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Comment: Men explore sexuality a lot earlier than women. When women reach age, they can
become prey to men bc don't know. Only told not to do. WHAT not to do?
Ariana: We want to feel a connection and want to feel noticed. People expect that sex comes
with that connection and men or women feel need to move forward with something so sex is
seen as next step.
Touch is limited, not acceptable.
Comment: raised in Southeast Asia, problem is not sex but lack of addressing it.
Ariana: We enforce lack of closeness among selves.
Comment: We're always on defense bc were indoctrinated.
Ariana: what do separations mean? An idea people have: You're married now; everything is ok
so go after it. But in real world, these things take time. Communication cannot navigate so
easily. It's a biological process, not automatic. Vaginismus: many womens vaginas cant even
open when finally in a relationship because so much pent up tension & fear lifelong. Physical
tied to mental state. Worse, women don't address it bc failure so an otherwise very easy
solution becomes an even bigger struggle. Goes back to ridiculous standards.
Porn animalistic and fake bodies, and Muslim countries have most visitors to porn sites and
they stay a long time. Why? They can't talk about it and no one talks about it with them. These
false expectations and practices are so terrible for future relationship bc based on facade.
-Cue clicker questions: anonymous questionsquestion 2: chastity convos and open convos on sex
question 3: clitoris Q: everyone knows.
question 4: location of clitoris: every woman knows. a third of men dont.
question 5: more physical intimacy than ppl close to me know? almost exactly half.
question 6: felt guilt or shame about
question 7: 33% women. 40 something% men
q8: Most think either holding hands or sexual intercourse is farthest they'd go but pretty diverse.
q9: women and men both feel ashamed of body, not that society celebrates our bodies. almost
exactly equal!
Guilt vs shame. denial. It's not happening to our child, so we can ignore because friends child.
But then when our child is doing it, we won't talk about it and situation will go away by itself.
Zain's Q to crowd: Do I think discomfort around sexuality has had harmful effect on my own life?
Comments:
Consent means enthusiastic yes from both sides to me. Talking about sex in general is so
important.
11 yr old student in Islamic school: Myth that you get babies from sharing saliva, right?
Why is nail polish taboo? Why are girls lined up in prayer room of Islamic school acting as if can
pray, or brought into prayer room and sitting at back? Why this act just because we can't pray?
Why do we need to pretend?
Have to talk about sexual assault so girls know what people can do to their bodies - so they
know when something is not right.
Why do we need to go outside community to learn about matters related to these topics, like
sexual assault? Why are our centers out of touch?
Recently, scholars have begun to address it. Problem with our community is that we lost the
spirit of islam.
Boundaries? Where do we draw line? Is Islamic school really going to protect Muslim kids?
Commenter says no. Asks how were going to maintain kid's innocence while teaching them.
Western orientalism historically describes Muslims as too open. We were actually seen as horny
by west bc we rejected celibacy and puritanism.
Thank yous & closing!