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Annotated Bibliography: Divorce Affects

Today, lots of families are choosing divorce as the pathway for their destination. One of
the worst feelings in the world is having the people you grow up loving deciding to split
pathways and many kids are negatively impacted by the tragic occurrence. In this essay Im
choosing to write about the negative impacts a divorce may have on kids of all ages.

Desai, Amy. How Could Divorce Affect My Kids? Focus on the Family. 01 Jan 2006. Web 07
Dec. 2016
Summary: Amy goes into depth about how kids get affected when they see that their parents are
unhappy. The big question that parents are always constipating is whether divorce is the right
choice for both the parents and the kids. She does research showing that kids do suffer
academically, and experience high levels of behavioral disturbance. Not only does the divorce
affect the kids, but also plays a big role in the parents life.
Evaluation: I found the points that Amy pointed out very interesting. All the behaviors that
affect kids go hand in hand with one another. Amy made a very good point that parents always
automatically assume that the divorce may not affect their kid, which isnt true to jump to
conclusions.
Reflection: This article provided me very good insight on the reasoning behind a childs action
due to experiencing trauma. It helps me better understand the emotions that a child may be
feeling without having to experience the situation.

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Pickhardt, Carl E. The Impact of Divorce on Young Children and Adolescents. Psychology
Today. Web. Dec 2011. Web. 07 Dec. 2016
Summary: Dr. Pickhardt talks about how divorce can affect kids at any age. Divorce introduces
the kids into a massive change into their life that they are unaware of how to handle it. Kids rely
on a routine and once the routine is broken they struggle on having to play telephone and
constantly bounce back from household to hold house. Divorce plays a role on their mental
behavior where they tend to fantasize that their parents will rekindle their relationship and their
marriage will go back to how it use to be.
Evaluation: The point that Dr.Pickhardt stated about how kids start to fantasize about their
parents getting back together does highly pay a huge emotional role. Kids start to give
themselves false hope and thats when their aggression comes out when they are left with
devastation which increases the rate of kids becoming a troubled.
Reflection: The information was very useful, I was left wanting more about how kids fantasize
about their parents getting back together. What made the kids start getting hope of their parents
rekindling their relationship? How often do they think about it? And also whatre their actions on
trying to get their parents back together?
Corcoran, Kathleen O Connell. Psychological and Emotional Aspects of Divorce. Web. June
1997. 07 Dec. 2016.
Summary: Kathleen talks about how more than 50% of marriages end in divorce and how the
custody of child is split up upon the divorce. Both parents handle divorce in different ways for
example, study shows that men tend to move on from their divorce quicker than womens so that
affects their kids. When one of the parents refuse to be a part of the childs life the single parent

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tends to be closer to their kids to fill the void. Kathleen also makes points about when parents are
separated the parent tries to pay attentions to desires and buying their love by showering them
with gifts, amusement parks, and toys they love. Kids with separated parents also tend to love
celebrating holidays and birthdays twice due to the separation.
Evaluation: The point that Kathleen makes about kids having to celebrate holidays twice may be
a pro and con. They may love the double gifts, celebrations they get to enjoy but it may also
affect them by not having two parents together enjoying it with them.
Reflection: It was very interesting to be educated on different custody arrangement that were
available for parents. I really like the statistic that single parents tend to be closer to their kids so
the kids are able to have a bond with one parent by their side.
Wong, Brittany. 7 Ways Divorce Affects Kids, According To The Kids Themselves. The
Huffington Post. 28 Aug. 2014. Web. 07 Dec. 2016.
Summary: In this article I got to read about multiple points of view from several kids that
experienced separation. In several different cases kids were left confused on why the separation
happen and how hurt they were. On the other hand, there were several other kids who felt
relieved after the separation. They all felt different emotions ranging from fear, confusion, anger,
heartache, and strangely enough a sense of relief. In the article there was a boy who was left
angry which he took out his anger by bullying other students and having to become the man of
the house and watch over his little sister which made him very protective and aggressive as a big
brother.

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Evaluation: Being able to understand different points of view is very important because not
everything is the same for each child. Being able to feel the emotion and compassion the kids
had really shows that it really did impact their lives and itll be stuck with them forever.
Reflection: The story about the boy who took his anger out on bullying is very relatable. Having
to go through a life crisis but yet being so young and not knowing how to deal with it definitely
takes a toll on their lives. In those cases, I believe kids that are young and have to step up to fill a
position in their household should support whether if thats their parents, or just having someone
to talk to like a teacher, counselor, or therapist.
Gordon, Donald A. The Effects of Divorce on Children. Divorce Magazine, 22 Oct. 2015.
Web. 07 Dec. 2016
Summary: Kids always need comfort and reinsurance when something tragic happens. This
article talks about how kids need a support system and to be able to understand the situation. Its
important to explain to the child that the parents are still there for them and nothing emotionally
is going to change for them. They need reassurance that they will still be cared for and loved. For
them to better understand the situation they need to be educated about how things are going to
be.
Evaluation: For the kids to better understand and learn to deal with their emotions they
definitely need their parents support. Its important for the parents to continue to be active in
their life to show them that they are still being loved and cared for and that although their
marriage didnt work out the love for their child is unbreakable.
Reflection: I love this article because every parent that plans on divorcing should be educated on
this. They need to be able to continue to have a strong bond with their kid so they dont rage out

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emotionally. Its very important that the parent still plays a role to show appreciation. Being
considerate of the child feelings is key, and I highly admire that.
Provda, Bruce. How Single Parent Households Affect Children. New York Divorce Lawyer. 12
July 2016. Web. 07 Dec. 2016
Summary: Kids often feel isolated and lonely when a single parent is constantly working to
provide food, clothes, and a roof over the familys head. Kids start to feel helpless when the
parent is constantly working. They try to help provide for their families where that leads to kids
being troubled and getting involved in crimes to help their family for funds so their parent wont
have to work as hard.
Evaluation: When single parents are constantly working this gives the kids lots of time to think
about how theyre able to pitch in and help support and bring in income. They tend to commit
crimes, including drug dealing, robbery which gets them to become aggressive.
Reflection: I can relate to kids getting in trouble to support their family. I grew up in a rough
neighborhood where this happen quite a bit and the kids tend to be filled with lots of emotions.
They start to not feel remorse and start thinking that this is the lifestyle they were meant to be in.