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PICKUP IS
*DEAD*
The Alpha
MANifesto
______________
Transform Yourself
Into the Genuine,
Confident, Successful
Man Every
Quality Woman Wants...
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This ebook is LONG overdue.
For the last 3 or 4 years, being a pickup artist has been all the rage.
Interestingly enough, Ive never considered myself a pickup artist. I
dont even have a clever call-sign to give me a false sense of
importance or coolness.

Pickup is
DEAD...
Long Live the
NEW Order of
Men Who
Know How to
BE Attractive.
Not just fake
it.

Although, I seriously thought about using McLovin.


Men everywhere had been searching for an effective way to attract
women. Some guys knew how this Art of Attraction worked; some
didnt.
But now weve reached a new time and a new understanding of what
it takes to attract and keep a woman.
(In every single seminar and bootcamp Ive taught, over 90% of the
guys wanted a single relationship with an attractive woman. NOT a
revolving door of one night stands.)

Manifesto - Noun
manifesto (plural manifestos or
manifestoes)
1.A public declaration of principles,
policies, or intentions

Famous Manifestoes:
!

The United States Declaration of Independence (1776)

The Cartagena Manifesto (1812), by Simn Bolvar

The Hacker's Manifesto (1986), By The Mentor aka Loyd Blankenship

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This report that youre about to read is going to blow the lid off the
secret society of pickup artists. Perhaps even more than my friend
Neil Strauss book did.
If youve been searching for a REAL answer to the question How
can I attract more women into my life? then hold on, because this
book will change the way you look at women, dating, practicing
pickup and may even change the way you look at your life.

YOUR Reality.
Define it
however you
want to.
And GET
REAL in the
process.

If youre scared of having your reality rocked, this isnt the book
youre looking for. Just close the file and move on to some other
clever list of opening lines or routines.
But if youre looking for
more than drunk makeout
sessions in a bar or club
with a woman you cant
quite see through the
smoke or hear through the
noise, then youre about to
learn the R.E.A.L. Art of
Attraction that most guys
will never hear about,
much less learn.
The first 90% of this book is hardcore content and pure gold, and the
rest is openhanded self-serving on my part. I want you to really GET
this information in a way that few others have.
And Im willing to use some unconventional methods to do it - but Ill
always be 100% honorable and authentic with you in the process.
Pardon my French, but this is no bullshit - and no hype. I dont have
time for that obnoxious sales stuff, and neither do you.
I intend to only give you the Truth in this book - straight from my
heart.

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I had a lot of guys write to me and tell me that they felt the information
Im giving away in this ebook would do one (or more) of several
things:
Infuriate the other pickup gurus out there...
Put everyone in this field out of business when they
discovered what Im about to reveal...

The things I
thought but
could not
say...

... until NOW.

Make me out to be a crackpot loony with delusions


of grandeur...
Well, maybe it will do one of those, or all of them... or NONE of them.
Im not really concerned about that. This is important information you
need to have, and I want to help you before you fall victim to some
incredibly addictive and enticing traps out there.
I feel like Tom Cruises character in Jerry Maguire, watching what was
going on around him and having to finally scream ENOUGH!
I pretty much did the same thing he did, too. I stayed up over the
course of several nights and poured my heart into this book.
In fact, Im even thinking of that famous line from the movie (no, the
other line from that movie): The things we think but do not say...
Its high time this was said...
Your friend,

http://www.CarlosXuma.com

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PS: I made this book as short as it would let me. Meaning that when I
get started, its tough to stop me - especially when its a topic I know
as well as I do this one. So Im not going to waste your time or insult
your intelligence.
If you think I have, then email me or call me at the contact info Im
going to give you later in the report.

Unlike
Morpheus, I
have no Blue
Pill for you.

Im here to tell you what you need to hear, not fantasy nonsense
about women flocking to you like a rock star because youre wearing
a top hat and goggles.
Now lets get your red pill so you can unplug from this NEW matrix
called pickup and get plugged into a reality that YOU choose.

Sometimes
we dont need
a choice.

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Wait... Close this book right now.
Stop. I want you forget you saw this book. Its far too risky for you to
shake things up at this point.
Close this file and delete it. Please. Just throw it in your trash now
and forget you even saw it.
No, really. Get rid of it.
Huh?
Youre still here?
Hmmm. Well, I guess Ill continue, but I really hope youll see the light
and stay like everyone else. Please. I dont want to start a revolution.
Cmon, really man. Just close this book and let this silly notion go. Its
easier to not change. Its easier to just stay the same old person and
live your life in ignorant bliss.
Close this document and trash it. Ill refund you the money.
WHAT???!!
You still havent heeded my warning...?
EXCELLENT!
You ARE the right kind of guy.
Youre not a quitter. No one ever made a statue for or celebrated a
quitter.
All right. Lets get this thing started.
Ill start by telling you something you think you already know...

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Its Not Just About Getting Laid, Is It?
Its 4:00 AM, and Im laying next to my girlfriend in bed. Shes a very
beautiful Asian woman, and she fills my every need.
And it took me over ten years to get her.

10 years is
better than
NEVER, right?

No, I dont mean that I got her by appearing on her doorstep every
week bringing her flowers and candies.
I didnt do it by sending her poems and desperate pleas to be my
woman. I didnt do it by acting like a cartoon character wimp from a
sitcom on television. I didnt do it by buying her expensive gifts or
flaunting wealth.
I did it by being me.
Not the me that I was many years
ago, mind you. Not the un-refined
me that I once used to repel women
in the past.
It also wasnt the pickup artist
version of me that I used to attract
women in bars in clubs just a few
short years ago.
I did this by being a Man.
A REAL man with modern masculinity that is authentic and attractive
to women.
And it really didnt take me 10 years to get HER, per se, but it took
that long for me to create the Alpha Lifestyle that would draw her in
and make her mine.
(It will take you a LOT less time than it did me if you read this and
heed my words.)

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And its my objective here to tell you more about how you can do this
on your own, with no bootcamps and no top hats or fake it til you
make it mind games.
Over 90% of the guys in my bootcamps and seminars want a single
lasting relationship with one woman.
ONE woman.

QUALITY is
something
most guys
define by the
size of her
boobs, the
cuteness of
her tush, and
the speed
with which he
can sleep with
her.
Or cant sleep
with her...

And when you talk to them, they all agree that its not about getting
laid, really.
Yeah, we all want sex - even women want it (and more than you can
imagine) - but in the end were all looking for a lasting relationship.
And almost all of these guys I talked to wanted a QUALITY woman.
Now since quality is a subjective term, Ill come back to that in a
while.
The important thing to come away with here is that going after women
is not really about getting laid. Most guys know this, yet we chase
the quick lay promises because they appeal to our most primitive
part of our mind.
I want to show you a way that you can get the women, the sex, the
relationship - and the LIFESTYLE you desire.
And you wont have to wear ridiculous clothes and play head games
to get it all.
Ill warn you now, this book is as wild and diverse as my mind.
As a result, youre going to read a lot of interesting things in these
pages, so hang on and let me tell you...

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A Story You Might Relate To...
Keith is a good friend of mine. Keith used to be
something of a pickup artist. He was a decent
enough looking guy, and in his late twenties.
This is NOT
Keith.

He had a decent job that afforded him the


flexibility to go after whatever he wanted to do. If
he wanted to take a break in the middle of the day
to go rock climbing, he could.
He had a cool dog and a cool Subaru that could
get him where he wanted to go.
Yes, he even had a lot of issues in life growing up
(as we all have.) He wasnt perfect.
And then he found the community.
Another clever way of saying he found this secret society of pickup
artists and all the information there was to be had on the techniques
and skills of the seducer.
He read Ross Jeffries stuff. He read David Ds stuff. He read my
stuff. Lances stuff. Grants stuff. Mysterys stuff...
You name it, and he had it. He invested thousands of dollars and
hours into the fascinating pursuit of the Holy Grail for the modern
man: The ability to approach and attract women with the goal of
getting sexually intimate with as many women as he could.
Isnt that what we men want to validate our virility? The ability to just
go out anywhere, anytime, and get a woman that will find us
interesting and sexually appealing?
Well, yes...
Sorta.

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Let me keep going with Keiths story a bit longer...
Keith went to bootcamps and seminars. He learned the routines and
the openers.
Openers are the specific words that other pickup
artists used to hook the interest of women.

Do you ever
feel like
something is
missing?

He learned the classic responses to a womans shit tests.


These are the specific words you use to respond to
a woman who is testing your confidence and
masculinity by trying to trick you.
Keith learned how to apply kino and manage his body language.

Is there some
kind of
Da Vinci code
for the
Game?

Kino is another way of saying kinesthetics meaning the science of touch between people, and
how to use it to build attraction.
He was even introduced to the concept of Inner Game along the
way.
Inner game is the internal dialogue were having in
our head, and is often directly connected to a mans
confidence.
Keith got just about every bit of information he needed...
But something was still missing.
He and I would talk over various philosophical elements when we
would meet up and snowboard in Tahoe. We were on a lift, and he
asked me:
So how do I put all this stuff I learned together into something I can
use?

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I always hesitate here, primarily because its a big question, and if I
come up with an answer too soon, Ill seem like Im not really hearing
them out.
Keith was actually asking me the Big Question of this whole dating
and seduction community.
So after a dramatic, thoughtful pause, I finally got around to
answering him.

R.E.A.L. Game
is...

Dude, your answer is right in front of you, but you dont even see it.
He said, Huh?

Relaxed &
Resourceful
Effective &
Energized
Alpha &
Authentic
Lifestyle &
Lasting

Youre sitting here on a ski lift with me, but we havent even been
talking to the other people on the chair with us.
He looked a bit mystified, but after a minute his eyes closed and he
started nodding and smiling.
You see, a lot of guys go through this. They learn a lot of pickup
skills - the opening lines and the techniques, but they dont learn that
they need to be integrating their skills into their daily lives.
Its just as much about being a good SOCIAL guy as it is about being
good at dating.
In fact, its ten times more important to balance your pickup /
seduction / dating skills with your social skills.
Why?
Because for every guy that gets the girl he wants, he realizes that
creating a relationship requires deeper inner game skills than he ever
imagined.
Just being a clever guy with a quick story is not enough to keep a
woman interested in you.

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Over the next four months, Keith got himself fired up and started
again with his own interests and hobbies. He got interested in his own
life and what he was doing. He got active in his outdoor sports, and
just enjoying his life for HIM.
I even visited his cabin again in Tahoe and found he had put one of
my sayings up on the wall: Youre not put here to discover yourself youre here to CREATE yourself.

One Word
that can take
you into the
next level...

Im glad he learned that lesson finally. And I was flattered that he took
something I said to heart and started using it.
Fast forward a few months and Kevin had found a good woman who
made him happy. And didnt get her from using pickup skills (even
though he had a more fundamental understanding of them.)
And I met her. Shes hot.
Keith got her when he was most focused on driving up the quality and
Alpha Power in his own lifestyle.
And he was also using something else now, without even knowing it.
This one word transformed his game into the next level.
Ill talk about that in the next part...

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In the Beginning...
There was the word.
And the word was Seduction.

There is a
secret world
of psychology
beneath the
one that we
assume is
rational...

Oooh. Thats awfully Politically IN-Correct.


I have to confess, Ive used that term many times in the past because
it is highly charged, and highly relevant.
Back in the day, there wasnt much to choose from if you wanted to
get this part of your life called dating taken care of.
There was a program using NLP techniques to hypnotize women by
Ross Jeffries*, and a few old books from the 70s and 80s, but no one
had seemed to pull things together in a way that made sense, or that
a guy could use as a method to get women on a regular basis.
Back when I was searching for stuff to read on this topic, I went
through just about every dating self-help book there was. But there
wasnt anything that told me how to attract women the way the real
players did.
I got frustrated.
BIG TIME frustrated.
With every date that I went on that
SUCKED, I became more and
more convinced that there was
some secret set of strategies that
guys were using that I wasnt
aware of.
I got a little obsessed with finding the answer...
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Then, somewhere in the mid-90s, a set of books came on the scene
called Love Tactics. These small books took a slightly religious angle
on the whole topic, but they also pointed out something that I had
never really figured out on my own before.
Simply put:
Attraction is not LOGICAL.

And you can


never BORE a
woman into
being
interested in
you.

You can argue until youre blue in the


face, but youll never be able to talk a
woman into liking you...

Its just like


sales... We
hate to be
sold, but we
LOVE to buy.

It wont happen.

Or dating you...
Or sleeping with you...
Or being devoted and faithful to you.

But we guys like to think that we can


talk women into this, dont we?
Oh, yeah, we do. We try to do it all the time.
!We try it with bragging...
!We try it with romantic gestures...
!We try it by telling her our feelings...
But I digress...
This whole concept of attraction being something that we dont
control with our conscious and rational minds made me stop dead in
my tracks and really look at how I was approaching this whole thing.
I decided right then and there to stop thinking with my logical mind
and start figuring out WHAT WORKS.
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After all, I can cry about how I get wet when I go out in the rain, but it
will never change the reality that RAIN GETS ME WET.
As soon as I can accept the rules (i.e., reality), I can then get moving
on how to beat the game.
(And this goes for you, too.)

Reality has
teeth, and it
will bite you
on the ass if
you ignore it.

So just like Keith, I went and read everything I could find. (But this
was WAY before you could find any seduction advice online.)
As I worked on the principles, I even got good at making up my own
techniques along the way.
Heres an example:
I knew that if I pulled away from a woman that was already liking me,
I could enhance the attraction she felt from her fear of loss.
(Its manipulative, but it does work. This is how many women use
hard-to-get.)
So one night I was on my way over to my girlfriends place and I
decided Id try something out. I called her from my cell phone and
said, Hey, its Carlos. Im not going to be able to make it to dinner
tonight... (insert a slight pause here) ...Uh, until maybe a half-hour
later. Got caught up with something. See you then...
Now what was I trying to do there? Well, two things.
First, I was trying to scare her a little with saying I wasnt going to
be able to make it... then pausing so she thought I wouldnt be able to
make it at all. Then shed feel relieved when she heard the next part
that I was only going to be 30 minutes late.
Second, I was trying to change the plans up and be a wee bit
unpredictable.

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This was all very artificial, and in the end I dont think it made ANY
difference to our dating relationship.
Eventually, we broke up, as most relationships go.

What a man
wants - just
as much as
sex - is the
thought of
having a highquality
woman at his
side...

But I think at the time using these tactics wasnt really about HER as
much as it was about improving my attitude and giving me the ability
to push away from a woman. (I was pretty needy at this time.)
I was actually teaching my brain how to stop relying on women and
start relying on myself, in a funny way.
Over the next few years I started figuring this out as I tried to improve
my own skills by coming up with the whole mindset of this confident
guy I saw out there having success with women.
As I was putting my stuff together, other guys appeared out there like
David D. and others with really cool sounding names, like Mystery
and Style. I had no idea they were out there because I was doing
my own thing.
And after I got moving on this quest, I
started developing my own
techniques with women. I would play
hard-to-get. Id be aloof. I would
tease women relentlessly. I would
turn on Mr. Charming and Mr. Funny
guy at will.
I knocked em dead.
But it got OLD really quick. The
women I met were fun, for a time, and then things inevitably faded
out.
What I wanted was a quality woman that I could put effort into
and really focus on building a relationship.
It sounds funny coming from a guy, but I got really tired of the women
who were just looking for a good time.
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Thats when I decided that I needed to figure out the next part of this
skill set, which is how to attract QUALITY women. The kind of woman
I could keep around for a while.
You see, when you get to a certain point, you realize that women are
mostly wonderful, but they have a lot of inner game issues, too.
They lack confidence. They dont have their lives together. They can
be a little crazy.

The single
most
important
decision you
will make in
your life is the
woman that
you decide to
make your
long-term
companion...

And the worst thing you can do to yourself is to take a loose cannon
like that and let her into your life.
The single most important decision you
will make in your life is the woman that
you decide to make your long-term
companion.
Shell either make you... or break you faster
than a thin, dry board in a karate class.
You can chase all the drunk, barely-20something bar chicks you like. But you will
burn out very soon if you share too much time
with people who have no real direction, or
who cannot add much value to your life.
These people with no direction are simply
waiting for you to LEAD them to something better.
Im not advocating using other people just to add to your own
existence here. After all, it should be mutual.
But there is a concept that I talk about called mutually beneficial
selfishness. It means that you help yourself first so that you can be
healthy enough in spirit to give back to others in the world.
Im going to share more about this attitude - and how to find the
power to lead with confidence - with you in this book.
But now you need to know...
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How Your Reality Is Being Messed
With - BIG Time.
I want to share with you a question that one of my students sent me.
This might help clarify a few things - or it might make you even more
confused.

How do you
stay
confident, no
matter what?

Maybe both, or maybe neither.


But it will enlighten you.
Read on...
QUESTION FROM A READER:
Carlos, I've had a lot of experiences walking up and talking with
women. Some good, some bad.
What I'm wondering is, how do I stay confident - no matter what?
It seems like my mood and my skills are always up and down. Some
nights I can walk up to any woman and say Hi, and other times I
can't seem to make conversation with a blabbermouth.
Have you ever had this experience?
How do you keep your confidence up?
- John C.
Atlanta, GA.
______________________
CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:
Well, John, I'm here to tell you that what you're talking about is
something that a LOT of guys go through. Their level of confidence
goes up and down all the time, and it can be hard to maintain
consistency.
First of all, you have to recognize that there is the factor of
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moods. You can't predict a bad mood, and you can't avoid them.
Sometimes you just won't feel top-shelf.
That's life.
The other variable in this is something we call "confidence." It
seems like sometimes you've got what you need, and other times you
can't seem to get it together.

NEWSFLASH:
There is no
such thing as
confidence...

But what really is "confidence"?


Something I've come to figure out over the years is that confidence
doesn't REALLY exist.
That's right. There's actually no such thing as "confidence."
Now, I know this may throw a lot of guys for a loop.
I can hear you yelling at your computer: "What the #&$% is he
talking about? Of course there's confidence. We all know it."
Hang on for a second and allow me to explain a bit first...
What many guys think of as "confidence" is really not a FEELING at
all.
Think back to the last time you did something and remember feeling
confident about it. Maybe it was going up on a mountain and
snowboarding. Maybe it was running a marathon. Maybe it was going
up and talking to a woman.
Whatever that event was where you felt this confidence, if you
really let yourself go back in time in your head, and you think
about what kind of experience you were going through right then,
you'll realize that you weren't really FEELING anything at all.
You were just DOING it.
What we think of as "confidence" is really just the ABSENCE of our
usual self-doubts, fear, and anxiety that we feel when we do
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something unfamiliar.
Let's say you're a snowboarder...
Early on, when you haven't been snowboarding much, your head is
full of all the static and chatter of your internal doubts.
"You're going to fall on your face..."

Forget your
fears and you
instantly
become
confident...
How could we
have missed
this?

"It's going to be difficult..."


"You're going to spend the day sliding
down on your ass..."
"You're going to look dumb..."
The more we DO that thing, the less
we tell ourselves these
negative messages, and the MORE we just forget that we ever had
any doubts.
I remember back when I first started snowboarding that I was a
complete train wreck. But I kept going back and getting better and
better, and the feeling of hesitation and doubt eventually
disappeared.
I really didn't get confident as much as I got rid of all that crap
in my head.
In fact, if you ask any top performer what they're feeling when
they perform, they'll just tell you that they just get out there
and DO IT. They're too busy experiencing it - not thinking about
how confident they are, even though they look so darn confident
doing what it is they do.
But in the early part of learning something new, all that negative
self-talk creates a lot of doubt and uncertainty in your head. And
you know deep inside that if you could just get rid of that
feeling, you'd feel CONFIDENT.

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And THAT is what "confidence" actually is...
The LACK of uncertainty, doubt, hesitation, fear, and worry that we
push into our head.
So when you ask me about how to get more consistent with your
game, I want you to remember that you might not always be able to
bring your A-game when it comes to talking with women.

Pickup
techniques
and lines are
simply
BORROWED
confidence...

But if you just go in and DO it, you'll find that you will leave
more and more of those negative thoughts and feelings behind, and
the "static" will disappear. You'll think you're more confident,
but you're really just not indulging in old destructive thought
patterns.
Pickup techniques and lines don't really boost your confidence.
You just believe it will help you because of the last guy who used it
successfully. (So they said). That's why I teach you how to win
the inner game of confidence first, because women can smell how
much you really believe what you're saying.
Your confidence comes to you when you stop listening to all the
chatter that tries to undermine your will and positive attitude.
One step you can do right now to improve is to get in touch with
your physical presence as a way of "grounding" your mind in the
here and now.
You see, a lot of guys live a very active mental life.
This can be both good and bad. For most guys who are out there
trying to work up the "confidence" to approach women and talk to
women, it's very very BAD.
The reason is that they are so up in their heads and caught in
their own thoughts that they literally disconnect from their
bodies. And when you stop being intimately "in your own skin," you
start to exhibit some strange body language, and you lack that
feeling of being THERE.
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It sounds a bit new-agey, but it's actually very practical.
Every day, you should start off with a short meditation and a ritual of
some kind.
Here's a simple one you can do:

Find a ritual
for yourself
that starts
your day
YOUR way...

Just sit in a chair with your hands in your lap. Breathe in


and out, 3 seconds to inhale, 6 seconds to exhale. With
each breath, focus on being aware of your own body, with
each limb. Work your way up and down your entire body,
keeping your mind as calm and blank as possible.
This exercise can be as short as just a minute or so, and then you
can work your way to longer time periods.
Your goal is to really feel yourself in the here-and-now rather
than lose yourself in the "what ifs" that your anxious mind will
throw you into.
Remember, confidence comes not from thinking your way into it, but
from NOT thinking your way.
Im going to share more secrets about confidence with you in a bit,
but first, if this makes any sense to you, then you need to read the
next section on...

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5 HUGE Mistakes Guys Make When
Learning Attraction Skills
There are actually probably MANY more than just five mistakes, but I
chose to focus on the five that are probably hurting your dating and
social skills the most.

There is
nothing in the
world like
really being in
the shoes of
the guy who is
talking to a
woman and
interacting on
a very deep
level of
rapport...

The reason Im telling you about them now is so that you can beware
of the negative impact and avoid wasting time and money on lowyield methods.
Lets start with...
MISTAKE NUMBER 1: Watching pickup videos and thinking this
will help your game.
There are a lot of secret videos and hyped up hidden camera videos
you can find out there. They make a lot of interesting viewing, sort of
like the television shows theyve been putting on lately about pickup
artists and Keys to the VIP.
But heres something to remember...
There is nothing like the real event.
What I mean by this is that you can watch secret hidden undercover
videos of guys in bars all you like, but it wont help your game at all.
In fact, this can actually be downright devastating to your game. It
can take your current competence and confidence and flush it down
the toilet.
Why?
I mean, I really wish these videos did work. It would make my job so
much easier just to go in the field and record myself meeting and
talking with women.

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In fact, I used to do this a lot. I recorded the audio and/or video of me
interacting with women on hidden camera, and then show it to my
students in the classroom. They were all impressed and many of
them even said, Oh, THATS how you do it.
But when they got out in the bars that night, they all complained of
the exact same things:

The more you


think about
what you are
doing, the
less you seem
like youre
actually
THERE doing
what you
need to do...

They realized that when you watch someone interact with a


woman that way you actually make it hard to focus,
because now you are trying to remember a mental image
of another completely different person doing what youre
trying to do. And they arent even remotely alike...

No two interactions really ever go the same, so watching


the video doesnt help you tactically...

When they saw me on camera doing the approach, they


realized that they were really excited only because they
were feeding on MY confidence. They got a huge
confidence boost not because they learned anything, but
because they were just seeing someone who didnt have all
the static in his head to pull them down...

You can watch ANYONE do something and think its easy,


but when you are IN that experience, living it in real-time,
its completely different. Everything changes.

Watching pickup videos doesnt work for the simple reason that
watching someone do something that requires fine-tuned attention
and presence is nowhere near the same thing as being in that
persons shoes.
You ever watch a professional athlete of some kind like a skier or a
snowboarder, and you think, I could do that. That looks easy.
Then you get to the top of a mountain on your board or your skis and
peer over the edge at the slope below you, and your heart falls into
your stomach.
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You start sliding down, and as you carve into your first turn, you
realize this is NOTHING like how the guy on the video looked.
Or you watch a cooking show, and you see the chef do something
that doesnt require any physical expertise - its just putting food
together. But when you try the SAME recipe, it just doesnt taste quite
right.

I gotta be
ME...
And you gotta
be YOU.

As they say in NLP, the map is not the same as the terrain.
MISTAKE NUMBER 2: Learning and rehearsing material that is
not true or authentic to YOU.
Theres a little concept I call the Gap, and it goes like this:
A lot of guys learn about techniques they can use to pickup on
women.
(Pickup is really just the masculine version of the word flirt. But
beware: The word pickup has a lot of negative baggage on it.
Women do not respond favorably to the term.)
Like walking up to a woman and asking for her opinion on something,
like, Hey, I need a womans perspective on this. My friend thinks his
girlfriend might be cheating on him. How would he be able to find out
for sure?
That gets you into a conversation under the pretense of just wanting
her opinion.
The problem is that women everywhere know how this works, and
theyll call you on it.
Theyll say:
Are you trying some of that pickup stuff on us?
or
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Are you some kind of pickup artist or
something?
If youve ever had it happen to you, then you
know what a socially awkward moment this
can be - and how completely embarrassing it
is.
And even if you have enough game or
routines or stories to use, and clever banter
youve memorized, the time comes in the
conversation when you realize that youre
about to run dry.

Ever been
caught using
a line?

When something unexpected comes up in the


conversation, you also sense that you just arent all that prepared,
and you feel kind of hollow.
Like a sham.
A fake.
An impostor.
And you feel the gap between who you REALLY are and your clever
pickup persona that you made up.
This gap is something that a lot of guys discover, and they realize that
they need to bring their real personalities closer to this persona they
created so they can walk up and talk to women.
Let me be very clear here:

If you do not make your dating and attraction


skills a part of your LIFE and lifestyle, you will
always feel the Gap, and you will always feel a
little fake inside.
Eventually, it will catch up to you.
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I have coached many guys that have been in denial into their 40s and
50s as to what was true to them. Youd think that by a certain age we
would have this thing figured out, wouldnt you?
Nope.
The longer you wait, the harder it gets. Set the right foundation NOW.

Jack of all
trades,
master of...
NOTHING.

MISTAKE NUMBER 3: Trying to do too much, and not getting


good at anything.
In my field, I talk to a LOT of guys about this area of selfdevelopment, and its interesting to talk to guys who have been at
different points along this journey of getting better with women.
Some have just begun, and theyre like a kid in the candy store with
all these techniques and things to learn. Its like they just woke up in
the best gadget store in the world with a blank check.
But thats part of the problem.
You see, way back in the early days, when there were no good game
consoles out there and PCs were the way to go, I was a hardcore
gamer. I used to play the hell out of Quake and Unreal and a
bunch of other great games that have evolved and had sequels over
the years. (Anybody remember Duke Nukem?)
I even designed levels for them and released them on the Internet in
the 90s. It was addicting, and damn fun.
I also had a job at a software store where I got all the latest games to
try out for free. I was in heaven.
Well, I was in heaven for a few weeks, and then I realized that I had a
few problems with this blank check of free games...

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1) I was getting a lot of cool games, but not having any time to play all
of them.
2) The games I liked and spent my time on, I would never finish. After
all, when I was bored with it, or ran into a challenging obstacle,
there was something new to try. I got addicted to the novelty,
and I never finished anything I started.

You are
desperately
seeking the
right
CHALLENGE
for your life...

3) I was getting more and more bored with the games I got, because
none of them had any value to me.
So when you see a movie where the guy gets all his wishes, and hes
still bored and unhappy, thats about the truth of it. Yeah, you might
say, That would never be ME, man... Id have fun and Id do this, and
Id do that... but the reality is that if you won the lottery tomorrow,
chances are youd be broke in just a few years.
And if you werent broke, youd be just as bored and unfulfilled.
Why?
Because we need to be CHALLENGED.
We need something in our lives that
drives us to a higher purpose.
Once your basic needs are taken care of,
your free time is usually spent thinking
about all the things you still dont have.
This is the source of the saying: Idle
hands are the devils playground.
What has this got to do with dating skills?
Well, first of all, even if you had
MASSIVE skills with women, youd still have your own life to deal
with. Ask any guru out there (or just listen to my interview program
where they tell you straight from the source) and hell tell you that the
one thing they realized was that after they got good with women, they
still had all the problems and challenges of their lives to deal with.
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Your life doesnt miraculously change from getting this one area
handled.
Its not the getting good with women thats the goal in this game.
Its the who you become to get good with women that makes you an
Alpha Man.

That dudes
got BALLS,
man...
They could be
saying that
about YOU.

My second point about this is that you could read every ebook and
listen to every CD and watch every DVD on this topic, and you
wouldnt be ANY better with women...
Until you go out and use the information to improve yourself, build the
character, and cultivate the skills you need.
LIVE and In-the-field, as we say.
Its the only way.
Dont wind up being a jack of all trades, master of nothing.
Dont be the guy sitting at home all night, writing up questions for
every guru to answer. (I get guys who field their questions to me and
multiple others in the hopes of finding some contradiction or God
knows what.)
Be the guy with the huge balls of steel that just goes out there and
gets better by DOING it.
We all know whos playing the game and who is just sitting on the
sidelines, studying plays, and waiting for the perfect opportunity to
jump in the game.
MISTAKE NUMBER 4: Going after the wrong goal.
Yet another problem Ive seen with guys is that they learn about this
field of dating advice/seduction/attraction skills and they channel all
their energy into conquering it.

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Well, thats nice and all, but your goal is not a WOMAN.
Your goal is the lifestyle that makes you happy, and pulls women into
it, like a tornado.
When you chase a woman as your goal, youre setting yourself up for
the biggest disappointment in the world. Especially when you realize
that no human being can live up to the ideals we set in our mind.

You are
responsible
for your own
mental state.
No one makes
you feel
anything you
dont want to.

People dont make us happy. We make ourselves happy.


Dont believe me? Ask any guy who has chosen a sub-standard
woman for his girlfriend - or wife - and had to learn from the mistake.
The REAL prize, the one you cant see too clearly because that bright
light emanating from her crotch is blinding you, the genuine goal that
were after here is to become a fully actualized MAN.
And the biggest ecstasy you can experience (in contrast to the
previous disappointment) is when youve forged your own lifestyle
and your own Alpha Power into a force to be reckoned with.
I have to admit, sometimes when I wake up in the morning and try not
to jump out of bed to get working, I have to pinch myself to realize
that I actually teach guys the complete game plan and system for
creating this lifestyle. I am truly blessed.
MISTAKE NUMBER 5: Not paying attention to the BIG picture.
Lets face facts: Human beings are sexual beings.
If you are still unclear on this fact of our nature, or you are still
uncomfortable with it due to the programming you might have
received as a kid, then you may need to seek a little professional
assistance to clear that out of your head.
I dont want to stomp on your beliefs, but lets face facts here - some
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rid of these bad beliefs because they will determine the outcome of
your life.
Let me say that again:
Your faulty beliefs will hold you back from the success you
desire - and deserve - from life.

I choose to
believe in the
things that
make life
WORK for
me.

Remember, beliefs are beliefs because they are NOT facts. Facts are
clear cut and established. Theres no debate.
But beliefs are called beliefs because they are not set in stone, and
every person has a different set.
And we all treat our beliefs as if they are set in stone, dont we?
Ive found that a great many of those beliefs try to hide as guilt and
other kinds of disabling emotions that were programmed into you by
certain institutions to make you conform and not pose a threat to
others.
Yes, I realize that this sounds a bit paranoid and conspiracy-theory,
but it really is true. Most of the structure of society and the world is
this way to establish a pecking order.
But Im not here to go off on a political rant. I just want you to
understand just how everyone is looking
out through a set of filters and lenses ...
and some people have a really bad
prescription.
What Im driving at here is that you are
a sexual being.
You are a man.
You like sex.
And theres nothing at all wrong with
wanting and getting that sex.
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(As long as you harm no one else in the process. As the Hypocratic
oath goes, first - do no harm.)
The problem comes when your sex drive is not channeled correctly.
You see a lot of guys go through life chasing one thing...
Pussy.

Youve got a
destiny ahead
of you...

Sorry to be crude about this, and if that


offended you, perhaps you should read
another ebook about fluffy animals and
happy rainbows. Im here to shoot
straight and tell you what you need to
hear. Its what my dad did for me, and I
feel obligated to do the same for others.

Do you know
what it is?
Are you even
looking for it?

And remember, when someone is


offended at something, its not the
something that offended them. They
offended themselves.
So back to what I was saying...
Many guys just chase women their whole lives and realize all too late
that they should have been channeling this unbelievable force of the
male sex drive into something more creative so that they could live
out their own destiny.
You see I believe that every man has a mission to accomplish here
on this earth.
Its a guy thing.
Yes, there are women who have this same drive, but its not the same
as a mans.
We men MUST create a legacy for ourselves. If we dont, we die a
little inside every day we ignore that need.
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And, ironically, you cant have the kind of relationship or give the kind
of life you could give to a woman if you dont pursue this destiny.
It doesnt mean you quit your job, or you go sailing around the world
on some merchant steamer to seek your fortune.
In fact, if youve ever read the classic essay Acres of Diamonds, you
know that your hidden treasure is right there inside you right now.

What if every
guy out there
was a genius,
but he never
found his
talent?
What a waste
that would be.

(I give every one of my students a copy of this essay as part of your


Advanced Coaching program. If you didnt get yours, please email
me. Its required reading for any Alpha Man.)
If you dont know what your mission or your destiny is in life, then
your only job is to START SEARCHING.
Thats it. Just get on a path to start investigating the possibilities.
A good friend of mine, Zan Perrinon, said to
me at a conference: What if every single guy
out there has this hidden genius in him like a
Mozart or an Einstein? What if EVERYONE
has this, and we all die without finding it?
I believe that this is true. I think we all DO
have some hidden talent
in us that we have only
to discover. And the only
way to find it is to keep
trying things and find out what clicks.
But if you chase women to the exclusion of all
else, youll end up with a life that is wildly out of
balance.
If you chase your goals with the same fervor and
energy, and learn how to creatively channel your sexual energy for
this as well, youll achieve success that is uncommon in most
peoples lives.
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Thats what I do, and thats what I teach men how to do.
And the funny (or not so funny) part of this is that if you pursue your
own dreams, your own goals, your own destiny... women will want to
come along for the ride.
There is NOTHING more sexy to a woman than a man with ambition
and drive.

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The THINK Barrier
Theres a little-known concept that I want to acquaint you with. Its
called the Think Barrier.
Have you ever given someone a task to do, maybe a co-worker or
friend, and it seemed pretty straightforward to you, but they couldnt
seem to just take the task and RUN with it?

Its the most


tired cliche
but you need
to...
JUST
DO
IT

Maybe you asked them to go get a coworker of yours to join you in a


meeting, or go buy something for you from the store.
Whatever it was, you asked them, and you did NOT hear them say:
No problem. Be right back.
Nor did they just go out and DO IT.
Instead, you got this:
Uh, who do you want me to find?
Where should I go?
What if they dont want to come?
How do you spell his name?
Do you really need me to do it now?
You probably would get a million and one variations, but not this one:
Yes, no problem. Be right back. And then 5 minutes later they show
up with the person you wanted.
No initiative, and no ability to act on their own.
In almost every single seminar where a guy has come up to me and
asked me what to say to a woman in a particular situation, I will
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attraction works, and all the examples I give you in my ebooks, CDs,
and DVDs, what do YOU think you should say?
Theres a long uncomfortable moment there where the person often
realizes that what Im asking them is just to THINK for themselves
and really burn some brain fuel.

But Carlos,
you say I have
to be a better
MAN...?
I have to
deserve what
I want?
Thats too
hard! Just
give me a
pickup line
instead...

The guys that are willing to pull out a piece of paper and THINK
through their response inevitably are the guys who excel and
improve their skills MASSIVELY.
The guys who go into a severe state of mental constipation and
just beg me to tell them what to say almost NEVER get it.
I realized that these latter guys are also the men
who have never really been challenged or
pushed to think deeply into anything their whole
lives.
Probably one or both of their parents was overcontrolling, or did everything for them when they
were kids. As a result, they never learned the
process of really pushing their brain into a higher
gear.
I see parents at the Martial Arts studio I teach at do this all the time.
They tell their kids what to say and what to do. Their moms even take
off their shoes for them. I know that these kids will never be
challenged to really perform for themselves. Their future is being set
right before my eyes.
This concept is what I call the Think Barrier.
How far will you go to avoid the nasty work of thinking?
Youd be AMAZED at how much work people do just to avoid thinking
for themselves.
Let me tell you something:

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No one will be there to give you the authenticity to respond correctly
when a woman asks you a question you werent prepared for.
It will have to come from YOU.
No one will be there for you when you have to think of something to
say to a woman on a date.
YOU will have to find your words and use them.

Mommy and
daddy are not
going to help
you anymore.
The world
belongs to the
man that
helps himself.

No one will be there to talk you up or pump you up when it comes


time to approach a woman that youre dying to meet.
YOU will have to find your own motivation and overcome your own
fears.
Mommy and Daddy are not going to be there to tie your shoelaces on
this one.
Hell, even *I* cant be there for you, as much as Id like to be.
Now you know why I show guys how to create their own openers,
their own stories, their own confidence, their own motivation, and
their own excitement for life.
Some guys will give you a fish (a technique), where I teach you HOW
to fish (the Alpha Attitude) so that you never need to be hungry again.
This path is personal, genuine, and REAL for you.
You cant learn how to be a powerfully attractive YOU when youre
focused on learning someone elses scripted conversation.
And when you learn how to use the strategies for building attraction,
they have devastating and powerful impact on the women you will
meet.
And when you learn how to use these techniques on everyone to
motivate yourself toward an Alpha Lifestyle, youll learn just what
youre capable of in every facet of your life.
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I have a feeling youre starting to nod your head more and more at
what youre reading here.
Good. Ive still got more to show you.
Lets move on to the...

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Signs That Pickup Really is Dead
Sign #1) Women already know what the game is, and all about
the clever tricks.
Remember at the start of this document when I talked about Neil
Strauss book, The Game?

The times,
they are achanging.

Its a fun read, and a lot of guys got into this area of selfdevelopment purely because they read that one book. Sure, its
about 20% techniques, and about 80% drama, but its a nice read.
But now the time of the pickup artist is coming to a close.
Women everywhere have read this same book, and they know
what the Game is all about. They know how to smell a pickup
game even before you have time to ask Ladies, who do you
think lies more, men or women?
They can see anything you use before you use it.
Except one thing - and its what they desperately need to see.
And its the one thing you need to know about.
Ill tell you in a couple pages...
Yes, you can blame the media or Neils book, but the
reality is that women know what youre up to. The only
man that stands a CHANCE of getting past a womans
defensive shields is the one that knows how to fly under
her radar.
Youre not doing this to trick her, either. Thats a big
difference between using seduction skills and what I call
Alpha Attraction skills.
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Alpha Attraction is about creating a win-win situation for both of
you. Where your woman isnt a one-hit wonder.
Imagine the life where women call you back, my friend.
Sign #2: Television has ruined pickup even more for you.

Okay, heres
the REAL
secret to
attracting
women...

When something is broadcast on television,


you can bet that every woman will know about
it within a week or two. One of her friends
catches The Pickup Artist on television, and
the next second shes on the phone talking to
10 of her girlfriends. You gotta see this!
In a matter of just a few weeks, every woman
in the United States (and probably the world)
knows about it. And theyre talking about it.
There are several shows on television that are
capitalizing on the whole pickup scene, and the games that are
played.
Women know about them all - and this is GOOD because it will
make it easier for you to separate yourself from the clones.
Sign #3: All the other Gurus are suddenly talking about being
more 3-dimensional...
Its funny, and Im not just trying to pat myself on
the back here, but a lot of the other teachers out
there in the pickup community are now starting
to realize what Ive been saying all along: You
cant live on pickup lines alone.
In order for a man to really come into his own and
be all he can be, he has to eventually settle on his
own style, his own genuine attraction strengths,
and then maximize them.
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If I could sum up what women want in one quick sentence, its that
they want you to be YOU better than anybody else could be YOU.
Thats what they REALLY mean when they say just be yourself.
Theyre not saying, Just be the weakest, most timid version of
yourself. Nor are they saying, Be all the parts of you that are not
very attractive to women on the surface.

If I could just
act like Im
sincere, Id
have this
whole dating
thing figured
out...

Theyre telling you to be a potent POWERHOUSE version of you


that is not looking for a womans approval.
The simple fact is that a woman needs a man who doesnt NEED her.
Remember when I told you that Keith had found something that took
his game to the next level?
Well here it is...
The hidden element that guys miss is this, and only this:

SINCERITY
It cant be faked. And it can only make you look and feel more
authentic and genuine.
In sales, one of the most powerful concepts is to tell the customer the
Truth, even if it might be a little embarrassing. Its all in how you
frame this Truth.
You see, today were all much better educated consumers. Were
much more sophisticated after being bombarded with constant ads
and commercials. You know when someones trying to sell you
something.
Hey, Ill admit it right now - Im trying to sell you on a new point of
view, and the possibility that I can help you grow and achieve your
goals as a man.
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And if theres one thing that we HATE, its someone trying to sell us
something with a blatant, stupid, used-car-salesman sales pitch.
Have you ever gotten a phone call, somewhere around dinner time,
and you answer it, and you hear that pause before someone in a
way-too-cheery voice says, Mr. So-and-so? I want to tell you about a
fantastic bargain were having over here at ---

Its all just like


sales, except
not like the
sales you and
I hate.

CLICK.
But if someone walks up to us and says, You know what, Im not
going to bore you with a stupid sales pitch here. I just want to tell you
that Ive got some really nice speakers at a good discount at my store
because I was dumb and ordered way too many. If you really like
quality home audio, you might want to come and give em a listen.
Thats it. Sorry to interrupt you.
Im probably going to think a little more about this offer than the guy
that tries to be clever and slip me a flyer as Im walking by.
The Best Homeless Sales-person I Ever Met:
One night after coming home from a speaking engagement, my
girlfriend and I decided to indulge in a little Kentucky Fried Chicken. (I
confess to being a total chicken-skin addict. I love that original
recipe...)
Anyway, were walking into the KFC when a woman walks up to us.
Now in this area of town, Im expecting the usual homeless pitch.
(Sorry if that sounds a bit cold, but thats what happens when youre
hit with the same thing over and over. You start to tune out a bit. A lot
like attractive women get hit with the same Youre so beautiful crap
from guys.)
Instead of saying, Hey, can you spare some change?, this woman
said:

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Im sorry to bother you, and Im not going to ask you for any money. I
am very hungry. Im living in the park over there. Would you mind just
getting me some food? Id really appreciate it.
I stopped for a second and nodded to her. Sure. Well get you
something.
She came in with us and I bought her a meal.

Do you trust
anyone?

She reached me with a level of trust that I could appreciate.

Can they
trust you?

Trader Joes Trust:


I shop at a place called Trader Joes for my groceries. Its one of
those organic food places that keeps things healthy and cheaper
because youre not paying for expensive brand advertising.
When I get to the register, they inevitably ask me for my zip code as
Im checking out. Now, obviously this is so they can gather a little
demographic data about their customers.
Normally, I refuse to disclose this information. I dont think I need to
reveal any more to the corporations out there looking to peer into my
private life. But when I get to the counter at Trader Joes, I give it to
them.
Why?
Because I TRUST them. I know that their intentions are much more
honorable, and I think that they will not abuse the information.
I have no way of knowing this for sure, but I feel more trusting telling
Trader Joes my zip code than, say, Safeway or some other big
supermarket chain.
Whats my point here?

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When you hear the saying: Honesty is the best policy, what they
really mean is be sincere and straightforward. Dont blast someone
with awkward and socially mis-calibrated information. Just be on the
level.
Its all about the sincerity.
Sincerity, sincerity, SINCERITY...

One pickup
line that
works without
fail...

This approach works wonders with women, too.


When a woman feels that shes with someone whos sincere and
trustable, she will open up and lower her defenses. She will feel
something that she rarely does from guys in top hats with painted
nails.

TRUST
One of the things I like to say (and youll hear about in my programs)
when I walk up and talk to a woman is this: Hey, I dont have a clever
pickup line. I just wanted to meet you. My name is Carlos...
That one never fails to get a woman to open up and talk to me.
Try it.
If you say it from the heart, women will listen and open up to you.

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4 Questions to Ask Yourself About
The Quality Of Your Dating Advice
Im going to save you a lot of pain and wasted time and money.
Im going to point out all the things you should watch for when youre
deciding on jumping into a program to develop your dating and
attraction skills with women.

Bars & Clubs


are a tiny
slice of the
social world in
which to meet
women.
And you need
better skills
for the REAL
world.

QUESTION #1) Is it realistic advice, or routines and techniques


with no depth?
If you are trying to improve your skills with women, techniques are
a very small piece of the big picture.
Most routines are also only made for the bar and club
environment. Ive never met a girl I wanted to date in a bar or club.
In fact, its the exception for most men. Play the odds, not the longshot. (Most guys go to bars because they assume this is the only
place where women WANT to be picked up on.)
Its just like starting a jigsaw puzzle. If you just grab any random
piece and start trying to build the puzzle, it will be really tough.
Instead, you start with one of the edge or corner pieces and you
work your way in.
Solid inner game skills and lifestyle techniques are just like those
edge pieces in a puzzle. They give you a much bigger context with
which to build the Big Picture.
When I say Lifestyle Techniques, what Im really talking about
are things you can do RIGHT NOW to improve the overall quality
of your attitude, your goals, your relationships, and your LIFE.

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Just like outer game techniques, inner game techniques like those
I teach have the added benefit of improving you as a complete
man instead of just addressing one small detail.

QUESTION #2) Authenticity - Is this material true to YOUR


Personality?

Get 100%
behind
yourself.
Its the best
long-term
strategy to
success there
is.

Heres a big one that most guys overlook. They get a book of
routines or some clever cocky and funny lines, and they sound
great if you were imagining someone else delivering them, but they
would feel really weird if you said them.
Instead of regurgitating someone elses material, you need a style
that you can adapt and adopt to your individual style, such as my
REAL Game.
You can take just about any opener and use it to start a
conversation with a woman or group of women fairly easily, but its
what comes after that opener that will make or break you. And
thats where a woman will make her decision.
Choose a technique or style that matches your personality, and
your core values. If youre not aligned with what youre saying, it
feels weird to other people. It would be like me talking with a real
wishy-washy tone right now.
I just kinda think you should sorta think about being
a bit more confident with ladies. Well, maybe. I
guess...
You see what I mean? It doesnt match the tone of what Im saying,
so you immediately distrust it. This is called incongruence.
And if you dont feel 100% behind the words youre using, youll
also come across the same way as using weak words, like you
dont match your message.
Stay close to your identity and you wont fall into the Gap.
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QUESTION #3) Is the teacher or guru someone you can
respect and trust?
I really believe that you can learn from
anyone, but youll also learn the most - and
the fastest - from someone who has a solid
core of character and integrity.

Learn only
from the man
doing what it
is you want to
do... with the
character and
virtues of a
man you wish
to become.

Ive met a lot of teachers and mentors in my


time, and the one thing that has always been
true is that if that person isnt living the life you
want to lead, why the hell would you listen to
them?
My old sales mentor used to say, Why would I
take financial advice from a caffeine-addicted
stockbroker thats flat broke? I learn how to
make money from the guys with a big PILE of it, and who are
doing it with good in their heart. Those are the people I listen to.
I really believe that theres a certain level of peace and balance
that guys want to acquire in their lives, too. The peace of knowing
that youre not going to have problems finding another girlfriend if
this relationship doesnt work out. Or that you have the relationship
and communication skills to make it work if you want.
Those are OPTIONS - and the man with the most options tends to
be the one to come out ahead in every situation.
QUESTION #4) Are you learning a complete Lifestyle?
Or are you just going to learn a very small skill set?
The fact of the matter is that dating and attraction skills are a
META-skill.
What does this mean?

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It means that your ability to attract women is not just one skill, but
MANY different skills that add up to an overall VIBE of attraction
that makes a woman stand up and pay attention to you.

Things like your family relationships, your social network, your


career path, your self-development, your financial success, etc.,
these are all the power sources for a healthy man.
When you add all these areas up, they converge to create a man
with a powerful Alpha Lifestyle.
Its like the difference between an electric car and one thats
powered by a 12-cylinder engine.
You ever stand near a power plant and hear the buzzing of the
power in the transformers and power lines? You can practically
feel the hairs on your arms prickle from the sheer energy at work.
Billions and billions of volts and amperes of electricity ready to be
unleashed.
Guess what? Thats what a woman feels around a guy whos got
the whole picture.
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A 2-dimensional picture is a cartoon. Like a Bugs Bunny show.
This is the man with just veneer and game.
A 3-dimensional picture is more realistic. Like a Pixar movie that
feels like its got depth. This is a man with skills AND the
authenticity.

You want to
blow all the
other guys
away?

And an Alpha Man with the added fourth dimension of Alpha


Lifestyle powering his game is like being in a simulator or on a
holo-deck of the Enterprise, interacting on a whole new level.
Which one do you think gets the girl?
______________________

Leave them in
the dust?
Add on a
dimension of
reality and
authenticity
to yourself
that sings to
a womans
SOUL...

So now youre ready for a new piece of equipment on this grand


journey. I call it a Life Compass.
Wouldnt it be great if you could just stop at any time and pull out a
little compass that would point you to your next destination?
Well, Ive got something close...

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4 Ways to Get Your Life On Track
So youve tried the road of the pickup artist or the seducer...
Or ... maybe you havent, but youre still looking for an answer.
Well let me help get you started on the most important part of the
house that is your life: The foundation.
If youve ever seen where a new skyscraper is being built, youll
notice something very interesting. The early part of construction is to
dig a hole down REALLY deep.

Go higher by
going
d
e
e
p
e
r
.
.
.

Why do they do this?


Because the higher they are going to build the building, the deeper
the foundation it needs to support it.
The same thing is true of your life. In order for you to reach the peak
of your abilities and the destiny you were put here for, the stronger a
foundation you will need to support it all.
Im going to share with you four critical points on your Life Compass.
Of course, there are many more around the dial, but these will get
your life on the best track to success in this quest.
LIFE COMPASS POINT 1) Recognize Opportunity Cost...
Life is full of choices. We live in a world of plenty, but somehow there
are still plenty of people at this banquet that are starving to death.
Really and metaphorically speaking.
You have to realize that you cannot do it all. No matter what the
media and television shows try to make you believe (most of which is
not even remotely accurate to a balanced and healthy life), you only
have the bandwidth to do a certain number of things well in your life
at one time.
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To do one, you must be willing to NOT do another.
I fought this for years, trying to do everything that I wanted to in life. I
wanted to play guitar in a band, compose music, have a career, meet
women and party several nights a week, read a lot of books, etc.

FOCUS
intently on
the things
that are
important to
you.

Now, you can get a lot accomplished in a well planned lifestyle, but
you cant do everything. And the more you try to multi-task in life,
the more likely you are to totally screw up your life.
Read this transcription from Linda Stones speech on this topic of
continuous partial attention:
In 1997 I coined the phrase "continuous partial attention".
For almost two decades, continuous partial attention has
been a way of life to cope and keep up with
responsibilities and relationships. We've stretched our
attention bandwidth to upper limits. We think that if tech
has a lot of bandwidth then we do, too.
With continuous partial attention we keep the top level
item in focus and scan the periphery in case something
more important emerges. Continuous partial attention is
motivated by a desire not to miss opportunities. We want
to ensure our place as a live node on the network, we feel
alive when we're connected. To be busy and to be
connected is to be alive.
We've been working to maximize opportunities and
contacts in our life. So much social networking, so little
time. Speed, agility, and connectivity at top of mind.
Marketers humming that tune for two decades now.
Now we're over-stimulated, over-wound, unfulfilled.

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More and more people feel this way, unfortunately. Its become the
norm for many of us. We try to do too many things and wind up
getting none of them done very well.
Were drowning in mediocrity.
What if someone could show you a way to find the right things to pay
attention to so that you dont wind up at the end of your life regretting
all the things you didnt do...?

You live in a
world of
plenty.
There are
over 41
MILLION
unmarried
women under
the age of 45.
Get busy.

LIFE COMPASS POINT 2) Think from abundance...


Its time to stop starving.
Theres a saying that those who are hungry never get enough, while
those who are full get plenty.
Theres a lot of truth to that.
Read this question from a reader. It will explain this mindset and how
to start thinking from abundance rather than scarcity...
______________________
QUESTION FROM A READER:
I totally believe in the concepts and basic principles you have put
forth but it boils down to this: Yes, things come to the people who
don't expect them or need them but in order to give of that vibe
you truly must be in that "zone" truthfully.
I have not dated or gotten laid in the past seven years, I am being
mindful when I approach women and get numbers to be cool laid
back relaxed, in control like any Alpha Man would. But.... the
problem is as we all know women have built in radars that can
detect things in men.
For example: Guys who are in relationships get hit on by women
more than guys who are single for some reason.

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So how can I be in the zone of not being hungry when I truly am
starving? My approach doesn't come as needy but there must be a
"X" factor or something that maybe women are sensing?
Because I call them once and never hear from them again, not
even a first date at all, but at the time them are giving me the initial
indicators of interest and attraction.

Youll never
stop being
who you truly
are.

How do you control your hunger when in reality you haven't had a
girlfriend or gotten laid in over seven years - or ever?
Yes, neediness drives women away, but how do you mask it or
control it and appear not hungry when in reality you are truly truly
famished?
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CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:
This is a great question, because it speaks to the heart of what I
teach.
First of all, remember that the problem is not that you've not gotten
laid in seven years. That's a symptom, not the actual disease.
Mistaking it for the real problem is what distracts most guys.
The secret is really to NOT pretend that youre not hungry. We all
know thats impossible. Women DO sense this and they WILL
avoid men with that rabid scent of "gotta get laid" just as much as
men avoid the women with that rabid scent of "gotta get married."
But just because youre hungry doesnt mean you can only have
ONE kind of food.
Wouldnt it be nuts to hear this interaction:
Im starving to death! I havent had a bite to eat in 3 days!
Well, here, have some of my chicken sandwich.
Oh... Sorry, I only eat Pizza. Do you have any pizza? I gotta
have some pizza!
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That would seem ridiculous, right?
But the same thing applies to women.
If youre starving for sex, youre not really
looking at the big picture. Youve just become
a slave to your own genitals.

Feed yourself
by giving
yourself a
chance to
taste every
part of your
life.

You can feed this hunger by using your sex


drive to push you into new experiences in life,
such as widening your social circle, trying a
new way to meet women (such as the
multiple streams of female income that I
teach guys to leverage.)
Saying that you can only get fulfillment by getting a woman in your
life is narrow focused. If you find the things in life that REALLY
fulfill you, women will realize that your hunger is not going to
consume THEM.
You see, every woman knows that behind a man starving for sex is
a guy who hasnt found his calling, or his Alpha Manhood. And
she will not be able to trust him.
But if hes learned the secret of finding his nutrition in many areas,
shell know hes stable and trustworthy.
A man's sex drive is one of the most powerful forces in the
universe. Channeling that drive into other areas of your life will
absolutely help you get rid of that "hungry vibe."
If youre a Hungry Guy - and we all have been at some point - the
answer isnt in chasing after women as the only path to your
satisfaction.
The answer is completing your life so that when youre standing
there talking with a woman, you could have a dozen things you
could be doing at that moment that are just as cool as talking to
her.

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THAT is when women will really take notice of you.
Because what youre feeling is not really "hunger." It's ENERGY
that you have not tapped into in the right ways to move you
forward in the other areas of your life that you've been neglecting.

Get away
from the
people who do
not help you
become who
you want to
be.
Those who
would
discourage
you from your
dreams are
the ones that
have already
given up on
their own.

When you hold this energy in, you'll get emotionally constipated,
which is part of that "X factor" you mentioned in your letter.
Unfocused light is useless. But focus that light into one coherent
beam and you have a laser capable of cutting steel.
Let your energy out and push you toward feeding your desires with
other achievements than women.
And I can guarantee you that the women will want to come along
for that ride...
LIFE COMPASS 3) Change Your Environment
Heres a little-known reality that most people forget - or completely
ignore.
You are a product of your environment. All the life experiences you
absorbed from your family, your friends, your upbringing, your
schooling, etc., created who you are today.
If we were to go back in time and change a few of these elements,
theres a high probability that you wouldnt be ANYTHING like who
you are right now.
Your environment is STILL impacting who you are to this day.
The part that most people dont understand is that we can choose
our environment in life when we become adults, and its up to us to
determine which one we will be a part of.

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If youre hanging around with friends who hold you back, or enable
your tendency to be lazy, or to not change, or just generally do not
challenge you to grow, you are going to stagnate and wither.
In order to become the Alpha Man you are capable of creating,
you must be exposed to people who challenge you and who are
everything you want to become.

Be careful of
associating
pain with the
possibility of
learning a
new and
better way of
living...

This is a big problem for a lot of people who


dont like the discomfort of being around people
who are achieving more and are living a higher
quality of life.
But its this same exposure to positive
influences that will put you on a winning track
toward the things in life that will make you a
winner.
Non-winning sucks. Avoid it at all costs.
Remember, winning IS everything.
Winning in your personal life, your spiritual life, your family life,
your financial life, your career...
Not winning at the expense of others, because that is a dated
concept.
Winning so that others can win with you.
If you want to change and grow and get better with women and life
- the Alpha Lifestyle - you must surround yourself with the
environment that will enable you - not hold you back.
Change your environment and you change your life.

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LIFE COMPASS 4) Build your Social Skills...
Social awareness is not always natural or automatic. I wish it
were, but it usually isnt.
I grew up severely socially retarded. I mean that in a realistic way.
I could see what was going on, but I had no tools or techniques to
help me get through weird or difficult social situations. I learned the
same way most people did: Trial and error.
And error.
And error.
And a lot more error.
Unfortunately, some social skills
MUST be learned through making
the mistakes. No one can short-cut
you past all of them. You learn
sometimes from feeling the pain.
The problem is that we learned our
social responses and skills from
people with certain agendas and
goals that were not always wellmeaning.
People play games with us. Its a fact. Its something I devoted a
whole program to so that guys could learn all the social skills for
managing other people in your life manipulate you with games.
Because, unfortunately, your success will not be determined by
your degree or how smart you are.
The most successful people have strong social skills.
And your final compass point...

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LIFE COMPASS POINT 5) Get started building your foundation.
I think in a lot of ways, weve been doing the excavation for your
skyscraper in this book.
Weve been digging deep into the earth of your
beliefs and attitudes to create a big hole that we can
now start to lay some serious foundation in.
What is this foundation made of?
Well, theyre primarily the various meta-skills Ive
been discussing along the way.
Ill list some of them for you here:
Rock-solid Inner Game - You must have inner
confidence and the state of mind to come from a relaxed
frame of mind. You need to really believe in yourself, your
life, and your goals.
Power Social Skills - You must have an ability to relate to
people. This doesnt mean you have to change into a
complete social butterfly overnight. It just means that you
have to venture out of your self-imposed comfort bubble to
acquire a new skill that will reap you rewards unimaginable
to the solitary man. And as we know, no man is an island
unto himself.
Motivation - You must have the fuel to get your lifestyle into
high gear and get to your goals. Every man is motivated,
even when hes sitting on the couch watching TV. The trick is
to find your reason for doing something and light a fire under
your own ass to go after it. And its not all that hard to do. We
have more free time and more opportunities than any other
generation has ever had in history, yet were still bored. Well
thats only because you havent tapped into your mission.
Stick with me and Ill help you find it.
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Strong Dating and Attraction Skills - Hey, the reason you
probably got started on this path was to satisfy your natural
need for sexual companionship. Every man has it, and every
man deserves to get what he wants. Techniques are still
necessary, but even more than the techniques is learning
and modeling the person whos using them to achieve our
own Holy SHIT! moment where it all clicks into place, and
suddenly you know how the REAL game works.
Lifestyle Skills: Learning the Things They Dont Teach
You in School - I always wondered why they didnt teach
things like how to balance your checkbook or how to
manage your money or start a savings plan when we were in
school. Instead we were learning facts and dates that almost
none of us ever use after we leave high school. They taught
us how to be a good little employee, and go work for a big
shiny corporation, but they didnt teach us the stuff that
mattered. I guess Im different in that I believe that every
man needs to round out his lifestyle with the skills that will
really matter in the long run - Not learning how long it will
take Train A going 60 miles an hour to collide with Train B
going 30 miles an hour. Call me silly...

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LAST WORDS...
I wanted to share a letter with you as a way to explain what it
REALLY takes to get a woman. It might seem a bit out of place to talk
about his one night stand when weve been talking so much about
authenticity and so forth, but its the concept of what women want
from men that is most important in this story.

The sooner
you get
started, the
sooner you
will achieve all
the things you
want in life.
If not now,
WHEN?

This guys experience is applicable to you, not just the super-suave


guy who is looking to do some bar and club action.
In fact, this works ten times better on women you meet every day, on
the street, in the grocery store, at the laundromat - WHEREVER you
may be.
Theres another important word I want you to learn about that makes
the difference between getting the woman you want - and winding up
as just another friend.
Read this question from one of my students to find out what this word
is...
______________________
QUESTION FROM A STUDENT:
Hello Carlos,
Hope you doing great. Just had to let you know about my story
last week where I got introduced to a girl by a friend.
It all happened on a night where we were in a small social
gathering with only me, her, and my friend. After half an hour
my friend went to sleep and there was only the two of us. I think
she is usually very shy and not very talkative by nature so I kept
talking just to ease the situation and to make her comfortable.
We had been talking for a while when I realized it was quite late
but she was still here. I tried to get closer to her to see her
reaction and eventually we started making out.
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Of course your advice did help a lot. For example I acted
confident and seemed to be sure of what I was doing, I was
even trying to make her laugh successfully (I guess our sense
of humor was similar).
So [your] three 'S's worked perfectly here: Self-confidence,
sense of humor, and self-control. Oh, and I used [your] palm
reading trick as an excuse to get closer to her and this is where
it started.
My questions are:
(1) She seemed to be very into me that night but was regularly
saying that she would not be having sex with me. I took it easy,
took a few seconds break and tried again till she accepted.
Would she have said that only to test my reaction?
(2) If a girl is supposed to sleep with a guy if she trusts him
(most importantly) then why did she do it on the first night she
met me - and after only a few hours? Can that really be enough
for a girl to trust a guy?
Keep rocking dude!!
R. in the UK
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CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:
This is a common situation with guys that seems illogical up
front, but is actually very obvious underneath.
First off, a woman says that sort of thing ("I'm not sleeping with
you") for one reason primarily, and it's not really to test you. It's
actually her way of establishing in her mind that she is
remaining "innocent." Women are culturally and societally
programmed to protect their sexuality as their "secret value" to
the world.
It's her bargaining chip.
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The one thing a woman used in days-gone-by to assure her
survival was her sexuality. It was her unique selling proposal
for men that she had to guard.
If a man thought she was a "loose woman," it
lowered her sexual value. After all, how would he be
able to be sure that his children were really HIS if
she was the kind of girl who messed around?
Well, in the last few years we've been able to
destroy that myth (of the chaste woman who does
not cheat) with the discovery that about 10% of all
kids are not from the father they think they are.
But it's VITALLY important to a woman's social appearance to
her peers and to men that she look innocent.
Think about what the worst insult is to a woman: Slut.
So she will proclaim until the end of the world that she's a
"Good Girl."
And her way of maintaining this image to you is to make you
believe that she "never does this sort of thing."
And she even denies it to herself, telling herself that this or that
sexual encounter "doesn't count."
Now, if you did react badly or impatiently to her saying "not
tonight," she would have been turned off in a big way. You
would have proven yourself to be just another guy who only
wants "one thing."
Game over.
But you did the right thing which was to hold back and chill.
Relax and let her feel that she could connect with you, and that
you were a confident and patient chap.

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You also bring up an equally valid and important point about
"trust."
Isn't a woman supposed to trust a man before she sleeps with
him? Yes, she does, but not as much as you might think.
There's another ingredient that is more important than trust, and
it will make all the difference to you with women.
She needs to feel CONNECTION.

Its really all


about
CONNECTION

So to answer your question, YES - that's all she needs in order


to feel comfortable enough to indulge her sexuality and have
fun with you.
In order to understand women, you have to really understand
the huge part of reality that is actually a complete LIE.
Here are some facts about women that most men accept as the
Truth, but they're not:
MYTH - Women are not as interested in sex as men.
Nope.
Women are actually MORE sexual than men.
MYTH - Women don't cheat as much as men.
Nope.
Women are just better at keeping it hidden than men are.
MYTH - A woman needs to be your one and only girlfriend
before she will sleep with you.
Nope.
As I told you above, she only needs to feel a connection with
you to allow herself to be sexual with you.
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So the real riddle that guys need to solve is HOW to get a
woman to feel that connection with you. To feel that she is
actually felt and UNDERSTOOD on a deep level.
To really supercharge her feminine identity, and touch her soul
in a way that most men will NEVER understand.
______________________

Common
sense isnt all
that
common...

Thats right, its all about connection. Which is something you cannot
achieve when youre trying to be
something you dont feel
comfortable or congruent with.
Now, a lot of what you have just
read in this ebook is going to
seem like common sense to you.
In fact, Id worry if you hadnt read
at least a small portion of this
somewhere else before.
But as they say, common sense aint so common, is it?
After all, we all know that exercising and eating right will make you
healthier. Almost without exception.
Seems pretty simple, doesnt it?
Eat right and exercise.
So why dont people do it if they know that they will live longer, have
more energy, and live higher quality life?
Well, its usually a question of discipline and motivation.
Its RARE to find a guy who will postpone his gratification to achieve
his long-term goals.
We try to do whats in our best interests - but sometimes we cant see
those best interests until its too late.
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There was a really disgusting poster in the waiting room of my
doctors office that showed a woman that looked all burned,
blackened, and gooey. The caption underneath read: If smoking did
to you on the outside what it does on the inside, youd never start.
It was pretty effective on a shock-value level.

Where you
are right now
is the sum
total of all the
decisions you
have made
throughout
your life...

Its hard to do whats right for us if it involves the discomfort of


changing. As humans, we have only a limited amount of push
through the pain determination, and usually that determination only
appears when weve finally hit rock bottom.
Dont get to that point if you can avoid it... but you might have to.
Have you ever heard the saying that the success or failure that you
experience can often be traced back to a few key decisions you make
at critical times during your life?
If you have heard this, have you ever given any thought as to what
those decisions might actually be?
Wouldnt you agree that maybe it makes sense to give them a little
thought?
If you knew that there are only a few key decisions that you can make
that are going to have an enormous impact on your quality of life and
the women you will meet and be with in your life, wouldnt you like to
know in advance what those decisions are?
Unfortunately, most guys have already made these decisions for
themselves - and usually they make the WRONG ONE. And they
dont even realize that theyve made this mistake.
How do I know this?
Because after talking with thousands of guys and experiencing the
obstacles that they run into, Ive been able to identify them - and its
especially evident when you see how many guys are not getting the

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kind of Top Gun success that a small percentage of the guys are
getting out there.
I used to think that the quality of your life experience would be in
direct proportion to the level of your self-esteem.
Well, I still think that, for the most part.

Can you look


out through
another
persons eyes
and
experience?

But now I understand that a huge part of your experience in life


amounts to your willingness to look at things through other peoples
perspective.
Remember when I told you about the Think Barrier?
Thats directly related to this.
The salesperson who is willing to really SEE the world through
his prospects eyes is going to experience a radical difference in
their ability to sell...
The hostage negotiator who is willing to really SEE the situation
through the other persons eyes is going to be able to defuse
the situation - and safely...
The parent who is really able to SEE through the eyes and
experience of their teenager - remembering what it was like and
not fall back on just commanding and lazy parenting - is going
to be able to make a difference in their childs life...
The man who looks through the eyes of the woman hes talking
to will have unbelievable success in his ability to get her hooked
on him - and CONNECT with massive rapport.
Its this ability to leave behind our own ego and selfish needs that will
define the level of success you will experience in your life.
PERIOD.
This one realization has made all the difference in the success Ive
had in my personal life and my professional life.
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And this is the depth of information you will find in my programs as
well.
Do you ever feel lost?
Do you ever feel like youre searching for an answer of how all this
stuff works, and how it all ties together?

I know
Kung-fu...
- Neo, in
The Matrix.

TRIVIA: The Chinese characters for kung-fu symbolize time and


energy.
Thats all that kung-fu really is - the
application of energy over time. You
can have martial arts kung-fu, or
cooking kung-fu, or even dating
kung-fu, if you choose.

Because those two elements are really all that your life will amount to
in the end. How much energy did you put in? And over how much
time?
The only thing you have to spend in this life is your time. Money will
come and go, but your time is fixed.
And precious.
The last 30 or 40 minutes or so that you spent reading this book are
gone for good. Youll never have them again. Thats why I made
damn sure that I put as much time-energy into this book as I could for
you.
This is my kung-fu.

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Are You Finally a Man?
You may have heard a saying that a boy becomes a man when he
realizes he is going to die someday.
This happened for me at a very early age.
I remember it clearly, like one of those flashbulb memories where
someone asks you where you were when this or that happened.

Someday, this
will all be
over.

I was 5 years old, and I was laying in bed, and I was laying there
thinking about my life and thinking out into the future. All of a sudden I
was smothered in despair.
I realized that one day, all of this would be over. I
would not live forever.
I started crying, and I called my mom in. I told her
what I was thinking about dying and afraid of it,
and she did the warm and nurturing mother
things, telling me that it would be all right, and
this wouldnt happen for many many years.
She must have calmed me down, because I fell
asleep soon after. I dont really even remember
dwelling on that thought again for many years.
I imagine this was a big freak-out for my mom, too. Her little boy was
talking about something she probably had never really considered. I
can imagine how difficult that was for her to handle.
I think that one experience shaped a lot of my life. I found a secret
well spring of energy in my life after that point that - looking back now
- I can attribute to this great realization.
We are not permanent fixtures here on this planet.
We are TEMPORARY here. We only get a good 70 or 80 years
(sometimes much less - no one knows for sure how long) to do our
work.
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And then were gone. Just a flicker of a candle in the wind, as some
singer might say.
We gotta get going, and move with a purpose.
When I talked to my girlfriends in the past and
asked them what it was that made them choose
me, almost all of them say it was my burning drive
to accomplish something here. They could sense
I was on my way somewhere, and that was
enormously exciting and attractive to them.

EVERYTHING
is just a skill
waiting to be
learned.

So now the real question is what happens next,


after this book is closed and your computer is
turned off.
What then?
If all Ive done in this book is give you ONE new idea that sparks your
awareness or increases your energy and motivation, it was worth it.
If all Ive done is give you the understanding of ONE concept that
could turn your life in a new direction, it was worth it.
If you do nothing after you read this, and a few years from now you
hear something that reminds you of a concept Ive talked about, and
you make a different decision that moves you towards your goal, it
was worth it.
You see, you can learn something new from anyone, anywhere,
anytime - IF you have the right goggles of awareness on, and youre
not just trying to judge the world.
As for YOUR Kung-fu, if you want to maximize your time-energy over
the next who-knows-how-many-years, you need skills. Everything
you want to do in life is just a skill - even dating and attracting
women, or becoming a better man.
And skills can be learned.
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I am here to teach you the best of the best when it comes to
attraction skills.
Ive been through the entire learning cycle of a guy who SUCKED
with women all the way to having great success with my dating and
attraction, and all the way to realizing that theres a big picture that
guys want that goes way beyond just pickup and the romantic
exploits.
Again, Im only going to pass along the best and most effective
techniques for change, growth, confidence-building, and
attraction.
Im not going to waste your time with a lot of useless lines and fluff
that will only misguide you into a place where you feel like you have
to be another person to attract women.
You only need to raise your excitement and energy up a few
notches to draw women into your vibe.
Think about this whole pickup thing for a minute...
Really, how hard could it be to get into a conversation with a drunk
girl whos just barely out of high school?
The pickup skills are necessary, because they are a tool, and
having any tool to realize a way to improve yourself is usually better
than no tools.
I say again, these techniques are necessary - but not nearly as much
as its necessary for you to learn an honorable and incredibly
POWERFUL method of attracting women with your authentic self.
If you would like to create that for yourself, without having to pay
$2000 (or much more) for an overhyped bootcamp with some guru, or
having to go beat up your inner child, then I can help you find that
path.

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If you would like to find your own unique path and purpose in this life
while you become the man you were meant to be, and you dont want
to walk over fire or spend umpteen thousand dollars in seminars and
retreats, Id be happy to help you find your path.
And if I cant help you, Ill point you to someone who can.
I want you to maximize these few years you get here on this planet,
and not look back in regret at
what you failed to do.

ENERGIZE
your life...

Take a few minutes right now.


Look away from the screen, or
the paper, close your eyes for a
bit and just imagine yourself in
that old folks home, or retirement
home, and youre talking to
everyone about the life you led.
What would your story be?
Would you have done the things
you wanted to do?
Or will you be regretting all the
things you never got to do?
Inner Game, Outer Game, and Motivation.
This is the Triple-Threat of the Alpha Lifestyle. With these three
elements in place, you are unstoppable.
You will be a force to be reckoned with.
Im attaching a little roadmap for you on the next few pages. Im just
giving you a quick idea of what is possible for you to learn on this
path to becoming the Alpha Man. I hope youll take the next step and
start living your Alpha Lifestyle.

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Make a choice that makes sense for you, and get started learning
and doing, not just BEING.
Get started on a curriculum that will give you the freedom to do what
you want to do, and be who you want to be.
Please use your new understanding with compassion, energy, and to
improve the lives of everyone you come in contact with.
Thats all I ask...

Become a
FORCE to be
reckoned
with...

Your friend,

- Carlos Xuma
Northern California
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PS: Youre welcome to give a copy of this e-book to anyone you think
might benefit from it.

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The information contained in or made available through
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trained professionals in any field, including, but not limited
to, psychological, financial, medical, or legal matters. In
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matters relating to physical or mental health, particularly
concerning any symptoms
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DD Publications and our licensors or suppliers make no
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consequential, special, exemplary or other damages that
may result, including but not limited to economic loss,
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