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Listening is the absorption of the meanings of words and sentences by the brain.
Listening leads to the understanding of facts and ideas. But listening
takes attention, or sticking to the task at hand in spite of distractions. It
requires concentration, which is the focusing of your thoughts upon one
particular problem. A person who incorporates listening with
concentration is actively listening. Active listening is a method of
responding to another that encourages communication.
Types of Listening
Listening Skill: An Important Skill to Understand Others and to Respond
In turn, there are five levels of listening within the sphere of one's own software:
1. Ignoring/showing indifference
2. Pretend listening
3. Selective listening
4. Patronizing listening
5. Attentive listening
6. Active listening
and one level of listening within the sphere of other's software:
1. Empathic listening
Ignoring/Showing Indifference
• This is not listening at all. This happens when one person ignores the
other person or shows indifference to what the other person is saying.
• This is pretty insulting to the other person.
Pretend Listening
• This happens when one person is making other person believe that he is
listening though in reality, he is not listening.
• There may be several reasons to do so and the person may choose one
or more reasons to ignore or be indifferent.
• The reason may also be that the person lacks the listening skills.
Selective Listening
• This happens when one listens to only selective portion of what the other
person is saying.
• There may be several reasons to do so and the person may choose one
or more reasons to use selective listening.
• The reason may also be that the person lacks in the listening skills.
Patronizing Listening
• This happens when the listener takes a patronizing position with reference
to the other person.
• The person listens with a superior attitude; the superiority is drawn from
power position, age, hierarchy, money etc.
• The person listens with an explicit or implicit posture to distribute favor or
punishment to the other person.
Attentive Listening
• This happens when the person is really focusing on what the other person
is saying and paying attention and understanding/trying to understand
what the other person is saying.
• This is definitely a better form of listening but most of the times, the
understanding of what the other person is saying will be influenced by the
listener's own software (overall mental frame). His understanding may be
erroneous.
• Here also, listening skill is not of the highest proficiency level.
Active Listening
• This happens when the listener tries to understand what the other person
is saying by being interactive with him by giving him the feedback of his
understanding.
• The feedback pertains more at the verbal level exchange of
communication between the two.
• This is done through repeating or paraphrasing of understanding by the
listener and transmitting that feedback to the other person for
confirmation.
Empathic Listening
2. Maintain eye contact, to the degree that you all remain comfortable.
3. Minimize external distractions. Turn off the TV. Put down your book or
magazine, and ask the speaker and other listeners to do the same.
5. Focus solely on what the speaker is saying. Try not to think about what you
are going to say next. The conversation will follow a logical flow after the speaker
makes her point.
6. Minimize internal distractions. If your own thoughts keep horning in, simply let
them go and continuously re-focus your attention on the speaker, much as you
would during meditation.
7. Keep an open mind. Wait until the speaker is finished before deciding that you
disagree. Try not to make assumptions about what the speaker is thinking.
8. Avoid letting the speaker know how you handled a similar situation. Unless
they specifically ask for advice, assume they just need to talk it out.
9. Even if the speaker is launching a complaint against you, wait until they finish
to defend yourself. The speaker will feel as though their point had been made.
They won’t feel the need to repeat it, and you’ll know the whole argument before
you respond. Research shows that, on average, we can hear four times faster
than we can talk, so we have the ability to sort ideas as they come in…and be
ready for more.
10. Engage yourself. Ask questions for clarification, but, once again, wait until the
speaker has finished. That way, you won’t interrupt their train of thought. After
you ask questions, paraphrase their point to make sure you didn’t
misunderstand. Start with: “So you’re saying…”