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A
Survival Guide
for
SINGLEGIRL
A
Survival Guide
for
SINGLEGIRL
Table of Contents
Introduction
Chapter 1: Love
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Chapter 2: Your
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Chapter 3: Self
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Conclusion
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Special Thanks
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Introduction
Growing up, I wasnt raised watching the T.V. shows or movies the kids my age were watching. I didnt go
to school with bologne and American cheese sandwiches for lunch. I never understood why my mother
insisted on sending me to school with organic chicken over a bed of mixed greens or why she constantly
pulled my shoulders back and said, Meggie, youre slouching, or why she looked so heartbroken when
she would find a beautiful sweater on the floor in a ball. My understanding for my mothers pearls of
wisdom didnt begin to resonate until the day after my twenty-sixth birthday, and was single and living
alone. We can lovingly refer to this day as the Oh Shit-Day that will go down in the history books of me.
On this day, I woke up with a rip-roaring hangover, not a single grocery item in the fridge, dirty laundry
hanging from the chandelier, a pimple the size of a planet on my chin, dark circles under my eyes, hair going
a million different directions, and not enough time to shower because I was already late to work. Scrambling
to get my metaphorical shit together, and probably looking like a resident of the state institution, I kept
saying that same thing over and over to myself, Im too old for this shit! When I finally got home from,
what seemed like the longest day of my life, I threw myself in bed and began to think about how I wanted
to take charge and create a life that I wanted, rather than living day to day cleaning up the aftermath
of my living in the moment choices. Beginning to do the downward spiral, as my mother refers to
my moments of emotional overload, I began to make a list of choices I could make or things I could do
to help myself achieve the life I wanted, and quite frankly grow up. After writing the list, I realized that
26 years worth of advice, guidance, and wisdom infused into my cells by my mother, since the day I was
born, was lying on the page. The many moments of question and denial of my mothers life lessons had
finally come full circle, and I guess she was right, again!
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1 Love
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Be selfish.
Um, hello?! Mother dearest, did or did you not drill it into me that sharing is caring? So, what is this whole
be selfish thing you are telling me to do? Maybe its the fact that I have found my first grey hair or that my
mothers wisdom has finally started to permeate my thick, Irish-German skull, but I am finding that being
selfish is a practice all single girls should take part in. It sounds horrible, I knowbut truly it is the most
generous thing you can give yourself and those around you. Being selfish means taking care of yourself
before those around you. It means making yourself happy, so that someone else can add to your happiness.
It means taking time to get to know yourself, so you know exactly who you are and what you want.
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Never
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20 dates.
Yep, thats right girlskeep your clothes on for a good, long while. If they are someone that really cares
about you, then they will wait. So, dont be a slave to your hormones and when you are sure he is someone
who will take care of your heart, then go ahead and rip your clothes off and have wild, monkey sex.
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Who cares if they like you! The question is do you like them?
Girls, write this on your mirrors, hang it on your fridge, and tape it to your front door so you will memorize
your new mantra. Namaste.
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2 Your
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should teach a
how to walk in high heels class for women!
Okay girls, this is another big onewalking in high heels. All too often you see women, young and
old, hobbling around in high heels as if they are morphing into a T-Rex that is being sucked into the
center of the earth. I know you know what I am talking about, and its never good. What is the secret
to walking in high heels like you are channeling New York Fashion Week runway models? Step on a
straight leg. It sounds ridiculous but trust methis is a game changer!
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ift & separate.
The most important thing a girl can invest her hard earned money into is a bra that does your boombooms justiceand I am not talking about Victorias Secret. Dont let your girls end up down by your
knees when you are forty and fabulous! Every time you buy a bra from a big girl department store,
get measured and invest in a bra that is comfortable, cute, and lifts & separates!
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3 Self
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isten to your body.
As we established earlier, you know yourself better than anyone else, so listen to what you are saying
to yourself. Health is king and your body naturally wants to be healthy, so when you are hungry, eat or
when you are tired, sleep. Always trust that you have your best interest at heart.
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t s easier to not have any than it is to have one or two.
And God aint that the truth. Moderation is the key to happiness, girlfriend, and it takes practice.
Trust yourself and allow yourself to savor a cookie, or two, and I promise that when you wake up the
next day, you will not resemble two ton tilly.
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Be kind to yourself.
Looking back, if I could re-do one choice I made, it would be to be kind to myself as I was growing up.
Such a simple statement, but so very difficult to do. Growing up is hard no, it is fucking hard, so lets
not make it even harder, girls. The act of kindess, towards ourselves and others, is something lacking in
our world todayits important to give your life 120% effort, and then give yourself a break and have
faith that all that you want to achieve can, and will be, over time. Be kind to yourself, girlsenjoy the
fruits of your labor, revel in your beauty, and be proud of who you are, and will become.
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isten to your instincts.
You have all the answers inside of you. Just listen.
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Be honest.
You know what they sayhonesty is the best policy. Well girls, one thing my mother has engrained
into me is to be honest with yourself, and others, about who you are. Its a whole hell of a lot easier to
be someone that youre not than to embrace the good, the bad, and the ugly of who you are. As the
daughter of a self-admitted mid-life crisis survivor, I encourage all my girls to be honest and proud of
who they are, and never allow yourself to be swayed. Be fierce, be true, be you!
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Conclusion
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ove your self.
So girls, after all the advice and lessons, I will leave you with one last pearl of wisdom, that my mother
tells me is the secret to it all. It is the key to happiness, success, and well being, but is one of the
hardest things to achieve. It requires laughter and tears, bravery and weakness, honesty and lies, upset
and happiness, sacrifice and indulgence, and most imporantlytime with yourself. It will enable you to
live the life you have always wantedso what are you waiting for girls? Get to loving yourself!
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Special Thanks
From the deepest part of my heart, I offer my thanks and love to my family and friends. You all have
suported, inspired, grounded, and loved me through all of my highs & lows and goods & bads.
To my dearest fatherThank you for your never ending support, faith, and belief in my dreams and I. Your
wisdom and love has guided and molded me into who I am. Sorry for all the gray hairs along the way.
To my motherfor giving me life, love, and the keys to finding my happiness.
To my amazing brother, whose profound one liners never cease to amaze me. Your heart shines brighter
than the sunI am constantly amazed by you.
To Juanitawho has been a brilliant example of love and care.
To Pamelafor showing me that beauty, grace, and being as fresh as a fucking daisy,
is possible every day of the week.
To my Uncle Chriswho has been a charismatic source of love, laughter, butter, and delicious vino
since day one. As well as, a man that is a brilliant example of love and family.
Lastly, to all my teachers and mentorsthank you for sharing your hard-won knowledge and inspiration.
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