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First- What you are looking for- in general? Are you looking for a long term relationship? A casual play
partner? What EXACTLY are you seeking? What you are seeking in general will dictate the questions that
you should ask yourself. If you are looking for casual play- then it doesn't really matter if you share the same
interests outside of BDSM. But if you are looking for a relationship then it DOES matter- quite a bit.
Now who are YOU?
What do you like within the realm of BDSM?
What are your MAIN interests in BDSM?
What turns you on?
What turns you off?
Do you have anything that you are NOT into?
For ideas here you can check out one of the many checklists that are out there. One is here:
What are your interests outside of the realm of BDSM?
What do you have to offer a partner?
A hint about this question: DON'T offer something vague like 'service' or 'my pain for your pleasure' unless
you are seeking a casual situation. Even then it would improve your chances if you offer something other
than that. The reason is because that is so common. You want to stand out. Be creative. Of all the letters I get
from submissive guys wanting a session the ones I am most interested have been the ones that I find creative
and interesting.
Next What are you looking for specifically?
What do you want in a partner within the realm of BDSM?
What do you want in a partner outside of BDSM?
Now- what of that is what you NEED and what of that is what you would like but would be willing to
compromise? There is always compromise in a relationship.
Things to keep in mind.
This is reality. There are no fantasy Dommes or subs out there. We are all real people. In a successful
relationship there is always a balance of give and take. It is no different in the BDSM world. It may look like
the Domme is getting what they want at the expense of the submissive's needs and desires- but this is not so.
A submissive would not stay if they were not getting their own needs met and it is the responsibility of the
Domme to meet his or her submissive's needs to the best of their ability.
Most dominant ladies that I know would LIKE to be romanced- just like vanilla ladies. If you have the
attitude that you need this and you need that- without any apparent willingness to get to know the lady and
meet some of her needs as well, then you probably won't find a partner.
Organizing your personal
Once you have answered any of the relevant questions- organizing your personal is easy. Start with your
statement on what you are seeking in general. Then the section on who you are, what you like and are like.
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2. What his main interests are within BDSM: foot worship and service
3. What he is willing to compromise: not a masochist- but willing to take some pain
4. What he is interested in outside of BDSM (since he is looking for a long term relationship): hiking,
camping, reading, working out, and hunting
5. A short description of what he looks like.
6. What he is looking for in a lady.
Things that I want to know when I get a letter:
1. First of one of the things that I like to know and is almost NEVER mentioned is this: Where did you
contact me from? Was it my web site, my profile, did you see an ad? I want to know how guys hear of
me. I get a lot of compliments on my stories and these letter I know come from my site. Some are
vague and dont say where they contact me from. I get as many contacts from my AOL profile.
2. Age. I want to know a guys age. Most say, but some dont
3. I prefer if guys are honest about being married. I am SO tired of getting mail from guys that dont say
right up front that they are married. I dont play with married guys. I personally feel that is why there
are ProDommes. I am not a Pro. You wont trick me into playing with you by NOT telling me you are
married. I am psychic - so dont even try.
Where to post your ad:
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Atheris7@aol.com
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