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accrediting the students success with themselves, an internal attribution, and failure with the
students, an external attribution meant to protect the teachers own self-esteem. (Self Esteem
Lecture, Slide 4).
While it seems almost natural that I would defend my self-esteem with external
attributions, what is surprising is the aggressive reaction that accompanied my anger. Even my
parents were surprised that I would ever harm anyone, especially one of my siblings, as I had
always been a relatively passive child. Myers suggests that aggression may be due to heredity
influences [on] the neural systems sensitivity to aggressive cues (Myers, 284); but it could not
have been genetic influences since both my parents have always been relatively passive.
However, now that I know about the link between the media and aggression, I believe
there may have been a reason why I punched my sister. Still surprising is that I believe I know
exactly what television show may have caused my aggression. I explicitly remember an episode
from Arthur where the titular character, a fun-loving, cartoon aardvark, punched his younger
sister for breaking one of his model planes. I loved the show with a passion and even attempted
to emulate the aardvark in my own life. It may have been this vivid scene that induced me to act
upon my aggression by punching my sister. One particular research of Albert Bandura and
Richard Walters is very reminiscent of my own act of violence. The researchers had children
view a clip of an adult kicking and punching a Bobo doll and then examined what children did to
Bobo dolls after the children had been slightly aggravated. Almost all experiments found the
children committing the same heinous acts toward the dolls that they had witnessed the adults do
on the television clip (308). In other words, the children acted out what they saw; likewise, I
behaved the way Arthur did by punching my sister.
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Although from this previous scene it may seem that my sister and I loathe each other,
which we did, we have since grown to love each other. Social psychological research has
explored interpersonal attraction extensively and discovered many of the patterns that lead to
relationships. As such, I now know the reasons why I developed this close relationship with my
sister.
Interpersonal attraction is the result of rewards, similarity, familiarity and physical looks,
although this last feature doesnt really apply in my relationship with my sister. In the last few
years, my sister and I have grown much closer especially due to a system of rewards that we both
unknowingly created; she would defend me whenever I got in trouble by making up excuses or
even taking the blame and I would do the same for her. However, it is not just because she
defended me that I came to love her. Aronson and Linder conducted an experiment to test how
subjects would evaluate a confederate after being subjected to one set of positive or negative
comments followed by another set. The researchers found that the group that rated the
confederate most favorably was composed of the subjects who were initially given negative
comments followed by positive comments. (Interpersonal Attraction Lecture, Slide 4). Perhaps
this is why I have grown closer to my sister as well; she never treated me well to begin with, but
when she started to treat me better, I felt rewarded and readily accepted her acts of kindness as a
sign of friendship.
Over the last few years, my sister and I have also come to share many similarities. For
example, since we both attend Rutgers, many of our conversations have been about classes and
college life in general. Our similarities soon bred many experiences that in turn nurtured the
relationship between us. Theodore Newcomb confirmed the notion that similarity breeds
affection in his study of two groups of 17 male transfer students. After the two groups had lived
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together for 13 weeks, he found that those who became friends at the end of the study initially
shared the most similarities (Myers, 330). The students befriended those who were most similar
with them; likewise I began to befriend my sister as we began to share more common
experiences.
As close as we are now, my sister and I would not have the bond we have now if not for
the many years we have spent together. Familiarity goes a long way in determining the strength
of a relationship. After living under the same roof for so long, I have picked up on all of my
sisters habits. Robert Zajonc theorizes that mere exposure is the explanation for attraction
caused by familiarity. In one experiment, Zajonc flashed a particular set of nonsense words or
symbols before students more frequently than other words and symbols. After repeated
exposure, he asked his students to rate the stimuli on their attractiveness; he found that students
liked the nonsense words and symbols that were shown more often than those shown less often
(317).
As much as I like to think that I am a product of my own will, I cannot deny that the
thoughts and decisions I make are influenced and shaped by societal influences. My self-esteem
remains strong due to all the external attributions I have made in my life. Although I am not as
aggressive as I used to be, media portrayal of violence once brought me to belligerent acts, like
punching my sister. In spite of my fights with my sister, interpersonal attractive factors also
helped create a strong bond with her. I like to think that my life never really had any
explanation; I just went with the flow. However, now I have reasons for everything that I have
ever done and will do.
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Works Cited
Myers, D.F., Exploring Social Psychology, New York, McGraw Hill, 6th ed. 2012
Wilder, D., Interpersonal Attraction Lecture, Rutgers New Brunswick
Wilder, D., Self Esteem Lecture, Rutgers New Brunswick