From Rock Bottom

to
Rock Solid
(No Subtitle Needed)

Deanna Eiting
The Ambassador of HappinessTM

From Rock Bottom

to
Rock Solid
(No Subtitle Needed)

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Copyright 2016 Deanna Eiting, The Ambassador of HappinessTM
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This book is dedicated to YOU- The reader! The seeker, the doer, the one
who just wants more out of life! I am with you all the way! TO THE
TOP OF THE ROCKS WE GO!!! SOLID!
To my fam- who has always had my back in my crazy, wild, rebellious
way of being. For believing in me and my weirdness- and loving me not
despite my ways- but because of them. Peace and Love!
To my girlies- Thing 1 & Thing 2 (with love right there girls1). My ever
present lighthouses always bringing momma back home to what
matters. YOU are the reasons I never give up!
And lastly, to my bestest pal EVER- my absolutely dedicated and fiercely
devoted husband, Mike, who always makes sure my life is beautiful!
There are no words to express my gratitude for your undying belief in
your blue-eyed wild Irish rose. Always and always my love.

Contents
Deanna Eiting ........................................................................................................................................ 1
WELCOME. ......................................................................................... Error! Bookmark not defined.
About the Author ........................................................................................................................... 12
Introductio ..................................................................................................................................... 13
This is CRITICAL!.............................................................................................................................. 21
YOUR MIND MUST BE IN THE PROPER STATE! ......................................................................... 21
Why Do I Succeed? ............................................................................................................................ 33
In order to attract positive- we must be in a positive state. ........................................................... 49
Have compassion. That is one sure fire way to switch from a negative state to a positive state!
52
Section 4 ........................................................................................................................................ 53

STRESS WILL KILL YOU!

80-90% of all diseases, chronic or acute, are caused by stress!
Were you aware that MOST STRESS is caused by FEAR! Yes- FEAR!
Did you know that most fear is caused by something YOU HAVE CONTROL over?
It has been shown that most people experience fear when they feel out of control,
overwhelmed, and stuck in groove for which they see no way out.
Most people experience some sort of fear when they are faced with challenges and obstacles in
their life. The fear sets in because THEY ARENT HANDLING THE CHALLENGES AS WELL AS
THEY COULD. These challenges knock you down, wear you out causing frustration,
irritation, negativity, and generally they make for a pretty miserable day if YOU dont have the
upper hand on them.
If you dont control your challenges- they control you. Enter the FEAR, STRESS, ILLNESS, and
ABDOMINAL FAT (more about that later-I have an answer to this issue!)

Sound familiar?
Let me ask you a question- Have you ever had a challenge in your life? Yes, that is me being
fasicious and somewhat rhetorical. We all have them, more often than not, we have them
daily. Challenges and obstacles come in all shapes and sizes. Some are little annoyances that
you just whisk under the rug. Others however, can feel overwhelming and insurmountable.
Knock you flat on your back and take the wind right out of you. Leaving little energy to
actually solve the issue.
I have some good news and yes, I have some bad news.

Bad news first- always a good policy. The bad news is that challenges will always be a part of
life.
Ready for the good news? The good news is that challenges will always be a part of life.
Re-read that if you need to.

Now- before you throw this book across the room or on to the floor (which I do not
recommend obviously if you are using your electronic device) let me give you something to
ponder. Have you ever looked at people whose lives are overwhelmed with challenges,
adversity, tragedy, trauma, drama- they never seem to catch a break- yet they seem to handle
their life with strength, resilience and even, dare I say, some happiness and joy? You say to
yourself Wow! How do they do that? They seriously should have given up or cracked by
now. You know those people? What do they know that other people do not?
What do they do that makes them handle their challenges better and have a better life?
Excellent question and one that more people should be asking and finding an answer to. After
years of immersion in personal development, scholastic research, and a wealth of personal
experience, I found that these ROCK SOLID people share three common characteristic traits. I
have interviewed many people who by all accounts had every reason to give up, lay down,
check out and run away from life. BUT THEY DONT!
They dont accept defeat. They dont cower in the face of adversity and let fear take over.
They have a solid and strong mental state and they embrace whatever life sends them and they
learn, grow, and come out the other side stronger and wiser.
Becoming ROCK SOLID and having the upper hand on your challenges allows you to have
enduring persistence, solid footing, strength, and resilience for the tough times. It also allows
you to deeply appreciate the good times. Everything is a cycle. Good times come and go. So
to do bad times. Being ROCK SOLID isnt about having a few tools in a tool box to help you
when things are hard. It is a lifestyle. It is a true way of being. It becomes second nature and
you move from CHAOTIC REACTOR to CALM RESPONDER which augments every aspect of
your life. From health and wellness, to career, finances, and relationships, to being solid and
courageous to take on whatever it is you want.
When your ROCK SOLID you handle life better and you HAVE A BETTER LIFE.

In this E-book guide we are going to talk about building your strongest, most resilient, ROCK
SOLID personal foundation. What exactly does that mean? Well, it simply means you become
better at handling life! It really is that simple. When you can handle life better, the better life
you can have.

Whether you feel fairly rock solid now and think your life could just use a few tweaks here and
there, or whether you were like me, below rock bottom, nay, the algae on the rocks below rock
bottom and you simply need to learn how to resurface and get some oxygen, then this guide is
for you.
YOU WILL BENEFIT FROM THIS PROGRAM.
The tips, tools, principles, and practices included in this guide are exactly what I did to pull
myself up from suicidal depression, battling a life threatening infection, financially bankrupt,
and well- just DONE! You too will learn how to bounce back more swiftly and more sound
and BURST forward with enduring persistence.
HOW AM I LIVIN TODAY YOU ASK
Today I live with purpose that is driven by my relentless passion to make a difference in the
world. I have absolute happiness. And a ROCK SOLID MINDSET that helps me navigate
through the daily challenges and obstacles that I encounter. (Read the whole story below)
WHATS IN IT FOR YOU?
You will learn how to quickly shift your energy state from a negative, stagnate, fixed & rigid
mindset-wheels-spinning- drowning- in- quicksand to a resilient, energetic, effective problem
solving ROCK SOLID person with a growth mindset that handles adversity with grace, gratitude,
and
optimism.
MY PROMISE TO YOU
By the time you are done reading this guide, if you will do the exercises consistently and
implement the principles into your daily life, you will have an arsenal of tools to help
you become that person that others look at and to and say WOW! How does she/he
handle life
so well?
As you move through the program you will:
Learn how to identify and use your INTENTION to light your life on fire
Gain a deep and sustained excitement about the day ahead and shift your mindset
from
Develop an attitude of gratitude and shift from the self -sabotaging attitude of "haveto-do to "want-to-do" and no longer feel like you have to run away or escape from
your life!
You will just be loving how you live-everyday!
How would it feel to have THAT kind of life?

Keep reading and find out!

As we tie things up in this program you will learn a few matters of ENERGY! And energy
matters my friends. It is everything. Scientists and spiritualist alike agree in totality on that
one.
You will become that person that walks in a room and lights it up. Your energy will be
radiant and positive. I will teach you how to swiftly remove that little gray cloud that might
be floating above you, dampering your mood and impacting your family, friends, coworkerseverybody, because believe me- IT DOES.
With a few simple breathing techniques and posture adjustments, you can learn to
immediately arrest energy zapping and stress inducing negativity that drags you into the abyss
of misery. This allows you to stop that freefall into the blackhole-bring it to a screeching halt!
Roadblocks in place you become powerful to redesign stragtegies that elevate you from sick
and tired, exhausted and overwhelmed, to a renewed and vibrant you that now has
maximum traction to do anything and achieve everything.

Stress is linked to about 90% of all disease. So, not only does this program help you develop
your mindset, it can help you be physically more healthy. BONUS right there!
THIS GUIDE IS FOR YOU.
If you are ready to stop chasing that wild goose, spinning your wheels,
and suffering the maddening frustration of samestuff-different day.
If you are ready to get the upper hand over your obstacles and challenges
If you are tired of having a flimsy foundation that gets shaken to its core every
time the wind blows. You want to handle life better.
If that sounds like you, then lets get building that ROCK SOLID foundation!
Do you want?

Better relationships
A more meaningful life
Health
Wealth
Resilience
Outstanding career
Satisfaction

Sure you do. Doesnt everybody?

Id be lying if I said this work is easy. Id be lying if I said that I live every day without frustration
or angst. We all have challenges, each and every day. But with the tools and tips and practices
in this guide, you have at the ready, effective strategies for helping you through them.
THIS PROGRAM AND ALL ITS WONDERFULNESS WILL NOT ERASE OR ELIMINATE
CHALLENGES FROM YOUR LIFE. Just know that from the get go.
It will help you handle them much better. When you can handle life better, you can have a
better life!
WHAT I ASK OF YOU
I ask that you set an intention of understanding that there is no magic bullet. No quick fix. It
takes commitment to doing better and being better at your approach to life.
YOU WILL BE FACED WITH OBSTACLES THAT WILL TRY YOUR EVER LIVING PATIENCE.
YOU WILL FEEL FRUSTRATED FROM TIME TO TIME.
YOU WILL ENCOUNTER NEGATIVITY.
This guide will give you the tools and practices that teach you how to stop for a brief moment,
reassess, and re-strategize.
So if you are ready to start building that ROCK SOLID foundation.

LETS GET BUSY!

Peace,

Deanna

Table of Contents
Introduction
Hitting Rock Bottom, Re-surfacing, and Making it All Happen

Section 1: Mindset--- You Must Start Here!

YOU ARE NOT BROKEN- Stop Trying To Change

What do you really believe about yourself
What ARE you thinking? Take Control of Your Mind & Life- Turn Off the Autopilot

Section 2: Intention

What do you really want out of YOUR life

Dream Big--Average & Mediocre DO NOT equate to success
Time to Own IT! State your intentionTHEN GO DO IT!

Section 3: State of Being- Choose to Be Happy Right NOW!

Energy Matters: Change your state IMMEDIATELY

Lean Toward the Positive
Process the Negative
And for the love- BREATHE!!!! Its not optional

Section 4: In the End- There is Always a New Beginning.. (Thats deep isnt it?)

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Dont live for the bounty

of tomorrow.
Live in the beauty of
today!
-Deanna Eiting

About the Author

Deanna Eiting is the self-proclaimed
of
As the
CEO/Founder of Real Living Academy, her
mission/vision are to empower others to find
their purpose & passion, cultivate absolute
happiness, and create a remarkable life that is
worth living! Her holistic approach focuses on
body-mind-spirit practices and principles to
build a strong and balanced life.
She is the creator of an internationally growing
Facebook community appropriately named
Declaration of Happiness. This space was
created when Deanna was below rock bottom
and she needed inspiration. One of her many
mantras is When you feel helpless- help
others. And so she did.
Deanna openly & honestly shares the truth, the
pain & the glory of life and teaches her clients
to build a strong, unshakeable personal
foundation that enables them to handle any
adversity that life throws at them- Making
them ROCK SOLID. When you handle life
better - you have a better life.

As a survivor of domestic violence, successfully battling a potentially life threatening illness,

and treacherously navigating the desperate throws of depression and suicidal thoughts, she
knows intimately how to rebuild your self-esteem, self-worth, and health & wellness in
general! Her desire is to help others who feel stuck in a rut, unsure of themselves, or those
who are wanting more out of life.
And she does it in a quick & simple format, allowing people to GET ON WITH LIFE NOW!
Through her powerful blogs, webinars, social media interactions, books, programs, and live
speaking events, she is helping people take control of their lives, find peace of mind, and
achieve all the success they ever dreamed of (and getting some amazing surprises they could
have never imagined).

Introduction
Hitting Rock Bottom, Re-Surfacing, and Making It All Happen

The bathroom floor is cold. There is no nice fluffy rug to cushion me as I lay in fetal position with a razor
blade in my hand. Not much solace would have been found in a luxury item like a soft rug anyway.
I was exhausted.
Physically ill.
Financially broke.
And spiritually shattered.
The infection on my face was raging. A painfully obvious reminder of the stress I had been carrying for
years. You see, stress will find its way out of your body one way or another. If you dont effectively
manage it, it will force you to do so. And this usually comes as some sort of ailment.
MRSA, they said. A potentially life threatening infection that will eat away at your flesh. And it was
smack dab in the middle of my cheek.
After the surgical removal of the invading bacteria, antibiotic therapy for weeks and weeks. No work. No
visitors. MRSA is so highly contagious and everyone around you is at risk.
I felt like a leper. Seriously should have bought a one-way ticket to the colony. But, I was broke and stuck
just trying to decontaminate my house and myself daily. Daily sheet washing. Daily bleach wash down of
bathroom, kitchen and living room. Daily surgical soap scrub of my entire body that left me raw and sore.
I had no energy. Keeping up with the rigorous detail was overwhelming.
Just one more thing I couldnt take care of. The list was growing and my mind was in negative overdrive.
I was spiraling down a very dark road into the abyss of devastation.
The year preceding my diagnosis saw the culmination of things that could be likened to the perfect
storm.
I had lost all control and the storm was raging.
I met my abuser in 2004 just a short while after I had divorced my childrens father. I was lonely. And he
was interested.

He rescued me from the single mom lifestyle of shabby jeans and t-shirts, all work-no play and brought
some life back to the woman in me who desperately needed to feel wanted and loved by a man.
I was a walking target.
I saw the signs. I saw his control increasing. I saw what he was doing. But the trap sets quickly and you
become stuck.
The physical abuse is nothing compared to the psychological warfare in which they drown you. He
threatened to kill me and my children if I ever left.
And I believed him. I knew what he was capable of.
The night he wrapped his hands around my neck, threw me face down on the bed, telling me he would
Takewhat he wanted from me because I belonged to him,I knew one way or another the outcome of
this situation was not going to be good.
When an abuser steps over the line from physical and emotional abuse to sexual domination, the
likelihood of the victim being killed increases exponentially.
The likelihood that they will target other members of the family increases exponentially as well. And my
daughters were in the home often.
My choices- stay and face my abuser everyday knowing that my risk of serious harm or possibly death was
real. Knowing that the risk for my daughters was very real. Or leave. Knowing that the risk of leaving
presents an even more dangerous situation.
I left. I was going to fight for my life away from him. If I was going to die, I was going to do it trying to
save myself and my girls. I chose not to lie down and give up! I isolated myself from my children and
kept them far away for a long time. He knew that was my weak spot and I was certain he would target
them.
I was in my late 30s at this time. I had to move back to my parents home for safety reasons. I lost my
home. My car. My belongings. My career. My self-esteem. My friends. My health. I nearly lost my
family in the process. I lost my freedom. I was never left alone for over a year. Dad made sure of that.
But the hardest part in the aftermath of this destruction was losing the respect of my children. They didnt
understand. They felt abandoned by the one person who was supposed to protect them.
My oldest daughter, 13 at the time, wanted nothing to do with me.
She blamed me for letting this happen. She hated me. She never wanted to see me again. She felt like she
had no momma and would be better off without me.
And the guilt consumed me.
And the razor blade held the answer.
The world would be better off without me. I had nothing left to offer.

The Voice that Called

When I looked in the mirror that dreadful night, holding a sharp blade, what I saw was a worn-out,
forever scared, ugly shell of myself. I had failed at everything. I had failed my children and I couldnt bare
the sight of myself anymore.
The bathroom floor was cold. And so was I.
But a strange thing happened while I was laying there deciding which approach would do the job most
swiftly.
A voice popped into my head and said D, what keeps you going?
Naturally, I think, Nothing. I am done. I am not going on.
Youve been through so much. So many other people would have given up long before you have. What
keeps you going?
This is getting annoying as you can imagine. I didnt need a friggen pep talk. I was trying to kill myself.
D- You have to keep going. Its not over.
And at that moment- I paused.
Something in my head and heart knew that voice was right.
I did not have an answer right at that moment as to what had kept me going all the previous years----

But I suddenly realized that I had a purpose. I didnt escape the bonds of violence to end up laying here
on this cold floor.
I didnt fight like hell to get away and save my life and the lives of my children to end up laying here on
this cold floor.
I didnt change my entire lifestyle to try and fight this life threatening infection for nothing!
I could not let all this be in vain.
I put the blade down. I made a decision to continue fighting for my life.
I didnt know what kept me going. But I started a mission to figure it out.
I didnt know what it was that was coming. I only knew it would be bigger and better than where I was
currently. It had to better than lying on the cold floor of my bathroom. Anything would have been UP.
My pain and misery, trials and trauma were a gift that I had not yet realized. And they were going to be
my catalyst.

Let your biggest setback become your greatest comeback.

And so it is.

Resurfacing, Rebuilding, and Making It All Happen

I had zero idea how I was going to get out of this mess. How was I going to rise above? How was I going
to re-surface from the muck and mire of rock bottom in which I was drowning?
ButI did!
I simply started to rebuild. Step-by-step. Day by day. Sometimes, minute by minute.
Something amazing started to happen along the way. People started asking me for advice.
Me? The financially broke, physically ill, and spiritually fractured woman who was a victim of domestic
violence and carried a clinical diagnosis likened to PTSD. Who failed miserably at life? Seriously?
I was confused and baffled.
And then, just like any light bulb or aha moment- I had clarity.

I knew my purpose.
My story was meant to be shared. I was given a voice and I needed to get the message out there. People

wanted to know how to be strong and resilient.

People wanted to know how to build a strong personal foundation.
If you are going through a difficult period in your life, and you just cant see the light, or you have lost
hope and you just cant see a way to turn things around, please understand that I get it.
Please know this- there is always a way!
Never give up! There are some incredible things awaiting you!

My Life Now
It has been 6 years since I put the razor blade down.
I have never again contemplated ending my life.
Every day I am grateful for the new opportunities that await me when I wake up.
I am inspired. I am optimistic. I am strong.
I am now pursuing my PhD in Metaphysics- which is the study of the nature of the universe from a
philosophical view: Why am I here? What is my purpose?
I am happily remarried to the most genuine, loving, intelligent, supportive man that I could have ever
dreamed of.

I work every day on building my business from my home. My reach and impact increase every day. I
happily receive messages from around the world thanking me for being brave enough to share my story
and transparent enough that its just real and inspiring.
I am writing a book finally! It has been burning inside me.
I have achieved many of my goals and dreams since that life changing night on my bathroom floor. I
dont tell you that to impress you. I tell you that because I want you to know that you CAN make
amazing things happen. You can learn to handle disappointment, because guess what- it happens.
Sometimes things just dont go exactly how we planned. When you build a solid foundation and
understand a few things about life- you will come to know that even disappointment can be valuable.
I have my freedom!
It takes a little belief. A little time. And some courage.
And, I am now closer to my two daughters than I think I would have ever been had we not endured those
trials and challenges. We are deeply open and honest with each other. I know my children so very well.
And they know me.
My oldest daughter is now following her own dreams and making her way in the world. She texts or calls
me daily. Just to check in.
She calls me momma. And my heart and soul soar!
My youngest daughter is on track to graduate high school ahead of time and is making plans to attend
early enrollment college.

I finally did something right!

So, no matter where you are in your life right now, I want to assure you that there is HOPE. Always!
The key-critical factor that you must embrace right now- is NEVER GIVE UP!
I want you to say that out loud- right now- No matter how hard it gets, I WILL NEVER GIVE UP.

I want you to share your unique gifts with the world. The world needs you. There is no one else like you.
I want for you to come alive and experience the good stuff too! And I want to empower you with the
strength and resilience to handle all the obstacles and challenges with grace and gratitude- become a
stronger you!
Let me make it a little easier for you. I dont want you to have to take 7, 8, 10 years to figure a few things
out. Let me share with you a way that builds your foundation of strength, resilience, hope, and success
that allows you to GET ON WITH YOUR AMAZING & REMARKABKLE LIFE- RIGHT NOW!
Follow along. Learn. Integrate the principles and practices I share, and I promise it will make a grand
difference in your life.
Just as it has mine.
I do not believe in coincidence. Everything happens for a very specific purpose. arIteihs enroe accident that you
reading this.
Your time is now. You have been searching for an answer. A solution. A guide.
You and I are together for a specific purpose.
How about we agree that it is time for you step into your greatness. I know its in you. No more excuses.
No more waiting and wondering.
Lets discover who you really are. What you really want.

And exactly how to get there. And more importantly if you ask me- is HOW TO STAY THERE!
Sound fair?
Awesome!
Lets get building shall we?
What Next?
This program is structured in 3 unique parts. Each is integral to your building a solid foundation. This will
become your solution to ending the frustrating and overwhelming obstacle course you run with your
challenges driving you to a head on collision with what you DON"T WANT to running on the right track,
in stride with WHAT YOU DO WANT.
Section 1: Mindset---You Must Start Here!
In this section we explore what you are thinking and believing. Evict the negative self-talk tenet from your
mind space and gain the upper hand over your obstacles so you can remodel and re -frame them as Lessons
of Perfection- they are exactly what you need to reconstruct and re-consolidate a sound path to your
highest potential. Mindset is the #1 critical factor in building and expanding your life. If your mind isnt in
the right frame, you will continue to spin your wheels and you will not move from struggling to thriving.
Section 2: Intention
This section you will learn how to purposefully and powerfully realize the deep seeded visions and dreams
that drive you at your core-the hunger you feel for more and the craving that seeps into your dreams and
thoughts daily. Revealing YOUR WHY will help you conquer the beast of fear, cultivate your
determination, reinforce your motivation, and inspire you into action. You will transform from mere
dreamer to tenacious-persistent DOER!

Section 3: Choose Your "State" Now

In this section you will be introduced to matters of energy. How to use the Laws of the Universe to your
advantage and how to change your mind state quickly and easily to stay in a positive mindset that brings
to you all that you desire. You will also learn how to swiftly process those negative emotions and feelings
so they dont fester inside your body creating disease and disharmony. This will help you stay strong during
times of challenge! No more shall we have extended pity parties- stop that dance and put away that black
tie attire!

Each section is specifically aimed at building the foundation you need to be strong, resilient, and remarkable.
These 3 elements are the foundation for all other practices and principles of personal development and
success.
I want you to make a commitment to read the entire book.
Take notes. Do the work!!! (hint-hint! This is actually required )

When you are done, send me a note. I would love to hear how this program has helped you. Did you
have any aha moments? Did you have any breakthroughs? Are you still struggling?
I am happy to share this process that transformed my life. My deepest and sincerest hope is that you too
find the peace, happiness, joy, success, and life you deserve.

From Rock Bottom to Rock Solid

Lets build that strong personal foundation that creates unstoppable momentum in your life!

Section 1

This is CRITICAL!
In order for you to achieve any kind of success in your life whether that is financial, health & wellness,
relationships, career, business, or just building that strong foundation on which everything else rests:

YOUR MIND MUST BE IN THE PROPER STATE!

I am going to debunk a long standing myth right now that when I fully embraced and understood COMPLETELY TRANSFORMED MY OUTLOOK AND APPROACH TO LIFE IN HUGE-MONUMENTAL
WAYS!

HUGE-MONUMENTAL! Got that? Good.

You do not need to change. You are not broken or in need of fixing. And the more you tell
yourself you need to change, the more you create the idea that you are broken.
And that creates a negative feedback loop in your mind. It projects a negative situation/attraction out into
the universe. And it reinforces negative core beliefs (lies) that are sabotaging your life.
And it is exactly what you will get back. Negative-negative-negative- broken. Vicious circle of needingto
fix

"BOOMERANG!"
yourself.
In the sometimes confusing world of self-help and personal development people often seek an answer to
the question whatis my purpose? The answers run the gamut.
Its no wonder people are continuing to struggle.

In my research, schooling, and experience I have found that there are 3 components to our purpose as
human beings. We all have the same purpose.What make us unique are our passions, our unique
desires and/or calling in life. Often the words are used synonymously. I believe they are different.
The purpose to the life of human beings is:

To grow personally
To evolve forward
To expand into your highest potential

How you choose to do these three things is entirely up to you.

So how does this relate to change and the idea that you are not broken?
Heres the good stuff that really changed my attitude, mindset and approach to my life.

YOU MUST BE CHALLENGED!

In order for anything to grow, evolve or expand---

IT MUST BE CHALLENGED.

It must be given the opportunity to push past limitations or obstacles to discover its strength- To expand
and evolve.
Nothing that sustains life has ever evolved BACKWARDS. We are not meant to do that. If you do not
evolve, you will eventually die. Literally and/or figuratively.
The infinite wisdom of the Universe, Nature, or the God of your understanding only wants expansion and
evolution. The opportunities are given to you as gifts or lessons.
Everything, the good, the bad, the ugly is delivered to you so that you might step up!
It is quite arrogant for us to say Whydoes this bad stuff always happen TO me?
Nono my friends. It happens for you.
And everything is unfolding perfectly for you to fulfill that HUMAN PURPOSE!

Its not broken. You are not broken. You dont need to change.

ACTION STEP:
Before you go any further- I want you to say out loudI AM NOT BROKEN. I DO NOT NEED TO CHANGE
Then say out loudEXPAND INTO
OPPORTUNITIES AND THEY ARE PERFECT FOR ME.

YOU NEED A NEW PERSPECTIVE

YOU NEED UNDERSTANDING

YOU NEED AWARENESS.

Awareness vs. Autopilot

I always get a kick out of the story of the person who purchased an RV with cruise control
wh o sets the
details, gets up from the drivers seat, and goes in the back of the RV. Although there was some damage
to the vehicle, fortunately no one was injured.
But it drives home a very important concept that cruisecontrol
or autopilot if you will, isnt all that its
cracked up to be and it doesnt release you from responsibility.

Someone still has to be in some sort of control. If there isnt- disaster is bound to happen.
And that analogy is a perfect example of our mind(s). Yes. Plural.
We have two minds. Our conscious. And our subconscious.
Subconscious is the cruise control or autopilot. Just going along, doing the thing you programmed it to
do. You walk away. Never give it a second thought. Until----BAAM!

Disaster! The subconscious held steady as your ever ready servant, but it couldnt course correct for the
curvein the road.
It held course as programmed until you came to a complete stop. Werent expecting
that now were ya? You had different plans, but your subconscious has more power.
The subconscious is a just a large data bank of all our experiences, thoughts, feelings and heres the BIGGIEOUR PERCEPTIONS!
Starve your distractions...

It cannot and does not distinguish fact from

fiction. Hence the use of the word lies .

It only knows what you tell it.

And that input comes originally from the conscious mind.

Feed your focus!

Its kind of a vicious cycle with a beginning thats somewhat hard to determine. Research shows that input
into the conscious mind started when we were little itty bitty folk.
When we are young, usually less than 7 years old, we are pretty much a blank slate. Like a hard-drive that
needs software, we are just soaking up all kinds of information, usually with no regard to its truth or
validity. We model those around us, those usually with some authority, like parents, teachers, religious
leaders, older siblings and so on. We believe most of what is told to us, because we trust these authorities.

An interesting part of this is that while we are so blind to trust these people, we are egocentric in our
rationalization and interpretation of what they teach us. Meaning, the world revolves around us and
everything that happens is usually because of our doing.
Its all my fault, that is how we think when we are forming beliefs.
It is just the way the childhood brain processes. This can be direct or indirect.
Let me explainTake the situation where you have an insensitive parent who says things like
Cant you do anything right?
Are you EVER going to get this?
Are you stupid or something?
Now these are very direct, painful and obvious. We can certainly see where a painful memory would
develop and a complete shattering of self-esteem for the child. They become hard-wired beliefs because
we attach a very unpleasant emotion to them. We feel it was all our fault and we have disappointed these
people we trust.
And we carry these beliefs with us into our adulthood. LIMITS like you cant believe!

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We model people in our lives as we try to figure out how to fit into society. Our illogical child brain
makes generalizations, usually inaccurate, as we cant possibly see or understand all the other possibilities,
and then the real issue comes in.

We have an emotional response to this event. If the event were painful, which in our little kid brains,
most events are, we create a belief and form a pattern in our brain that says Iam never letting that
happen again. And the subconscious brain sets to work for you. It will do everything in its power to
ensure that you never experience that sort of pain again.
It does so in the form of LIMITING BELIEFS. Lies. Negative self-talk. Know what I am talkin about? So
how does that work for corebeliefs that you are still carrying with you today, in your adulthood?
Negative, limiting core beliefs will drastically reduce your chances of happiness and fulfillment in life.
You have probably heard the story about elephants being trained. If you havent, you are in for some
fascinating stuff about the power of the mind.
When elephants are being trained for a circus or for life in a zoo, they have a large chain attached to their
foot. When they try to move, the chain stops them. This is repeated over and over. Eventually the chain
is removed, the elephant has freedom but he goes no further than the chain that previously held him
would let him go. .

The chain is no longer there- but the limiting belief is!

That is the power of conditioning. And that is exactly what we experience when core beliefs are forming.
Lets take an indirect example of conditioning and how we form limiting core beliefs.
Little kids need help to do things. Would you agree? We cant always reach things on high shelves. Or put
our shoes on. Or cut our food, etc. You get my point.
Our loving parents and teachers offer to help us by saying Oh let me help you with that. Or Hey, let
me show you how to do it the right way.
In our illogical brains we start this itsmy fault
scenario and start believing that we are incapable and
need to be shown how to do things because we are not good enough.

And we carry that into adulthood.

'Whatever we plant in our subconscious mind and nourish with repetition and emotion
will someday become reality."
Earl Nightingale
Over time, similar experiences elicited similar feelings and we started to create this groove of response in
our brain. Eventually it ended up deeply imbedded in our subconscious and became a TRUTH to us.
At some point, it became an autopilot or cruise control response. The details were programmed. You just
went along. And the subconscious was doing all the thinking and rapid fire responses.
This became so engrained and invisible to you, you were no longer even aware it was happening. You
probably have uttered the phrase Ohwell- thats just like me to do that.
Habitual reactions vs. conscious responses.
The subconscious mind functions as a way to protect us. Back when you had a negative experience, you
interpreted the experience as painful. Your subconscious mind doesnt want you to experience pain and
consequently it developed protective mechanisms in order to ensure that you never had a painful
experience again. (thats the negative self-talk you hear- BTW)
The problem is that we usually interpret the experience as a reflection
or truth about ourselves. We attach a negative characteristic to
ourselves. This thing happened therefore I am bad or not good
enough. Usually this interpretation was in error. But, we embed it
deeply into our subconscious mind and it becomes what we believe
about ourselves.
Often these show up as negative core beliefs or limiting beliefs and the
negative self-talk that goes on in your mind. If you are not controlling
them- they are controlling you and its never a good thing to get up
from the drivers seat! You gotta be watching for those curves in the
road.

We dont get
what we WANT
in life- we get
what we

When we develop our awareness of these beliefs (lies), erroneous misinterpretations, we are much more
powerful in eliminating them and developing powerful truths that are much more beneficial to our success
in life.

When you complete this program- jump on into our community of people who have embraced my
advanced trainings on REALLiving.
We explore and expand on limiting beliefs and BASHING them
from your mind as well as tuning into your awareness!
In order for us to grow and create that rock solid foundation, our mind must also be in what is referred to
as the GROWTHMINDSET.
Out mindsets, views and beliefs have a significant impact, if not the most impact on our success in both the
short term and long term.
Are you actually ready for growth or not?

Mindset Mastery Exercises

In order to grow, evolve, and expand into your highest potential you MUST have a mindset that BELIEVES
that it is possible to do such a thing.
New research shows that the brain, yes even the adult brain, is much more pliable and can continue to
learn even into advanced ages ( so no more excuses that you cant learn).
Here you will be provided with thought provoking questions that will challenge you to get outside your
comfort zone. And that is exactly what you need to do to GROW and SUCCEED. The brain is a muscle.
The more you work it, the smarter it becomes. Truth right there folks!
You create new neural networks and higher intelligence every time you challenge your brain.
But really, the ultimate truth of all self-help and personal development comes down to WHAT YOU
BELIEVE. Lets look at that now. Lets see if you are growth minded or just fixed and stagnating.

Answer the following questions as they pertain to your overall way of thinking1.

I believe capabilities are seen as inborn talents that are hardly, if ever, changeable. Y N

2.

I try to appear as capable as much as possible. Y N

3.

I usually avoid challenges because if I fail people may think I am not talented or smart. Y N

4.

I believe that if you are talented you dont have to put forth much effort. Y N

5.

If I suspect that adversity or failure is possible, I will quit early . Y N

6.

I do not like criticism- constructive or otherwise. Y N

7.

I often look at talented people and think wow I wish I were that great. Y N

8.

Not everyone has high or great potential. Some people are just not talented. Y N

9.

I find it difficult to work in teams where feedback and cooperation are required. Y N

If you have more YES answers than NO answers chances are your mindset is in what Carol Dweck, one
of the worlds foremost researchers in the field of motivation and learning, Professor of Psychology at
Stanford University, refers to as the FIXED mindset.
The FIXED mind is rigid and does not allow for new experiences or growth. It sees oneself as a certain way
and that it can never be different.
Iwas born this way- that never changes. Icant do that because
number of reasons why not).

. (Insert any

But do not be discouraged. There are numerous ways to transition and retrain your brain to a place where
you can learn and grow.

A GROWTH MINDSET IS KEY TO EVERYTHING IN LIFE!

Move from FIXED Mindset to GROWTH Mindset

Step 1: Learn to hear that FIXED mindset voice
(Its that pesky dude on your shoulder telling you what you cant do or shouldnt do).
It often sounds like:
As you face a challenge:

Are you really sure you can do this.

You will fail. You cant be a failure.
People will laugh at you for thinking you had
talent or ability.

As you have a setback:

This would have been a lot easier if you actually

had talent and were smart.
You have shown the world how limited you really
are.
Just back out now. Make up some excuse. Try to
regain some dignity.

When you receive criticism:

It wasnt my fault. It was someone else who got in

my way and made it go bad.
Who do they think THEY are? I will put them in
their place.
Someone may even be giving just constructive
criticism but what you hear is:
Iam really disappointed in you. I thought you
could do it. But now I see you cant.

I am ok
failing like
these folks!

Step 2: Realize you have a choice in your thinking

Recall that the subconscious brain is only operating off what you tell it. It can be reprogrammed.
You have two choices:
1. Operate from a FIXED mindset and believe that you are limited in ability and talent and that you cant
learn and grow
-Keep listening to that negative self-talk and you will be assured of total stagnation
2. Operate from a GROWTHmindset and realize that your obstacles are simply signs that you need to
redesign some strategies, turn up your effort, reach and stretch outside that comfort zone (there is no
growth in that zone), and simply expand your abilities.

Understand that EVERY great person who has had success started at the bottom or hit rock bottom at
some point.

Step 3: Have a conversation with that negative-fixed mindset

When you face a challenge:

Fixed Mindset says:

Growth Mindset says:

Areyou sure you can handle

this. Remember how it went
down last time?

Iam not sure I can do this now,

but I can learn to in time and
with effort.

Whatif you fail-you probably

will. You cant be a failure?

If you hit a set back:

You receive criticism:

This would have been easy if

you were smart or talented.

Itsnot my fault. It was the

weather, the economy, my
coworker, my spouse, etc

Most successful people have

failures. It is how they learn.
Thatis wrong. Even Michael
Jordan was cut from a basketball
team. JK Rowling was turned
down by numerous publishers.
They had passion and belief and
put forth a lot of effort.
IfI dont take responsibility, I
cant ever make it better. No
matter how painful it is I will
listen and learn whatever I can.

Now-Step 4: Take action with a GROWTH MINDSET philosophy

Its your choice which voice you listen to.
It will impact your success in anything you do-- MASSIVELY!
Are you going to take on challenges wholeheartedly? Or back down and stay stuck?
Are you going to learn from your setbacks, make them your biggest comeback? Or dwell on and live in
misery?

Are you going to take criticism for what its worth? (who is giving you this criticism anyway- if it isnt
someone you look up to as a role model-who lives the way you want to live-I would stop and question
their advice to its worth anyway!) Learn from the input you receive. Take it into your own hands and
do something constructive with it.

Activity # 1Make a list of some things you feel you are really good at and some things you would like to do better.
You can make this list as long as you like- but I recommend having at least 5.
Next to each- identify WHY you are good at them. Like really- toot your own horn for a minute! What
do you do that makes you great?
Next to the things you do very well- identify and explain how you can continue to improve on them.
Then, write down what you think would you have to do to expand on the good and also enhance the
things you would like to do better.
Finally- as with all things I teach- explore your WHY. Why would it be important for you to continue to
improve on your skill? How will you feel? What benefits can you identify? Does it improve your way of
living? Boost your confidence and sense of satisfaction?
Skill I am
Great At
List 3-5 skills
you feel you
are really
good at

What makes
me GREAT at
this skill?
Identify the
things you do
that make you
really good at
this skill

Can I Improve
on it?

What do I need to do
to enhance my ability?

Why Would I Want to

make it greater

Is there room
for
improvement
or do you
want to ramp
it up?

What things can you

identify that could be
done to enhance your
skill?

Your WHY is always going

to be your motivator.
Understanding how you
feel about it and how it will
make you more confident,
happy, successful are key to
keeping at it when you
might not feel like it

Activity # 2Think of a time you worked really hard on something, a project or developing a new skill. And you
surprised yourself with your commitment.
Use a notepad and write for at least 3 minutes. Just let it out. Dont judge or hold back.
What was it that kept you going? Did you feel like giving up but didnt. How did it turn out?
How did you feel when it was done? Hang on to that feeling because I know its a good one!
Research shows that we tend to focus on and spend more time thinking about our negative feelings and
experiences than we do when we experience something positive.
Hold a positive feeling or experience in your brain and heart longer than you do a negative experience
and you will start to shift from a negative state to a positive state.

Activity # 3Pick a skill or craft youd really like to develop or improve upon.
Draw up a 2 week action plan for how you do this.
What do you need to do to learn it? How will you bring it into your daily activities?
(I promise you- if it is important enough to you- you will find the time)
Skill Id Like to Learn

What do I need to do to
start learning this skill?

When will I do it?

How do I feel about taking

on something NEW!

Research shows that when

we challenge our brains we
actually develop new
neurons and increase our
intelligence. It also boosts
our confidence and selfesteem just the mere act
of TRYING. Even if we
arent successful the first
time- we gain new courage
to continue learning!

There is no excuse for not

being able to learn these
days. The internet is full of
FREE information that can
help get you started on
your new skill!

Pick a time and stick to it.

Or if your schedule is crazy
and unpredictable, just
commit to a certain
amount of time that you
will dedicate and stick with
that.

Be honest with yourself.

New things can be
intimidating or
overwhelming. Honor
those feelings and then
have a little talk with that
FIXED mindset.

Do something every day

that supports your new
learning and
skill/craft/hobby.

You may not know how to

do it NOW, but with
persistence and
commitment you will
learn!

JUST DO IT. (thanks NIKE

Corp for this phenomenal
motivational tid-bit)

Be sure to honor your

excitement too! New stuff
is fun!

Although journaling can be time consuming, it is by far the best way to track and see your progress.
You can keep it simple. Just a few thoughts about your new undertaking. Research shows that if you
will write your thoughts once or twice a week it is actually more effective than daily journaling.
Hows it going? What did you learn? Are you having fun?
Having the proper mindset will be key to building a strong personal foundation. It allows you to navigate
through the challenges that life will send you.
And remember- life throws you these challenges not as a punishment- but as opportunity for growth.
Nonetheless- they can be trying. I would be lying if I said it was always easy. It isnt.
But when I started implementing these practices and I stayed committed to them, my life really started
to transform. I gained courage and self-esteem. I gained a new found confidence. I gained the
strength to get back up and continue reaching for my highest potential.

Why Do I Succeed?
I succeed because I am willing to do the things you
are not. I will fight against the odds. I will sacrifice!
I am not shackled by fear, insecurity or doubt. I feel
those emotions. Drink them in and then swallow
them away to the blackness of hell. I am motivated
by accomplishment. Not pride. Pride consumes the
weak, kills their hearts from within. If I fall- I will
get up! If I am beaten-I will return.
I will never stop
getting better.
I will never give up- EVER.

Section 2

Intention:
An action performed with awareness, done
deliberately and consciously & on purpose.
Webster's Dictionary

Is this YOUR life?

Are you doing all the things you WANT to do? Are you doing some of the things you WANT to do? Or
are you continuing to run into the things you DON"T WANT TO DO?
Are you enjoying the things you are doing?
Do you really know what you want to do?
At some point, for many of us, adulthood brings responsibilities, that while so enjoyable, like kids and
marriage and such, these day-to day things seem to push other dreams we had to the back burner. Or to
the freezer in your garage for safe keeping until such time you can revisit them.
You know- the classic bucket list I-will-do-when-I-retire mindset.
Many of us have forgotten our dreams. They are too much to ask for now.
This is where the stuck-in-the-rut syndrome sets in.
This is where people start to get restless, change careers, get divorced. Have a midlife crisis.

But it doesnt have to be that way

One of the best ways to get out of your rut is to really reflect on what it is you want your life to be. And --this is important so TAKE NOTEBE GRATEFUL FOR WHAT YOU HAVE NOW.
In my trainings on The Cultivation of Absolute Happiness- Smile-! It Makes People Wonder What You Are
Up To we delve deeper in to the Practice of Gratitude and how it profoundly impacts your life.

What is it you truly want out of life? If you could envision YOUR ABSOLUTE PERFECT LIFE, what does
that look like? Are there PERFECT things in your life already? (Please dont forget those)
Now, if you are serious, and I assume you are if you have stayed with me this far, (Congrats on that by the
way- you are miles ahead of so many other people- who simply give up!) .

Before you go any furtherFind a quiet place. Sit back and

relax and start visualizing the

Engage all your senses.

See it.
Hear it.
Smell
Taste it.
Touch it.
Dream big and let go of any
judgment you have about it.

I strongly encourage you to follow this practice. If you have tried it before and had little to no success and you
think its a waste of time- I am going to add a KEY element that makes all the difference in the world. It was one
that was missing for me for years. It will determine whether you are successful or not. Plain and simple

WHAT'S YOUR WHY?

Knowing your WHY is the secret to defeating the best of fear, cultivating your determination, and
reinforcing your motivation that truly inspires action for maximum traction of achieving your
dreams and desires!

Ask yourself these questions- Why do I want this? When I see this vision of my best life
how do I feel? What does this life do for me, my family, and my community?

Did you do it?

I hope so. You will need to refer to your writing in future exercises. If your INTENTION is to build a
strong, unshakable personal foundation for an unstoppable & remarkable life worth living, then I trust you
understand that doing the work is critical.
You can wish upon a star all night long, but a dream without action is merely a hallucination. The world
doesnt need more hallucinations or unfocused dreamers. It needs more dreamers who are DOING.

In my advanced trainings we go very deep into discovering the most powerful part of your why. I hope
you will join me there! You will be receiving e-mails about the product suites as you are now part of my
community.

You have already done some of the hardest work you will
have to do!
Figuring out what you want! I want you to leave the HOW part alone for now.
Now you know what you want out of your life by doing the above exercise.
So set it in motion!

(Remember the exercise on the skills you want to improve and the skills you want to
learn? Get those out now!)

Action Step
Declaring Your Intentions
Intention - What I Am Going to Do with My Life!
Use your language very precisely. This is not what I
WANT to do with my life- It is very focused on what I AM going to do. Very different words- very
different intentions.

L.ook at the things you desire as

Write down your intentions as they fit with your bestday-in my best life
you wrote them in your visioning exercise.

Example
In my best life I see myself healthy, fit, and toned. Strong and full of energy.
This is your intention. You intend to be healthy, fit, toned, strong and full of energy.
Next to each intention, write the why or reason you intend on doing or having the thing.
I intend to be healthy, fit, toned, strong and full of energy so that I am able to

What emotion/feeling is welling up inside you as you think about the things you can do when you achieve
your intention? Write it down.
If the reason gets you all emotional and full of motivation- its a good one! Go with it.
The why that makes you cry is the one that will keep you going. Be careful here because sometimes a why
can be negatively driven. Its important to turn it into something positive.
Now I want you to rewrite the sentence like this: I AM HEALTHY FIT, TONED, STRONG, and FULL OF
ENERGY AND I AM (fill in the blank with what you are now doing) because when I do this I feel
!
This builds the foundation for advanced work you can do to identify the hows and action steps to
skyrocket your success.
As I shared earlier- at my lowest moment I didnt know what I was supposed to do or how I was going to
do it. I only knew I had to do something.
I trusted that it was going to come to me. And it did!
Even if you have to say to yourself, like I did, Thisis just a crazy mess. I dont know what I want to do. I
dont know why this is all happening. I know I am not going through all this for nothing. Something else
will come out of this,
that is a good starting place.

TIP:

OWN IT!
Whether you have grandiose dreams (which I hope you do) or you are
trying to just re-surface and find some oxygen, it is imperative that you
make a very bold statement- from your heart- that says- Iam doing

this thing because_

Its your life my friend. You are in charge. You are the creator. You
are the driver of this vehicle. What plans do you have for yourself?
Are you relying on someone else to tell you those plans? Cuz guess
what- they probably dont have much great planned for you. We live
in a world where average is normal and acceptable. But I am guessing
that is not true for you.

Always state your intentions in a

positive way. Words have energy. We
want positive states of mind.
I am open and willing to receive all
the good and wonderful things life
has to offer. I am ready for health,
wealth, happiness, success, joy,
vitality and strength. I am in the
process of allowing all the good stuff
of the universe to come to me.

Its certainly not for me. I have big dreams. I am not settling. I am not average. And mediocre is
UNACCEPTABLE.

Review your "Best Life " Vision Exercise

What 10 things from your list WILL you accomplish this year?

Write them down!

"I am doing this thing because when I do
I feel
."
I am as serious as a
heart attack here
folks!
It really is that
important!

So, what is YOUR intention for your life? Do you want to keep colliding with chaos or do you want to
dance with your dreams?
Just keeping it in your head is not the best practice. I encourage you to write it on a sticky note- keep it
on your refrigerator.
Make a little screen saver inspirational quote picture with your very own personal quotable!
I did that and you wouldnt believe the self-confidence boost and pride I got every time I saw my own
words displayed so beautifully.
The mysterious and magical thing that happens when you go from head to paper is that it becomes visible
and real .
No longer a wish or hallucination. It exists on paper. It is REPROGRAMMING your subconscious. And it
exists in the universe.

4 Super Charged Tips to Live and Die By when Creating Intentions

1.

Focus on VICTORY and your subconscious will start to reprogram and eventually force you to
succeed.
Remember- your subconscious only knows what you tell it and will act accordingly.
It doesnt operate of judgment. Its only commands are what you tell it to do.
So tell it do something PRODUCTIVE, EFFECTIVE, and WORTHWHILE.
STOP TELLING IT OR BUYING INTO THE FALSE BELIEFS YOU MAY BE HOLDING.
GIVE IT SOMETHING NEW TO DO.
Dont dwell on your goals. See them as alreadyaccomplished.
This plants a seed for your subconscious to work on.
FEEL how it would feel if you had already achieved your goal.
Keep that alive my friends! That is the food and fuel for your
NEW subconscious.
It really does work.

TIP

Thegap between your dreams and reality is quite small. And if

you put all your time and energy into having the life you want,
living and breathing your achievements, your subconscious will
eventually kick into overdrive to bridge that gap. Russ Ruffino

A super charged
powerful way to
increase the probability
that you will achieve
whatever it is you
decide to do is----

As you practice this NEW way of thinking you move from fear,
anxiety, and tension into joy, peace, and enthusiasm.

MAKE A PUBLIC
DECLARATION!

2. Understand that the universe, God of your understanding, and energetic patterns have a will
for your life that will ALWAYS transcend your wildest dreams.
You may actually find yourself saying Wow- that was totally beyond my wildest dreams
someday!
The success that you dream of is just a fraction of what you can achieve. Reality will transcend
it.

3. Visualize & Meditate Daily

It is so important to keep the visions and your intentions in your sight EVERYDAY!
Whether you think about them. Ponder over them. Whatever it is you do to keep that vision
in the forefront of your brain is what will drive it deep into your subconscious where
reprogramming will start.
We train the subconscious with repetition. Plain and simple.
Meditation doesnt have to be a complicated endeavor.
Do it in the shower. Do it on your lunch break. 15-20 minutes of quiet brain time where you
just let your visions cross your mind.
Make sure you thank the Universe or God of your understanding in advance for the things
you desire.
In my advanced training RealLiving Life Mastery Intensive
you will learn the immense
power of your language and how to phrase your sentences to take maximum advantage of
the energy contained in thoughts and words. (language influences EVERYTHING!)
KEEP THIS IN MIND- this process isnt about wishing you had a different life cuz today is
awful and you cant stand it anymore. Its about reprogramming your subconscious with
positive thoughts and NEW ways of being.
Its up to you!
As you go about your day its up to you to reject those things that do not line up with your
visions and intentions. Be aware. If you dont, it will eat up at your confidence and that old,
detrimental, faulty programming of the subconscious will sneak right back in. YIKES!
4.

Prioritize and take on one thing at a time

The things that need to be on your to-do list are:

Things that have an impact

Things that scare you
Things that bring with them the possibility of failure
Requires new learning

Yeah, I know that sounds frightening and uncomfortable. But always remember- if you want to grow and
be and do better- what do I always say- YOU MUST BE CHALLENGED.
And that is true.
And that is powerful!
But this is hard--Yeah I know. But I want you to seriously ask yourself- WHAT IS HARDER?
Continuing to wish and dream and have the same olsame ol- day in and out?
Living with regret? I promise you this- you will never live with more misery & regret than wondering what
if.That is a fact!
This is challenging. This may take you out of your comfort zone.
Ahhh! But you remember that evolution, expansion and stepping up to your highest potential require
challenge.

Its not going to kill you! Its actually the perfect thing for you to do! It makes you COME ALIVE!
As you learned- when you challenge your brain it actually grows and gets stronger. You increase your
intelligence and your abilities!
SUPER BONUS!!!
Staying where you are-stagnating-no growth-wasting- your- awesome- potential---that is slow suicide. Just
waiting out your days in silent torture. Death with a pulse.

No thank you!

You are ready to grow. Ready to live life with purpose, passion, and all those other remarkable things you
dream about.
No more daydreaming--- We gettin busy building! Unshakeable. Unstoppable. Remarkable and Solid.

Section 3

Choose Your

I am not really talking about your physical locale- nor am I suggesting you pick up-pack up and move to
another state.
Although- as we are deep in the middle of winter here where I live and its snowing like a beast outside my
window- the thought of a warmer region does have its appeal.
I am referring to your stateof being .
Science and spirituality are narrowing the rift that used to divide
them- and they now agree on one thing for sure-

Where it began and who may have created it remain the ever perplexing and frustrating discussion- but in
the end- we are all just energy.
Energy exists in different states. For simplicity and not to get to heavy with quantum or metaphysics- we
have positive energy and negative energy. You are welcome to read my book on these fascinating
concepts when it is published.
Do you lean to the positive or fall to the negative? Did you realize that you can shift either state in a
about 3 seconds flat?
Do you project confidence, vitality, happiness, resilience? Do you stand tall, with shoulders back and a
smile on your whole face?

Or does the weight of the world show up on your shoulders? Does the rumination of last nights argument
with your spouse dull your spark?
Does the pile of bills on your counter bring a huge sigh of angst and defeat over your life?

If you follow or immerse yourself in any self-help personal development, you have, no doubt, heard that
saying Bepresent in the now.
Live like its your last day on Earth.
Right? Youve heard that.
I struggled with this for years.
It felt to me like an abandonment of responsibility. Because I tell you what, if today were truly my last
day on Earth and I knew it- I probably wouldnt pay my bills or do laundry or any of that day to day stuff.
Now what is going to happen if I do that every day until the real day that I die?
So I couldnt quite embrace this philosophy. I had to still do what I needed to do to live and not have the
repo man come after me or have stinky clothes and a dirty house, but I wanted to become more
connected with thenow because I understand that this exact moment is really I have.
I wanted to enjoy my life-all the things of my life. I have a million things I NEED to do. How can I enjoy
them?

For me, learning how to appreciate a moment, while doing the necessities of life became huge!
As well as learning when I had to absolutely do the necessities vs. just being. (Permission granted!)
Letting go of the GUILT of just giving myself a day or heck- even an hour where I did just whatever I
wanted.
It was liberating! I found joy in laundry and dishes. And I found joy in allowing myself to step away from
those things to enjoy my recreation and relaxation.
Both are necessary. And at some point, the necessities of life shifted for me. They are part of my life and
when I started to really enjoy them for what they were, my state changed immensely.
My life feels like a vacation every day. I dont yearn to escape from my day to day. I like to have a
different landscape to look at or go to places I can explore, but I never feel like I have to run away from
my life anymore.
Ok-honesty and transparency here- I DO NOT LIKE THE SNOW. I DO NOT LIKE SHOVELING THE
SNOW. I DO NOT LIKE ANYTHING TO DO WITH WINTER AND WISH I LIVED IN SUNNY ARIZONA---BUT I DON T .
Let me share a funny story with you about my distaste for winter.
I am a native Utahn. It snows here and is cold for 9 months of the year.
For me anything less than 85 deg F is chilly.
I want to live where the sun shines more than the snow flies and where I can walk outside most any given
day and not have my eyelids freeze shut or my nose grow icicles.
But I am stuck here in Utah- (self-inflicted) ---for now.
Choices- right?
So, this year I decided that I seriously needed to practice what I preach and learn to love and live in the
moment that is called Utah Winter.
I declared my intention that I was going to learn how to live with the snow and not have such a
negative state of mind. I declared that when we had enough snow, I was going to build an igloo and sit
inside it with a tasty happiness inducing "Deanna" treat! I would decorate it with little white lights and
have a peaceful moment inside.
And- 1 week after I made this declaration- we got 28 inches of snow-from a storm that lasted 3 days
straight. Time to step up and be good on my word. Plus I thought it would make for a good story.
Which- it is!

And the strangest thing happened--- I had fun! I stayed out all day working on my igloo.
Working on me!
I actually enjoyed the snow and cold for the first time in a really long time.
I was truly in the present.
I wasnt thinking about the sunshine and warmth I so love. I wasnt even really missing it.
I was as they say ONEWITH THE SNOW!
What made this different for me was that I had a true desire to embrace something that I didnt enjoy and

make it enjoyable. It is all about the mind my friends.

I choose those thoughts.
I always choose how I am going to be.

And so do you.

What do you choose?

Mundane monotony that drags you down or fresh, soft, clean towels that wrap you in luxury? Clean
dishes on which you can present a healthy, yummy meal to your family?
Be thankful for those things.
If the towels werent clean- well- how would that feel after your nice hot bath or shower?
Yuck. Mildew and stink!
Be thankful for laundry day. Take time to smell them just after they come out of the dryer or off the line.
Appreciate them for what they are and what they do.
You can start doing this practice with any CHORE . Take time to enjoy the results-even if it is only for a
moment. They will add up!

Choosing in the Moment

When we are hit with an obstacle or circumstance that we dont likeor wish were different, research has
shown that the part of our brain that is linked with negative thoughts lights up like the Fourth of July.
Distress, stress, or dissatisfaction also activate the part of our brain that is associated with stress hormones,
fear activation, and fight-or-flight response.
And- remember those liesthat the subconscious holds- yeah- they come up like a volcano!
This all happens even if we arent being chased by a predator (which was this part of the brains original
function-keep us safe)
This happens to us every day. Everyday stressors if not managed lead to chronic stress statein your bodwhich leads to unhappiness and disease.
So what to do?
Build an igloo!
There are numerous ways to chooseyour state .

Both hard-core quantum physicists and spiritual gurus alike agree on one thing (so farmaking progress!)
We are all made of energy. We are not a solid mass as once thought.
We are patterns of energy. We vibrate or oscillate or move all the time.
And heres the clincher--- THOUGHTS ARE ALSO ENERGY!!
thoughts
beliefs in your subconscious
bring
about the results in your life. Stop accepting false beliefs
and debilitating fears and begin filling your mind with
thoughts
Paula Noble-Fellingham

Believe It! Become It! How to Hurdle Barriers and Excel

The hippies had it right- Let the good vibes in man.

In order to let the good vibes in, we must also put them out.
In quantum physics- at the subatomic level- like attracts like.
Positive energy attracts positive. This is probably different than what you learned in Newtonian or
standard physics.
Opposites attract. Which is true. But not at the subatomic level- which is where our health and wellnesshappiness, life-satisfaction and so on are formed and influenced.

In order to attract positive- we must be in a positive state.

This is NOT to say that you IGNORE any negative things or emotions that you have. In fact- it is quite the
opposite.
If you continually ignore your negative feelings guess what they do? Fester inside. Build up. Attract more
negative energy until one day your body says yeahwell thats enough of her not paying attention to me.
And baam!- something happens to you. Illness. Injury. Disease. Trauma. Tragedy. You name it.
But as you know by now- your negative feelings are labels you put on the experience. What could be a
negative experience for one person may not be so for another.
IT IS A MATTER OF PERSPECTIVE AND PERCEPTION.
They come from your beliefs about yourself and your expectations of the world and those around you.
Thats your subconscious at work right there!

Many of these beliefs are false and

detrimental to you. Youve just
played the record too many times.
The groove is deep and the
reaction is usually habitual.

Dealing with Negative Thoughts Choose Your State NOW!

So, we cant escape negative thoughts or experiences.
Nor would we really want to if our intention was to grow, evolve,
and expand into our highest potential.
Remember- you cannot grow if you are not challenged.
Our challenges that may lead to a wounded part of us, will often
open up our most beautiful and powerful self.
Negative thoughts are messages that you need to check in with
yourself. YOU are having a reaction to something that is deeply
seeded in your subconscious. A belief you hold deep down.
Its surfacing for you to deal with it. PAY ATTENTION!
Lets explore how you can choose your state-in a minute flat!
You will move from being an autopilot,habitual, ineffective reactor to a conscious, more
effective problem solver who isnt defeated by obstacles .
ROCK SOLID MY FRIENDS.

Choose Your State Exercises

Step 1- Be aware the second a negative thought enters your mind.
Say immediately That was negative. Thats not me. I dont generally think or say negative things.
Even if you dont totally believe this about yourself just yet, by implementing this practice you will
eventually shift your thought processes and start to believe it.
(In the Real Living Mastery Intensive we go way deep into how to properly and effectively use positive
affirmations when you are having difficulty believing something positive about yourself.)
Doing this brings immediate awareness to you and you can STOP the spiral of negativity.
I am going to drive this AWARENESS thing home FOREVER- Its that critical.
We have so many people driving around on that cruise control-autopilot and its creating a lot of chaos.
But thats not for you. And its not for me. I am not a victim of my circumstances. I chose to learn and
grow. Those who know better-do better. Period.

Step 2: Put a name to the negative thought

Identifying or labeling the negative thought sheds light on it. This will stop you from ruminating on it as
well.
That was an unkind thing of me to say or think that
thought or negative judgment.)

(fill in the blank with your

If you are having negative thoughts about another person

Understand that you cannot possibly know why they are reacting or criticizing you its
impossible to fully step into someone elses story
Have some compassion- most people arent out to getyou. They are dealing with their own
stuff too.
-The guy driving really slow in front of you- causing you to be late for work who isnt moving
out of your way despite your incessant honking, swearing, and hand gesturing- He just left the
hospital where his wife died.
-The lady in front of you in line at the grocery store, taking her own sweet time to fish her
money out of her wallet- counting every penny slowly- doesnt seem to notice your agitation,
glaring eye or loud sighs she just lost her job and has 3 kids to feed.
-The overweight person at the gym who wont hurry up and move off the machine you
need moves a little slower because he just started a workout program after being released
from the hospital after his heart attack.

You never know someone elses story. Its your subconscious beliefs that surface that tell you something
should be a different way. Its your story. Often our stories dont line up nicely with others. And usually
we have made an incorrect assumption about the situation.

Have compassion. That is one sure fire way to switch from

a negative state to a positive state!
Step 3: Chose beliefs that empower you
From here on out--Respect your negative feelings as messengers or red flags that are letting you know YOU have something to
deal with.
What is it that YOU need to work on? What belief is cropping up as a reaction to the situation that needs
attention?
Other people will definitely do things that annoy you. Your job is to figure out why you are annoyed.

What is it you believe about the situation and why is it causing you stress?
You cannot change other people. You can only transform yourself.
In the REAL Living Life Mastery Intensive we explore on a very advanced level- how to identify your
subconscious core beliefs, where they came from and how to rid yourself of them.
For now- we will start with some simple empowering beliefs that you can use to build a solid foundation.

Read some examples below:

Instead of this disempowering belief:
I am NO good at this
I give up!
I cant make this any better!
That person is so annoying and stupid!
This is too hard!
My boss is so hard on me and doesnt get how hard
I work.
This traffic is always a pain and makes me late!

Use these EMPOWERING BELIEFS

What am I missing?
I will use some of the strategies I have learned and
go about it a different way
I can always improve, so I will keep trying!
I wonder if they are having a rough day?
This may take time & effort. And thats ok.
Maybe my boss is overwhelmed too. What can we
do to make it better?
I wonder if there is an accident and someone is
hurt. That would certainly make for a bad day for
someone.

Step 4: BREATHE! It isnt optional

Most of us breathe incorrectly. Funny isnt it? Its supposed to be something that just happens naturally.
My body just DOES it. Well- not totally true.
Most of us are stuck in a habitual pattern of Shallow breathing.
Often this habitual pattern develops after years of stress and fear that cause us to divert vital energy to life
preservation- not life expansion.
YOU CAN SWITCH IT! You can and should direct your breathing and energy to life expansion!

And it doesnt have to be a complicated Zen yogi meditation session.

Most of generally just don't have the time to

do that!

I am going to provide you with some very simple breathing techniques that you can do on the spot- in the
middle of a crisis, irritation, or traumatic event that will greatly transform your state, refresh your mind
and balance your body.
And since I know you are going to be breathing anyway- you might as well learn how to do it effectively
and efficiently!

As we know- fear is linked

to stress- stress is linked to
disease. In fact research is
now showing that
somewhere around 8090% of disease
manifestations are
related to stress!

YIKES! Stress management not only becomes good for our ability to function but a necessity to maintain
our health!
Fascinating research is now showing that our stomach-the center of our life force (if you follow any eastern
philosophies- you know this) has similar neurons to our brain. It also houses the majority of our happy
hormone
or Serotonin.

It is essential that when we do effective energy

balancing breathingwe focus on the abdomen. It is
the center of your life force.
If you are new to this kind of breathing- here is a tip:

Place both your hands palm down on your

abdomen.
Inhale through the nose and focus on getting all that
air into your belly. Yes you have to let it expand. No
sucking it in like your walking on the beach in your swimsuit.

"Practicing regular,
mindful breathing can be
calming and energizing
and
can even help with
stress-related
health problems ranging
from panic attacks to
digestive disorders."

LET IT GO- LET IT EXPAND-LET THAT OXYGEN IN!

It feels awkward for a little while. But I assure you with time- your body will adjust and start to crave this
deep oxygenation. It will become natural once again. We were born belly breathers!

Exhale through the mouth slowly- let your entire body contract. Let your stomach contract
and push that oxygen back out through your lungs and out your mouth.

(not like this)

Exercise 1:
The Stimulating Breath (also called the Bellows Breath)
The Stimulating Breath is adapted from yogic breathing techniques. Its aim is to raise vital energy and
increase alertness.
(Effective technique even without energy drinks or caffeine!)

Inhale and exhale rapidly through your nose, keeping your mouth closed but relaxed. Your
breaths in and out should be equal in duration, but as short as possible. This is a noisy
breathing exercise.

Try for three in-and-out breath cycles per second. This produces a quick movement of the
diaphragm, suggesting a bellows. Breathe normally after each cycle.
Do not do for more than 15 seconds on your first try. You might experience some
lightheadedness bringing in all this beautiful oxygen. Stop for a few minutes if this occurs.
Resume when the feeling subsides. Each time you practice the Stimulating Breath, you can
increase your time by five seconds or so, until you reach a full minute.

If done properly, you may feel invigorated, comparable to the heightened awareness you feel after a good
workout. You should feel the effort at the back of the neck, the diaphragm, the chest and the abdomen.

Try this diaphragmatic breathing exercise the next time you need an energy boost and feel yourself
reaching for a cup of coffee.

( LIKE THIS.)

Exercise 2:
The 4-7-8 (or Relaxing Breath) Exercise
This breathing exercise is so simple, takes almost no time, requires no equipment and can be done
anywhere. I use this when I am experiencing a little road rage (cmon- we all do now and then!)
Although you can do the exercise in any position, sit with your back straight while learning the exercise.
Place the tip of your tongue against the ridge of tissue just behind your upper front teeth, and keep it there
through the entire exercise. Doing this keeps the energycircuit
flowing. If that sounds a little w oo- woo
new agey- out there kinda weirdness to you, just know that it works. You trust that your cell phone and
wi-fi connection are going to work yet you might not know how- just apply that same kind of belief to
this practice.
You will be exhaling through your mouth around your tongue; try pursing your lips slightly if this seems
awkward.

Exhale completely through your mouth, making a whoosh sound.

Close your mouth and inhale quietly through your nose to a mental count of four.
Hold your breath for a count of seven.
Exhale completely through your mouth, making a whoosh sound to a count of eight.
This is one breath. Now inhale again and repeat the cycle three more times for a total of four
breaths.

Note that you always inhale quietly through your nose and exhale audibly through your mouth. The tip of
your tongue stays in position the whole time. Exhalation takes twice as long as inhalation. The time you
spend on each phase is not important; the ratio of 4:7:8 is important. If you have trouble holding your

breath, speed the exercise up but keep to the ratio of 4:7:8 for the three phases. Always remember to
expand the belly with inhalation- as much as you can. Let it contract with exhalation. If you experience
any lightheadedness- which will probably happen in the beginning, just stop for a few minutes and resume
when that feeling passes. With practice you can slow it all down and get used to inhaling and exhaling
more and more deeply.

This exercise is a natural tranquilizer for the nervous system. Unlike tranquilizing drugs, which are often
effective when you first take them but then lose their power over time, this exercise is subtle when you first
try it but gains in power with repetition and practice. Do it at least twice a day. You cannot do it too
frequently. Do not do more than four breaths at one time for the first month of practice. Later, if you
wish, you can extend it to eight breaths. If you feel a little lightheaded when you first breathe this way, do
not be concerned; it will pass.
Once you develop this technique by practicing it every day, it will be a very useful tool that you will
always have with you. Use it whenever anything upsetting happens - before you react. Use it whenever
you are aware of internal tension. Use it to help you fall asleep. This exercise cannot be recommended too

highly. Everyone can benefit from it.

(Copyright note: Exercise 1-2 are taken directly from Dr. Andrew Weils website on Stress Reduction and
Breathing Techniques.)
Exercise 3Training the Mind Breathing
Not only is breathing a great way to revitalize and balance your body and reduce stress, it can be used to
retrain your mind-- Awesome sauce since one of our main foci in this program is MINDSET!
If you are struggling with a particular circumstance and you want to bring yourself into a positive statesimply add an affirmation to your inhale and exhale breathing cycles.

For Example:
You have an upcoming job interview and you are very nervous about it. Your financial situation is riding
on your ability to secure employment. Little bit of stress there.
Lets use the Relaxation Breathing Technique of 4-7-8 as mentioned above.
On the inhale- you will bring IN positive energy and say to yourself:
Iam allowing all the positive energy, confidence and prosperity to come my way. I am preparing to
have financial goodies and solid, gainful employment.
On the hold count of 7- just allow the affirmation to sink in.
On the exhale- let out all the negative energy and say to yourself:
I am releasing all the negative so that the positive energy can attract more positive energy to me.

You dont have to use those words verbatim. Again, its about what words work for you and above all- IT
IS YOUR INTENTION.

In case you need more guidanceThe Dummies Series has IT ALL!!!

I dont think this is a real
book. I did an Amazon
search and it doesnt come
up in the search. It is kind
of funny and drives home
the point that breathing
isnt always as easy as we
think.

Exercise 4:

If you find it somewhere,

let me know. I think its
brilliant!

The Spinal Flex (see pics below)

In Eastern philosophies, they follow the tenet that we have energy vortexes up the middle of our body.
Namely, chakras. My intention is not to go to deep into any of those ideas at this time.
Western science now agrees that there are hubs or centersof energy that can be detected by their fancy
equipment. Which I find impressive and also validating to the ancient healers. (theyve known that for
centuries)
For our purposes in this beginning program- lets just agree that, yes, our body is energy. Yes it runs up
and down our spine. Keep it simple.
These energy hubsif you will, are connected to our spine and all its nerves. All the nerves of the spine are
connected to all our body organs.
If our energy is out of balance- our organs are out of balance. When unbalanced- life is the pits! That
simple.
We need to keep both the spinal fluid and energy moving. The spinal flex is a phenomenal way to do just
that.
It will release back and neck tension. Stimulate spinal fluid movement, Ramp up energy . Sharpen your
focus and revitalize your mind.
And- YOU CAN DO IT ANYWHERE. ANYTIME.
Please- if you have any back or neck issues check with your medical professional before participating in this
exercise. I wouldnt want to have you aggravate something. (medical disclaimer)

To start, come sitting comfortably on the ground. If this is not easy for you, put a folded blanket
or lift under your hips, or sit on a chair with your feet flat on the ground, spine straight.

Locate your navel, it is about 1-2 inches below your belly button, this is where you want the
movement to start from. Bring your hands on you shins, or if on a chair, your thighs.
Draw your navel back towards the spine as you exhale, rocking back off the sit bones, stretching
back. On the inhale, use your navel to rock up onto the sit bones, anchor your pelvis, and keep
your lower back elongated and stable.
As the chest rises and the breath expands the ribcage, the flex takes you into neck relaxation, the
back of your neck elongates, chin draws back slightly.
The scapulla draw slightly down and back, feeling like two hands pushing the heart upward from
the back. Your head stays level, floating in a vertical alignment with your pelvis.
Use your arms to guide your spine into the forward flex position.
The lower abdominals (navel point) are dynamically being used both directions, on the inhale they
are rooting down, allowing the lower back to not over arch and supporting the ribcage lifting and
expanding, on the exhale the navel is drawing back towards the spine.
Head and neck can stay relaxed because ideally the head is being balanced by the heart, which is
supported by the navel, so you don't have to tighten the neck.
Lead the movement from your navel not your head.

The Spinal Flex with focused

breathing basically looks like the
photos to the left.
Contraction and expansion of the
spine with coordinated inhale and
exhale.
It is phenomenal for moving energy
around your body!
You can do it anywhere-anytime!
You dont always have to have a
yoga mat to do relaxation and
rejuvenation activities.
Try it at your desk when you need
a boost!
Pic from Prevention.com

Every story has an endbut in life

Every end is a new beginning!

The End-

Every Ending has a New Beginning, if you look for it!

I found this quote so apropos as my book is at its ending. Your life- if you choose- can now have a new
beginning. When you handle life better, you have a better life!
A beginning of building a strong foundation that enables you to handle all those life challenges that will
invariably come your way. You will no longer be blown about like a leaf in the wind with chaos
surrounding you.
You can become strong and resilient. Focused with intention as you create your life filled with satisfaction
and achievement. When you become rock solid it doesn't matter which way the wind blows. You open
your sails, catch that wind and take off in whichever direction you choose.
I know that From Rock Bottom to Rock Solid
can help you become that person that others look at and say
Howdo you stay so strong?
They will ask you how you manage your stressful times with such clarity and purpose, strength and
resilience.
You will know the answer to the question How is it that some people just seem to manage life better?

AND THAT IS ROCK SOLID!

With gratitude & respect as you begin

your journey,

Deanna Eiting
The Ambassador of Happiness TM