Learning The Fundamentals

Fundamentals In This Section:

INTRODUCTION
YOU CAN NEVER HAVE TOO MUCH TEXT FALSE!
WHY SO SERIOUS?
LEAD THE DANCE
DONT ALWAYS BE AVAILABLE
KNOW WHO YOU ARE! AVOID FAKE COMMONALITIES
YOU MUST BE DIFFERENT BREAKING HER OUT OF AUTOPILOT
NO NEED TO BE NEEDY
SHOULD YOU USE A QUESTION MARK????
SHOWING YOU HAVE STANDARDS USING FALSE DISQUALIFIERS
LOWER HER GUARD WITH YOUR SENSE OF HUMOR
MASS TEXT MESSAGING
HOLIDAY TEXTS
PASSING A WOMANS TESTS
SECTION RECAP

Introduction
As you continue your training to become a stealthy text ninja you will find there are certain
underlying concepts that govern all successful text interactions. Go over this section several
times and refer back to it often as you will be using these concepts in each and every text
interaction you have with a girl you are interested in.

You Can Never Have Too Much Text

FALSE!
One of the biggest mistakes guys make when texting a new woman they are interested in is
texting or calling her way too much. Just because she doesnt respond immediately to your text
messages or answer every call doesnt mean you should just text or call her again. Persistent text
messages when there is little or no response communicates neediness and a scarcity mentality.

This is a guaranteed way to kill attraction. So how do you know when you are texting her the
right amount? Here are some key indicators that will help you calibrate.
Youre havent build enough attraction and are texting/calling her too much if:
her response time is consistently slow
she doesnt engage you in conversation or latch onto your conversational hooks
she consistently gives you one word/super short replies (ok, sure, yep, etc)
she doesnt initiate text/phone call interactions
Youre texting/calling her the right amount if:
she initiates text/phone call interactions
she responds to text/phone calls quickly
she readily engages you in conversation, latches onto your hooks
She answers your questions
she propels the interaction forward by asking questions of her own
Keep these in mind so youre in tune with whether you are texting or calling her too much. This
will give you a good idea of her interest level. If she stops showing interest in you, do not just
continue to text and call her day after day without a response. Take a few days off from
contacting her then try using the principles from the When She Stops Responding Sending The
Re-engaging Text section or contact her through your Myspace or Facebook profile using the
principles from Using Social Networking Sites to Boost Attraction and Build Comfort. Send her
periodic text messages over the course of a couple weeks. If she doesnt respond favorably after
this, cut her off and move on.

Why So Serious?
Unless you are in the middle of emotionally connecting with a girl, you should be
CONSTANTLY giving off a lighthearted persona about your self. Keep your text message
conversations easy going and fun. Hold off on trying to build an emotional connection over text.
Save this for when you meet up in person where it will be far more effective. If it is something
you must discuss and share with each other before you are able to hang out again, CALL HER
and do it over the phone. See the HANDLING PHONE CALLS section.

Lead the Dance

The process of building and sustaining attraction is like a dance. As a man, you are expected to
be the leader. It is sad that most women are tired of waiting for men to step up and lead the
interaction. Now is the time for you to step up and lead the interaction every step of the way.
This isnt to say that she cannot make any sort of decision in the relationship, far from it.
Relationships are about compromise and mutual respect. This just means that it is up to YOU to
guide it where you both want it to go. Dont wait for her to take the reigns and make things
happen. This is a fundamental component to being a leader in other areas of your life as well.

Dont Always Be Available

Dont always reply immediately when she texts you. Taking some time to respond communicates
that you have a lot going on in your life and that she is not the most important thing in your life
(she doesnt want to feel important to you until she has earned it). If you are constantly available
to respond immediately or are non stop continually texting her she will wonder why you dont
have anything else in your life keeping you busy. On the other hand, dont take this to the
extreme and wait hours to respond to each and every text. Mix it up. Bottom line is you want to
demonstrate to her you have a (preferably exciting) life full of friends, hobbies, events, etc
even if you dont at the moment. Besides, soon you will be extremely busy having fun with all
the cool people you have met using the principles taught in this system!
Important: If you are in the middle of an important conversation topic stay involved with the
interaction until the subject changes or you indicate you have to go.

Know Who You Are! Avoid Fake

Commonalities
One of the most attractive qualities a person can have is knowing who they are as a person, what
they are all about, and what they are or arent willing to agree with and accept.
What I am trying to say plain and simply is: Do not agree with everything she says just because
you like her. Whether or not she is testing you, she can tell when you are just agreeing with her
so shell like you, or agreeing because you actually agree. Girls sometimes will ask hard
questions to see if a guy will stand up to them. Guys often disregard their own beliefs and
preferences by agreeing with the girl they are pursuing in an attempt to create a fake
commonality. They believe this will make her like them more. This is not the case. She will find
you weak and assume she can walk all over you. It is better to voice your opinion when you
disagree. There is no need to apologize for it. It is not a big deal. Agree to disagree or come to a
compromise. However, do not disagree with her just for the sake of arguing because then you
become annoying. Know what you want, need, and desire and be ok with voicing them even if
she disagrees with your tastes.

You MUST Be Different Breaking Her Out

of Autopilot
If you dont already know, attractive women have plenty of guys already chasing after them.
What does this mean for you? It means she is already receiving countless texts from other guys
all day long. Unfortunate for her and lucky for you they are all saying pretty much the same
stuff. Why is that lucky for you? Over time she becomes conditioned to all these texts and they
no longer have much of an effect on her. But what if she were to receive a text from you that was

unique and fun forcing her to come out of her autopilot responses? It is as if all she has been
having is vanilla and you just gave her chocolate. Now you have her curious and attraction
begins with curiosity.
In order to set yourself apart you must demonstrate that you are not going to just put her through
the same things she has already experienced. There are multitudes of ways to do this, many of
which are covered in this Program (Nicknames, Role-playing, Guessing Her Answer, etc).

No Need to Be Needy
Non-neediness is one of the most important attributes to cultivate. Think about it, if you already
had a life full of amazingly beautiful women would you really care if an interaction with a new
one failed? Hell no. You have enough going on in your life that it is ok if one interaction doesnt
work out! This is the type of attitude that drives women wild. This is one of the major reasons
that 10% of guys are able to get 90% of the women out there. You must come across as nonneedy and be willing to walk away if she does not live up to your standards and expectations. I
cannot emphasize this enough: you must release your attachment to the out come. There are so
many opportunities to meet women every day, you can afford to mess up. Just learn from it and
move on. It is time for you to see the world as a place with countless opportunities. Everyday
you run across hundreds of woman many of which are attracted to you. Adopt an abundance
mentality.

Should You Use a Question Mark????

When sending a text, statements that require an answer are often more powerful than sending
actual questions. When you are continuously asking questions it can come off as overbearing and
actually push her away. As trivial as it seems, when you put a question mark at the end of your
statement it evokes a certain response. You are now in a position of needing something from her,
namely a response to your question. Since you are not there in person to deliver your question
with a downward vocal tonality indicating a statement you have to word it in a way that allows
you leave off the question mark.
Stating a question as a statement indicates that you expect an answer. Not in a demanding way
but in a way that you are used to getting your questions answered. One way is to simply replace
the question mark with a ellipsis (). This indicates that the rest of the statement needs to be
finished and her answer to the question is that finish. Another way is to just leave out the
question mark altogether.
Incorrect: Are you coming tonight?
Correct: Shall I be expecting you this evening my dear
Incorrect: What is your favorite color?
Correct: And your favorite color would be

Another funny way to counteract this is to go overboard in the other direction and make fun of
the fact you are doing it. Here is an example from a message i actually sent out recently to a new
girl who is trying to get into the police academy.
Race: the police academy? what do you have to do to get in? Where are you working now?
do you have facebook? is this too many questions in a row? should i stop now? lol
Now remember this is a rule of thumb. Dont go overboard and never use question marks again.
Just make sure you are not using them constantly. Otherwise you come off as the needy
interviewer guy.

Showing You Have Standards Using False

Disqualifiers
A false disqualifier is simply a playful statement that gives reasons why you wouldnt be able to
move forward with her. The reasons you give need to be silly and outlandish.
You want to sporadically use false disqualifiers in your text messages. Even though you are
obviously joking, you are conveying that you do have standards and if she meets them, then you
will move forward. You dont just settle for anyone. When a girl feels like she has been
disqualified in your eyes she will start doing things to try and get you to accept her even if they
are silly.
While it is possible to start a conversation with a disqualifier, chances are you will get more
consistent results when you use them within the context of an interaction. A perfect opportunity
to use a false disqualifier is any time she voices her opinion about something.
Example:
Woah woah! You like {__thing she likes___}? I didnt know you were that type of girl! I
might have to get my moms permission just to kick it with you lol
Wait, you were born in {any month}, right? So youre a {associated birth sign}. Damn it! I knew
it. Oh well, I guess im just gonna have to break up with you now lol

Lower Her Guard With Your Sense of

Humor
Nothing brings a womans guard down like humor. When she is laughing she is relaxed,
comfortable and associating you with a good time. When this occurs, she is no longer judging or
analyzing you. It also lets her know that you will be fun to be around when you hang out again.

When asked what they find most attractive in men, women consistently rank a sense of humor as
the top attribute. Why is this? Humor indicates that you take neither yourself nor the interaction
too seriously, and seriousness is the exact opposite of the types of emotions we are trying to elicit
in order to build attraction in the beginning. In fact, there are many examples of where a woman
is not initially attracted to a man, but because she finds his sense of humor so irresistible, ends up
falling hard.

Mass Text messaging

Work smarter not harder! If you have several girls in your phone that you are interested in and
trying to set up dates with, why not save your time and be more efficient by sending out a mass
text message to several girls at the same time. However, it is important to realize that woman are
far less likely to respond to mass texts because they remove personal responsibility of response.
If she cant or doesnt want to come she doesnt need to respond because it wasnt to her
personally. On top of that, some women actually are put off by mass texts.
How do you continue to use convenience of mass text messages without the drawbacks?. It is
ALL IN THE WORDING! You want to send out a mass text message that makes the person
receiving it feel like you sent it to them personally. But at the same time it has to be general
enough to make sense to all the recipients.
For instance, if I want to hang out with any of 4 girls I just met, I would text something like this:
woman head! What kinda trouble are you getting your self into tonight? Lol
or
Hey there my little trouble maker. We are cruising down to {event} with a kick ass group of
people if you wanna join the fun! Can u keep up though is the question! what do ya say?
The point here is to make it seem personal so she feels compelled to respond.
Important: Be aware that some peoples phones list the other phone numbers the text went too.
Keep that in mind depending on what kind of message you are mass sending. Sometimes it is
smarter to send individual texts.

Holiday Texts
Holidays give you a perfect opportunity to engage or re-engage a lot of people at once through
mass texts. Women will be much more forgiving of the idea of mass texting on these
occasions. Even though she will be forgiving of it, you still want to make her feel like you sent it
TO HER, not everyone.
Example:
happy (what ever holiday) snuggle bear! did you have a good holiday!? Or did you just cause a
ruckus!?? lol

By adding a nickname and a question to the end of the text message you make it feel a lot more
personable. She is far more likely to respond to something like this than to a text message that
just states: happy thanksgiving!. She already got 50 of those.
If she questions you on whether or not it is a mass text just respond by saying:
You caught me! I sent it to 2,436 people lol
far today? I think I am at 37!

How many annoying mass texts did you get so

Passing a Womans Test

Using all the techniques in this system you will begin to build attraction really quickly with
women. They are not used to this happening. Because of this, they will often test you to see if
you really are the fun, cool, high value guy that you are portraying yourself to be. Based on how
you react, she will either become far more attracted to you or realize that it was just too good to
be true and move on and stop responding to you. This does not mean she is being bitchy or mean
or doesnt like you. In fact, it is the exact opposite.
IF SHE IS GIVING YOU A TEST, THAT MEANS SHE IS STARTING TO LIKE YOU!
Cherish the moments a woman suddenly gives you resistance or gives you hell about something
you said. She has to do this to filter out low value men to get to the quality men.
So how do you pass a womans test and solidify in her mind that you are the high quality guy she
wants to be attracted to? You must be NON-REACTIVE. Dont buy into the argument or sassy
comment. She is trying to get a rise out of you and when you dont stammer to try to explain
yourself, start apologizing, or get upset her attraction to you goes through the roof. It shows that
you truly are an awesome guy who doesnt need her acceptance or approval to feel good about
yourself. You do what you want to because you want to not because of how others will form
opinions of you. This is insanely attractive!
Do notI repeatDO NOT take it personal! Instead look at it as a fun game. It is cute. She is
telling you that she likes you and giving you an amazing opportunity to make her even more
attracted to you.
Here are some of the main ways to successfully handle a womans tests:
- Ignore it. Sometimes the best way to handle a womans test is to simply ignore it and keep
doing what you are doing having fun texting back and forth. This lets her know that you,
unlike most guys, are not going to play her little games. If done correctly, it will be forgotten and
the conversation will move forward as if it never happened. Only she will be way more attracted
to you.
- Say: u r cute This is a great way to show her that you are unaffected. You find it cute that
she is trying to test you because you now know it just means she likes you.

- Play along. Go over the top so she knows you are joking around and you dont take this
seriously at all.
Example:
Her: you are a player arent you?
You: How rude!We prefer to be called gigolos
- Find out the REAL issue. If it is a more serious test stemming from her insecurities, find out
what the real issue is and handle that instead. Dont get caught up in a fake argument.
Be willing to walk away. This is the most important concept you may ever learn about
interacting with women. Know what you want and dont want. What you are willing to put up
with and what you are not. If it just doesnt work out you have to be ok with that. It doesnt mean
you werent good enough or she wasnt good enough for you, it just means you two are not
compatible. No worries. There are a million fish in the sea and you are quite the catch.
Note: Being able to pass a womans test is so important I have included extra examples so you
can see how to do it in a variety of different situations.
Example #1
Friday, Dec 12 2008 at 1:58:34 PM
Heidi: What ever happened to picking my brain about all the places i have been? I feel like you
charmed me into bed and that makes a good story to add to whatever your working on. Maybe
im wrong but thats in your hands.
Friday, Dec 12 2008 at 2:01:31 PM
Race: What u decide to believe of course is always your decision my dear I have no interest in
convincing u one way or another only in enjoying my time with high quality people.
Friday, Dec 12 2008 at 2:05:16 PM
Heidi: Good way to put it. Guess im in my head. Thanks for considering me high quality same to
you.
Example #2
Me2/2/08 4:05 PM
Race: did u know it was Groundhogs day???
Chels cute sd ms? 252/2/08 4:13 PM
Chelsy: I didnt. Who is this?
Me2/2/08 4:20 PM
Race: Your future ex husband:-)
Chels cute sd ms? 252/2/08 4:22 PM
Chelsy: Well thats funny cuz I dont plan on getting divorced:)

Me2/2/08 4:24 PM
Race: I know we didnt plan on it but you just werent adventurous enough for me in the
bedroombut the passion was definitely there:-)
Chels cute sd ms? 252/2/08 4:25 PM
Chelsy: Thats hilarious cuz nobody else complains! Not even your brother:)
Me2/2/08 4:28 PM
Race: Well I guess he wouldnt have being mentally handicapped and allthat is so sweet of u:)
Chels cute sd ms? 252/2/08 4:36 PM
Chelsy: Your dad too? Cuz he seemed 2 like it
Me2/2/08 4:38 PM
Race: I am all about keeping it in the familythat is why it was so hard to break up with you.
Maybe we should give it another try;-)
Chels cute sd ms? 252/2/08 4:39 PM
Chelsy: Only if u say please
Example #3
4/24/08 8:50 PM
Emily:U do know girls right?
Me4/24/08 8:51 PM
Race: Sounds dangerousim scared of girls. R u gonna bring some of your friends or what?
Raquel moose head cute4/24/08 8:53 PM
Emily: Yeah of course! Its not a big deal if u dont want to just thought it could be fun:) and
come on.we love girls;)
Me4/24/08 8:55 PM
Race: Naughty naughty U r gonna get spanked when I get back
Raquel moose head cute4/24/08 8:57 PM
Emily: Im not really sure what I did to deserve that but sounds good;) and stop talking like a
douche bag lmao
Me4/24/08 8:58 PM
Race: Keep it up little missy and see what happens! Haha
Raquel moose head cute4/24/08 9:03 PM
Emily: Little missy? U cant do better than that? So dissapointing.:(

Me4/24/08 9:04 PM
Race: Hey I dont need your sassi need your lips on my
Raquel moose head cute4/24/08 9:05 PM
Emily: On ur lips right?? Uh ur a fagI hate chu
Me4/24/08 9:07 PM
Race: Awwe I miss u too you little cock slave
Raquel moose head cute4/24/08 9:10 PM
Emily: That was mean ino ur not a fag but u say fag things sometimeslike that:) yeah I dont
think I could miss u any more than I do:-p
Example #4
Lori thumb wrestle8/10/08 9:34 PM
Lori: Ok..ur smokin hot! So I have 2 ask- y waste ur time w/ me @ all? Shouldnt all ur time
b spent dealing w/ vapid, scantily-clad single 25 yr.-olds?
Me8/10/08 9:59 PM
Race: Who says its a waste of my time?
Lori thumb wrestle8/10/08 10:33 PM
Lori: Good answer! Perhaps I havent given u enough credit..;-)
8/10/08 10:50 PM
Lori: P.Shope u werent offended by my last text. Ur not that sensitiver u?
Me8/10/08 11:04 PM
Race: Hahaur cute
Lori thumb wrestle8/10/08 11:07 PM
Lori: Hahathanks. I luv being cute!
Example #5
Wednesday, Nov 19 2008 at 11:54:23 PM
Tara: I saw your website..sorry, not into that.
Wednesday, Nov 19 2008 at 11:57:49 PM
Race: Not into what?
Thursday, Nov 20 2008 at 12:02:40 AM
Tara: Being one of the girls from your website. I was interested in getting to know you because I
thought you sounded really fun, so I guess youre really good at what you do..

Thursday, Nov 20 2008 at 12:05:49 AM

Race: Really? So now you dont want to get to know me because I write articles on how help
guys develop their personality so they can meet awesome girls?
Thursday, Nov 20 2008 at 12:14:33 AM
Tara: It just sounds like Im one of several girls youre setting up a date with this week and
according to your pg one lucky girl will get to sleep w you
Thursday, Nov 20 2008 at 12:17:01 AM
Race: Haha now I get itI just want to help people have choices in their dating lives so they
dont settle but are happy..does that make sense?
Thursday, Nov 20 2008 at 12:20:37 AM
Tara: what about the part where you say you were unknown in the online seduction world till
now
Thursday, Nov 20 2008 at 12:27:13 AM
Race: Seriously that make me laugh.I wrote the about us page

read that!

Thursday, Nov 20 2008 at 12:39:40 AM

Race: But hey if that is reason enough not to hang out and have fun goofing around I totally
understand. Have a good night
Thursday, Nov 20 2008 at 12:48:02 AM
Tara: Well Im interested in meeting u. So why dont we just meet up and get to know each
other. Youre not free till tomorrow pm?
Example #6
Monday, Dec 22 2008 at 9:34:39 PM
Cindy: So since im stuck in the airport, ive been pondering. Truthfullyhow many girls have
you acted the same as you did with me lately? Honesty is key here lol
Monday, Dec 22 2008 at 9:39:45 PM
Race: Zero
Monday, Dec 22 2008 at 9:41:28 PM
Cindy: Really? Hmpinky promise? Sorry my curiosity is getting the best of memixed with a
hint of cautiousness
Monday, Dec 22 2008 at 9:55:30 PM
Race: Well each person is unique
Monday, Dec 22 2008 at 9:57:23 PM
Cindy:Yea, but you know what i mean. Maybe

Monday, Dec 22 2008 at 10:04:51 PM

Cindy: So im guessing it was definitely not a new experience for you then
Monday, Dec 22 2008 at 10:15:53 PM
Race: ? what is the real issue here
Monday, Dec 22 2008 at 10:17:31 PM
Cindy: Nothing. Im just wondering if it was just another weekend in a day in the life of you
Monday, Dec 22 2008 at 11:06:34 PM
Cindy: Hmguess thats a possibilitysucks
Monday, Dec 22 2008 at 11:48:23 PM
Race: I dont understand..do u feel like I tricked or deceived you in any way? Did you not enjoy
our time together?
Monday, Dec 22 2008 at 11:51:12 PM
Cindy: No not at all. And hanging out with you was amazing. I think im just stuck in an airport
and just thinking youre too good to be true
Tuesday, Dec 23 2008 at 12:13:41 AM
Cindy: Im boarding finally! im sad im leaving new yorkbut im happy to be getting out
of the airport
Tuesday, Dec 23 2008 at 12:14:22 AM
Race: Have a safe flight my dear
Tuesday, Dec 23 2008 at 12:15:20 AM
Cindy: Thanks. see you soon hopefully.
Tuesday, Dec 23 2008 at 12:15:49 AM
Race: Ill cross my fingers
Tuesday, Dec 23 2008 at 12:16:18 AM
Cindy:You really did make my trip memorable, so dont think you didnt
Tuesday, Dec 23 2008 at 12:16:52 AM
Race: I wouldnt dream of it

Section Recap

Just because she doesnt respond immediately to your text messages or answer every call
doesnt mean you should just text or call her again. Persistent text messages when there is little
or no response communicates neediness and a scarcity mentality.

Unless you are in the middle of emotionally connecting with a girl, you should be CONSTANTLY
giving off a lighthearted persona about your self.
If you are constantly available to respond immediately or are non stop continually texting her
she will wonder why you dont have anything else in your life keeping you busy. On the other
hand, dont take this to the extreme and wait hours to respond to each and every text. Mix it up.
Non-neediness is one of the most important attributes to cultivate. Adopt an abundance
mentality.
Dont ask too many direct questions. A good way to ask a question without using a question
mark is to replace the question mark with a ellipsis ()
Nothing brings a womans guard down like humor. When she is laughing she is relaxed,
comfortable and associating you with a good time. When this occurs, she is no longer judging or
analyzing you. It also lets her know that you will be fun to be around when you hang out again.
IF SHE IS GIVING YOU A TEST, THAT MEANS SHE IS STARTING TO LIKE YOU! Cherish the moments
a woman suddenly gives you resistance or gives you hell about something you said. She has to
do this to filter out low value men to get to the quality men.

Conclusion
As you can see you have a lot of fundamental tools and mindsets here to ensure that you continue
to create, build and maintain attraction once you get a girls phone #. Keep all these principles in
mind and begin practicing them immediately because the sooner they become habit the better.
They will keep you from making the most common mistakes most guys make when texting a
girl. And as always, remember that each woman you interact with is unique so treat her as such.
Be willing to adapt and try new things. These are not rules set in stone but guidelines.
However, before you can begin to master these skills you must first have a womans phone
number to text. For that check it out at Getting Her Number.