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It can mean various different things to a child if he is not loved by his own parents to the
extent that he requires for his healty development: I am not noticed! I am not important
and neither are my needs! I am being physically and emotionally abused! I shouldn't
rally be alive! I shouldn't be here! I should be someone else entirely! These are
unbearable experiences for the psyche of a child. If the child's basic human need for his
parents' love is frustrated it can build until the feelings of fear, anger, shame and pain
are intolerable for the child and he has to split psychologically in order to be able to
endure and remain in the attachement relationship to his mother and father. A child
who is unloved by his parents, or overloaded with illusions of love and offers of
entangling love, has to suppres his uncontrollable feelings and split off his need for love
(wich is always directed towards his parents) from his real experiences.
Depending on their individual circumstances, their personal nature, their position in
relation to their siblings, or their gender, children react differently to this traumatising
relationship with their parents:
- Some become ill and express their distress through physical symptoms.
- Other rebel, cry out their fears and act their anger.
- Yet others withdraw into thenselves, creating distance internally from their parents
without being able to detach themselves emotionally from them." Franz Ruppert