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2knowmyself is, without doubt, the only website that has complete body language
information on the internet. If you dare challenge this statement then read through the
following articles and you will discover it yourself.
Choose from the links below the state of feeling you'd like to know more about and You
will be directed to a page that explains the state, shows you the pictures of the body
language gestures associated with the sate along with additional information.
After learning how to read and interpret body language you will understand the
statement: "Body Language; where you'll see the same thing in a way you've never seen
before"
That means that a total of 93 percent of the impression people form of you is determined
by your body language (which includes both Body gestures and voice tone) while only 7
percent is based on the words you say.
In other words this means that if you learned how to read body language you will be
able to interpret people's emotions with a 93% accuracy.
a stranger who wears a horrible looking shirt? will you tell him about your opinion? of
course not.
Most people suppress their emotions and opinions because of the rules their society
forces upon them and that's why their real opinion is reflected in their body language.
Based on these facts we can conclude that learning how to read body language will
give you a deeper understanding of people and will help you interpret many of the
unconscious signals they send.
Always use your mind to determine whether the defensive position was taken
because the person was offended or because of any other reason. For example a
person could take that position if he was feeling uncomfortable or cold.
When describing something to someone or when giving instructions watch out for these
postures; if you see them, then slow down your pace or elaborate more.
Another popular situation where the body language of confusion gesture happens
frequently is at exams. Just take a quick look at some people taking an exam and you will
certainly find one of them doing this gesture as a result of feeling confused.
In body language, when people become frustrated they take the gesture shown in the
picture below which is the body language state of frustration. Scratching the back of
your head or rubbing your neck from behind, as in the picture below, is a clear sign of
frustration according to body language.
oriented in such a way that his shoulders will be parallel to the shoulders of
the other person. This means that he will face him with his whole bod. People
who talk to you without being oriented properly may be wanting to leave either
because they are not interested to talk to you or either because they are late.
Eye contact and interest: Eye contact shows interest and respect. When i use the
term eye contact i am actually referring to positive eye contact which is finding
that the other person is maintaining eye contact for 70 or 80% of the time.
Finger-nail biting: In body language biting finger nails shows that the person is
anxious or worried
Fidgeting: frequent change of position while you're sitting or being unable to
settle down
Tapping your heels: Tapping your heel on the floor repeatedly in a nervous
manner.
Tapping your fingers: Tapping your fingers and/or hand on your lap.
Sweating
Jiggling your pocket's contents
Whistling
relationships with others. In my book, How to make someone fall in love with you, I gave
a description of how a slight change such as keeping your back straight, can increase the
chances of making people fall in love with you. The more confident you appear, the more
attractive you will become; nothing can make you appear to be more confident than a
straight back.
On the other hand if you were not aware of the body language signs of anxiety you might
mistakenly do them and leave a bad impression. Many people ask me how to leave a
good impression and the best answer to that question is to use proper body language since
body language can allow you to leave a great impression even if you didn't talk!!
boredom Vs attractiveness
While a person might get bored while talking to you another one might become attracted
to you upon changing few things in your body language. Very slight changes to your
body language can have a big effect on your relationships with people.
When it comes to detecting a liar via body language your task may be a little bit difficult
than when trying to detect other states. Basically, there are two methods to detect liars;
the first one is not that accurate but is rather simple.
The second one needs a little bit of extra effort but is much more accurate. The first is
based on body language while the second is based on NLP's Eye Accessing Cues. By
combining both methods, you'll be able to spot liars easily. Read further to know more
about both.
As you've just seen, very slight changes to your body language can have a big effect on
your relationships with people. In my book, How to make someone fall in love with you,
I elaborated on how slight changes, such as keeping your back straight, can increase the
chances of having people fall in love with you. The more confident you appear, the more
attractive you will become, and nothing can make you appear confident more than a
straight back.
Pupil size: When someone sees something or someone that he likes his pupil size
gets bigger!! I know that this is a bit hard to notice but by training you will be
able to detect these slight changes in the pupil size and so know if someone likes
seeing you.
Playing with her hair : This sign is for girls only. When a girl wants to flirt with
someone or when she finds him particularly interesting she may start to play with
her hair twist it or flicker it. This could happen once or several times during the
conversation; the more the sign happens the clearer the message!!
Pointing towards you with his toes or feet: If someone was interested in you
and if he wasn't sitting right next to you then he will point directly towards using
his feet or toes. A clearer flirting sign is when he sits with his body totally facing
you.
Seeing his/her teeth through the smile: A smile should be wide enough to reveal
at least the front teeth otherwise it may be a fake smile or a smile that has nothing
to do with you.
Keeping you in his/her line of sight: The person who is flirting with you will
try to keep you in his line of sight As a result you may find him taking a look at
you every now and then or you may find him continuously orienting himself to be
facing you even if he is standing with someone else.
Clothing: The person will generally pick his favorite clothes and wear them if
he believed that he will possibly see you. You could ask him about his favorite
colors and observe whether he wears them a lot when you're around or not.
The first thing you can do is proper eye contact. Proper Eye contact shows
respect,interest and that you are not shy. Proper eye contact means that the eye
contact should be around 70% to 80% of the time.
Another thing that happens in the first few seconds is the handshake, a firm
handshake combined with proper eye contact leaves the impression that you are
a confident person. people who don't shake hands in a firm way will most likely
leave the impression that they are not confident. (see the handshake psychology
for more information).
If you did the previous two points you will appear to be confident but in the same
time you may appear to be a little cold and thats why you need to put a smile on
your face. This smile will not only make the other person think that you have got
a sense of humor but it will also make him feel more comfortable in dealing with
you
Sit with your back straight and your shoulders stretched. A straight back leaves
the impression that you are confident happy or interested in what you are listening
to.(see watch your back for more information on this topic) Never ever cross your
legs or fold your arms when sitting because this leaves the impression that you
are not that comfortable or even afraid. Don't place an object like a bag or a file
between you and the interviewer because this leaves the same impression that
folding your arms leaves
if you felt like scratching your nose do not do it because this shows that you
have negative thoughts in your mind. After all your emotions are private and you
shouldn't let anyone know what's going on in your mind unless you want to
If you can wear blue clothes then do it, in the psychology of colors blue gives
the impression of loyalty and honesty, wearing blue will leave an unconscious
impression in the mind of other people that you are loyal and honest.
Why do you think you experience fear while watching a horror movie despite the fact
that you're perfectly safe at home? That's simply because your subconscious mind
follows some primitive rules in its operation and so it may incorrectly interpret an
external stimulus as a threat even if there was no real danger.
Now let's go back to the handshake, When you firmly hold the other persons hand
during the handshake his subconscious mind will think that you are stronger and more
confident than him!!
So by making sure that your handshake is firm, without exerting extra unneeded pressure,
you will be leaving the impression that you are a confident person.
Follow My Command
Have you ever noticed how some people position their palms horizontally instead of
vertically while shaking hands with their friends?
We have two cases here:
1) The first is when the palm is parallel and facing the floor
2) The second is when the palm is facing the sky.
The first gesture reflects the desire to dominate while the other one represents a state of
submission. The person who positions his palm so that it faces the ground while shaking
hands will usually be doing so because of his unconscious desire to dominate the other
person. On the other hands positioning the palm so that it faces the sky usually reflects
the state of being submissive to the other person.
As you know, in body language, a change in the body posture always reflects a change in
the person's emotions. In this case, where the person is resting his hands on their waist,
the emotion can be described using the following phrase:
You have asked for more than what I can handle. I dont think I will be able to do what
you want and I'm angry at you or at the person responsible for this mess.
It could also mean
1-You have asked for too much.
2-I am getting aggravated and I may attack at any moment!
3-This situation is beyond my reach or abilities.
the biceps exercise, and then suddenly someone shows up and does that same
exercise with 100 Lb. In this case you may find yourself putting your hands on
your waist.
someone taking the body languageconfidence posture then this does not mean
that he is a confident person but it only means that he is feeling confident at the
moment. However, you can still know someone's personality by watching for the
repetition of the same postures over and over. If that person always takes the body
language confidence position everywhere then he is confident by nature.
Body language and habits: some people have the habit of folding their arms or
putting their hands in their pockets; make sure you filter out the habits in order to
read body language correctly.
Use your mind some people may take the defensive posture because the weather
is cold and others may scratch their nose because they just want to scratch it. To
avoid wrong results use your mind in addition to the knowledge you have about
body language