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Active Listening
The secret of great communicators!
Credits:
Mentorboka
By Thor Erik Gulliksen` - http://www.mentorblogg.com
Chinese signs
http://blog.nciku.com/blog/en/
Course Outline
SUMMARY
Active Listening
The secret of great communicators!
Communication is key. We all focus on telling our own story, and we focus so hard
doing that one thing that we forget to listen to what the other part has to say. And
we miss the target with our message more often than we hit.
By using active listening in your conversations, not only will you be able to
understand the other part better, you will also be able to adopt and adjust your
own message to better hit a home run when you start talking. No matter if you are
selling something, talking with your wife or kids, managing a team or looking for
sponsors for your next JCI event applying active listening will get you the results
you want.
OBJECTIVES
MAIN POINTS
LENGTH
PARTICIPANTS
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Introduction
Active listening principles
What affects listening
Powerful questions?
Summary
Three hour training: Minimum time required: 120 min, maximum time needed: 180
min
Minimum required: 6 maximum allowed: 60
EQUIPMENT
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MATERIALS
1. Participants Handout
2. PowerPoint slides
3. Trainers Guide
ROOM LAYOUT
open minded
actively participating
focusing on the task at hand
trying your best
By acting like this, we all will get the most of this training, and we will be
creating a learning environment where all of us will gain the most possible.
T: The listener shall say nothing; make no sound what so ever, only focus on
the message.
At the end of the exercise, facilitate a discussion, asking these kinds of
questions:
You should prepare some samples of each area, preferably based upon your
own experience. Examples may be:
Body Language: imagine a child asking for candy. Notice how she nods
her head while asking Can I have some candy, please?
Mental state: Consider the different way you communicate with someone if
you are late, tired and stressed out, compared to having no rush and being
in full control of the situation.
Exercise [30 minutes]
It is time to practice what we have learned. Please instruct the participants to
use the same pairs, and to put their chairs together so that the front left leg of
one chair touches the front leg of the other so the participants are facing
towards each other, with their legs and body to the left of the other.
T: The reason we choose to sit like this is to enable you to sit close, without
being in each others personal space. As a bonus, you are now able to see
the whole body of the other party, enabling you to read the full message.
Instructions:
There will be one listener, and one talker in each group. This time, the
listener is allowed to interact, mimicking and asking questions, as well as
making comments.
T: The most important is to pay attention to the body language (how does it
enforce the message?), the tone of voice (does it change as the story goes
on?), the words used (are they adapted to the level of the listener and the
story?) and the mental state of the talker (this room may be disturbing,
causing stress).
After ten minutes, the roles will be changed. (NOTE TO TRAINER: You need
to time this, and tell them when to change).
The groups are free to talk about anything. The purpose of this exercise is to
let the participants experience by them selves how important it is to pay full
attention to the talker, and to show that we do this unconsciously all the time.
The idea is to become aware of how we read other people, and start to
understand how this enhances the message.
When the exercise is over, facilitate a group discussion where you focus on
their learning experience. Let the participants share their knowledge, look for
acknowledgements from other participants (they will nod, smile or raise their
hands too), and ask them to contribute to the sharing too.
Remember to thank each participant for sharing, as this increases the
likelihood of others to share too.
Use questions like:
Subject complexity
The complexity affects the communication if the topic is easy to
understand, and all parties know it, the communication is easy. If one
part is an expert in nuclear power stations, and try to explain how power
is generated to someone with no knowledge at all, the task may be very
difficult indeed.
The speaker
The speaker himself affects the listener. Language, cultural background,
interest, personality will all influence how the message is received.
Environment
The environment where the communication is taking place is vital too. A
romantic talk can be a challenge to conduct in a disco
The presentation
How the speaker chooses to present the message is also vital to the
listener. If the topic is complex, and the speaker does not use any visual
aids, it can be hard to get the full message.
Discussion
The purpose of this discussion is to show what influences the message
both from the sender side, and during the transmission. It is important to
cover how all four elements impact the message.
As an active listener, it is vital to understand how a message is influenced.
Ask participants for examples from each of the four areas that affect the
active listener.
The trainer should also prepare at least two examples from each area, in
case the participants are not ready to share their own examples at this point.
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Open Questions
An open question can be defined as:
An open question is likely to receive a long answer.
Although any question can receive a long answer, open questions
deliberately seek longer answers, and are the opposite of closed questions.
Using open questions
Open questions have the following characteristics:
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Summary [5 minutes]
T: This training is now almost at its end. Let us quickly review what we
have covered today!
T: In this training we have learned that active listening is about full attention
and focus.
Only by using active listening can we really understand what the other party
is saying.
The Chinese have known this for centuries, thus their word listening is made
by Ear, Eye and Heart.
Use open and neutral questions; listen to the other party, including tone of
voice, body language, the situation and environment.
Be non-judgmental and have an open mind.
Restate the message in your own words to control that what you hear is what
the other is actually saying.
Practice! Only practicing makes master! You can do this in many different
settings:
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Family
Sales
Leader
Friends
Networking
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