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100 ways
to live

A BETTER

LIFE
Drago Rou

Foreword
The first edition of this book didnt have a
foreword. I didnt feel the need for it, at the
time. Just putting out the content was a big
enough challenge (and satisfaction, why hiding
this?). But now I feel the need to give a few
information about how this book came to life
and how you should read it.
The book youre reading is based on one of the
most viral posts on my blog, 100 Ways To Live A
Better Life. The post itself was visited for more
than half a million people so far.
A year after being published it was also
translated into Korean and it sold a decent 6000
copies on the printed books market, without any
marketing whatsoever, and without my physical
presence there. Im telling you this not to brag,
but to show you that youre in good company.
People seem to love this.
You should read this book one page per day. Not
more. Just one page. And then try to meditate,
during the day, at what youve read. Do this for
100 days in a row.

1. Accept Your Mistakes

Youre human. We, humans, are making

mistakes. Accept what you did wrong and try to
do better next time. No need to punish yourself
forever. In fact, accepting your mistakes is the
only way to make them disappear.
If you dont accept your mistakes, the
only thing youll create will be just continuous
guilt. Yes, you did wrong. But youre not the
only one. And youre not powerless: now that
you know you did wrong, you can make things
for better.
They say "Good judgment comes from
experience, and experience comes from bad
judgment. And they say that for a reason.
Mistakes are playing a very important role in our
lives: they prove our drive to manifest our
intentions.
You cant really do something wrong if
you dont try to do something in the first place.

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2. Accept Your Friends

Mistakes

Maybe you got hurt by somebody.

Happens. Just accept it and deal with it. People
are making mistakes and if you can accept that
for yourself, accept it for your friends too. In
the end, all you need from them is their love.
We tend to blend people with their
actions, which is fundamentally wrong. People
are inherently good, its their actions that can
be sometimes strange. If you can understand
that, youll find it much easier to accept their
mistakes too.
Imagine you are the one who have made a
mistake. How would you like them to react?
Holding a grudge against you, or accepting,
forgiving and moving on? They expect the same
behavior form you. Live and let live.
Imagine how much time youll win on
your side just by accepting they can be wrong
sometimes.

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3. Create A New Habit

Were doing a lot of stuff on autopilot.

Try to integrate in this category new things you
want to attract into your life. Habits are
powerful. Harness their energy for your own
good. Start by creating a habit in 15 days.
The more you do something you like, the
more you like doing it. Pick some things you like
doing, things that will make you feel better or
even be better, and start to incorporate them
into habits.
The subtle advantage of creating a habit
for something you like is that you will be able to
free a lot of energy for experimenting other
things. Which will translate into more personal
power and a stronger will.
Create the habit to be happy, for
starters, that will surely make a big change.

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4. Build Self Discipline

Dont wait for other people to impose

discipline on you. Start early. Create your own
discipline. Although it sounds a little bit harsh,
self discipline is a facilitator for many things in
your life. Its hard to get but great to have.
In my experience, all you need for
creating self-discipline is: clear goals,
incentives, progress assessment and a will to
avoid interruptions. The last one being the most
difficult, of course.
But if you manage to create clear goals,
to place at the end of them the appropriate
incentive and to constantly assess what youve
been doing, creating self-discipline will be only
a matter of time. A very short time.
In fact, self-discipline is the ability to do
the exact amount of what you want from what
you dreamed of, while still having a life.

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5. Make New Friends

Reach out. Dont be afraid. Establish new

contacts. The worst thing that may happen to
you is to be rejected. Well, if thats the case,
move on. The reward of having true, long-lasting
friendship is worth all the potential rejection.
Most of the time, the reason for not
having friends is an unconscious bad image
about ourselves. We dont reach out because we
feel we dont deserve it. Guess what: the reality
obeys our thoughts and place us outside the real
life.
Isolation is not good for you. We are
designed to be social animals, to exist and
support existence in a larger structure.
Whenever you isolate, youre burning some
bridges behind. At some point youll become
just a lonely island.
You may decide you have enough money
at some point, but you can never have enough
friends.

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6. Get A New Job

Shaking your comfort zone will often

create a lot of value in your life. If youre not
satisfied with your job, just get a new one. The
pitfall of not having money for a limited period
of time is temporary, get over it.
Many people are afraid of switching jobs
because all the responsibility associated with
the current one: your expertise, your network,
maybe a mortgage and other loans. All of these
are assets, not liabilities.
You can get a new job because all of
these. You can expand your expertise, enlarge
your network and pay your mortgage faster.
Staying on a same level for too long will not only
make you lose opportunities, but it will also
bore you to death.
Imagine your new job like a new,
wonderful trip. In fact, this is exactly what it
is.

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7. Start A New Diet

You are, in a vast proportion, what you

eat. Trying a new diet would often be the only
needed change for a dramatic boost of your
health and energy. Dont have to be raw food, or
even vegetarian, whatever works for you.
Ive been a raw vegan for 9 and a half
months and I felt incredibly well. Im not an
evangelist of it, though. Were all different and
what works for me may not work identically for
you. But what Ive learned was that a simple
diet can impact your life tremendously.
Starting a new diet is deeply related to
the energy sources you are connected to. On the
physical plane, you acquire a vast part of your
energy by eating. Changing the quality of your
food, as simple and dumb as it may seem, can
have a huge impact on your life.
Remember, you are, in a vast proportion,
what you eat.

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8. Keep A Journal

Write down you feelings, your ideas, your

goals, your activity. Journaling is by far one of
the most useful things Ive done to change my
life for the best. It works in such a silent, yet
effective way. All you need is pen and paper.
The first use for it is therapeutical and
this is why I started too: just wrote down my
frustrations, unloaded my anger and complaints.
And it does a wonderful job at cleaning your
emotional system: you can write anything in
your journal.
But it goes even further: once you got
over the therapeutical part of journaling, you
can use it as a witness for your dreams. Make it
the seed of your desired reality. Whatever you
write there, might become real at some point.
Write down your reality in your journal
first, and read it every day.

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9. Create And Keep A Morning

Phrase

Whatever you say to yourself in the

morning, it will most likely come true during the
day. Why not taking advantage of it? Create a
simple morning phrase and say it to yourself first
thing in the morning. Is that simple.
But theres a trick here: you have to make
your phrase realistic, empowering and easy to
remember. If you just set up yourself to
unrealistic things in the morning, the day will
follow. A morning phrase should be practical and
plausible.
It should also be simple enough to recall
at any given time during the day. Try make it the
first thing you read in the morning, until you
learn it by heart. Then pick another one and
then another one.
A morning phrase will actually make you
write the story of your life, word by word.

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10. Travel Far Away From Your

Home

Traveling long distance is incredibly

rewarding. Its so exciting and filled with
unpredictable events. I only recently started to
travel really far away from my home, but I do
wonder how could I ever made it until now
without this.
I flew around the world by plane in two
weeks. That alone gave me an incredible feeling
of spatiality. Now Ive been around the world
and for that, the world is not particularly
smaller, but far more manageable than I
thought.
I also spent time in very different
cultures, like Japan or Thailand. The cultural
shock made me realize theres so much to be
discovered in this world, theres so much to be
seen and experienced.
At a very symbolic level, your life is only
a journey. Make it beautiful.

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11. Learn To Take Risks

Your life may be so boring and fade

because err, you made it like this? When was
the last time your tried something really
difficult? When was the last time you challenged
the odds doing something risky? Do it now.
The ability to take risks is a fundamental
ingredient of your life. We often associate the
reward of a certain action by the risk involved.
If theres no risk, we usually dont value the
result either. We end up living a life without
value.
Taking risks is not easy. Its not a game
and it should not be treated like this. You can
lose some things, but you can also win other
things. Exercising your risking capacities is one
of the most rewarding, yet consuming, I admit,
ways of enriching your life.
No risk it, no biscuit, they say, and they
say that for a good reason.

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12. Start Your Own Business

Be your own boss. Work your own hours. I

know, it sounds so shallow, for you, who hate
your job but still have to stay there because of
that mortgage. Well, unless you make the first
step, nothing is going to change. Thats for sure.
When I started my own business, I did it
mainly out of curiosity. Money wasnt a key
ingredient in my decision. I was making a decent
living as an employee. But I was curious how a
not so decent life would look like. A better life,
that is.
There are risks involved, thats for sure.
But the reward is fantastic. Its not the freedom
you get. Its not the money, although it does
count. Its the ability to control the throughput
of your generated value. You can give as much
as you want.
Starting your own business means giving
more of what you can offer and receive more of
what you can get.

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13. Change Your Work Space

Clean up your desk. Re-arrange furniture.

Add some color to that space. Make the place
where you work really enjoyable. So enjoyable
that work there wont be perceived as work
anymore. It will be something you love to do.
I love to change my workspace every now
and then. Because I consider that workspace to
be a mirror of my thoughts. Imagine how would
you feel if you would think the same thoughts
day in and day out. They have a name for that:
being crazy.
Small changes in the workspace around
you can have a huge impact in your life. Not
only you can become more productive, so to
speak, but you will feel that every day is
unfolding in a different way.
Changing your workspace around should
give you the feeling that work is in fact just a
disguised holiday. Until the real one starts, of
course.

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14. Learn A New Language

Challenge your mind. Constantly. If youre

going to do number 10, youre going to learn
some new languages too. From my experience,
learning a new language is a fantastic mind
opener. Sometimes you dont even have to
travel there.
And if were talking about languages,
remember that we do live in an information era.
Everything is a language. Try learning simple
things related to this like HTML. Or, even
simpler, try to learn the meaning of emoticons in
a chat.
Back to real languages, every time you
describe reality in a new way, it will expand. So,
every time you will name the same thing in
different languages, you will actually re-create
that thing. This is why I consider polyglots to be
very rich people.
Try describing the part in your life you
want to grow in different languages. Youll be
surprised by the results.

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15. Find Reasons To Agree

Rather than disagree. We have this

mindset of competition which makes constantly
arguing over things. Well, stop that. You dont
have to force yourself into agreement, if its not
the case, just trying to find some reasons will be
enough.
Theres also another subtle implication of
this approach: whenever you force yourself to
see the resolution of a situation, rather than its
potential conflict, you help the resolution
manifest and throw away the conflict. It
happens more often than you think.
Changing your approach to conflictual
situation has a great growth potential because
we do live in a conflicted world. And the most
constant friction in this world is the one
between old and new.
Finding reasons to agree rather than
disagree will feed harmony and starve worthless
conflict.

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16. Pay Yourself First

You cant give something if you dont

have it. You cant spread light onto others if you
dont have light from within. You cant give
wealth to others if you dont have it for yourself
first. Make yourself a service and pay yourself
first.
Im all in for altruism but for a real,
sustainable altruism. Im not buying into people
who cant take care of themselves but at the
same time theyre preaching giving as a religion.
If you want to give something, you have to have
it first.
Paying yourself first is another way of
saying that you have to make more than you
need prior to giving to others. Depriving yourself
for feeding others wont solve the problem.
Have more love, have more money, more
happiness, then start giving away.
Pay yourself first in order to have more
for others. Then giving will just come in
naturally.

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17. Wake Up Early

This is not a habit, this is a lifestyle.

Dont just wake up early without a purpose. Be
early. Be there before others. Look for
opportunities and embrace them. Waking up
early means keeping your eye open to every
available opportunity.
This is not a contest: who is waking up
earlier than the other. This is a new perspective:
being there before any other person will. Being
first at your own business office before your
employees. Creating a certain type of value
before somebody else does it.
Many people think that just by waking up
early theyll be better. Thats not true. Waking
up early without a clear purpose will just clear
some more time for procrastination. First, find
out what you want to do with your life, than
squeeze every second of time doing it.
Waking up early means in fact creating
your day, instead of taking it for granted.

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18. Train Your Focus

Your focus is in fact your reality. Use it

wisely. Train it constantly for it will enhance
your reality in ways you never imagined. Keep
your focus sharp as a razor blade and be
prepared to experience life in fantastic shapes
and colors.
Lets make this little exercise: take your
eyes out of the book and look at the wall in
front of you. Now, which is part of your reality?
The book, or your wall? You may think its the
book, but it isnt: since your focus changed, all
you have in your reality now is the wall in front
of you.
Its the same in all areas of your life. If
you focus on your problems, even if you think
you have their solution, you will just make them
grow. Its like looking at the wall while ignoring
what you have in your hands. The problems will
become more real than their solutions.
Your focus is creating your reality:
whatever you focus on it will grow.

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19. Start A Blog

On whatever topic you want. Not only it

will give you the opportunity to create
something new and valuable but it will also
bring new people into your life. Blogging is far
more than a hype, is a personal development
tool. A very good one.
Many people think a blog is just an
instrument for making money. To some extent, it
is. But it is also much more than that. A blog will
structure information and will allow you to
express it in a different way and to a wider
audience.
In many ways, a blog can become your
personal brand. And if you dont know what a
personal brand is, maybe its time to find out: a
personal brand is an immaterial version of you,
working for yourself even when youre not
there. And a blog can help you create that
version of you faster than any other tool.
Maybe you think your life is not good
enough to blog about it. Well, youll never find
out until you really try.

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20. Write An Ebook

You may think you dont have a talent,
but thats completely wrong. And the easiest
way to prove it wrong is to start writing an
ebook. Any ebook. You pick the topic. It might
be something you know or want to learn about.
Write it. Its fun.
An ebook is something different than a
blog. Its like a story on something you really
know. Maybe your only talent is cooking. By all
means, write a book about cooking. There are
also 1 other million books on cooking? So what?
There is no end to human creativity and
your presence on this earth is the biggest proof.
Youre unique, Youre special. Even if you think
you dont have anything to offer, you have. Just
think at the one thing you know to do best and
start writing about it, The rest will follow.
An ebook is a very easy way to let other
people know you exist and have something to
offer. Something as unique as you.

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21. Be Better, Not Perfect

Striving too much for perfection will ruin

your life. It will wipe out all those little
imperfections which are making you human.
Being better, on the other side, is rewarding.
Look back at the yesterday you and just say: Im
better!
Perfection is death camouflaged in
beauty. You cant really be perfect and still be
alive. Your life is made out of all those little
limitations, all those spots on your immaculate
canvas. Eliminating them will make you perfect
but it will take life out of you.
On the other hand, striving to be better
stems from accepting your limitations. From
acknowledging your imperfection. Most of the
time, striving to be perfect will kill any action
you may take, just by knowing its impossible to
be perfect.
Just by accepting that you are not
perfect, only improvable, your life will change
dramatically. For the better.

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22. Stop Self Sabotage

Youll be surprised by how much of a

burden you can be to yourself. You are literally
self sabotaging. Most of the time, unconsciously.
If you have a long history of failure behind, that
could mean youve become your worst enemy.
Stop it.
Easier said than done, I agree. Self
sabotaging is really difficult to identify in ones
behavior. I know it was difficult to identify in my
behavior. I didnt even know I was selfsabotaging myself until I was able to see, after
many years, some patterns.
For me, it was fear of success. I was so
afraid of being successful that I was
unconsciously sabotaging myself For you, it may
be anything else. But its happening more often
than you think. Make peace with the fact that
you may be your worse enemy and after that,
make peace with this enemy.
Whenever you do something wrong in a
context youre usually doing great, youre
unconsciously self sabotaging.

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23. Find Reasons To Love Your

Life

Maybe life wasnt fair with you. Yes, I

know, Ive been there: life is never fair. But its
fantastic. Its unique, unrepeatable, one of a
kind, beautiful, simple, challenging, sweet,
hard Just take a step back and find reasons to
love your life.
Love it for your friends or for your
enemies, love it for the beautiful mornings and
wonderful sunsets, for your beloved ones and for
the ones you forgot, for all the gifts you made
and for all the gifts you are yet to receive.
Love your life for the colors around you,
for the beautiful sounds of music, for the
meaningful silence and for everything you have
to share with others. Love your life for all the
stories you havent yet heard or told.
Love your life for every single second, as
this is all you have, only this infinite second.

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24. Try Something New

Maybe youre sad because youre bored.

Have you ever thought about that? Just reach
out and try something completely new. Go for a
challenge, learn a new sport, pick a different
restaurant or go for a comedy movie (if youre
the drama type). Just try it.
Trying something new has also a more
deeper meaning: consuming your internal
resources in order to force you go out and find
some more. If you dont try something new, you
embrace a mindset of conservation. And
conservation is just another word for death.
Yes, it requires some effort to get out of
your comfort zone. Yes, it involves a risk: you
may not like that movie or that new restaurant.
But if you carefully analyze yourself, youll be
surprised to see that the new you feels better
overall than the old one, who didnt take the
challenge.
Trying something new is one of the
cheapest indulgences you can afford every once
in a while.

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25. Avoid Fighting

Fighting is the biggest energy leak of your

being. Trying to prove another guy wrong is so
against your true nature. Youre here to
acknowledge lifes wonders, not to prove
anybodys wrong. Theyre not wrong, just have
different opinions. And thats part of life.
I was so judgmental when I was younger.
Anytime I saw something wrong I had to stand
up for it. Which most of the time lead to a
fight. I also took pride in proving others wrong.
I was right, you know! What a huge, worthless
and ridiculous waste of time...
Fighting is the best food for your ego. You
know, that part of you which can be hurt and
humiliated. The more you grow your ego, the
more youll experience hurt, humiliation,
fighting and sorrow.
Just let go. Maybe youre right. Its more
than enough that you know it in your heart.

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26. Stop Wasting Your Power

Are you doing something that you think

you shouldnt be doing right now? Well, thats
wasted power. Thats meaningless stuff
promoted to the honor of being a part of your
life. How long are you going to approve this?
Why wasting power?
The worst thing that can happen to you is
to realize that you have unlimited power. That
there is nothing outside you and everything is
inside, waiting to blossom. The worst thing is to
realize that youre here to create your own life.
Why?
Because youll have to face some terrible
questions, like: what is my life purpose? What if
I screw up? Who am I? Do I have to accept
anything? If you dont accept the fact that you
have unlimited power, that power will not vanish
away.
It will still be there, but it just wont be
used by you. The bad news is that somebody
else is going to use it.

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27. Learn To Ignore

I think they should be teaching this one in

schools. Were focused on so many topics and
think we have to do so much stuff, that our life
is literally clogged with things. Its good to do
stuff, but learning to ignore it is much better.
Learning to ignore is the first step in
growing your focus power. Not to mention that
allowing yourself to ignore things you dont want
is a form of self-respect. Nobody can force you
to do anything if you dont want.
If you put your focus on things you dont
want, you will take some energy from the things
you do want to happen. The energy flow is
constant, its your choice where to put it. So,
learning to ignore should be a compulsory life
skill.
Start right now: ignore this book and get
up doing something really important for you.

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28. Experiment Gratitude

When was the last time you said thank

you? With all your heart? Everybody knows that
an attitude of gratitude is the key to success,
but almost nobody practices it. Well, start by
experience gratitude first, and take it from
there.
I once did a gratitude experiment. I
decided to write down at the end of the day all
the things I was grateful for. I created a sort of a
gratitude journal. Didnt plan in advance what
to write, went with the flow. Each evening, five
minutes.
After 30 days I re-read it. I was amazed
by this simple fact: the things I was grateful for
grew from one day to another. It was like
feeding them with my gratitude. Looking back
after 30 days made it obvious: I actually
attracted more of what I was grateful for in my
life.
Expressing gratitude doesnt cost you
anything, but it can bring you so much.

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29. Recycle Your Aggression

Dont throw it away, recycle it! Use it for

something you really want! Call out those wild
forces inside of you and put them to work.
Aggression is part of your being, so dont try to
reject it, because it will only grow stronger.
Recycle your aggression.
Every aggressive action is in fact the
result of a certain imbalance. This is why is
wiser to assess your imbalances early and
acknowledge them. Postponing your reactions
generated by a restrictive situation will trigger
aggression, sooner or later.
But the good news is that aggression is
also a pure manifestation of power. If you can
break a wall with your fist, that means youre
strong. Maybe stronger than you thought you
were. The trick is to acknowledge this power
and master it.
Aggression is not something outside you,
unless you make it be. Its always your inner
energy that manifests. Just use it wisely.

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30. Release Your Guardians

Dont touch that! Dont eat that! Dont go

for that opportunity! Those are the sentences
you hear when going for something you really
want. Those are your guardians, your mental
constructs made to protect you. Release them,
youll be much better off.
We all have some sort of self-imposed
limitations. Some of them are natural, like
dont put your hand in the fire, some of them
are just social constructs. The problem with
them is that they stretch way over their initial
goal.
So, every now and then you should assess
them. Is it really forbidden to talk loud in
public? Is it really forbidden to quit a job I dont
like? Is it really forbidden to break away from a
relationship which is not good for me?
And the most important question you
must ask to your guardians: is it really
forbidden to be happy?

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31. Clean Up Your House

Its fun. And its good for you. Make a

habit out of cleaning up your house with joy and
happiness. Whats outside is a mirror of whats
inside. If your house is a mess, probably your
internal life is a disaster. Neat that stuff, its
easy.
Some people chose to delegate this task: I
have a housekeeper, why should I bother? Well, I
think there are some boundaries you should not
trespass. Cleaning up my house is a very private
thing for me.
I prefer to spend an entire day cleaning
my house and keep a certain privacy rather than
delegating and lose it. Your house is in fact an
extensions of yourself, it represents you if only
because youre sharing your energy with it day
in and day out.
Cleaning up your house should be an
intimate act of self purification.

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32. Write A Personal Mission

Statement

Youre here for a reason. No matter how

small you feel now, or how insignificant others
may made you feel in the past, you have a
purpose. Take the time to write your personal
mission statement. It will bring light and
direction into your life.
You may have some hard time finding it,
thats true, but rest assured everybody has. As
long as you dont give up and really try to find
it, at some point, it will reveal. How would you
know its your personal mission statement and
not some borrowed mumbo jumbo?
Just do it. Live by it. See how you feel. If
theres enthusiasm and passion in your life, your
personal mission statement is the right one.
Those are the only two ingredients to assess:
enthusiasm and passion.
Your personal mission statement is the
phrase which puts back passion into your life.
And make you live it enthusiastically.

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33. Dissolve Negative

Opinions About Yourself
Whatever you think you may do, its half
of what you can really do. And thats because
you have so many negative opinions about
yourself. You can disperse them. Just accept the
fact that you have negative opinions and then
start working on them.
Most of the time, those negative opinions
will come from the outside: people will judge
you for what you did. Sometimes they will judge
you for what you didnt do. And, of course,
there will also be your own negative opinions
about yourself.
Accept them. Assess them. If you really
did something wrong, fix it. No excuses, no false
image polishing, Be authentic and do whatever
you have to do to move things forward. Once
you are convinced you did the right thing, move
on.
Its ok to have negative opinions about
yourself as long as you are 100% committed to
assess, accept and dissolve them,

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34. Build Different Skills

Dont stop learning. Dont remain stuck in

a single career, its boring and limiting. Learn
different skills, possibly from completely
unrelated fields. You never know when life will
ask you to use them. Besides, its a lot of fun.
Our modern society thought us that our
chances for a higher payout are bigger on the
narrow niches. While this might be true, nobody
can guarantee that a narrow niche will survive
for ever.
Life changes, society changes, jobs are
changing so do yourself a favor and embrace
change. Your todays hobby may become your
tomorrow job. By building different skills, you
are building your own opportunities.
Acquiring different skills is like learning
new languages, only you can make a living out
of them.

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35. Manage Your Time As You

Manage Your Money

Have you ever thought what would be if

you would manage your time the same way you
manage your money? Just give it a try. See
where you spend most of your time, what the
return of investment is and how rich are you in
time.
For instance, you would never spend
money on things you dont really like, right? So
why spending your time in a job you dont like?
Or with people you dont like. Its a bad
investment, you wouldnt do it with money so
why doing it with your time?
Subsequently, you wouldnt spend money
you dont have, right? Sinking in debt is
equivalent with working extra hours: you dont
really have that time, youre borrowing it from
your family or friends.
Time is money, they say, but nobody seem
to actually treat their time the same way they
treat their money.

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36. Exercise

You dont have to break the world record,

or something. Just make sure you exercise
constantly. It will make your body healthier and
your mind clearer. Its also one of the simplest
and most affordable ways to improve your life.
Your body needs the same level of
attention as your soul. Furthermore, your body
is the host of your soul, so the best gift you can
give to your souls is a healthy host. Believe it or
not, exercising is one of the simplest way to stay
healthy.
Exercising is also one of the cheapest
improvements you can buy for your body: its
actually free. You can exercise virtually
everywhere. You can establish your own routine
and keep your own pace. As long as you do it
constantly.
Exercising is for your body what reading
is for your mind: keeps it fit and alert.

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37. Be A Parent

Having kids doesnt necessarily means

youre a parent, and I know that very well.
Being a real parent will surely change your life
forever: filling it with unconditional, life lasting
love, care and warm feelings. Youll live in love.
And learn.
Being a parent is not a chore, its a gift. A
very precious one. Being too wrapped up in our
daily survival fight we often forget how
generous life was when it made us responsible
for other lives.
Its an incredible present to observe life
unfolding behind us each year, month by month,
day by day. Its not about living another life but
witnessing and preserving this eternal wonder.
Nurturing our own flesh and blood
through the lives of our children is a spark of
divinity.

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38. Throw Away One Object A

Day From Your House

Maybe your life is breathing so hard just

because its suffocated with objects. Learn to
let them go. You may donate them, give to
charity or simply throw them away, but dont let
the clutter stay in your way. Youre not the
objects you have.
Creating this habit is a fantastic reward. I
dont know if you suffer from this souvenirs
illness, but I know I did. I used to pile around
tons of physical witnesses of my life. Now Im
scared just by seeing them.
Life is here and now, it cant be
contained in an object. Memories are good as an
entertaining system not for dragging you in the
past. A clogged house is more than often a sign
of a clogged life.
Just make sure you lighten your
environment each day with one single object.
Youll soon feel like flying.

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39. Read A Book Per Week

Or, alternatively, a fine selection of blogs.

That will keep your mind alert and your focus
steady. Reading is like good food for your brain,
without it, it will go lazy, obese and
unresponsive. But with the proper food it can
become your best friend.
I cant imagine a life in which I wouldnt
read. Even in my wildest and hippiest life
representations theres still a lot of room for
books. Not only for the brain challenges it
implies but also for their great ability to ignite
dreams.
Reading will force your current problems
to go away while your focus is on the book. It
will also add to your pool of possible solutions if
you are seeking one. And it will just make you
feel good.
Books are distilled, available and
digestible knowledge. Dont avoid it.

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40. Start A Monthly Challenge

Being it physical, mental or social. Intend

to acquire something new in your life in 30 days.
Improve your health using new methods, or your
relationships by starting new things together.
Make it count. And count on it.
30 days challenges are some of the
easiest ways to improve your life. They are far
more manageable than your yearly resolutions,
for instance, but they last long enough to
produce visible results.
I used 30 days challenges to create new
habits, to ditch old, bad habits, to experiment
new attitudes, like gratitude, to test new
productivity approaches or to change my
exercising routine.
Its easier than you think and you dont
have to spend months in it: its only 30 days.
Start today.

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41. Call An Old Friend

Its enlightening to connect with

somebody you havent talk to in the last years.
Go right now and call an old friend, or a
relative. It will bring up memories and it will
create new opportunities. Dont let the dust
settle on your relationships.
We live life at different speeds. Some of
our friends are left behind in this race, some of
them are ahead us. Calling an old friend will
instantly resuscitate portions of your life which
are not within your reach anymore.
Doesnt matter if their journey placed
them ahead or behind you in whatever system
you may use, calling them out of the blue will
put them at the same table again. Telling stories
like in the old times, feeling good, having fun.
Its easier than reading this page actually,
pick up the phone and call an old friend. Right
now.

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42. Follow A Coincidence

Well, there arent any coincidences, I

lied. Everything has a purpose. If you witness
something which may seem like a coincidence,
then youre very lucky, you just got a sign.
Follow it with trust, it will lead you well.
Following coincidences proved to be
providential to me at times. Every glitch in
the matrix is an opportunity, every discontinuity
in our flat Universe is in fact a gate to another
world. Most of the time, that world is much
better than this one.
Im sure that there is a certain ability in
human consciousness capable to decipher what
we call now coincidences. Im sure that on
another level coincidences are just normal signs.
You need a lot of trust and a clear mind to
identify those signs, but once you did it, dont
stop.
Following a coincidence could be the
difference between a good decision and a
brilliant decision.

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43. Play A Game

Any game. Just play. Like a child. Allow

yourself to do something just for fun, without
any goals, pressures or deadlines. It will make
you understand that everything is a game.
Sometimes a little bit harder, but still a game.
Playing is our natural state of being, but
somehow, we lost it along the way. Every time
we play we activate something divine in us,
something that tells us everything is going to be
just fine.
Playing is by definition the opposite of
worries, its their natural antidote. When you
feel down, just let go and dive into any game
you find available around and your life will
instantly change. For good.
Life is just the ultimate play, dont make
it more serious than it is.

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44. Forgive Somebody Out Of

The Blue

Dont hold that grudge for that past

insult. Grudges are heavy and tend to make the
take off for a new life a little bit difficult. The
longer you hold that grudge, the more difficult
the take off will be. Forgiveness will lift you off.
Its often misunderstood that forgiveness
its about another person. It isnt, its about
you. When you forgive you dont impact the
other person in any way. You can only impact
yourself.
Letting go its about your burden, not
theirs. Forgiving will make you feel better in the
end, not them. Nobody owes you anything. The
moment you realize that, forgiveness will be
your natural behavior.
Resentment is like drinking poison and
waiting for the other person to die, said Carrie
Fisher and she was damn right!

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45. Stop Solving The Wrong

Problem

You are not here to witness the bad things

in your life. Nor the performance in itself. You
are here to enjoy a journey. To become aware.
To grow. So, stop solving the wrong problem and
focus on what really matters.
Were often taught that numbers or
metrics are things of value. We should aim for a
certain number of money in the bank account.
Or doing a certain number of things to feel
happy.
Numbers and metrics are just handles for
the real stuff. Dont settle for the handles, take
the whole pot. Fulfillment and happiness cant
be measured, they can only be felt. You cant be
95.43% happy.
You can be only happy, so stop solving the
wrong problems and focus on the desired
solutions.

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46. Make Peace With An Old

Enemy

Thats more than forgiveness, thats the

actual process of reversing a situation. Make
peace with somebody. Turn it into your friend.
Im not saying this is easy, I know it first hand.
But I also know it works. Enemies count down,
friends count up.
The whole idea of having enemies is
overrated. Who needs them in the first place?
Why accepting to position yourself as an enemy
to somebody else? Power games leads sooner or
later to defeat.
Not to mention the amount of energy you
spend to keep this whole enemy concept
running. Imagine what you can do with all that
extra resources you will free. Just by
eliminating the enemy construct altogether.
Making peace with an old enemy, much
like forgiveness, will break in fact your own
chains.

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47. Make A Promise To A Close

Person And Keep It

It doesnt have to be something big. It

doesnt have to be for someone special. It
doesnt have to be difficult also. But it has to be
a commitment to somebody. Just reach out,
make a promise, keep it and then enjoy the
feeling after.
Making and keeping promises is the best
social glue I ever encountered. There is no
easier and effective way to make friends, to
reach out and to build invisible bridges between
you and other people.
It also improves your self-esteem
drastically. Committing to somebody else has
this magic effect of growing more inner
resources. Its like what you build outside is
coming back to you in an invisible way.
The more promises you make and keep,
the more inner fulfillment youll create.

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48. Break Up With A Person

You Dont Really Like

Maybe youre friend with somebody just

by habit, chemistry being dead for a long time
now. Just break it up. Tell him. Ok, lets
unfriend us, this will not work. It will bring up
something you thought you lost it long ago:
courage.
All the lose ends in your social life are
dragging you down, even if you dont notice this
directly. If youre just showing up for a
friendship, youll spend time and energy that
you dont really want to.
Not to mention that if you only simulates
friendship, you will get back another simulation.
If you mime your exchange, expect to receive
back a fake too. Its far more easier to just
break up.
Dont hold grudges and if you can, make a
celebration out of it. Smile because it
happened.

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49. Get A Thing You Wanted

For A Long Time

But you didnt had time or money to get

it. Just go out and get it. Not only it will boost
your self-respect, but it will also free your
desire channel, which may be a little bit clogged
by having one and only one desire for such a
long time.
In my experience, if you keep your
internal focus on only one desire something will
start to fade inside you. Youll start to idealize
the object of your desire, pushing it outside the
current reality.
Just go out and reach to what you want.
It will be expensive, maybe, but at least you will
free your internal focus from this obsession. You
will actually unblock your normal flow of
aspirations.
Dreaming too much about having
something equals making that something
inaccessible.

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50. Stop Being Judgmental

With others AND with you. Excessive

criticism will kill your enthusiasm. And if you
think this book is something you shouldnt read
in the first place, then, my friend, you really are
judgmental. Lighten up. Accept life as it is.
And you know what? Life will start
accepting you as you are too. Critique is good
only if it ends with a positive call for action,
otherwise is just another burden on your back.
Who needs another one, anyway?
Being judgmental is more than often the
consequence of a serious lack of self-confidence
than of a genuine improvement desire. Why
judging others instead of helping them? That will
only perpetuate the problem.
Stop being judgmental with you in the
first place. You are ok as you are.

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51. Change Your Wardrobe

You dont know how much are you tied to

what you wear. If youre on the gray loving side,
put some color in your clothes. If youre on the
black and white, try some gradients. Of course,
your clothes are not you. Hence, theyre so easy
to change, right?
Were constantly broadcasting meaningful
signals even when were not, so to speak. Our
clothes are some of those signals we tend to
ignore after a while. Just a small change in the
way you dress will lift you up.
Dont believe me? Leave this book alone
for a while and go change your outfit. Im not
telling your wardrobe will make you happy just
by itself, but a change every once in a while
will.
Your clothes, although they doesnt
represent you as a person, can surely change
your mood.

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52. Smile At Least 10 Times A

Day

And I mean it, start to count that. Smiling

is a sign of honesty and power. Everybody can
cry over a disaster but only the most powerful
can take bitterness with a smile. Exercise that
power. And then try to go for 20 times a day.
Smiling is a sign of the powerful. A smile
can hold in itself both the enthusiasm of pure
laughing and the expression of genuine sadness.
Developing the habit of constantly smiling is an
exercise of endurance and courage.
Genuinely receiving everything life throws
at you with a smile will have the unexpected
effect of soothing the harsh moments and
embellishing the nice ones.
A smile is the cheapest reality
improvement tool.

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53. Burn Some Old Memories

Maybe the notebook from your 7th grade?

Maybe the teenage dumb poetry you wrote?
Whatever it might be, break up with it. Might be
difficult, but it might also be a sign that youre
so attached to the past that you cant advance
in your life anymore.
I know for sure I found it difficult. I
somehow identified myself with those memories
and felt like I was committing some kind of
felony against myself if I would throw them
away.
Took me a lot to understand that Im not
my memories. And even more to realize that our
life is taking place in the present moment only.
Not in the past, not in the future. Just the
present moment.
Burning some old memories will be like
throwing some ballast from your balloon: will
lift you up, higher and higher.
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54. Plant A Tree

Or take care of a flower. Do it for at least

several months. It will give you a sense of
potential. Seeing that tree or that flower
growing will make your self-confidence go up. If
a flower can make it, why cant I? Of course you
can, now do it!
Taking care of a tree, of a flower, or even
of a small garden will instantly extract your
from your day to day roller coaster. Its like
creating your own refuge in the middle of the
unleashed, noisy and pressuring world.
You will create a parallel world, in which
you will have a privileged relationship: will not
talk, but will communicate. Will give and
receive seamlessly. Will enjoy each other
presence without any conditions.
Improving another kind of life, a tree life
or a flower life, will silently and
unconditionally pay you back.

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55. Move To Another Town Or

Country

M a y b e i t s t i m e t o c h a n g e t h e
environment? Take the plunge, move over. Pick
another town or even another country. Like all
the good stuff, it might be pretty difficult in the
beginning, but you can bet it would shake
everything really good!
And shaking everything around is most of
time all you need to start over. And start better.
Will get to know new places. Will meet new
people. Will make new friends. Will enjoy life
more.
Moving out is often misunderstood and
taken as a form of surrender. Ill take it as a
form of exploration. After a while, your
environment, as rich as it may be, could dry out.
Dont be afraid to find another one. The
mere act of deciding this will make your life
better.

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56. Join A New Group

Go to a bikers meeting. Or, if youre not a

biker, to a toastmasters meeting. Join a new
group and see how you fit in. It will help if the
group will be focused on some of your passions,
of course. It will reveal a lot about your social
skills.
Were designed to act and live in a social
environment. If we withdraw for too long from
this social layer, things will start to break up
inside. We function better when we can freely
exchange our energy with other people.
Its not only about seeking new friends,
although this is most likely to be one of the
consequences of joining a new group, but mostly
about what your contribution to this group
would be. What you can offer.
Sometimes, a new group will reveal more
about your own hidden identity that you want
to believe.

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57. Stop Watching TV

Television evolved a lot from the balanced

news provider it was in the beginning up to the
current manipulating tool. Just stop watching it
for a week. And then for a month. Meanwhile,
assess your psychological progress. You may be
amazed.
Although we need a steady information
flow to cope with our day to day reality,
clogging it with an oversized pack of random
data, such as the one most TV shows provides,
will rend the whole purpose of it ridiculous.
Too much of it will slowly erode your own
values system and make you subject to shallow
interpretations or just plain lies. Make yourself a
service and exercise your own judgment as often
as you can.
Dont live your life from a broadcasted
TV show, keep it real.

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58. Start A Totally Unexpected

Hobby

Start making trains out of safety matches.

Raise cobras. Put tiny vessels into tiny bottles.
Do whatever it takes to move your mind from
your problems for a while. And if you can create
something nice in the process, why not doing it?
A hobby its like a game you play
seriously. You set up a time and space for it but
you do it especially for fun. Its like your own
private territory where nobody can trespass
without your authorization.
Hobbies are in fact just infant passions,
markers for something which can become even
bigger. Treat them nicely and they can
eventually evolve into grown up passions that
will fuel your life with enthusiasm and
fulfillment.
Be serious about playing with your
hobbies.

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59. Randomly Hug A Stranger

On The Street

Ok, this might be a little bit dangerous,

but only if you think at it. If youre doing it,
chances are that youre going to get your hug
back. It will also help raising your adrenaline up
to levels you never had for a very long time.
I both did that and witnessed somebody
else doing it. Its a fantastic experience. Word
of caution: do ask for permission first and if you
are refused, do not insist.
But if the other person agree, something
magic will happen, A simple hug will bring back
into awareness all that simple joy of being
connected. Of being part of something bigger
than you.
On a certain level, randomly hugging
strangers on the street is even better than
hugging persons you know.

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60. Set Up A Surprise Party

For you or for a friend. Its always good

for your mood, even if or especially if youre
down. Do a thematic one, invite friends and tell
them to bring their friends. And then expect to
meet new, wonderful persons. And of course,
have fun.
Simple, plain and spontaneous fun is so
underrated. All you need is a little bit of
courage to step out of your comfort zone and
bring in some friends. Then let things to unfold
in their own terms.
I used to be afraid of parties, especially
of surprise parties. Deep down, there was a
simple, yet powerful sentence which prevented
me to enjoy it. That sentence was :you dont
deserve it.
Not anymore. Me, you, and everyone else
deserves a surprise party every now and then.

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61. Go Hiking

Do it for at least one week-end. Nature is

more powerful than our human created
environment. We dont know how to channel the
energy into our artificial habitats. If you want to
recharge, go outside and stay in connection with
the wilderness.
Our modern artificial world is still very
young, only a few thousands years. Compared
with millions of years spent by nature to make
the mountains, oceans or forests is practically
nothing.
Dont take for granted that our artificial
environment is suitable for you, because,most of
the time, it isnt. Go find your real roots,
connect with your true nature and accept the
fact that youre functioning in a much larger
areal.
Hiking is a very clean way to
appropriately wash your brain in the good
sense. A clean brain is a happy brain.

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62. Get A Pet

Whatever works for you, a bird, a guinea

pig, a dog or a cat. It will keep you alert and it
will cheer you up when youre down. Taking care
of a pet is also easier if youre overwhelmed
with human interaction. Even from a pet, love is
still love.
Did that a few times in my life and I
remember those times as being more balanced
and clear than the rest. Especially the first
phases, when I actually adopted the pet and
made room for it in my life were very powerful.
A pet will add a new routine in your life,
will make you stretch your habits and schedule
to fit in. Will move your focus from your day to
day chores to a new realm, filled with love and
caring.
A pet is a good way to practice your sense
of responsibility while enjoying a honest
emotional reward.

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63. Write A Thank You Letter

You can send it or not, the real catch is to

write it. Pick someone who helped you in the
past. Start writing the letter and say everything
you wanted to say to that person. It will make
you understand what are you really grateful for
in your life.
Writing a thank you letter will bring up
one of the most beautiful parts in your self, the
grateful one. Whenever you express gratitude
towards somebody else, by an unknown
mechanism, that gratitude comes back to you
somehow.
Most of the time, writing a thank you
letter is also just a trigger for more thoughts
and emotions which which are waiting to be
expressed. Once you started to write, you will
write much more than you intended. And thats
a good sign.
If you think it will expose too much of
you, try writing a thank you letter to yourself
first and see how you feel about it.

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64. Meditate Daily

Its the easiest thing you can do. True

meditation acts like a mind emptier, leaving you
open to the whole flow of the sensations and
experiences you would otherwise ignore. You
dont even need a complicated technique,
meditate as you see fit.
In my experience, the biggest obstacle in
experiencing the benefits of meditation is an
overweighted agenda. We simply dont find time
to do it. So, scheduling some meditation time in
advance will clearly help. I know it helped me.
Meditating first thing in the morning, for
instance, before even starting the day, that
would be quite an appropriate, and most of the
time, free, time spot. Morning meditation
always leave my mind clear and relaxed for the
day.
Silencing you mind through meditation
will open an incredibly powerful flow of energy
reaching out.

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65. Say Something Nice To

Somebody

Just like that. Out of the blue. Pick an

unknown person and say something nice. After
the initial surprise youll be amazed by the
unmasked joy and gratitude theyre expressing.
Admit it: you would like that too, isnt it?
Saying something nice to people out of
the blue is one of my favorite social exercises.
People dont expect this to happen. When it
comes to social interaction, our mind is wired
into appropriated rather than into nice.
At the supermarket, on the streets, at
social events, I love walking towards somebody I
know - and sometimes to somebody I dont, too
- and saying something nice just like that. That
genuine, surprised smile on their faces makes
my day.
Imagine how would you feel if you were
told nice things all of a sudden. Then read the
next chapter.

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66. Say Something Nice To

Yourself

Ok, but if nobody is telling you nice

things, why not start this yourself? Do it in
whatever form you think its appropriate: send
yourself emails, write in your calendar or leave
yourself nice post-its on the desk. With
something nice just for you.
I know it seems awkward, but only in the
beginning. And you know why? Because you are
already telling yourself stuff, only you dont do
this publicly. Youre telling things to yourself in
your mind. All the time.
Doing this outside your brain will only
legalize it. And the most important part is
that you will start to exert some form of control
over it. Most of the time youre telling stuff to
yourself unconsciously. Usually, bad stuff.
Do yourself a service and send future
message to the future you. Again, youll be
surprised how such a simple thing could change
your mood so deeply.

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67. When In Doubt, Improvise

Being so scared for not knowing the

answer, so nervous that you may screw thins
up I know the feeling, Ive been there too.
Just go with the flow. Improvise. It will be so
good for your unconscious mind. The real answer
will be surprising.
There is no right answer or wrong
answer. Trying too hard to fit into a fixed set of
patterns will lead you sooner or later to a
roadblock. A place where you simply dont know
which is right and which is wrong.
When you got there, well, improvise. Go
with your heart. Trust your inner voice. Not only
youll eliminate one of the deepest fears were
all carrying, the fear of being wrong, but you
may have some real fun in the process.
Improvisation its like practicing your
spontaneity muscles, The more you do it, the
easier youll find to walk in your own shoes.

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68. Dont Argue, Win Or Lose

This goes hand in hand with avoiding the

fight, but its a little bit different. If you get
caught in an argument, just accept that you can
have only two outcomes from it: win or lose.
Settle with one and just move on.
Many of our pains are coming from
attaching to a desired outcome. We feel so
strongly that we are right, hence we are
committed to spend whatever we have to in
order to prove ourselves right.
But we dont take into account that we
dont really control anybody around us. We
cant control other people. The only person who
can be controlled in our reality is our own
person. So, why bother?
Accept the fact that you either won or
lost that competition, learn what is to be
learned and move on.

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69. Stop Faking Your Life

Its so easy to get caught in a flow of

fakes. Society wants us to politely lie and you
need to lie sometimes too. Just stop it. Being
authentic is the best thing you can do. No need
to hide your sorrow, nor your joy. Theyre both
part of life.
Its also quite easy to blame it on the
society for our own fakes: smiling when we
dont feel like, doing what we dont want to, or
saying what we dont really believe. Well, it
takes more than that to fake our life: it takes
our own decision.
Authenticity takes courage, thats true.
Standing out for what you believe in, without
hurting others in the process, thats not an easy
task. But its much more rewarding in the long
run than a numb submission to the easiest path.
Faking your attitude is contagious. At
some point, it will infect your entire life. Just
stop it. Now.

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70. Define Goals

Again, that goes hand in hand with writing

a personal mission but its more than that. Its
the habit of clearly deciding and,
subsequently, describing where you want to go.
Do you have a goal? A passion, maybe? Go for it!
And be verbose.
Create your desired reality in your head
first. Make it clear. And the easiest way to make
it clear is to translate it into goals. I want that
thing. And that thing consists from... fill in the
blanks.
Defining goals is very powerful thing to do
not only from the productivity perspective,
although it will greatly improve your
productivity, but more from the perspective of
taking real decisions and make them clear.
A goal is in fact the shape of a decision
youve already taken. Make it clear.

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71. Help Others

Reach out and try to see if you can help

others. You dont have to be a Samaritan, just
go out there and support somebody. The biggest
trick of helping is really surprising: although it
seems youre giving, youre in fact receiving a
lot more.
It all comes down to the understanding
that youre not alone, youre functioning in a
greater context than yourself. So, every time
you help somebody you change something in the
energy field, you provide more.
Although we all know that and all major
religions have preached it, we still find it
difficult. Because of our fear of loss. We fear
that we may lose something if we help
somebody else: our time, our money, our energy.
Get over it. Helping others is the best
investment ever. It always pay back. And rather
sooner than later.

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72. Go Social

Mingle, interact, go out. Get used to

meet new people. Make this a habit and youll
soon get used to do new things too. The goal is
not to be the best networker in the world, but
to be connected to as many energy sources as
you can get.
The moment you stop wanting to meet
new people, your world will start to shrink.
Dont let that happen. Dont let your world
become smaller and smaller just because of your
little shyness. Sometimes all you need to start a
new relationship is a smile.
Start attending to evens, start
conversations at the supermarket, talk about
the weather with the parking boy. Dont feel
rejected, unless you really want other people to
genuinely reject you for good.
Every people you meet carries a hidden
gift. Work together to find it.

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73. Spend Some Time Alone

Subsequently, make sure you set aside

enough time for yourself. You dont necessarily
need to recharge, but you need this time in
order to get a new perspective. Stop for a while
and look around. Where are you? Where do you
want to be?
You are in a continuous journey and, like
in any other journey, you need some time to
analyze your current position, to see if you
derailed and to set course back towards your
desired destination.
The best way to do this is to be alone.
Because youre the only one who knows whats
good for you. Nobody else. The others can give
you some advice and support when youre down,
but all the important decisions must be taken in
solitude.
Being alone with yourself its the best
place to start a new trip.

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74. Fix Something By Yourself

Go fix a broken window, or a scratch on

your car. Dont call for a specialist, get involved,
see how you can have an impact on things
around you. Work with your hands, prepare to
sweat. It will instantly make you feel better.
I know it always makes me feel better.
Although I can hurt my fingers with a hammer or
spend double the time a specialist will spend
replacing a broken pipe, I love doing it myself. I
love to look at what Ive done and say to myself:
I did this.
Crafting something will make you feel like
a little creator, giving shape and volumes to the
universe around you. It may sound exaggerated,
but believe me, it isnt. Even the smallest
improvement in the physical universe around
you will have an impact.
It often takes a little bit of positive
outcome of a small action to give your more
courage for the bigger things.

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75. Create Value

Make things that others need too. Make

something useful. Dont follow blind or outdated
commitments, go for what really makes a
change around you. Creating value is the core of
your activity here and the only thing you really
have to strive for.
Creating value is sometimes a simple
matter of looking around and see what others
need. And sometimes its just the thing you do
best. Whatever the case, providing genuine
value will give you more power and well being
than you think.
The consumerist mindset of the modern
society is often misunderstood: in order to
consume something, somebody else must create
that thing first. Its a two fold situation. Its
great to enjoy stuff, but dont forget to create
your share in the first place.
Do something useful with your life. Dont
let it vanish away.

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76. Do A Random Act Of

Kindness

Doesnt have to be in the form of a nice

compliment this time. You dont even need to
communicate it to the target person. Just do an
incognito service to someone. See how this
makes you feel. Think how many times you
received that..
We are subjects to random acts of
kindness all the time. Theres always somebody
doing something nice for us without our
knowledge. And sometimes theyre doing it even
without knowing who we really are.
Kindness is never about the receivers
identity. Doesnt really matter whos going to
receive it. It matters more whos going to give it
away. Kindness is about yourself. About
compassion.
Pick a random act of kindness and do it
for an unknown person. And after that move on.

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77. One More Second

Create the habit of looking at things for

one more second. Spend one more second
before taking an important decision. Delay
something. Time will follow your intention and
open some unexpected windows for you. Slow it
down a little.
This goes also hand in hand with your
performance goals. Stay in that project one
more second. Tweak that presentation one more
second. Listen to your clients one more second.
This one more second will stretch the
time in your favor. Acting too hasty is often the
source of a lot of trouble in our lives. Slowing
down a little bit will significantly lower this
possibility.
Look at everything around you one more
second. And be amazed by what you will
discover.

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78. Understand What People

Want From You

What you can do is not always what

people want from you. Clearing that confusion
alone could bring an immense relief to your life.
You dont have to immediately provide what
theyre wanting, but if you do, you may have
some big surprises.
Making yourself useful is just a matter of
asking around: what do you need from me? If
you can provide, just do it. If you dont, then
youre at least clear about something. As simple
as it sounds, this approach is more than often
ignored.
We do live a large part of our lives by
assumptions. The problem arise when these
assumptions are not clicking anymore. And,
before we know it, were on a different context,
with different rules.
Ask around. Understand what others want
from you before starting to give.

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79. Break An Old Habit

Breaking a bad habit is difficult. But

breaking an old bad habit will free an incredible
amount of time into your life. Quit smoking or
stop talking on the phone for hours. Whatever
you break, it will change your life for the best.
Like assumptions, earlier, habits are life
shortcuts. We use them when we want certain
tasks on auto-pilot, like riding a bike or driving a
car. We learn them once and then were good to
go. Learning how to drive a bike each time we
use it would be really strange, I admit.
But once a habit is no longer needed, we
should do whatever it takes to get rid of it. Bad
habits are like driving with our eyes closed:
were still on auto-pilot but were doing
something really bad for ourselves.
Start small, if you never did it before.
But acknowledge even the smallest
accomplishment when you break free from your
bad habit.

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80. Stop Complaining

Complaining is like an open invitation for

troubles. The more you complain about
something, the more of that something you
invite into your life. Cut it out. You dont get
any comfort out of complaining, only troubles.
Under the false excuse of letting it all
out were all doing this. Were all talking about
the bad, stupid or unfair stuff in our lives. But
the talking in itself wont make that stuff go
away.
On the contrary, the more you complain,
the strongest the link between you and that
thing. Complaining is in fact a shout for the bad
stuff: Ok, I know youre happening already, but
can you please stay more? So I can talk about
you?
If you complain about something, how do
you expect to find the time to fix it?

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81. Reject What You Dont

Want

Its so simple, yet so underrated. Society

wants us to complain even when we dont really
like stuff. Like forcing us to smile when we
dont find it funny. Allow yourself to walk away
from something you dont like. Just do it!
Saying No is obsolete nowadays
compliance become a world trend. Well,
an honest No extremely valuable for
emotional health. Just reject stuff you
want. Be polite in the process, but firm.

when
I find
ones
dont

If you dont clearly state your position

about something, people will just assume that
youll take it, its more convenient like this.
Dont just be the Im okay, although Im not
quite guy in your group.
A simple and honest no, thank you will
count sometimes as 100 Yes, but...

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82. Being Is Better Than

Having

Too much and too often we measure our

lifes fulfillment to the amount we possess. The
fundamental mistake. If youre doing it, stop it
right now. Youre not what youre having. Being
is so much better than having.
Being in abundance doesnt always equal
a lot of money in the bank. Being happy doesnt
mean you own a beautiful house. Being joyful is
not a matter of expensive clothes. As much as
you would like to think the opposite.
Everything you own on this Earth is
volatile. Even your body. But everything you do
and everything you experience is unique.
Sometimes you get so caught into securing your
future existence that youre no longer able to
enjoy your current moment.
Everything you have is in fact in this
second. You are more than you own.

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83. Listen To Your Critics

This one might be difficult in the

beginning but once you get used to it its
fantastic. You may find out a lot of stuff about
yourself that you didnt know before. You think
you are one kind of person, but others may
disagree.
And its their right to do so. Everybody is
unique, hence were all different. And this is
very good news. Every once in a while you will
face some criticism, even some some rejection.
Deal with it upfront.
Acknowledge that they have the right to
express their opinion. And accept the fact that
your actions may not always be in sync with
their expectations. If they talk about you,
regardless of how they do it, youre important.
Every critique is a disguised opportunity,
as long as you can carefully listen to it.

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84. Dont Take It Personally

Never. Your world is shaped by your

reaction to things, not by the things themselves.
Dont get upset, dont think that somebody
knows enough about you to have it right.
Acknowledge the situation and move on.
Many times we are raising our hands to
the sky, with bitterness and anger. Why this is
happening to us? What did I do to deserve this?
Why us, in the first place? Well, because this is
how its meant to be, thats why.
Dont take it personally. Anger and
bitterness are just reactions to external factors.
And external factors can always be modified
outside your circle of influence. But your
emotions, you have total control over them.
Sometimes things are just happening.
Accept and move on.

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85. Laugh

This time is not about smiling. Its about

laughing. Dont you ever miss another
opportunity to laugh. Especially at yourself. The
longer your laughing sessions, the shorter your
misery ones. Looks like a nice deal, isnt it?
Every good laugh will kill a potential
stupid move you were ready to do. I know this
from personal experience. Every time I was
relaxed enough to laugh at myself, all my
decisions were spot on.
And if were talking about how we spend
our time, I can always chose to laugh about
something I did than to be sad about something I
didnt. Thats quality time, if you ask me.
Laughing is the most genuine expression
of pure happiness. Especially when youre
laughing at yourself.

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86. Go With Passion

Dont let your rational mind stand in the

way of your passion. If you found or at least
felt, even occasionally something that thrills
y o u , y o u r e t h e r e . Yo u d o n t n e e d a
confirmation on this from anybody. Go with your
passion.
Following your true passion isnt always
easy. In fact, if you look carefully through
history, following your passion was never easy.
Being it love for another human being or just
enthusiasm in doing something. Its difficult.
Really difficult.
And its difficult for a reason: the reward
is huge. Living a life in passion will tune your
being into the most authentic vibrations around.
Every passion is in fact a way of the Universe to
tell you youre in sync with your true self.
Doing things without passion is like
dancing without music. You may have the
moves, but youre missing the whole point.

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87. Trust Your Emotions

Dont underestimate your emotions. Or

overestimate them. Your emotions are your
feed-back system and for that they are very
important. Trying to ignore your emotions its
like depriving yourself from lights in a car
running in the middle of the night.
Were equipped with this fantastic set of
tools called emotions, yet we chose not to use
them. By fear of breaking it or just by lack of
trust. Emotions are the most sensitive tool for
assessing our path.
Positive emotions: were on the good
track, negative emotions: theres something we
should work on. You may chose how to express
your emotions if you want, but not trusting them
would be simply stupid.
Look into your heart first. And then, if
everything is fine there, bring in your mind for
some adjustments.

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88. Live It Like A Holiday

Ever noticed how good you feel during

your holiday? How light, joyful and authentic?
Everything is just wonderful. Well, you are on a
continuous holiday here, on Earth. It starts with
your birth and ends with your death. Live it like
a holiday, then.
This strange separation between work and
holiday is something very artificial. Just because
you committed to do something - your work that shouldnt mean you have to take out of the
joy from it.
A holiday is a land of possibilities, a
journey in an unknown territory, an inhibition
killer. Why dont you live your life like youre on
a perpetual holiday? Youre entering this world
through your birth and at some point youll
leave.
Make the best out of this trip. Have fun
and enjoy. This is what you are supposed to do,
anyway.

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89. Make A Story Out Of It

Do you like a good story? I love it. Make

everything in your life story-worthwhile. Make it
as it would be a fantastic journey and you will
be at all time the observer, the hero and the
narrator. Create the story of your life.
Thats a very empowering exercise. Try to
write a story about something you did, but tell it
from a narrator perspective. Tell it like youre
just a character in a play. Do it even for 5
minutes, describing a short situation in your life.
See how it feels. Feels like you? Or that
character is just a stranger? How would you like
to be seen? What is the story of your life? Do this
exercise every once in a while to see if you
didnt accidentally broke into somebody elses
story.
Live your life in such a way that it will
make a beautiful story after youre no longer
around.

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90. Stop Being A Follower

Admiring is nice. But being admired is

even better. Stop trying to fit in other peoples
shoes. Find your own path. If that means
breaking up completely your lifestyle, so be it.
If you are like somebody else you cant be
like yourself anymore.
A role model is as good as a kick in your
ass. If it doesnt act like this, if it doesnt force
you to advance, even in a violent way, this is not
a role model. Its an object of adulation and, if
you ask me, adulation is a waste of time.
Too much admiring will take you off
course eventually. Exercise caution when you
appreciate somebody and see if it really gives
you the urge to do the same or better. Thats
what a role model should do.
Walking in somebody elses footsteps will
be incredibly boring and predictable at some
point. Stop it before you reach that point.

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91. Watch Your Beliefs

Your beliefs are not you. But they are

shaping your life constantly. You have the power
to change them at any point in your existence.
But in order to do that, you must first start to
observe them, to isolate them, to accept them.
Almost anything around you is a direct
result of your beliefs. If one of your beliefs is
youre not good enough, youre probably having
a dull and limiting job. If you truly believe
youre not lucky in love, youre probably alone.
We build our behavior based on our
beliefs. Some of them are so deep down rooted
in our unconscious mind that we dont even
acknowledge them. Were just following our
impulses, because we feel like.
You can change your beliefs. Remember,
your world is obeying your beliefs so be careful
what you believe in. It will happen.

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92. Stop Lying

To others and to yourself. Although it

might ease a complicated situation, a lie is not
good in the long run. The trick is that if youre
telling a lie youre altering your reality. And a
distorted reality will be impossible to handle.
Took me years to understand the real
implications of a lie. Its not about morality or
being ethic in the first place, although those are
important too. Its about altering your reality,
describing it in an inaccurate way.
An inaccurate representation of the
reality will tend to evolve by itself, escaping
your control. Lying is in fact a derivation of your
creative powers: you alter your universe by fear
or greed. And the Universe obeys, becoming
threatening or greedy to you.
Use your words to create things out of
genuine joy, not to hide your deeds as bad as
they are. Better an accurate Universe filled
with failures, than an inaccurate Universe
which will turn that inaccuracy back to you.

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93. Stop Reacting To Stuff

And start acting on stuff. Initiate things.

Start projects. Predict situations and be there
before the hurricane hits. Reacting to stuff is a
victim paradigm. Stop being a victim and start
acting. Create your life instead of being the
creation of others.
There is this common belief that if you
are cool and mind your own business, nothing
will happen to you. Life will spare you of
troubles. People tend to interpret this as lack of
actions. Dont do stuff, it will come to you.
Guess what: it never comes.
Instead, you have to go out and find the
stuff you need. Dont wait for the circumstances
to force you respond in a certain way. Create
your circumstances in advance. Design your own
life.
Acting instead of reacting is the
difference between living your dream and
dreaming.

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94. Live Today

Not yesterday, not tomorrow. Go for what

you can do today and leave yesterday behind for
good. Its not here anymore. And tomorrow
doesnt even exist yet, so why bother. All you
have is today. Dont waste it.
Burn the memories and stop worrying
about the future. It doesnt help. You cant
change something that already happened and
you cant predict something that didnt
happened.
Living today is the only place you can
live. So make sure youre making it worthwhile.
Stay in the present. The only things a past can
bring to you are its lessons and the only thing to
expect from the future is hope.
Because the only way to predict the
future is to create it, they say. And you can do
that only from today.

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95. Expect The Unexpected

If theres something unusual that happens

to you, go for it. The unexpected is a signal of
an opportunity. It will not always be nice, this
unexpected, but whenever its around, magical
things are happening. Wait for it. Praise for it.
Life is not safe. Its not predictable
e i t h e r. I t s a r o l l e r c o a s t e r. A g i a n t ,
unpredictable, beautiful roller coaster. You
dont know when youll go up and you never
know when youll go down.
All you know is that youre having lots and
lots of fun. Every time you change course
something interesting will happen. It may be
good or bad, that unexpected thing, this is not
what it really matters. What really matters is
how you experienced it.
In the end, youre alive because you beat
the unexpected, not because you prevented it.

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96. Enjoy

Like being in joy. Like giving permission to

yourself to extract joy from any situation youre
in. Even if its bad. Or especially if its bad. Joy
is everywhere, you just have to let it manifest
through you. Dont resist joy. Dont reject it.
Even in the greatest sadness theres still
some place for joy. You cant really experience
sadness if you wouldnt be alive, didnt you? So,
enjoy your life with everything that has to offer.
Enjoy being sad as well as being happy.
Enjoy your successes as well as your failures.
Enjoy your new relationships as well as your
separations. Enjoy your lessons even if they are
not pleasant.
Beyond what you are experiencing right
now, beyond your happiness or misery, theres
always a greatest gift: the gift of life. Enjoy it.

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97. Make Your Own Rules

And stick with them. Go for what works

for you, not the others. Go for what you want,
not the others. Including me. Make your own
system and be proud of it. You may upset some
people in the process, but hey, thats life.
Living your life by your own rules is an
art. Because your own rules have to be
authentic enough to represent you fully, but
permissive enough not to hurt other people.
Keeping this balance is the key.
This is why many people are giving up and
just stick with something in the middle. A
compromise. Which will not benefit any of the
parts. The process of building your own rules is a
long journey. You have to live and learn.
But its not impossible. At some point,
youre going to realize that everything you do is
totally representing you and everybody around
agrees with that. Dont give up this process.
Never.

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98. Love

Unconditionally. Totally. Constantly.

Restlessly. Love is the only glue that keeps your
life running. You were born out of love and you
carry it deep down in your being.
Dont look outside, because its not there.
Dont travel the world to find love, because you
are its carrier. Dont search for a person to love
because you already know that person.
The moment youll truly and deeply
understand that loving is something from within
and has nothing to do with the outside world, it
will start to overflow. The moment you
understand that were all sharing the same
magic of life and were here to enjoy it, love
will manifest naturally.
Love is never about the others, its about
you.

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99. Get Rid Of Labels

Things are what they are. Dont use labels

anymore, use directly the things. Your notions of
right and wrong are nothing but labels. In a
different country your right might be
wrong. Dont charge yourself with this
unneeded burden.
Use your own experience to assess whats
happening to you. Make your own opinions. And
stand out for them. Take responsibility for what
youre thinking, saying and doing. Dont hide
behind empty and shallow labels.
Most of all, go back and evaluate every
now and then your status. Things are changing,
you are changing, the world is changing. What
was good enough yesterday may be obsolete
today. Stay in sync.
Beyond the labels you use to describe
yourself theres an unrepeatable human being:
you.

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100. No Regrets

Regretting something is another form of

not accepting reality. What can you do about it
now? Its gone. It doesnt exist anymore. Holding
back to your past actions, keeping those strings
attached, will make you move slower and
slower, until youll stop for good.
Regrets are impossible missions. Theyre
just one of the many manifestations of guilt.
They send you a false message: that if you did it
differently something will get better in your
life.
Well, it wont. Because it cant. You did
what you did and thats that. You cant go back
anymore so accept it and move forward. All you
have now is your life and the current second.
This is all that you can change: your
present moment. Not yesterday, not tomorrow.
Now. Live now.

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Where To Now?
Well, I dont have the answer to this question.
You have it. You know better than anyone else
what to do with your life.
But before setting course to your new
destination, take a moment to digest what
youve read.
And come back to this book every once in a
while. Open it to a random page. Read that
page, let it sink in for a wile, then put the book
back on the shelf, and get on with your life.

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