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    Superconference Foundations and Advanced Game! wow RealSocialDynamics.com “fen soca omacs Why Do You Need This Stuff? 1» The world is very populated. Clearly people do find ‘each other without consciously knowing alt about how it happens. ‘= Waling around for “fale” or “uck" fo meet the right i can take a very long time, and leaves you without ‘any control over wno you wind up with 1 To.get the spect girtriend you want, you have to eam to be good with women in general Qicnisnes Ho Why Do You Need This Stuff? (continued), 1 If you were good with women in general, you would know how to get the specific gir you want. ‘= To Koop the girlfriend you want you cannot be needy, 1» Knowing it could be a long time before you meet another gil while she can go out and ‘meet another guy at any time guy often ‘causes jealousy, insecurity, and neediness. Saad Why Do You Need This Stuff? (continued) = The confidence and social skills you build learning tobe good wih women Wal help you to maintain a better relationship and make you a better role model for your kids, = You may not even know what kind of woman you really want until you've had some experience dating, 1» The confidence and social skils you build leaming to be good with women will help you in all areas of your life. a Why Do You Need This Stuff? (continued) 1 Being a failure with women is being a failure at ‘one of your core purposes and can leave a dark cloud hanging overall of your other accomplishments. s Being good with women is fun. ‘= Being bad with women sucks. ‘= Become good with women. Who Was | Then? ‘= had my first giriend at 19. ‘= | met her at the end of high school and moved her to college with me, ‘= While other kids were hanging out and making friends, | was isolated in a hole with my girlfriend. ‘= In second year she dumped me for the guy who worked at the Pita Pit. ©, nico ——<<<—<—“ | Who Was | Then? (continued) = For some reason, this totally deflated me and nearly caused me to flunk my second year of college. = This made my goal of graduate school a lot more difficult, making me more depressed, and'so on and so forth. Dcstovilas —— Who Was | Then? (continued) =| sat around depressed for around six months. It probably took another year after that for it to fully clear up. = Eventually | realized that | was way too affected by it, and that it was a sign of a larger shortcoming = Even if! stil had my girlfriend, something was clearly out of alignment in my life. a fen soca opis —— Who Was | Then? (continued) '= Getting my girfriend back would probably have ’been the worst thing for me, because it would have just put a band-aid over a larger problem. «= | set out to get everything | thought | wanted: ‘money, house, car, clothes, furniture, entertainment unit, gym, and any other superficial thing you could think of ‘= Secretly, | built ll ofthis up hoping that a ‘woman would notice it. a =< = «| Who Was | Then? (continued) w It didn't work ‘= Even when the odd gir! would like me, I'd blow it by bringing up that | had these things. = They could sense the place of neediness that | was coming from Di acutiums _ <<< |. | What Did | Do About It? 1» made a frm decision that | was going to get this area cof my life handled. ‘= The fim commitment was crucial, ‘= Without the frm commitment 6 have quit ‘= | didn't fully understand the full extent that you could become “good” with women (| never imagined | could do what | do now), but figured that if! approached enough ‘women that 'd get abit more confidence and eventually have some success. ee a What Did | Do About It? (continued) 1= [read every book | could find, and found them unsatisfying 1 Fora year, | approached five women and day and chatted with them. 1 This built a basic set of social skills. «After around a year | had my first success, although Id often lose the giris | met down the line by reverting back to old needy behavior patterns, a —__=_ | What Did | Do About It? (continued) ‘= ttwas rough at he tine, but na way this was good because it forced me keep earning 1 For four years (2002-2008) | wovelod tho war, worked on my his, mel anyone wth a shved of si, studied and tosted ‘nyting hat was rerotey useful, wrote thousands of ‘icles, and ran workshops every woekend 1 Many poopie speccite why I went so hard at his 1 The answoris alot semper than you'd expect: treaty jst wanted to ofr tie best program coud, and twas alt ot fun bing it a Who Am | Now? 1 [identity myself 3s 3 quy who is always evolving, ‘stving to be my absolute best, and ining life tothe fullest 1 Lam now what is called a “natura” with women, which ‘means that | require no “openers” of “tines” and | am Usually approached by women a few times a day. ‘= Lam diferent rom a natural, in that | have a conscious. understanding of the structure behind what | do, a ——__—_— Who Am | Now? (continued) = [have now run more live in-field dating programs than anyone in the world = I can look at any guy, and see what he's doing right or wrong within seconds. 1= | pride myself not on my own results, which are ‘a8 good as anyone's, but on my abilty to inspire transformation in others. —___—_=_—sté _—=—=<—~S*S*S~*' Vibing (continued) ‘= Make her want to find out more about you ® Vibing versus giving advice or having a set purpose = Essence of nerds '= Building energy in the interaction = Knowing when to pipe in and understanding hierarchies ——===<__-+~—-~—S*+W4 Vibing (continued) 1 You're from (whatever non-classy part of town), arent you? ‘= You and | would not et along. You know why? We're to similar. You wouldn't take mi shit, and | wouldnt take your shit 1» Hoy, shows over here, You have ADD dont you? You're lke a lite kitten ina prairie. Chase the buttert, Chase it! Chase it! No wait chase the eat! No wat Abid! CHASE IT a “Fen soca opiecs _ LL <_—<< |. | Qualification ‘= Having a standard of what you'll respond to so she wants to impress = Curiosity frame = Commonalities 1» Understanding and demonstrating authority in her world '= Teaching her things that make her feel closer to you a, ———— Qualification (continued) = Qualification and how it makes you showing interest OK = Psychology behind qualification '= Qualifying and then backpedling = Using the emotionally unexplained Qualification (continued) = Showing her unique value to you '= Giving your eriteria and having her try to reach it = Misdirection = A good vibe is truly the best and most natural qualifier ——————— SF Phone Number = ‘Let's hang out later. Get out your phone. Here's my number. Call me so | have your number.” = “You know what? You're drunk aren't you? | liked you and would have called you, but you're too drunk and youll forget about me. Are you drunk right now? ‘If call you, will you remember me?" G sccitnnvins a= Phone Number (continued) = "You are either one of the coolest people I've met inthe longest time.... Or like just a total weirdo, ''m curious about you now.” ‘= “For the same reason that we're having a great time talking right now, is why we both have to go. ‘We both have friends that are waiting for us, because we're social people, But now we have togo. Get out your phone. Call this number so 1 hhave your number.” a fon soon enc _ HH = | Venue Changing = Rule: OVERHYPE WHEREVER YOU'RE GOING = Meet your friends = Meet new people in the club = Take her to dance a Venue Changing (continued) = Take her to get a drink (water is good) = See different parts of the club '= Checking out a different venue ® Goto after party —__——__—=—=—SSSSCSY| Venue Changing (continued) = Goto eat # Go back to your house (give funvinteresting reason) * Go back to your room (give fun/nteresting!nonchalant reason) # Get on your bed (give funfnteresting/nonchalant/commanding reason) cures $< Sex ‘= Slow escalation = Teasing by moving forward and pulling away = Dominance = Playing hard to get Scala << | Sex (continued) = Wash rinse repeat = Not arguing with token resistance ‘= Stopping and joking around to make it not a big deal '= Going for it when it's right en 00m oMcs —_———__ | Phone ‘= When you calla gi you might fel apprehensive because you dont want to lose the validation of her king you previously, ‘= Realize that regardless of her reaction, it doesn't do- validate thal you did a great approach '= Also realize that she may have liked you in the ‘moment but could have a milion reasons not to see you again (boyfriend, too inconvenient, et...) a Phone (continued) 1» The other reason you might feel apprehension is because you can't read her body language or ‘see what she's thinking like you can face-to- face. = That goes away with practice. = You never know which gifs will call back. Phone (continued) '= Use the numbers of girls who don't ike you to work on your conversation skils. = Take time out every once in a while to call all your numbers «= It's not a bad idea to keep your computer near by and have a brief ledger of each girl and what you talked about. .--LL_

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