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by Mateo Navarrete
Monday, 16 February 2015
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However, before diving further into the nuances of conversation, lets explore
the why behind the what and the how of communication in regards to
attraction so we can better understand what makes our behavior effective or
ineffective.
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(beer goggles, limited opportunity, etc.) can cause you to rationalize that
something about them makes you attracted enough.
This isnt to create a discussion on some people being better than others, and as
future posts expand upon our knowledge of the social value matrix, we will soon
learn it is quite the opposite: everyone is equal.
However, when it comes to attraction, our minds are quite irrational, operating
primarily on an emotional level and when it comes to emotions, there are
people who can naturally make us feel more intense pleasure than what we would
normally experience without their influence in our life.
In simper terms, this means that we value, or are naturally attracted to, those
people who are better at causing us to experience these powerful feelings (of
attraction)!
The great thing about this is that every human beings brain is influenced by
these intense and powerful feelings in the form of electro-chemical neural
synapses to get all scientific-y about the whole thing, although my phrasing is
not meant to be taken literally ;-)
In turn, these brain synapses, or feelings, we experience, are what motivates our
behavior and in turn, our behavior is perceived by the people we encounter in
our external world.
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And thats where the fundamentals of communication come in. We have learned
some concrete examples of what behavior to do, as well as what not to do, in
order to not trigger a womans undesired habits. But real quick, lets focus on
the why behind it all.
Anytime you communicate to someone that they are out of your league, you
are validating their position in the social value matrix as above you. You have
learned some specific examples of what this looks like (rushing your speech,
giving her your full attention before she earns it, not speaking loud enough,
etc.).
When a woman interprets your communication (read: perceives you) as
behaving ineffectively this way, the bad electro-chemical neural synapses fire in
her brain, triggering her natural instinct to assume that, because you treat her
this way, her position in the social value matrix must be higher in relation to your
position, cementing yourself as an unsuitable target for her affection and
attraction.
This validation releases any (sexual) tension she may feel around you, hindering
the escalation of that interaction. This is the scientific-y way of saying,
welcome to the friend zone if she even sticks around!
So the next question is, what fundamental beliefs will influence our behavior so
we can learn how to effectively communicate our attraction the right way, at the
right time?
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Lets explore 3 important concepts that will assist us in understanding how our
communication is perceived by others.
When it comes to attraction:
1. You Dont Have to Impress Anyone
2. You Have Nothing to Prove to Anyone
3. You Never Have to Explain Yourself to Anyone
Anytime you attempt to impress someone, or explain or prove yourself to
someone, you are communicating that you value that persons acceptance and
approval above your own; thereby placing them above you in the social value
matrix.
This isnt to say that you shouldnt look up to anyone, or admire people for
qualities you value (for example, perhaps you respect and admire your parents
for their work ethic). However, the need for external validation (read: to be
approved, or accepted), is arguably the #1 thing that hinders mens success with
women.
Become aware of, and then handle, your desire for external validation, especially
in the form of a womans acceptance of you. In other words, care less about
getting a woman to like you, and more about screening to see if she lives up to your
standards!
To make the debilitating effects of the need for social acceptance clearer, think
about a person you know, perhaps at work or at school, who always agrees with
the crowd, and doesnt speak up for himself. Can you see how this behavior of
seeking social acceptance actually paints him as weak and insecure; too afraid
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likes a guy: shes attempting to make just as good an impression on him as he has
on her!
In other words, she wants to attract him by communicating to him how
desirable she is, while not communicating ineffective qualities such as being
needy, clingy, or desperate.
Walking that path effectively is how one progresses an interaction from meet
to mate.
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... and in future posts we will explore even more in-depth the significance of this
component of attraction.
For now, as a general rule of thumb, look at an interaction as a series of back
and forth communications:
When you do something, she does something. When you say something, she
says something.
So if you want her to do something, you must do or say something... and then
allow her the chance to respond!
The main point to takeaway here is that an interaction is not a one-way street
the channels of communication must flow both ways.
You can not be the only one putting in effort to escalate an interaction. Allow
the interaction a chance to flourish by giving a woman the opportunity to
match your effort.
In other words, dont be afraid to request, or screen for, her effort to engage you in
the interaction!
So far, we have learned to not show her too much attraction by not giving her
our full attention, (physically by having her earn our touch, and logistically by
not giving her our full body language).
Now we are learning when it is necessary to show her more interest: after she
gives effort to invest in the interaction. In other words, when we request her to do,
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Instead, do this:
You: What were you guys up to today?
Although later you will learn how and when to make exceptions, for now, do not
continually compliment her (communicate strong interest towards her) by
acknowledging her looks, or even her femininity, early in the interaction.
In other words, dont call her chica, or tell her how hot she is, or how good she
looks in her dress. Instead, after screening her, as a reward for the effort she
has given to bond with you, comment on how you dig her sense of style, or how
she has a sexy and confident energy about her, and how shes unlike other girls.
An example of rewarding a womans compliance after screening her:
You: Hold on, dont tell me you live too far away
Her: No, I live super close!
(playfully as you gently squeeze her shoulder)
You: Cool, cuz I was totally about to break up with you.
By the way, although we will explore it more in depth later, notice how you can
combine hot actions with cold words and, vice versa, cold actions with hot
words.
hot actions: (playfully as you gently squeeze her shoulder)
cold words: Cool, cuz I was totally about to break up with you.
Practice showing interest in a woman through one of the senses (say, visually,
physically, logistically, or verbally), while showing disinterest through a
different sense or even through the same sense if you want (pushing while
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also pulling)!
So we understand that we are not trying to impress her, which could be
perceived as ineffective behavior, and trigger her undesired habits. However,
when she tries to impress us, then it becomes necessary to screen her, and then
reward her efforts to bond with us, by then effectively communicating our
interest in order to trigger her desired habits.
So what are some other ways to not come off as attempting to explain, or prove
ourselves, in order not trigger a womans undesired auto-pilot responses?
As a rule of thumb, early in the interaction, dont repeat yourself!
If she says, What? simply pause for a moment, as many times this is simply an
auto-pilot response to prompt you to give more effort to bond with her.
In other words, when a woman does this, she is challenging you, or baiting you,
into trying too hard to bond with her. As soon as you fail to pass her test, she
will rationalize that you werent a suitable target for her emotions anyway.
Although bar time can seem like forever, stick in there, and have her repeat
herself if she really cant hear you. Then you have a choice to make: you can
either change the subject to something else entirely, or at least rephrase what
you said to her if you truly believe she couldnt hear you
On a side note, take a woman asking you to repeat yourself as a barometer of
the loudness of your voice.
Make it a game by seeing if you can get less and less women asking you to
repeat yourself whenever you go out. Remember, if they value (read: are
attracted to) you, they will hang on your every word just make sure you have
your fundamentals internalized, and are speaking loudly and clearly to begin
with!
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Finally, one last note about answering questions too early in a conversation: if a
woman makes a request for your effort, or asks a question, use her momentum
of giving effort to get her to invest even more effort in the conversation. Kind of
like a judo move, using her momentum to invest in the interaction to your
advantage by getting her to give even more effort to bond with you!
For example:
Dont do this:
Her: Where are you from?
You: California.
Instead, do this:
Her: Where are you from?
You: Originally or currently?
Her: Originally
We will expand upon this in future posts, but understand that if you did this
effectively at the right time throughout your conversation, not only would your
interactions last longer, but it also allows her more time to become attracted
and comfortable with you.
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While we want to reward a womans desired behavior of bonding with us, at the
same time, we dont want to try too hard to get her to bond with us, because
then our behaviors can easily fall into the trying too hard to impress or prove
ourselves category of ineffective communication.
In other words, we dont want to seem like we are trying too hard to build a
connection with a woman because that will only cement her belief that we
must perceive her as out of our league, which in turn triggers her undesired
habits that will hinder the escalation of the interaction.
For example, when it comes to building a connection, if you run into a woman
who (acts likes she) doesnt recognize you, dont attempt to get her to
remember you. Instead, just treat her like she was some new girl you just met.
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Allow her to make the connection that you both know each other, if she even
does at all.
On those same lines, dont be the first to shake hands wait until she offers her
hand, otherwise, just skip it. Also, when having an interaction, dont always be
the one who has to re-initiate conversation allow them a chance to give
unprompted effort.
Of course, dont brag, as this behavior is at the height of attempting to impress
people, or prove yourself.
On the other extreme, someone who only talks about their insecurities can be
just as repelling as a braggart when it comes to having a good time. Humility, as
well as self-acceptance, go a long way here, and we can communicate these
qualities in different ways, such as not getting jealous or possessive around
girls.
Also, as we experienced earlier, we can make sure that we dont take things
personally by viewing anything that happens as no big deal. This includes
being open-minded about risqu things she may say or do while in an
interaction with you.
At the same time, for now, take care to stay away from gross subject matter and
to navigate away from negative, depressing topics. If you can relate to her on
those subjects, then do so, but continue to move the conversation forward by
acknowledging her feelings and exploring more pleasing subjects.
For example, you could say something like:
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whatever comes your way. Thats a really sexy quality in a woman and
Im proud of you. I wish more girls were like that.
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MAN,I LOVE THIS ARTICLE.
Posted by Downdestik on Tuesday, 17 February 2015
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FANTASTIC STUFF MATEO!
Posted by Franz on Tuesday, 17 February 2015
I've been reading articles on GirlsChase for over a year now, I have found
that Chase's selection of writers is simply stunning. I've never found
myself bored of the new articles coming out from different writers, I like
how more men can contribute to the seducing industry (industryhahaha).
Mateo- your articles are so bloody great, keep up the in depth, detailed
explanation of seduction.
-Franz
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MORE GOOD TIPS FROM MATEO
Posted by Robertinnyc on Friday, 20 February 2015
Hey Mateo - I have really enjoyed your serious of articles, the tips are all
very practical.
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I was wondering if you can explain a little bit on how to seque into the
three things discussed in this article (screening, etc.) from the earlier
attractive conversation you mentioned in your last article (e.g
.approaching the girl in the grocery store and commenting on the Cheese
Doritos and how she reminds you of a girl friend). How do you transition
from there into screening , rewarding effort and connection building? And
how long do you usually stay in that initial early attractive conversation
stage before transitioning?
Some sample dialogue would be really helpful!
Thanks again for this great series!
Rob
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MATEO, HOW WOULD YOU SUGGEST
Posted by Anonymous on Monday, 23 February 2015
Mateo,
how would you suggest i can do to build on the fundamental beliefs you
mentioned when i dont feel that way about myself ?
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