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made you think of that? or Can you tell me what you were thinking about? Once you
know the source of the question, it is easier to answer effectively.
5. There may be questions you cannot answer, which can make anyone feel
inadequate. But all of us are typically more comforted by straight talk than by false
assurances. Rather than to invent a response, it can be much more helpful to say, I dont
know, and to ask, What have you heard? or, Did you have an idea about that? Dont
worry if, in responding, you become emotional a time or two. It is alright for students to
know that adults are moved by tragic losses.
6. If students raise specific questions about suicide it is good to acknowledge the loss
of a life without celebrating the manner of the death. Mourning, sharing memories, recalling
a persons strengths and gifts are all appropriate; validating the choice to commit suicide is
something else. Without resorting to any blame, you can express your wish that the student
could have found other ways to cope with distress and problems.
7. Above all, coping with a tragic death is not primarily a matter of technique, not
something best handled by a particular set of tactics that deviate sharply from ones familiar
patterns of communication. The regular routines of school and of family life, for example,
are, all by themselves, a source of comforting continuity and assurance. Adults will rarely go
wrong by relying on what is most basic between them and studentscaring and connection.
At these times, your presenceyour simply being with students, their knowing that you are
availablecan be very reassuring.
Dr. Evans and Dr. Kline are both psychologists and longtime consultants to schools. Dr.
Evans is the Executive Director and Dr. Kline the Clinical Director Human Relations Service,
in Wellesley.