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Contact, Care,
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HOW INTERPERSONAL SKILLS ARE
the FOUNDATION of GENUINE
CUSTOMER SERVICE
Stephanie Dollschnieder
2009912868
978-1-4500-0804-4
978-1-4500-0803-7
CONTENTS
Introduction .......................................................................................... 7
Introduction
customer who has a very simple need for say, the next payment
amount or due date. And some customers actually appreciate
being able to have access to that information on their own.
Younger consumers, in particular, are often happy with the
technology-driven, depersonalized transaction. They are both
capable and comfortable with online interaction, and pleased to
be able to conduct business at the time of their choosing.
When a problem arises, however, dissatisfaction occurs even
with these tech-savvy consumers. Because when people have a
complaint or a problem, or even more than one simple question, the
vast majority of them want to speak with a real person. Someone
who can be involved in the give and take of an actual conversation.
And technology-based customer service systems, even email, are
notoriously non-responsive and unsatisfactory.
While maneuvering through automated phone tree menus is
frustrating to customers, so too is waiting on hold. The average
wait time for customers who want to reach a live person has risen
over the years (up a full 33% in the five years from 2000-2005
alone.)6 And customers have little tolerance for this treatment.
The risks are that by the time the customer actually connects with
a person, he is even more agitated than he was at the beginning
of his journey. And what may have been a pleasant or simpler
interaction becomes a challenge for the service representative who
ultimately takes the call. Additionally, the potential loss of business
resulting from a now irritated customer is no small thing. A 2008
survey by RightNow Technologies and the Harris Poll reported
a full 87% of respondents have stopped doing business with a
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you give that person psychological air. And after that vital need is
met, you can then focus on influencing or problem solving. 17
So, listen and watch for unspoken emotions when your
customer speaks. Put yourself in the customers place and try to
empathize. Explore what you think he is feeling. Then, genuinely
acknowledge those feelings in the interaction. When a customer
feels acknowledged and listened to, he or she is even more willing
to accept negative news, if that becomes necessary, and will
certainly have a more positive service experience.
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Vocalics or Paralanguage
Gestures
Eye Contact
Facial Expressions
Proxemics
Environmental Factors
Physical Appearance
Touch
Modulation
Think of the characterizations you make when
you listen to someone speaking in a very monotone
voice. My guess is that you are not unusual in
what jumps to mind. Characterizations such as:
bored, disinterested, slow, unenthusiastic, and
tired are very common. So it is with customers
who might be interacting with you (by phone or
face-to-face). One of the fastest ways to send the
message of disinterest is to have a voice lacking
modulation. A well-modulated voice, on the other
hand, is engaging. It conveys interest, energy, even
competence. These are the characterizations you
would like for customers to attribute to you.
Fortunately, it is easy to learn to introduce
some variance in your voice tone. You can practice
saying a sentence over and over, and emphasizing
a different word each time. It helps to write out
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Pitch
It is no surprise that we often hear actors such
as James Earl Jones narrating stories on television.
His voice is low, full, and a pleasure to listen to.
There is a good deal of research which looks at
voice tone, and the qualities others attribute to it.
In general, both men and women prefer listening
to voices with lower voice tones (in both men and
women).20 Low pitched voices sound attractive
and calming, yet mature and confident. Whereas
higher pitched voices tend to convey such attributes
as nervousness, youth or inexperience, and lack
of confidence. In addition, a high pitched voice
can be simply grating or annoying to listeners,
especially those who might already be upset (such
as customers with complaints).
Note: There may be an exception to the
preference for lower voices when it comes to
sexual attraction. It is thought that women may
non-consciously raise their voice pitch as they
approach ovulation.21 Consequently, some males
demonstrate a slight preference for a higher pitched
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Volume
Low voice volume is interpreted in a couple
of different ways . . . most of them negative. This
happens because people do not want to work
at listening. If they have to strain to hear you,
it is typically too much effort for them, and they
become frustrated by voice volume that is too
low to easily hear. People also tend to attribute
shyness, lack of confidence, and even lack of
competence to a person with an overly soft voice.
Of course the other extremean overly loud
voiceis also interpreted negatively. A customer
will feel as though he is being yelled at, even if
that is not the intent.
Choosing a good voice volume is important
to a pleasant interaction. How do you do this?
Pay attention to the customers non-verbal cues.
Do you notice a flinch or slight recoil when you
speak? Perhaps you are speaking too loudly.
Does he appear to be straining to understand
what you are saying? If a customer says, what?
or asks you to repeat something because he
could not hear you, that is your cue to increase
volume. Certainly dont create a situation where
the customer has to ask a second time. By that
point, the customer is likely already perceiving
the interaction as negative.
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Resonance
Perhaps you know someone who has a
wonderful singing voice . . . it might even be you,
yourself. Think of that full and robust, ringing quality
that you hear in the voice. This is resonance.
Most people agree that it is pleasant to listen to a
resonant voice. But beyond that, resonance also
creates an impression of confidence on the part of
the speaker.
Resonance is partially created by physical
attributes such as lung capacity, the shape of the
nasal pharynx, vocal folds, glottis, and other head,
neck, and mouth formations. Of course, these
structural things are largely beyond our control
since the shape of a persons neck, pharynx, and
vocal folds are partially determined by genetics.
However, the general hydration of vocal fold tissues
and the muscular agility of laryngeal muscles can
be influenced by training and personal health.22
People who study vocal music report that vocal
resonance can be greatly enhanced by learning
certain breathing techniques. A variety of sources
including voice coaches and yoga instructors could
suggest some breathing exercises to perfect if
you would like to develop a more resonant voice.
The payoff is that customers will find you more
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Clarity
Clarity is defined as the quality or state of being
clear. In spoken language clarity can be increased
with precise articulation, and decreased by sloppy
pronunciationwhat some call a lazy mouth. A
nasal or hoarse voice can get in the way of clear
enunciation, as well.
Clarity can also be impacted when the
speaker has an accent. (See following section
on accents.) Customers want to converse with
someone whose message is understandable.
Work at precise pronunciation of words and avoid
regional twangs if you want to improve the clarity
of your speech.
Accent
There are people who find accents charming; I
happen to be one of them. And in some circles, an
accent can have a beneficial affect on the listener.
People have been known to attribute higher
intelligence to a speaker with an accent, especially
in the scientific and medical fields.
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Rate
Speaking of speed . . . average speaking speed
for North American adults is about 150 words per
minute.24 If you speak significantly faster than
average speed, it creates yet another circumstance
in which the listener needs to work at following what
you say. Again, the need to work at listening perturbs
people. It can also make them wary. Picture the
stereotypic fast-talking sales person. Customers
have an almost instant distrust for anyone speaking
too quickly to be easily followed.
But be careful not to over-correct fast speech. A
significantly slower than average rate of speech can be
equally frustrating to the listener. Research indicates
that the perceptions of slow tempo include boredom,
disgust, and sadness.25 Keep this in mind as you
interact. Rate of speech is something easily regulated.
Simply ask a colleague or friend for feedback. How
easy it is to follow what you say in a conversation?
Adjust your speaking speed accordingly.
An often-overlooked aspect of speaking speed
is silence, and the duration of it. Silence can be
interpreted as positive or negative depending upon
other non-verbal and verbal cues that are at play
at the time. A skillful communicator learns to utilize
silence effectively . . . to make a point, to encourage
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Gestures
Gestures vary by culture but are always a large part of
communication. From the handshake in western cultures to the
bow in various Asian cultures, powerful and meaningful messages
are sent by the gestures we use. And since we have developed
a global economy, these signals are all the more important in
business interactions.
We have already pointed out that the essence of outstanding
customer service is effective interpersonal skills. Those skills that
send the appropriate messages to your customer, such as: I am
listening, I understand you, I care about how you feel. If your goal
is to make your clients feel comfortable in the interaction, it would
be wise to become familiar with the gestures that are used by your
customers and what they mean.
History is full of examples of foreign diplomats, celebrities,
and political figures who have committed outrageous faux pas by
utilizing a gesture that means one thing in their own culture, and
something quite different in another culture.
In terms of our north American culture most of us are aware
of the gestures which are insulting or offensive. Obviously, you
should not make use of them with or in front of clients. This is true
even if the offending gesture is directed not at a customer, but at
a co-worker or bystander.
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Eye Contact
Eye Contact is one of the most powerful non-verbal cues. Ask
yourself how you feel about someone who wont let you look him
in the eyes during an interaction. There are all kinds of things we
may attribute to that person, but none of them is positive. You
may have experienced participating in video conference calls and
feeling the slight disconnection of delayed visual response and/
or the inability to look deeply into the eyes of the person on the
other end. It is disconcerting to be unable to engage with another
person in this very intimate way.
We respond viscerally in ways we might not completely
understand to genuine eye contact. There is a kind of energya
magicthat is not able to be replicated by anything else. We know
that we are connecting with another human being when we look
into his or her eyes.
Eye contact is the language of lovers; the conduit of
aggression; the governor of interaction. It amplifies and clarifies
our communications. Eye contact is the vehicle through which we
convey subtle tips about expectations in interactions such as when
to talk, when to stop talking, and even whether or not we have an
interest in interaction at all.
Though it takes courage to proceed, it is a fact that the fastest
and truest way to resolve a conflict is face-to-face. In fact, for any
vital interactionif you want to land the client, console a friend,
make an impressionface to face is the best way to conduct it.
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Facial Expression
Another category of non-verbal cues is facial expressions.
According to research, the head and neck skeletal structure and
musculature affords humans the ability to manufacture some
250,000 different facial expressions.28 The subtleties of an arched
eyebrow or the lifting of one corner of the mouth are strong
messages that are often interpreted non-consciously by others.
Keep in mind that not only is a customer constantly reading
the facial expressions that you give, you are doing the same of
your customer. Try to tune in to what the various expressions are
telling you. These expressions can give you powerful insights into
how your customer is really feeling, what he is thinking, how he is
reacting to you, etc.
For your part, you can make use of one of the most potent
facial expressions, one that signals liking. That is, your smile. A
genuine smile is a tremendous mood lightener and sign of goodwill
towards a customer. It is important, however, to avoid forcing a
disingenuous smile. Genuine or felt smiles, those resulting from
positive emotions, involves two muscles. The first is the obicularis
oculi muscle, which encircles the eye. When activated, this muscle
causes the crows feet at the corner of the eyes. The brows lower,
the cheeks raise, and the eyes therefore appear narrower. These
sincere smiles are sometimes called Duchenne smiles, named
after a neurologist who first described them.
The second is the zygomatic major, which runs along the
cheekbones. It stretches out the lips and lifts up the corners of the
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Environment
Environmental factors can also play into how a person feels
about an interaction. The colors on the walls, the ambient room
temperature, and even the arrangement of furniture can create
either a comfortable, easy environment or one that makes the
customer uneasy.
Fung Shui, an ancient Chinese art form which has become
commonly discussed in interior design circles, has to do with the
placement of items and arrangements of furniture in rooms. It
is said that placement of furniture, light sources and the like, in
reference to the doors, windows and open spaces affect movement
of energy, and feelings of people in the room. Some of these factors
might be considered when you choose a room arrangement for
meeting and interacting with customers.
Also consider whether or not there are physical barriers
between you and the customer. Is there a desk directly between
you, or have you set up a side chair so that the other person is
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Physical Touch
There is perhaps no single non-verbal cue more potent than that
of physical touch. Perhaps it is due to the potentially highly-charged
nature of physical contact. Perhaps it is due to social sanctions,
or the deeply rooted drive for self-protection. Regardless, physical
touch can convey vast amounts of information, deep emotions,
and/or provide powerful energy exchange.
Touch is so powerful that human beings can even die due to
lack of the touch of another person. (Babies given everything they
need nutritionally, and protection from the elements, but are not
held or touched, have been known to develop Failure to Thrive
(FTT) syndrome, and some succumb.)
There are many sanctions in society around the permissibility
of touching another person. Certainly, this is due, in part to the fact
that any kind of physical touch can be misunderstood or perceived
in an entirely different way than intended. We should remember
that because physical contact is so potent, it could easily make a
customer uncomfortable. Remember, too, that we live in a litigious
society, and there may be corporate and personal liabilities for
misinterpreted physical contact. Therefore, touching a customer
presents some risk.
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All of these factors will not make his perception more or less
right than yours, but they will decidedly make it different from
yours. Recognize and accept this from the start. Try to imagine
yourself in the customers position. If your goal is to provide
outstanding customer service, you must remain open to accepting
that while you may not share the customers viewpoint, it may have
merit. And it certainly warrants consideration.
Acknowledging this requires a certain amount of
open-mindedness. We need to be prepared to learn that our
assumptions are incorrect, and be able to at least attempt to see
things in another fashion. And your efforts in this regard are very
worthwhile. The most successful customer services organizations
are those staffed by people who seem to display the ability to put
themselves in the customers shoes.
Despite the old adage to the contrary, everyone knows that in
reality the customer is not always right. Customers are sometimes
misinformed, contrary, and downright unreasonable. They may be
less than truthful, and sometimes customers are quite rude. Ultimately,
though, it does not matter whether the customer is right or not. What
matters is whether or not you can make him feel good, feel valued and
listened to. That may mean allowing him to believe he is correct.
It is important to point out that understanding your customers
perception, or point of view, does not necessarily mean agreeing
with it. You do not have to adopt your customers interpretation of
things. However, if you can at least recognize that your customers
perception is his valid reality, that understanding will facilitate more
successful interactions, and help to diffuse a conflict.
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Resolving Conflict
While many customer service related conflicts have to do with
the product or a service, they frequently center around the specifics
of how a customer was treated. They can also be a result of differing
personalities, cultural differences, conflicting motivation or goals,
or simply poor communication and misunderstanding.
According to Ken Thomas, renowned expert in conflict
and conflict resolution, and co-author of the TKI conflict mode
assessment, conflict is just as much an opportunity as it is a danger.
Regardless of the source, when conflict is skillfully addressed,
it can become a way of opening communications, of opening
minds, of making changes, and even of bringing people closer.
The appropriate conflict resolution approach can be extremely
effective in turning an upset or unhappy customer into a satisfied
and loyal one.
Of course, resolution styles vary greatly from complete
avoidance of the customer and the situation, to direct confrontation.
Most conflict resolution experts agree that resolution approach is
the result of a mixture of two characteristicsassertiveness and
cooperativeness.32 In the context of conflict resolution approach,
assertiveness means how much you assert for your own
interests; cooperativeness has to do with how much you seek
to accommodate or cooperate with the customer. These two
characteristics can combine in a variety of ways creating different
approaches to handling the conflict.
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Try to stay focused and calm. Dont get sucked into competing
with an angry customer in voice volume, level of anger, or
name-calling. If you are verbally attacked, the temptation is to
argue, defend or even counterattack. It is natural to want to
respond in kind. However, it is crucial to train yourself to resist this
temptation. Remember this . . . everyone involved in (or witnessing)
the interaction will perceive the calm person as the powerful one
and the ranting person as the out of control lunatic. Be the calm,
powerful person. It takes practice and self-control. Pause. Take a
breath. This will help you avoid a knee-jerk kind of reaction.
The best advice that professional mediators give about having
to deal with an angry person is to stay focused on the problem, not
the person who is presenting it. Avoid attacks on the customers
character such as: hot headed, crazy, or stupid, etc. These will
further antagonize the customer. Above all, remain courteous.
Of course, customers themselves dont usually follow these
courtesy guidelines. It is up to you to try to steer a conversation or
discussion toward the problem, question or issue itself. Take the
following example in which a service person accidentally drove
over the edge of the driveway onto a customers yard:
You have wrecked my lawn with that
truck!
Maam, I apologize for . . .
. . . if you werent so stupid, you
would have been more careful.
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Example:
Serviceman:
Customer:
Serviceman:
Reality:
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Document Mistakes
It is desperately important for customer representatives and
business managers to document service failures. This is true of
failures of both external and internal customer service. Remember
that not every customer will take the time to complain. Indeed,
as mentioned earlier, the silent, dissatisfied customer means
you remain unaware and therefore unable to correct an error.
According to the ACSI, a good way to avoid remaining in the
dark about service mistakes is to encourage customers to give
feedback, even if it is negative, and reward those who do. And
when customers do complain, write their complaints down, input
them into an online system or pre-prepared customer complaint
form. And ask questions that prompt them to tell it all.
It is essential to uncover and explore the cause of service failures.
Where was the breakdown? What aspect of the problem related to
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Speaking of Trust-Building . . .
Though it is not the goal of this book to preach or to dictate moral
behavior, it would be absurd to address the concepts of remarkable
recovery and extraordinary service without acknowledging the
underlying mandate for personal integrity. It is essential to building
a trusting relationship with a customer. Below is a list of six tenets
of integrity for trust-building behavior with customers:
1. Make your word sacred. (If you say you will do something, do it.
If you say you will provide something, provide it. If you make an
appointment, keep it.)
2. If you do not have what the customer wants, say so.
3. If you know something would be unfair or dishonest, dont do
it.
4. Never withhold helpful information, even if it means sending a
customer elsewhere.
5. Do really good work.
6. Hold the customers best interest at heart.
Chapter 5
BUILDING A CORPORATE
CULTURE OF SERVICE
Customers by Any Other Name
Think of your own job title. In your mind, you should add
Customer Service to the end of whatever is printed on your
business card. After all, you have the responsibility of providing
service of some kind to your colleagues and co-workers. So, if
you are the Manager of Employee Benefits, your title is tacitly
Manager of Employee BenefitsCustomer Service. If your title
reads, Maintenance Engineer, it really means Maintenance
EngineerCustomer Service. And so on for IT Supervisor,
Systems Analyst, Vice President-Sales, General Plant Manager,
or any other job title.
If employees were able to develop and maintain this mindset,
they would probably provide better service to fellow employees
as a matter of course. But it also has to do with achieving an
understanding that supporting other employees will ultimately
make their own jobs easier and even more secure.
If people accept the notion that providing excellent service to
external customers is what will keep their business, and thus keep
their companies viable, they must also accept that helping fellow
employees do their jobs will ultimately help to satisfy those external
demands. The companies who create an atmosphere or internal
culture of service are those who do a better job of providing service
to their external client base.
Creating that corporate culture of service is a responsibility that
begins with the companys leaders.
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Making it Happen
Aside from learning and improving essential interaction skills,
what can a manager or leader do to promote the development of
a corporate culture that includes exceptional customer service?
There are many opportunities on a daily basis for a manager or
corporate leader to inspire other employees to make the Customer
Service choice. A manager needs to be committed and passionate
about this mission. It cannot be accomplished in a one-time shot.
No corporate culture is established overnight.
To start, the company leaders and upper management need to
take a serious and objective look at the current corporate culture
and environment. Often there is competition for monetary and
personnel resources that creates some internal maneuvering. This
frequently creates an us against them dynamic between internal
departments that needs to be overcome.
Employees should be encouraged to, and rewarded for,
responding to the needs of those in other departments. This may
mean pleasing the internal customer, not necessarily the boss,
in terms of meeting deadlines. Employees need to be convinced
that responding to the needs of other departments is high on
everyones agenda.
Along with simply talking about making these changes, employees
should be rewarded for their positive changes in this regard. It is
equally important that they not be punished for their mistakes during
the learning process. The message that customer-focus means
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A Call to Action
Go onto the internet and Google the words customer service.
You will find a literally endless stream of hits. The topic is the
passion of more than a few consulting firms; the goal of nearly
every corporation; and the wish of every person who has ever
been on the receiving end of bad service. And as weve discussed,
most people believe that customer service levels have declined
(some studies say substantially) over the past few years, despite
this kind of universal focus.
This presents both an opportunity, and a call to action, for
the business that can demonstrate its superiority in the service
arena. Becoming a provider of outstanding customer service
takes work. Not in developing the right list of menu options on an
automated system, or offering contrived or scripted platitudes, but
by providing access to real human beings who connect with the
customer on a human level. By demonstrating genuine interest in
helping your customers, not just selling to them or getting them to
stop complaining and go away. Genuine customer service is about
caringtreating them with the respect due anyone who patronizes
your business. About proving your services, products and business
representatives are worthy of your customers trust. Furthermore,
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