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Emotional Intelligence
The Ability to Reduce Negative Emotions
Perhaps no aspect of EQ is more important than our ability to effectively manage
our own negative emotions, so they don't overwhelm us and affect our judgment.
In order to change the way we feel about a situation, we must first change the
way we think about it. Here are just two examples:
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A. If you feel anxious or stressed, get some cold water on your face to help
keep cool and breathe in some fresh air. Avoid any caffeinated drinks as
they simulate nervousness.
B. If you feel scared, depressed, or discouraged get active and start doing
intense aerobic exercises. Interval Training, pushups, crunches, squats or
just walking can all help relieve stress.
One method to consider when needing to express difficult emotions is the XYZ
technique - I feel X when you do Y in situation Z. Here are some examples:
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"I feel strongly that I should receive recognition from the company based on my
contributions."
Avoid using sentences that begin with "you" and followed by accusation or
judgment, such as "you are...," "you should...," or "you need to...." "You"
language followed by such directives put the listener on the defensive, and
make them less likely to be open to what you have to say.
When you feel angry and upset with someone. Its important to stay
calm and slow things down, take a deep breath, and take a few seconds to
defuse the situations. If you still havent calmed down take some more time, if
you can, get away from the situation.
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We all know life isnt always easy and the way we think, act, and feel in relation
to lifes challenges can help us succeed in life and overcome the barriers and
obstacles you encounter. Each challenge you must learn from by asking the right
questions such as; What is the lesson here? How can I learn from this
experience? What is most important now? and If I think outside the box, what
are some better answers? The better the question the more you can improve
upon the situation.
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Negotiation Skills
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Negotiation Skills
Rules of Negotiation
Never be the first to quote a price avoid questions like whats your
budget. And redirect the conversation to something else this is gives you
leverage in negotiating
Allow things to slow down, this helps you take a minute to make the right
decision and research what you want to buy. An impatient dealer always
loses
If you are not satisfied with deal dont be afraid to walk away. The ability
to walk away from a bad deal is key for skilled negotiators.
Stages of Negotiation
In order to achieve a desirable outcome, it may be useful to follow a structured
approach to negotiation. For example, in a work situation a meeting may need to
be arranged in which all parties involved could come together.
The process of negotiation includes the following stages:
Preparation
Discussion
Clarification of goals
Negotiate towards a Win-Win outcome
Agreement
Implementation of a course of action
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Preparation
Before entering a bargaining meeting, the skilled negotiator prepares for the
meeting. Preparation includes determining goals, areas for trade and alternatives
to the stated goals. In addition, negotiators study the history of the relationship
between the two parties and past negotiations to find areas of agreement and
common goals. Past precedents and outcomes can set the tone for current
negotiations.
Active Listening
Negotiators have the skills to listen actively to the other party during the debate.
Active listening involves the ability to read body language as well as verbal
communication. It is important to listen to the other party to find areas for
compromise during the meeting. Instead of spending the bulk of the time in
negotiation expounding the virtues of his viewpoint, the skilled negotiator will
spend more time listening to the other party.
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Emotional Control
It is vital that a negotiator have the ability to keep his emotions in check during
the negotiation. While a negotiation on contentious issues can be frustrating,
allowing emotions to take control during the meeting can lead to unfavorable
results. For example, a manager frustrated with the lack of progress during a
salary negotiation may concede more than is acceptable to the organization in an
attempt to end the frustration. On the other hand, employees negotiating a pay
raise may become too emotionally involved to accept a compromise with
management and take an all or nothing approach, which breaks down the
communication between the two parties.
Verbal Communication
Negotiators must have the ability to communicate clearly and effectively to the
other side during the negotiation. Misunderstandings can occur if the negotiator
does not state his case clearly. During a bargaining meeting, an effective
negotiator must have the skills to state his desired outcome as well as his
reasoning.
Problem Solving
Individuals with negotiation skills have the ability to seek a variety of solutions to
problems. Instead of focusing on his ultimate goal for the negotiation, the
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individual with skills can focus on solving the problem, which may be a
breakdown in communication, to benefit both sides of the issue.
Interpersonal Skills
Effective negotiators have the interpersonal skills to maintain a good working
relationship with those involved in the negotiation. Negotiators with patience and
the ability to persuade others without using manipulation can maintain a positive
atmosphere during a difficult negotiation.
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Procrastination
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Procrastination
Active and Passive
Procrastination is avoiding something that you need to do until the very last
moment. It is usually perceived as something bad, but thats not always the case
there actually is good and bad procrastination, its called active (good) and
passive (bad) procrastination. Active procrastination means you realize that you
are unduly delaying mowing the lawn or cleaning your closet, but you are doing
something that is more valuable instead. Passive procrastination is just sitting
around on your sofa not doing anything. Active procrastination is good when it
comes to making a decision its good to leave it to the last moment possible so
that you can get all the information possible to make the best decision. However,
its still bad to avoid a project or task that you need to finish so its important to
find ways to get these tasks done as soon as possible.
Active Procrastination
Rules of Active Procrastination:
Slow down
o Example: the reason a professional tennis player can return a
serve that is going faster than 100 mph is because they have the
ability to wait until the last millisecond and pick up as much
information as possible before they return it.
Manage delay
o Example: in a hospital a doctor has 1 minute to make a decision
and should wait until the 59th second before the decision is final.
Wait too long and it may be to late for the patient, decide too early
and risk making the wrong decision.
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Passive Procrastination
Techniques That Beat Procrastination
Know yourself
Understand how procrastination affects your life and think about what habits
usual cause it. Identifying what the causes are helps prevent procrastination in
the first place.
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Take a class.
Learning something new is a great way to acquire unfamiliar
information, but in will also teach you another way of looking at
everything, your life, society, or the natural world. This will help you
expand the range of solutions you can think of to solve
problems/situations and how you look at them.
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bypass your normal skepticism about magic and pull you into their
story? Try to connect these problems to your own problems you face.
How might your marketing team overcome your audiences normal
skepticism about a new miracle product?
Write a poem.
Poetry will bridge the gap between the rational left side of the brain
and the creative right side. Write a poem about a problem youve been
having, it doesnt have to solve the problem just shift your way of
thinking to the more creative side of the brain.
Draw a picture.
Like writing a poem, drawing something also comes from the creative
right side of your brain. It allows you to visualize and bring out other
modes of thinking, which is another way to boost your creativity
Work backwards.
This will break the brains normal conception of connection. It is key to
plan backwards, its like setting a goal and thinking back through the
steps reach it until you get where you are now
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Invite randomness.
Embracing mistakes and incorporating them into your projects
developing strategies that allow for random input, working amid
chaotic associations of sound and form all of these can help to move
beyond everyday patterns of thinking into the inspirational.
Take a shower.
Showering is the ideal situation for something called a creative pause.
The creative pause is defined as the time
interval, which begins when the thinker
interrupts conscious preoccupation with an
unsolved problem, and ends when the
solution to the problem unexpectedly
appears in consciousness. (The Creative
Pause, 1967)
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Thinking 3-Dimensionally
What is Third Dimensional Thinking
The ability to see things from every perspective or the ability look at a
situation and track any scenario from its past to its future. It is
important to know that just because we see three dimensionally with
our eyes it doesnt mean our brains can perceive three dimensionally
when we are thinking. What Three Dimensional Thinking does is it
ensure we dont drift into the realm of convergent thought, and
convergent thought is when thinking in which ideas are analyzed for
how logical they are or in which a specific set of rules has to be
followed.
My visual thinking gives me the ability to do
a test run in my head on a piece of
equipment Ive designed just like a virtual
reality computer system. Mistakes can be
found prior to construction when I do this[I
realized] that other people were not stupid
but lacked the ability to visually think
(Grandin, pg. 17).
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your own creative thinking. These are ways you can broaden your
thinking by asking the right questions:
Questions from different perspectives
Address a problem in as many ways as possible.
o Why does this present a
o Where can we find
problem?
organisations that experience
o Why does it require a
similar problems?
o When (in which
solution?
o Why should it be me who
circumstances and in what
period of time) will the
solves the problem?
problem become urgent?
o Which other, related
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When can we make a first
problems exist?
step towards a solution?
o Which problem elements can
o When is the right time to call
be distinguished?
in outside help?
o Which aspects of the
o What will happen if no
problem look familiar?
solution is found at all?
o Who actually owns the
o What extra information do I
problem?
still need?
o Who will ultimately be faced
o
What other problems are
with this problem?
linked with this specific
o Who can help me find a
problem?
solution to the problem?
o How did the problem arise?
o Where will the problem
o How can I solve it?
occur?
o How fast do we need a
o Where can I find more
solution?
information?
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Questions to delay judgement
o A checklist is a simple technique way that induces you to
delay your judgement concerning a proposed resolution, a
policy option, or a certain vision. However, when you make
a habit out of broad thinking you will not need this
technique since you have internalized.
o What is positive about
o What is my gut feeling?
this?
o What is interesting about
o What is negative about
it?
this?
o What alternative will be
o What does my experience
available if I say no to
with earlier propositions
this?
tell me?
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