The Tides

NovemberDecember 2015

Special Events Not to Miss!

Monday, Nov. 2

6:00 PM

Bible Book of the Month

Thursday, Nov 5 &

Dec 3

7:00 PM

Jewish War Veterans

Tuesday, Nov 10

Adult Ed: Conversation

Between the Movements

7:00 PM

Wednesday, Nov 11 &

Dec 2
12:00 PM
Lunch & Learn with
Rabbi Durbin

Thursday, Nov 12
Mah Jongg Tournament
Gift Shop Sale

10:00 AM

Channukah Bazaar

5:30 PM

ECLC Thanksgiving
Performance & Family Event

Saturday, Dec 12

10:00 AM

Talia Lipman Bat Mitzvah

Sunday, Dec. 13
Latke Fest

Mah Jongg Tournament

November 12, 2015
10:00 AM
Gift Shop Sale

Cash Clearance Table

HAVDALAH
IN
PAJAMAS

Saturday
November 21st at
6:00 PM

Monthly
Lunch & Learn

with Rabbi Durbin

Wednesdays, Nov. 11th & Dec. 2nd

Wednesday, Nov 18 thru

Dec. 11

Tuesday, Nov 24

A Member of the Union for Reform Judaism

951 S.E. Monterey Commons Boulevard, Stuart, Florida 34996
(772) 286-1531 www.tbhfl.org Email: info@tbhfl.org

12.00:PM

Come Shop!
CHANUKAH BAZAAR
Wednesday, Nov. 18th thru
Friday, Dec. 11th

LatkeFest

Sunday, Dec. 13th

12:00 PM

From the Rabbi

SCHEDULE OF SERVICES
Friday, November 6
Shabbat Parashat Chayei Sara

7:00 pm

Saturday, November 7
Shabbat Service
Torah Study

9:00 am
9:45 am

Friday, November 13
Shabbat Parashat Toldot

7:00 pm

Saturday, November 14
Shabbat Service
Torah Study

9:00 am
9:45 am

Friday, November 20
Shabbat Parashat Vayetzei

7:00 pm

Saturday, November 21
Shabbat Service
Torah Study

9:00 am
9:45 am

Friday, November 27
Shabbat Parashat Vayishlach
Beach Shabbat

5:30 pm

Saturday, November 28
Shabbat Service
Torah Study

9:00 am
9:45 am

Friday, December 4
Shabbat Parashat Veyeshev

7:00 pm

Saturday, December 5
Shabbat Service
Torah Study

9:00 am
9:45 am

Friday, December 11
Shabbat Parashat Miketz

7:00 pm

Saturday, December 12
Shabbat Service
Torah Study
Talia Lipman Bat Mitzvah

9:00 am
9:45 am
10:00 am

Friday, December 18
Shabbat Parashat Vayigash

7:00 pm

Saturday, December 19
Shabbat Service
Torah Study

9:00 am
9:45 am

Friday, December 25
Shabbat Parashat Vayechi

7:00 pm

Saturday, December 26
Shabbat Service
Torah Study

9:00 am
9:45 am

As winter, or what we can call our cooler

months, is vastly approaching, I find myself
reflecting and appreciating the beauty and serenity of our natural surroundings. As I take
the time each and every morning when I drive
to Temple with my children, traversing over
the Palm City bridge, I find myself constantly
in awe and amazement as I gaze at the water,
the magnificent clouds, the sheer beauty of our environment, I become filled with gratitude and think about Gods wonderful and
beautiful creation. I am reminded of a powerful saying taught by
Rabbi Abraham Joshua Heschel who said, Our goal should be to
live in radical amazement.Get up every morning and look at the
world in a way that takes nothing for granted. Everything is phenomenal; everything is incredible; never treat life casually. To be spiritual
is to be amazed. These words have had a profound impact on how I
view the world. Taking the time to appreciate our natural beauty
which surrounds us, much like Shabbat, allows us the time and the
space to truly admire and take that step back, to rest and reflect, enabling Gods world to penetrate and become an influence in our lives.
Perhaps during this season, as we transition from the autumn to the
winter, may we take the time to absorb Gods creation, to live in a
world which has the potential to surprise and engage us, to appreciate
all that we have and all that we can give, so that we never take for
granted the beauty in our world.
In Hebrew, the word for gratitude is hakarat hatov, literally meaning recognizing the good. Being grateful means recognizing the
good that already exists within us and that surrounds us. I hope that
during these less humid and cooler winter months, we can take the
time to appreciate the good that resides in all of us and the beauty
that surrounds us, never taking for granted the gifts which God has
bestowed upon us. I pray that we can make the winter season warmer
as we begin to appreciate and become grateful for what we have and
our potential for what we can become!
Modeh ani lfanech, melech chai vkaiyam shehechazarta bi nishmati bchemla, rabbah emunatecha.
I offer thanks to You, ever-living Sovereign, that You have restored
my soul to me in mercy; how great is Your trust.
Amen!

From the President

Matthew J. Durbin

Rabbi

I hope you had a meaningful holiday season. November brings members of our community and the Reform movement, the 2015 URJ Biennial. We have a large delegation for a Temple of our size. 20 members
of Temple Beit HaYam will be meeting with over 5000 other Reform
Jews from across North America as we discuss our movement and our
communities and how to meet the needs of our members. I will report
on this in the January/February issue of the Tides.
Making a donation to Temple Beit HaYam in times of joy and sorrow
is an act of righteousness as you are giving Tzedakah. You can place
the donation in any of our funds. I would like to take this opportunity
to describe our various funds:
Adult education
We have some wonderful classes scheduled for this year. By contributing to this fund, you are enabling us to bring even more educational
opportunities, materials, guest speakers, and educators to the membership.
Babysitting Fund
We are trying to provide babysitting during Friday night Shabbat services for those families with very young children. Contributions to this
fund help to offset the cost of providing babysitting, allowing their parents or grandparents to attend services.
Building Fund
These contributions are applied to our HOA fund and are used for
maintaining our building. So far this year we have replaced our air
conditioners on the sanctuary side of the building, painted the sanctuary
side of the building, restored the lobby floor, and professionally
cleaned our bathrooms. There are always repairs and the air conditioners on the school side will need replacement in the coming months.
These donations supplement what the membership contributes each
year.
Caring Community
This committee serves our membership by visiting the sick if asked,
sending cards, supplying packages to seniors during holidays, and supplying members who are sitting Shiva locally with a meal for their families. Contributions to this fund help to pay for these activities.
Robert and Marion Cummings Scholarship fund
This fund is used to supply scholarships to children attending the
ECLC.
.

Beth Pennamacoor
Cantorial Soloist & Education Director
Jonathan P. Kendall
Rabbi Emeritus
Noreen Tolman Temple Administrator
Tammy Kaiser ECLC Director
Marcy Morris Youth Director
Eugene Francis Facility Custodian
Security James Winant
Board of Trustees 5776
Amy Alpert
President
Sandy Crile
VPRitual
Kim Rosen
VPEducation
Jami Chaban
Co-VP Membership
Eileen Stampoulis
Co-VPMembership
Michael Millner
Secretary
Stacy Stoller
Treasurer
Karl Drehobl, M.D.
Chairperson-ECLC
Karen Weisberg
Past President
Jeffrey Chaban Brotherhood President
Joni Winnick Sisterhood President
Jill Lebofsky Youth Comm. Co-Chair
Shelly Halpern Caring Community Co-Chair
Renee Sherman Caring Community Co-Chair
Gary York Fundraising Chair
Lauren Ram Social Action Co-Chair
Jesse Katz Social Action Co-Chair
Trustees
Richard Erth
David Gubernick

Presidents Message Continued from Page 3

ECLC Fund
Contributions to this fund help to maintain our Early Childhood Learning Center
General Fund
These contributions go directly into our Operating account, which pays for the every day operation of the temple. These funds aid us in meeting our budgetary numbers and may help to embellish what we can do for our
membership.
Library Fund
Contributions to this fund allow for the purchase of additional books and software to our wonderful library.

Marvin Mastroff Memorial Fund

Marvin Mastroff was a founding member of our Temple. He loved this community. He and his wife, Elinor,
set up this fund to continue to fund some dedicatory items: menorahs, railings, and words above the ark all are
completed except for the words.
Music Fund
Music is integral to our Shabbat services. Bringing professional musicians in for Shabbat services is expensive. This fund helps us to raise the money we need to bring those wonderful musicians to us.
Prayer Book Fund
Every 10 years or so the URJ releases new prayer books. We purchased the Mishkan Tefilah a few years ago.
600 new High Holiday Prayer books were delivered to us late this summer. This is expensive. This fund allows members to dedicate prayer books in memory of or in honor of loved ones. This helps us to cover the
cost of these books.
Rabbis Discretionary Fund
Rabbi has a fund in which he can provide individual assistance to members of our community and to further
the goals of our community.
Religious School Fund
Our religious school operates in the red, as do most synagogue religious schools throughout the country. Contributing to this fund allows our education director to provide more educational opportunities to our children
and balance the religious school budget.
Religious School Wechsler Scholarship Fund
This is an important fund as we have a number of families who need tuition assistance. We want all of our
children to obtain a Jewish education. We do not turn families away. This fund allows us to provide scholarships to those families, which helps the school to meet its yearly budget.
Torah Restoration Fund
We currently house 5 Torahs in our temple. One is from the Memorial Trust in London. It actually comes
from Czechoslovakia. It needs quite a few repairs to make it Kosher. Due to its fragile state, we do not read
from it. Another is from a synagogue in New York. It, too, is in need of repairs so we do not read from it either. Our Sephardic Torah (in the wood case) needs fewer repairs. Our Massachusetts Torah was repaired by
the Alpert family. Our Sisterhood Torah has also been repaired. This fund allows us to raise the money to
repair the three scrolls mentioned above.

Presidents Message Continued from Page 4

Yahrzeit Fund
This fund is used to memorialize your loved ones. You can direct donations for Yahrzeits to other funds, if
you like.
Youth Group Fund
This fund allows our youth group, BaHTY, to offset the cost of transportation, supplies, and activities.
Youth Leadership Fund
Contributions provide funding for youth participation in national and regional youth activities and leadership
training. We have enabled a number of teens to participate in regional and national programs through this
fund.
Youth Israel Fund
If any of our youth want to go to a program in Israel, they can apply for scholarship help. Contributions to this
fund help those members go to Israel. We have helped a number of teens go to Israel programs over the years.
I will continue to work hard for you this fiscal year and pledge to continue to make Temple Beit HaYam your
Home Away from Home.
We will announce all of our activities via our email blasts, Facebook posts, Tides articles, and temple flyers.
The most up-to-date information will always be found in our emails to you and on the website temple calendar.
So as I say every week, Like us on Facebook, read our email blasts, check out the calendar on our website.

We want Temple Beit HaYam to be your Home away from home. If you dont see an activity or program you
would like, let us know. You can email me at amyalp@bellsouth.net, contact Noreen or a board member and
let us know what you would like. We are here for you.
Come and be part of your community as we meet in Your Home Away from Home.
We are all in this together.
Your President,
Amy Alpert

Religious Education by Cantorial Soloist Beth Pennamacoor

DO YOU KNOW TEMPLE BEIT HAYAM TEACHERS?
I am very happy to be highlighting our teachers in the next few issues of the Tides.
Our teachers are some of the most dedicated people I know. Their longevity and
loyalty to our religious school runs anywhere from 1 to almost 15 years. I dont know
any other congregation in this Palm Beach County/Martin County area that can brag
about that. So, now its time to brag about our teachers.
Tammy Kaiser: Although this is Tammys fir st full year of teaching for the
Religious School, she has taken on the very difficult role of co-teacher of the
Confirmation class with Rabbi Durbin. Whether the students chose to come or the parents didnt give them a
choice, (thank you parents), every time I have walked into their class, they are engaged in discussion or doing
some amazing activity. Here is Tammys bio for you all to see:
Tammy Kaiser was born and raised in Jupiter, FL. She attended the University of South Florida before moving
to Seattle Washington where she became interested in pursuing a career in Jewish Education. Tammy holds a
National Child Development Associate, a Bachelors in Health Services with an emphasis in Management, a
Master of Science in Jewish Education and is currently pursuing her Doctor of Science in Jewish Studies with
an emphasis in Educational Neuroscience. Tammy has served as everything from the Director of Adult Jewish
Learning for the Federation in Seattle to Education Director and Director of Lifelong Learning at two Reform
Synagogues in Washington and New Mexico. She is now happily serving as Director of the Early Childhood
Learning Center at Temple Beit HaYam as well as teaching the Eighth and Ninth grades with Rabbi Durbin.
Seth Weinstein: Seth and his wife, Mar cia (who I will get to later ), have been teaching her e for four
years. Seth has the patience of the proverbial saint. He has had some really challenging classes and has taken
them on and has turned them into some really engaging classes. We are very lucky to have the Weinstein
family drive every week from Vero Beach to be a part of our Temple Family.
Here is Seths bio:
This is my fourth year at TBH, and I've previously taught 7th grade Sunday School last year, 4th Grade Sunday
School/Hebrew School the year before that, and 8th grade post-bar/bat mitzvah classes. I especially enjoy
teaching the 7th grade because the kids are very interactive, participatory and I get to see the learning
progression that each of them has had throughout their Hebrew/Religious school at TBH leading to their bar/
bat-mitzvah, and I admire the job that each of their past teachers have done to progress my class to this point.
Our family's involvement with TBH has been a very positive part of our lives and we thank Rabbi Durbin and
our Cantorial Soloist, Beth for welcoming us and continually making us feel part of the TBH family. My
favorite moments as an educator have been attending the Bar and Bat Mitzvah ceremonies of my students and
seeing their confidence in service leading and moving towards Jewish adulthood.

SAVE THE DATE... ITS TIME TO SHAKE IT UP AGAIN ! ! !

Kids of all ages, families and teachers! Mark your calendars for the the Second Annual TBH Shake It Up
Dance to benefit our Religious School on Saturday night, J anuary 30, 2016! Last year's event was a huge
success and our children (and adults!) had a blast--remember the teachers racing to put on a frozen T-shirt?!
Expect even more fun this time with games, dancing, and music from DJ Chase. There will also be plenty of
opportunity to nosh on pizza and delicious deserts as well as bid on cool auction items such as iTunes and
Learning Express gift cards. And adults, don't forget the coffee bar!! Everyone is welcome so plan to bring
your friends, your grandchildren, your grandparents, and everyone in-between!
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Early Learning Childhood Center by Tammy Kaiser

Illuminating the Holidays by Tammy Kaiser, MSJE
My family and I are Walt Disney World annual passholders. We go a lot. The only time my
family does not relish visiting the House of Mouse is during the December Holidays. As my
youngest son puts it, Its all Christmas with no Jewish except for one Menorah in a window. As annual
passholders, however, we go to WDW in all seasons, including those sporting candy canes and jolly old
men. So, it has become my mission to find the Jewish in all of our seasonal experiences even at Disney
in December.
One of our favorite experiences is the night time show at EPCOT, Illuminations. There are fireworks,
lasers, loud music, and fire. What more could you ask for in entertainment? But what I really love about
this show is the message. The show tells the story of Earth. As Jews we are taught to take care of our
planet. You dont need to be Jewish to know that taking care of the earth is a good thing, but Judaism
underscores this imperative taking care of our planet is not something you should do; it is something
you must do. And, our planet is much more than our little cubbyhole in Florida. Our children are taught
both in the ECLC and in Religious School that even though the Mouse may say its a small world after
all, its really a pretty BIG world with lots of different people, beliefs, and ideas to share.
Eleven countries are represented at EPCOTs World Showcase. During the Illuminations show, guests
stand around a large lagoon ringed by diminutive versions of Mexico, Norway, China, Germany, Italy,
United States, Japan, Morocco, France, United Kingdom and Canada to witness the history of our planet.
There are three parts to the show. In part one, The Earth is Born. Earths fiery birth begins with flames
and fireworks. Beneath a swarm of what Disney refers to as heavenly explosions, red and golden lights
blaze on the waters. As the volcanic effects subside, a glowing globe peacefully glides into view. When I
stand witness to this with my family we talk about beginnings and endings. We agree that sometimes we
dont always know the exact point something begins, but it begins nonetheless.
Part two shows The Triumph of Life as many individual stories culminate in one adventurous tale. The
illuminated surface of the globe reveals the history of humanity and the achievements of our time. In part
three, Hope for the Future, comets of light race into the sky, before the globe blossoms like a lotus
flower, revealing a torch ablaze with the dreams of humanity. Disney does a pretty good job of telling
this compelling story from the unformed beginnings to the hopes and dreams of a people. You know
what else does a good job at telling a similar story? The Torah. See, I found something Jewish in Disney.
As the Early Childhood Learning Center Director, my job is to make the stories of our people relevant
for children. If they are relevant, they will endure. By finding Jewish content in the context of the world
around us, we teach our children that Judaism is everywhere. A house covered in twinkling lights is often
a beautiful expression of a familys celebration of Christmas. It can also be the introduction to a discussion about how different people illuminate their homes, safe places like temples and churches, and even
themselves during the holidays.
You dont have to travel to EPCOT to see Illuminations. You can illuminate right where you are. But if
you happen to be in the neighborhood, I recommend this EPCOT Torah story told in a compelling new
light.

Sisterhood
I would like to start off by extending a heart felt thank you to all the sisters that helped make our High Holiday projects successful. Mindie Newman for the beautiful apples and honey display, Tara Zweben and Zweben Law Group for our Safe Space food drive, Shelly Halpern, Amy Alpert, Noreen Tolman, Natalie Reed,
& Cordelia Marks for the Rosh Hashanah greeting book. A special thank you to Sara Crombie for hosting
our opening meeting, and Stacy Stoller our membership chair. It was and always is fun to catch up with everyone!
If you missed the fantastic Bluegrass & Blue Jeans Shabbat last month with Doni & Eric, make sure to take
note of Sisterhoods two other musical Shabbat dates. On January 15th we are bringing in Shir Appeal, a
Jewish Music A Capella group from Tufts University. Then on April 15th, with the help of the Forrester
family, we are bringing back the popular Sheldon Low!
Our next gift shop sale date is Thursday, November 12th, (the same day as our sold out Mah Jongg tournament!) and the full swing Channukah Bazaar will begin on Sunday November 22nd. Please make sure to give
the Sunday school children some gelt so they can pick out presents for the entire family! Many items will be
drastically reduced so we can begin to bring in some new and exciting merchandise to the gift shop.
Looking forward to 2016, Fashion Show tickets for January 28th are available from any Sisterhood board
member or by filling out the enclosed flyer. The popular Progressive dinner is February 27th, (if you are
willing to host please let us know), and our first Womens Passover Seder is Thursday April 7 th. With Rabbi
Rose leading, it will surely be a meaningful and spiritual evening.
Stronger together,
Joni Winnick
Sisterhood President

TBH Sisterhood Gift Shop is a

wonderful place to shop for all your
Judaic needs. A beautiful selection of
Jewelry, Holiday items, Bar & Bat Mitzvah
supplies and gifts are available. Your
patronage supports our Sisterhood.
Please make a note of the Gift Shop
hours when coming to the Temple to
make purchases.: Monday Thursday
11:002:00, Friday 6:307:00, Sunday
by appointment please call Carol
Ratner at (772) 288-4785 See Bazaar
Flyer.

CALLING ALL NEWLYWEDS AND NEW PARENTS:

Sisterhood would very much like to acknowledge your blessing and provide you with a gift for your
home or little one. Please contact Debbie Robinson at dleepolk@aol.com or 772-463-1822
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Sponsor an

Oneg Sponsors

Oneg Shabbat

September 4th
Sisterhood
September 11th
In honor of Ted & Marcine Komens Anniversary

Celebrate a special Simcha

by sponsoring an Oneg Shabbat!

September 18th
Ronnie Fassberg
In honor of her birthday

Its easy

September 25th
Sisterhood

The Sisterhood can do the catering for you for

a
Donation of $136
or
You can provide the refreshments yourself.
(We will provide you with a list of
needed items.)

October 2nd
The Spivak Family
In honor of their daughters baby naming
The Religious School Kindergarten Class
October 9th
Temple Beit HaYam Breast Cancer Survivors
In honor of all survivors and those lost in battle
Allegro Senior Living

To sponsor an Oneg, please contact one of our

Oneg Schedulers

October 16th
The Religious School Fifth Grade Class

Ronnie Fassberg at rsf917@comcast.net

or 772-219-0289

October 23rd
Sisterhood

Cordelia Marks at cpm604@aol.com

or 772-229-7967

House of Hope
Your Help Is Needed!
House of Hope, our only Martin County based food bank, is struggling to keep up with the increased
demand for assistance and food for residents of our county. The organization, which has been in existence here for 26 years, was able to keep up with the soaring need last year due to a grant from
the federal government. The expiration of that funding coupled with the staggering increase in requests for assistance has created a crisis for the agency and the population it serves. They are desperately in need of food NOW, because most food drives do not start until November. They
also provide food to the Boys and Girls Club, because many of the children who receive the school
Lunch program do not get adequate meals at home on weekends.
The food banks greatest needs right now are:
RICE, CANNED FRUIT, BEANS,
TUNA, MAC & CHEESE
They also need SHAMPOO, SOAP, TOOTHPASTE and DISH SOAP because these items are not
covered by food stamps. Please note that items in glass containers cannot be accepted. If you are
able to help, baskets for this collection are located in the Reception Gallery. This is an ongoing project. THANK YOU FOR YOUR CONTINUED SUPPORT!
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Announcement
Baby Naming for Lielle Sarah, daughter of Kytia & David
Spivak took place on October 2, 2015 in the Temple Sanctuary
during Simchat Torah. It was also very special because it was
her fathers birthday and her parents anniversary. Lielle was
born on Sept. 18, 2015 and weighed 5 lbs. 13 oz.
Congratulations to the Spivak Family and best of luck!

Welcome to our Newest Members

Leonard Chumsky
Port Saint Lucie

Howard Sodokoff
Palm City

Lara Fix
Stuart

Terri & Bob Spector

Palm City

Sharda and Ken Gorin

Palm City

Deborah & Dan Theberge

Palm City

Kristin and Bryan Grunbaum

Jensen Beach

Lisa & James Tredwell

Port Saint Lucie

Elmer Marlin
Palm City

Diana Vardian
Stuart

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BaHty News

Bnei Mitzvah
Talia Lipman will be called to the Tor ah on the occasion of her Bat
Mitzvah on December 12 2015. Talia is the daughter of Avron Lipschitz,
MD and Joanne Snodgrass both South African immigrants. She was
born in Dallas, Texas, lived in Baltimore, Maryland and settled in Stuart,
Florida with her family. Talia is a 7th grade student at Hidden Oaks
Middle School in Palm City Florida. Her Bat Mitzvah project included
volunteering in an underprivileged preschool in the township of Diepsloot one hour outside Johannesburg South Africa over her summer
vacation. She loves travelling with her family, swimming and performing at Star Struck Performing Art School Theatre Company and has won numerous local academic awards.
An Honor roll student and talented young writer, she has won the local Reflections writing contest for 4
years running and the photography contest in 2014. She was also regional finalist in the Martin County
spelling B in 2013. Talia is a great cook and loves baking and cooking, making elaborate dinners for her
friends and family. She loves diving and snorkeling in the ocean. Talia has a strong sense of responsibility
and community and is passionate about helping young children. She is interested in pursuing a career in
healthcare as either a surgeon or pediatrician.
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Caring
Committee-CC
We (Co-Chairs Shelly Halpern and Renee Sherman with Elinor Mastroff and Heddy Shenfield)
had a Happy New Year and enjoyed our visits to the neighboring assisted living facilities, nursing
homes and home bound with Rabbi Durbin. We provided forty-two High Holiday gift bags filled
with a lovely plant purchased from Harbor Bay Florist, a plug-in yahrzeit candle, purchased
through our gift shop, a Jewish calendar, a decorated rock to enhance their new plant was provided by our teens under the guidance of Marcy Morris. A card with prayers, a holiday card created by the ECLC children and a holiday card from the Caring Committee were also included in the
gift bags which were handed to Jewish residents and patients. It is heartwarming to, again, receive the response and welcome from the residents and patients when we visit. They are grateful
for the company and to know that the TBH Jewish community cares about them.
Thank you to Roseann Conrad for helping Shelly put the gift bags together. Thank you to Linda
Oliver and her staff at Harbor Bay Florist for re-potting the flowers and taking care of them in between visits. Thank you to Marcy Morris and teens and Tammy Kaiser and ECLC students.
Special thanks to the staff members of the facilities for their hospitality and appreciation of our
celebrating the holidays with the Jewish residents. They are always eager for us to visit and give
their residents and patients the spiritual fulfillment and the knowledge that the Jewish community
Cares. We visited the following facilities in Stuart: Allegro Senior Living, Parkway, The Place of
Stuart; Ocean Palms, Martin Nursing, Stuart Nursing, Stuart Lodge; in Palm City: Sandhill Cove
and Palm City Nursing; Hobe Sound: The Manors of Hobe Sound and Pine Grove Manors; Port
St. Lucie: The Gardens at Port St. Lucie and various residences.
We are looking forward to bringing joy on Hanukah to all our family members at the above facilities. If you have a relative at a local facility that is not mentioned above, and you would like us to
visit them, please contact us.
Co-chairs contact information:
Shelly Halpern
(561) 629-3792
telshel66@gmail.com

Renee Sherman
(772) 214-7803
renees81@comcast.net

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Ritual Committee
by Sandy Crile

High Holy Days: Once again, the overwhelming response to our High Holiday services has
been extremely positive. Many thanks to all those who worked so tirelessly to make it all happen,
especially Rabbi Durbin, Cantor Beth Pennamacoor, Peter Jones and Noreen Tolman. Thanks also
to the countless people working as individuals and in committees who went that extra mile. I would
like to give a special thanks to my Ritual Committee members for all their efforts over such a long
period of time.
High Holiday Machzorim: Next years High Holiday season promises to be a great new adventure for us. We will be able to use the new prayer books. In many respects they are patterned
after the Siddurim we use throughout the remainder of the year. The Hebrew will be accompanied
by transliterations. The books will contain our traditional prayers and translations, along with many
beautiful writings. Look for a flyer inserted in this Tides for information on the books and how you
can sponsor a set.
Saturday morning Shabbat Services and Torah Study: We encourage you to come on a Saturday morning to worship and study with us in a cozy and relaxed atmosphere. Services start at
9:00 am, and Torah Study starts around 9:45 am. Feel free to join us for one or both activities.
Please check the Temple calendar (in the Tides, or on the website) before coming, as the schedule
changes when there are morning Bar/Bat Mitzvah services.
Our Torah Scrolls: Over the life of our congregation, we have been blessed with five Torah
scrolls, beginning with our Czech scroll via the Memorial Trust, and culminating with a beautiful
scroll we affectionately refer to as the Alpert Family Torah, or the Massachusetts Torah. We have
evaluations and appraisals on all of them completed by Sofer on Site, based in Miami. If anyone is
interested in learning more about our Toratot, email me (address is in the directory) and I will send
you the information.
Calling all Volunteer Musicians: We are still looking for congregants who play keyboard or
guitar, to accompany Cantor Beth once or twice a month. The more musicians who come forward,
the less often anyone would need to play at a service. Cantor Beth will happily provide you with music and ample rehearsal time with her. What a great opportunity to shake the dust off your old keyboards and guitars and have some fun with your fellow talented congregants! Call me or Cantor
Beth if you might be interested or want more information.

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Bible Book of the Month

by Gisela Landwersiek
Many of us at Temple Beit HaYam attend the weekly Torah study. Each year, we read through the first five
books of the bible, Genesis, Exodus, Leviticus, Numbers, and Deuteronomy. But have you ever wondered
what happens after Deuteronomy? Well, thats where BBMC comes in!
We want to know the rest of the story so we are reading through the bible together! Weve learned how Joshua and the Israelites conquered Canaan and about the judges, like Samson, who ruled before the monarchy.
We learned about the good kings like David, and the really bad kings like Ahab.
We are currently reading and discussing the chapter of Jonah. We have been learning that many sections of
our weekly prayers come straight from the prophets.
If you would like to join us, no experience necessary! We meet on the first Monday of each month at 6:00
PM, in the temple libr ar y. Questions, call me at 772-233-0856 or email me at giselleland@comcast.net.
Come read the rest of our the story!

Thanksgiving & Judaism

by Howard Kantrowitz
We all know Thanksgiving is a uniquely American non-religious holiday. Thanksgiving was brought to us by the Pilgrims. But who were
the Pilgrims? Thanksgiving came to America from people fleeing
religious persecution. Sound familiar? Can a 400 year old Christian
sect really have a connection with Judaism?
We all know Thanksgiving is a uniquely American non-religious holiday. Thanksgiving was brought to us
by the Pilgrims. But who were the Pilgrims? Thanksgiving came to America from people fleeing religious
persecution. Sound familiar? Can a 400 year old Christian sect really have a connection with Judaism?
At the time of the Pilgrims, no Jews lived in England (they were expelled hundreds of years earlier). The Pilgrims faith led them to reject the authority of the Church of England, (heresy according to the Church and
treason according to the Crown). For this heresy the Pilgrims were persecuted, imprisoned and tortured.
With no Jews around, they had to abuse someone. In 1608, the Pilgrims fled England for Holland, which at
the time was a safe haven for religious minorities.
In Holland, the Pilgrim exiles had their first contacts with Jews. When they first arrived in Holland they held
their worship services in an Amsterdam synagogue. They saw parallels between themselves and the Jewish
Biblical experience. They believed that they were fleeing Pharaoh (King James I), crossing the Sea (Atlantic
Ocean) on a pilgrimage towards the Promised Land (the New World).
The early Pilgrim leaders became students of the Hebrew language so that they could read the Bible in its
original language. The legal codes and early government structure of the Plymouth Colony were based on
rules from Torah. They held their worship services in a "Meeting House," (Bet Knesset), rather than using
the term church.
The first Thanksgiving celebrated by the Pilgrims in the fall of 1621, was inspired by the harvest festival of
Sukkot. So while enjoying your non-religious festive meal this year, think of the Jewish influence that led to
it all.
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On Your Birthday!
November
Marian Gold
Ray Bergman
Daniel Levy
Eric Berkowitz
Cara Tenore
Maurice Winnick
LeeAnn Lester
Noreen Tolman
Bruce Nathan
Ira Pearlstine
Debbie Millner
Debbie Harvey
Toree Goldstein
Allan Gerber
David Gubernick
Robert Levin
Barry Ginsburg
Gayle Sokoloff
Marianne Brown
Felice Samuel
Stephen Kowel

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Genevieve Napolitano
Rebecca Kozlov
Judy Viny
Janis Kowel
Eileen Stampoulis
Jill Kantrowitz
Mindie Newman
Lisa Miskanic

Arlette Cataldo
Arlene Wettenstein
Allen Keidong
Mimi Levine
Mary Kaye Collins
Jean Marie Pintus
Margaret Slobasky
Helen Saltzman
Eli Wettenstein
Jeffry Gillman
James Arthur
Robert Makemson
Alan Forst
Michael Millner
Ilene Lesin
Barbara Berns
Scott Hoffman
Norma Erth
Harriet Wendell
Debbie Diamond
Stephanie Drabin

On Your Anniversary!

November
Linda & Lawrence Oliver
Rita & Leon Wolper
Cara Tenore & Barry Steinholtz
Jessica & Jason Berger
Jacquelin & Martin Austin
Myrna & Richard Benett
Mindie & Paul Newman
Genevieve & Michael Bonan
Michelle & Eric Katzman
Lisa & Michael Zitner
Lori & Steven Levin
Marilyn & Fredrick Simon
Jo & Alex Moskovic
Carole Million &
Arthur Moonshine
Toni & Fredrick Werblow
Debbie & Wayne Diamond
Holly & Jeffrey Bergman
Joan & Murray Burton
Heather & David Rodin
Nicole & Shaun MacKenzie

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Bruce Gopman
Tammy Kaiser
Elaine Sandow
Olga Drucker
Alan Kohn

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Jennifer & Michael Katz
Jill Kirschenbaum &
Edgar Martinez
Jill & Howard Kantrowitz
Theresa & Andrew Gallant
Michele & David Jacobs
Marlene & Daniel Suls
Felice & Gregory Firestone
Carla & David Gubernick
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Making a donation to Temple Beit HaYam in times

of joy, in times of sorrow, to celebrate anniversaries,
birthdays and just because, is the Jewish way. Why
buy another tchotchke a perennial dust collector
when you can perform an act of righteousness by
giving tzedakah to a fund that best matches the
recipient? Take a look below, and consider the
various options the next time you want to express
yourself in the most meaningful way!
Adult Education Fund helps cover the expense of
providing guest speakers and educators.
Babysitting Fund helps to offset the expense of
babysitting on Friday nights provided by the Temple.

Building Fund helps in maintaining our Temple

building.

Caring Community Fund provides meals to Jewish

nursing home residents at the holidays and to ill
congregants and other such mitzvoth.

Robert and Marion Cummings Scholarship

Fund collecting funds to provide scholarships for Early
Childhood Learning Center students.

ECLC Fund collecting funds to maintain a Jewish Early

Childhood Learning Center serving Martin County.

General Fund the operating fund that supports

everything the congregation does.

Library Fund provides funding to increase

holdings.

Marvin Mastroff Memorial Fundprovides funding for

special dedicatory items and projects.
Music Fund to help make it possible for the Temple to
invite more well-known musicians for services.

Prayer Book Fund dedication of prayer books in

honor or memory of someone.

Rabbis Discretionary Fund allows the Rabbi to

Donations to the Building Maintenance Fund (HOA)

In memory of Arline Pearlstine
In memory of David Greene
Amy Alpert & Karl Drehobl

Donations to the Caring Community Fund

In memory of Anna Winocur
Mrs. Barbara Auslander
In honor of Joan Burtons Birthday
In honor of Karl Drehobls Birthday
In honor of Stephanie Rozanskys Birthday
Jeff & Shelly Halpern
In honor of Barbara Tallerings Birthday
Dan & Marlene Suls

Donations to the General Fund

In appreciation of Temple Beit HaYam
Arnold & Ruth Simon
In memory of Arline Pearlstine
Gayle Sokoloff

Donations to the Marvin Mastroff Memorial Fund

In memory of Michael Baron
In memory of David Greene
In memory of Arline Pearlstine
In memory of Marty Shane
Elinore Mastroff
In memory of Arline Pearlstine
Donald Matlin and Cordelia Marks

Donations to the Rabbis Discretionary Fund

provide individual assistance and to further the goals of our

congregational community.

In memory of Robert Skip Tash

Nancy Shaplin

Religious School Fund provide for our education

In memory of Arline Pearlstine

Susan Wertheim

programs.

Religious School Wechsler Scholarship Fund

provides funds to families in need of tuition assistance.

Torah Restoration Fund provides funds to restore

our Torah scrolls.
Yahrzeit Fund a special place to memorialize your
loved ones.

Youth Group Fund provides funding for youth

group activities and programs.

Youth Leadership Fund provides funding for youth

participation in national and regional youth activities and
training sessions.
Youth Israel Fund provides funding for our youth to
participate in recognized youth Israel programs.

In appreciation of Rabbinic Services

Mr. & Mrs. Donald Bressler
Craig & Sara Crombie
Helen Desman
Jay & Michelle Hansen
Mr. & Mrs. Jerrold Kaplan
Howard Sodokoff

Donations to the Religious School Fund

In memory of David Greene
In memory of Arline Pearlstine
Ronnie Fassberg

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In honor of the birth of Ethan Daniel Cotler

Dan & Marlene Suls

What to Wear to the Temple

To the 5776 Confirmation Class

Marc & Robin Levine

Prospective members and guests at Temple

Beit HaYam often ask how they are supposed
to dress for our services. Our long-time
members know that the atmosphere in our
sanctuary is wonderfully relaxed. Nobody
comes to our services in order to show off
their fancy attire or to scope out what others
are wearing.

Leaves Purchased for the Tom P. Frenkel Memorial

Tree of Life
In honor of Jeffrey Chabans Birthday
Fred & Marilyn Simon

Donations to the Yahrzeit Fund

Name of Donor:..In memory of:

Still, we do have standards for making our

services a time of holy gathering and for
having appropriate respect for the community
as a whole. It makes sense to help
newcomers know what to expect.

Martin & Jaqueline Austin...Heidi Austin

Jean Cutler...Andrew Cutler
Helen Desman.Jacob Wasserman
Herbert Desman
Jay & Michelle Hansen..Donnah WInger

We ask that, when you come to the Temple

on Friday nights, you dress for a religious
service. Many people wear their neat
weekend clothes for services. On special
occasions, such as the High Holidays or at
the celebration of a Bar or Bat mitzvah,
people do dress a bit more formally jackets
are appropriate for men; dresses, skirts or
pant suits for women.

The preceding reflect the donations from August 15,

2015 to October 10, 2015. We apologize for any errors
or omissions.

House of Hope
Your Help Is Needed!

We respectfully request that clothing be

appropriately modest. If you are attending a
Bar or Bat mitzvah celebration, dress for the
service, not for the reception that follows.
Bare shoulders, tee shirts, short shorts, and
revealing necklines might be okay at a party,
but not in the Temple.

House of Hope, our only Martin County based

food bank, is struggling to keep up with the increased demand for assistance and food for
residents of our county. The organization,
which has been in existence here for 26 years,
was able to keep up with the soaring need last
year due to a grant from the federal government. The expiration of that funding coupled
with the staggering increase in requests
for assistance has created a crisis for the agency and the population it serves. They are desperately in need of food NOW, because
most food drives do not start until November.
They also provide food to the Boys and Girls
Club, because many of the children who receive the school Lunch program do not get adequate meals at home on weekends.
The food banks greatest needs right now are:
RICE, CANNED FRUIT, BEANS,
TUNA, MAC & CHEESE
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Rabbi's Discretionary Fund

The Rabbi's Discretionary Fund is a fund of
the Temple that is controlled by the Rabbi.
Donations to the Discretionary Fund are taxdeductible. It is customary for Temple
members and others to make donations to
the Fund in honor of special occasions or to
express appreciation for the Rabbi's
leadership, especially after a lifecycle event
such as a baby-naming, bar/bat mitzvah,
wedding, funeral or unveiling.

Wanted
WE NEED YOU!
We need Musicians. Do you play the guitar?
Please audition for us. We NEED YOU!
Please contact , the temple office (772) 2861531.

TBH Sisterhood Gift Shop is a wonderful

place to shop for all your Judaic needs. A
beautiful selection of Jewelry, Holiday items,
Bar & Bat Mitzvah supplies and gifts are
available.
Your patronage supports our
Sisterhood. Please make a note of the Gift
Shop hours when coming to the Temple to
make purchases:
Monday-Thursday 12:00 - 2:00pm
Friday 6:307:00, Sunday By Appointment.
Or please call Carol Ratner (772) 288-4785.
THANK YOU!

The Rabbi is authorized to use the fund to

bring speakers and other educational
programs to the Temple, to provide financial
assistance for people to attend Jewish
programs, to give emergency aid to people in
need, to visit Temple youth at summer camp
and college, to make donations to non-profit
organizations (including the Temple), and for
other purposes consistent with the Temple's
mission. The Fund may not be used for the
personal benefit of the Rabbi and his family.
If you have any questions concerning the
Rabbi's Discretionary Fund, please contact
the Temple office.

Richard A. Krathen, MD
Dermatology Associates of the Palm Beaches

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Skin Diseases, Aging Skin & Skin Cancer
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For more information
Contact the Temple Office
772-286-1531

Call 772-403-2227 for Appointments

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Martin County

Board Certified in Dermatology

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Advertise in the Tides

Published and distributed bi-monthly.
For rates and information contact
Noreen Tolman at 772-286-1531
Email your ads to : info@tbhfl.org

Tides Deadlines
September October deadline August 1
November-December deadline October 1
January-February deadline December 1
March-April deadline February 1
May-June deadline April 1
July-August deadline June 1
Email your articles to:
Dana Simmons at
volunteer@tbhfl.org

Souper Sunday
Did you know that Temple Beit HaYam
congregants work together at a soup
kitchen in Palm City one Sunday a month?
Adults and children 14 and older can
volunteer. It is a rewarding experience,
helping those who need it the most.
If you are interested in helping at our
Souper Sundays, contact Lauren Ram who
keeps the database of volunteers and job
assignments.
Laurens email address is:
ramdr@bellsouth.net
The next dates are :
Sunday, November 8th and December
13th, 2015.
The group is in need of volunteers.

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ADDRESS SERVICE REQUESTED

Let Us Know When You or a Loved One is in the Hospital

The Rabbi is happy to visit you in the hospital or call on you if you are ill, but he
needs to hear that news directly from you or a family member. Since the passage of
the Federal Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act (HIPAA) in
1996, clergy are not notified of the hospitalization of a congregant unless the patient
specifically requests that notification. So, please, tell the Rabbi or the Temple office
of a hospitalization so we can provide support to you during a difficult time.
Mi Shebeirach Information
If you would like the prayer for healing recited on behalf of an individual, please call
Noreen at the Temple office by Friday 10:00 a.m. Names provided will appear once
in the following Shabbat service bulletin unless otherwise requested.
Having a Program, Function or Event at TBH?
So that your event runs smoothly, please remember to check our Temple Community
Calendar with Noreen and to complete an Activity Request/Facility Usage Form.
This way we can be sure that there are no scheduling conflicts and set-up will be just
the way you want it for using the Social Hall, Reception Gallery, Courtyard or Library.
This is required for all functions, even TBH programs! Temple business hours are
Mon, Tues, Thurs 10-3, Weds 10-6 and F 10-3. Closed 12-1 PM daily.

Parking Reminder
If you are attending a meeting or event during the weekday work hours and the
Temple parking lot is full, you may park either in the back of the Blake Library
parking lot and walk through to the Temple or park in the lot at the Corsair Building
across the street. Please do not use the lots for other businesses in Monterey
Commons, and please do not park in the reserved spaces or driveway. We appreciate you
passing this information along to your non-member friends.
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