself
Embarrassed and confused, many victims of bullying is hard to ask for help. Never ignore

symptoms like hurting yourself, talk about suicide or escape, or other malicious behavior.
Feeling of inferiority
Never ignore anxiety, depression or low self-esteem signs that appear suddenly. Because
any stress whatsoever behavior requires immediate attention from their parents. Build
good communication with children, so that they feel safe enough to speak openly and
honestly about the fear they experienced.
loner
If the child begins to isolate themselves from friends and family, get the right solution to
know what the reason is. Shut down or lonely in children, there is a possibility that the
child has been the victim of bullying. You try a more subtle approach to your child, so that
children want to tell you about the real situation.