Fear of Ridicule

Fear of Rejection (Self-consciousness)

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As humans, the need for love and connections sits at core of our being. The fear
illustrated by this "emotional roadblock" is different than the our basic emptiness when
we are not loved. The fear of rejection or ridicule is a response to the social
conditioning that occurs when we are children. Our brains are great learning machines.
So effective that even just one strong emotional event can effect our behavoir the rest of
our lives. When a six year old stands up in class to answer a question, her brain makes a
connection.
If she gets the answer correct and the teacher praises her, her brain connects standing up
in class with good feeling of approval. If she misses the question and the whole class
laughs at her, her brain learns that standing up in class to answer a question equals
humiliation and embarassement. If this negative event is deeply emotional or occurs
repeatedly, a fear of ridicule is developed. If you happen to the one of the millions of
people that rank the fear of public speaking higher than the fear of death, you might
have some self-conciousness.
In handwriting, a severe fear of ridicule is signified by the humps on the letters m or n.
This self-consciousness in their handwriting is show when the second hump is higher
than the first hump. . It's interesting, because in handwriting analysis, the opposite of a
stroke is not always the opposite meaning. In the letter t, the low t-bar and high t-bar
have reciprocal meanings. However, in the m and n, it isn't the case.
For instance, the opposite of the fear of ridicule does not mean you enjoy ridicule. You
also can't say, "Just because I don't have a loop in my d-stem, I'm never sensitive to
criticism." It doesn't work that way. This is why it may take a little bit of study with
more advanced material to bat 100% when analyzing handwriting. In this example, the
"m's" that go downhill indicate diplomacy. Diplomacy means you have the ability to say
things in a very kind way and be diplomatic.
Diplomacy is a very positive trait. Self-consciousess has no redeeming factors.
Therefore, the decision to exchange one for the other is a no-brainer. If your humps go
uphill, it doesn't mean you can't be diplomatic. But it does mean that you have a little
bit more self-consciousness than you have diplomacy. In handwriting, the stronger trait
will occur in any letter where two or more traits might occur. Often, the letters will
alternate one shape to the other shape. This indicates both traits are a significant portion
of the personality.
In a sales career, this trait is very detrimental to a success. If you can't make cold calls
because you're afraid they might say no. You have a big hurdle to overcome. If you give
me a stack of salesmen's handwriting. The one writing with self-consciousness is
invariably the sales manager. Why? Because he has chosen to train and administer
rather than deal with rejection on a daily basis.
If you are single, you might experience self-consciousness when you meet someone
new. If you feel nervous to speak or a bit uncomfortable about doing the wrong this, you
are feeling the fear of rejection. Here is a test. Pick someone across the room that you
do not know. Walk right up to them and strike up a conversation. In many people, the
level of anxiety in this scenerio is in direct proportion with the level of selfconsciousness you have.