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NOW I AM FREE!
I failed many many times, never making it too far, and usually
relapsing at couple of days, weeks, or a month.
But this time it worked.
I do not want to get into "my story" because it is full of triggers and it is very long.
I just want to share what worked for me.
I was 24 ( just about to turn 25) when I started this journey.
Now it is 3 years later (I updated the text haha).
I'm glad to say I won this war for good - the rest of my life.
1)
MOSTIMPORTANTREALIZATION:yourtimehereisLIM
We are only young for a short period of time! LIVE A GREAT LIFE !
YOUTH IS FLEETING, If you haven't noticed by now, time runs FAST! Man it r
JUST LIKE THAT 2 MORE YEARS WILL PASS BY. IF YOU ARE UNDER 25 Y
THAT'S WHY IM TELLING YOU.
IN YOUR LATE 20s YOU WILL DISCOVER YEARS PASS BY LIKE THEY W
YOU DON'T HAVE THE TIME TO PLAY AROUND WITH THIS! YOU G
2)
THEFOUNDATIONALQUESTION:
HOW BAD IS IT TO RELAPSE JUST 1 MORE TIME?
So, when the urges hit you strong, you MAKE IT OK in your head, and only afterwards do you realize OH N
This types of tricks that your mind plays on you are MANY MANY! Some of them are:
* "Ah, I'll just do it this time.. I've done it many times before, this is just 1 more time.. let me just do it now, a
* " I had a good run, nothing bad happens if I relapse now, my progress is still not destroyed.."
* " I have to do it, to release the tension.. , it''s healthy to do it.."
* " The pleasure is worth it .. "
* "Ah just do it" - and let your mind go blank
* "Everybody does it.. "
ALL OF THE ABOVE ARE LIES! - Tricks - and there are million other tricks with which you trick yoursel
So, the one THING that will really really get you to realize the KEY TO SUCCESS is THE ANSWER TO TH
1 RELAPSE.
Just 1 RELAPSE.
THE ANSWER:
1 RELAPSE = creates a spiral of 1 relapses , where you can not stop! Because you always justify it as ju
1 RELAPSE = CAN LEAD TO YEARS OF ADDITIONAL STRUGGLE!
1 relapse is not just 1 relapse. It is a bundle of 1 relapses and IT CAN WASTE YOU YEARS!
1 RELAPSE = it destroys much of your progress. It is wasting time. it will take weeks or months to get ba
And it may happen again and again.
Time is the most precious thing you got!!!! AND IT IS LIMITED!!!!
TIME IS THE KEY! IT RUNS FAST!
3)
RULESTOOBEY
So the first 2 points are about understanding the "HARSHNESS" and REALITY of TIME and ACTIONS.
3rd point is WHAT YOU MUST KNOW AND DO TO GET YOUR SELF UNDER CONTROL.
MEDITATE ON EACH AND EVERY ONE OF THIS POINTS! THIS WILL DETERMINE YOUR SU
There is a reason I put this rule No.1 ! - Internet world is FULL of TRIGGERS.
Many times it start with some small trigger - a simple picture that is just a bit too revealing, and then it spirals
"Let me look just a little" is NOT ALLOWED! Don't blame yourself for being curious but don't go down that
Ignore it and put it out of your mind. Do this repeatedly if you have to.
(My personal tip is also this, you may or may not find it helpful:
imagine that you physically grab the lustful thought which you want to eliminate with your hand and throw it
do this with some intensity and moving your hands and even perhaps using your voice)
Practicing this rule will make your mind stop being curious about those things automatically
after you've successfully done it a couple of times.
And that is already what will be a great accomplishment!
Also,
THIS IS A FOREVER RULE. EVEN AFTER WEEKS , MONTHS, YEARS, even when you are "HEALTH
acting on your lustful curiosity may DESTROY your progress quickly!!!
This decisions are LIFETIME decisions!
NEVER DO ANY CLICK ON YOUR COMPUTER THAT IS IN THE SLIGHTEST DIRECTION TO PORN
The little clicks of curious wondering are deadly. Don't! Deny it. Just ignore your curiosity. Let it go.
And testing to see how you respond to porn is really the most DANGEROUS thing you can do. DO NOT DO
2) When you feel the smallest LUST / TEMPTATION TO PMO IMMEDIATELY DENY IT! SAY NO!
Say it with POWER! ACTUALLY Imagine those dark forces inside you and throwing that lustful ugly feelin
You will never beat porn if you don't do the difficult! Deny it!
This is YOU, YOUR LIFE, wake up! Be STRONG! If you do that you will WIN the battle every single time
And THE MOST IMPORTANT THING ABOUT ALL OF THIS IS, WITH GOING AGAINST YOUR SELF
"BAD DESIRES" AND CHOOSING BETTER THINGS, YOU WILL CHANGE YOURSELF A LITTLE BI
YOU WILL BECOME ONE DEGREE MORE OF WHO YOU WANT TO BE.
In time you change so much, PMO is the furthest thing from your mind.
I am an example of that.
3) CATCH THE TEMPTATION EARLY! IMMEDIATELY!! GET INTO A NEW MIND-STATE
The urges will build , DO NOT LET THAT HAPPEN. RE-FOCUS your thoughts. RE-EVALUATE your life
DO SOMETHING. GO OUTSIDE. A walk, or jogging or prayer or cold shower or call a friend etc. Wash "b
Fight them. If you want to be free, you will have to prove it!
If you have small porn desires and you allow them to be there, then you don't want to get rid of porn strong en
That is like allowing a lion around sheep just because a lion is currently sleeping.. NO WAY!
4.) DONT JUSTIFY DOING IT.
This one is soooo snekay. Your mind will tell you well you can start this no porn thing at some other time aga
And many other tricks. Really just become aware of your thoughts and feelings and realize you are often
subconscioulsy JUSTIFYING things you WANT but logically know that are BAD.
5) FORGET AND IGNORE WHAT YOU ARE FIGHTING AGAINST, WHEN THERE IS NO TEMPTATION
JUST LIKE IF YOU DON'T HAVE AN ADDICTION TO HARD DRUGS. YOU WONT REALLY BE THIN
BUT THERE ARE STRONG DECISIONS INSIDE OF YOU THAT YOU KNOW YOU WON'T DO THEM
READ AND RE-READ AND RECOMMIT TO THE PROCESS! Internalize the "rules".
Honestly after a while, you will not have to think about them or re-read or anything.. You will internalize them
4)
BONUSTIPS:
REMEMBER YOUR PAST. REMEMBER WHAT FAILURE DOES! HOW BAD YOU FELT! WRITE I
We are so quick to forget! Please do that! Don't be reminded at a relapse. Be forewarned.
One of the problems is , in the heated moments you may not want porn lust to leave you - because it feels goo
BUT IT CAN LEAVE IF YOU WANT it to leave and DECIDE to battle it out!
If you wait, the feeling will overwhelm you in time and you will be powerless.
The only way is to SAY NO EARLY EARLY EALRY!!!
And it helps to say NO if you know WHY you have to say NO. This is it. Have the reasons in your mind.
Because once the strong temptation hits, they will not be found in your head, unless you have them prep
WHEN THE URGES HIT, THINK ONLY ABOUT WHAT HAPPENS AFTER YOU RELAPSE
YOU ARE LOST AND DEFEATED
AND YOU LOSE POWER , LOSE CONFIDENCE ETC.
SO CHANGE IT! 1 HOUR later, you'll be smiling and be happy that you did not relapse.
Don't look back 5 years from now in utter defeat. DON'T DO IT. That is the only key to success. DO NOT D
5)
LORDANDSAVIORJESUSCHRIST
This is NUMBER 1 reason I am where I am.
I wanted to do EVIL. But God helped me. The Word of God anchors me. And I can not be shaken as easily as before.
God takes your heart and purifies it, cleanses it, and gives you a new heart.
Do not look at other people, supposed Christians and then judge Christ or God based on them. None of the Christians represents Ch
"Christians" are NOT even Christians. Read the NEW TESTAMENT - 4 GOSPELS (Matthew, Mark, Luke, John). Or just read 1 G
you will see what it means to be a Christian. It is LOVE , HOLINESS, OBEDIENCE, PURITY... AND THE PEACE AND THE JO
Turning to God in prayer,
turning to Jesus,
HE LIVES. He actually LIVES!
It is always our free will,
and He always receives
the humble, and sincere.
Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.
Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth.
Blessed are those who hunger and thirst after righteousness,for they will be filled.
Blessed are the merciful, for they shall be shown mercy.
Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God.
Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called the sons of God.
Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because o
the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you.
I personally testify , that God LOVES us, and that he is willing to help, BUT , under HIS CONDITIONS! No
whatever we want. IN THE END WE WILL REAP 10000 fold of what WE SOWED in our flesh.
Some people say "no way, then why is there evil in the world if God exists." HE GAVE US FREE WILL! W
WORLD RIGHT NOW! IT's all in the bible. It's all in those 30 pages of the gospel! World hates God, and the
understood the basics of the Gospel and go attack it.
Just know, in the end every single individual will be judged FAIRLY! According to the situation he lived in. I
AND SPIRITUALLY PORN IS A DARK, DEMONIC FORCE.
search youtube for Paul Washer, Tim Conway, ... and many others.. , then go into prayer mode
I cant really explain it and I don't understand it completely but stay far away from it.
WISH YOU ALL THE BEST!
Last Edit: March 28, 2016, 07:11:06 AM by Supersonic
5 TIPS THAT LED ME TO SUCCESS!http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=19732.0
"Can a man still be brave if he's afraid?" "That is the only time a man can be brave."
Mart71
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I am happy for you, that you found recovery and a way that worked for you.
I might want to add, that it is in my opinion not helpful to see PMO and masturbation as "evil". They may be
claim to be right or wrong. But thinking about this in terms of evil and guilt will imo not help someone who i
not live by the moral system of sin etc. It will make them feel unnecessarily even more bad about the whole th
Charlie Marcotte
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Hey man, I read this on YBR but just want to say that this is great and I'm happy for you. Way to go!
- Charlie
I've been totally PMO free for 1.5 years!
Also check out the YourBrainRebalanced RadioShow: https://soundcloud.com/yourbrainrebalancedshow
Supersonic
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Thanks!
Quote from: Mart71 on April 15, 2014, 05:25:11 AM
I might want to add, that it is in my opinion not helpful to see PMO and masturbation as "evil". They may be in your believe system
thinking about this in terms of evil and guilt will imo not help someone who is already struggling with the addictive nature of porn
unnecessarily even more bad about the whole thing, which hinders recovery.
"Can a man still be brave if he's afraid?" "That is the only time a man can be brave."
Supersonic
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OK, so..
I am a christian. I believe in Jesus Christ and that he is Lord and the Savior of the world. - Thus, I try to obey
HE LIVES! He did rise from the dead , and men will be judged according to what we did in our flesh (on this
He that seeketh findeth. - that is sincere prayer , reading the scriptures and obeying his word
We can be cleansed through REPENTANCE and OBEYING HIM.
Jesus doesn't save those who just believe. He saves those who believe and OBEY.
As I struggled in the past I would still PMO and as I read the words of God.. I tried to stop but couldn't.
After turning to Jesus more fully, I was able to OVERCOME. But only after I truly repented, truly decided to
But yeah, to tickle the ears of many, I would just say hey whatever you do is OK. Don't worry about it , it's a
Our eternity will depend on how we live our lives here and now.
And there is ALWAYS time to return to God, while still here. Jesus is the way, truth, light, life. If only people
REVEAL HIMSELF TO YOU!
So, yeah,
, I invite all that read this to pray and to not harden their hearts against God.
Which when Christ saves you , you become FREE INDEED! And again I can testify of that. It happened to m
ugliest sinner ever! So I know that I got help and lots of help!! And am no better than anyone else. Just got he
5 TIPS THAT LED ME TO SUCCESS!http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=19732.0
"Can a man still be brave if he's afraid?" "That is the only time a man can be brave."
regis
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I think what you said is right! I'm really glad for you; I wish to become like you! GOD bless you !!!
LightSeeker
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Man, this is inspiring.. I know I can nail this one down. Just need that extra push of willpower!!!
Thanks a lot. Really need this.. really
lilnavadaa
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whats up!
yay others about the Lord If u read my post I'm afraid that the life after will not be good for me because
that since Jesus died for our sins and I believe in him I am saved but still I'm going through hell because of th
To everyone the last book in the bible Gods shows us that porn was coming and will stay until he destroys it..
"With her the kings of the earth committed adultery and the inhabitants of the earth were intoxicated with the
adultery with her and call her the famous prostitute.
Read revelations and you'll see.
Therefore in one day her plagues will overtake her.. death mourning and famine. She will be consumed by fir
"Come out of her, my people so that you will not share in her sins so that you will not receive any of her plag
crimes.
Give back to her as she has given.. pay her back a double portion from her own cup
Give her as much torment and grief as the glory and luxury she gave herself.
In her heart she boasts.
123bob
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Vincent
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Thanks.
Especially for the rules. I thikt the part with EXCUSES and JUST ONE MORE RELAPSE THEN I'LL QUIT
stop. My fight, my gain or loss. easy but harsh.
It may happen to often to say, ok, I failes, lets start again. The final step however, is going to be the hardest pr
Although I am not fighting porn, but myself -> the problem is me using it, I really appreciate you sharing this
Prankstar1
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thanks very much. I promise I will try to do it and become as free as you.
Reckon
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fightthefight
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Some good and sobering thoughts here. I have bookmarked this and will be coming back to it again and again
centre - as a Christian, I think it is right that we make Him the centre of our journey out of this (just as He sho
God" is so special - I was reminded of this yesterday in a video by John Piper. If I let porn cloud my vision, I
important part of my life for an ounce of pleasure and a 10 pounds of guilt & regret!
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rider654321
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Some really great information there Supersonic to remember when things get tough.
Thanks for sharing your tips and success story with us
philkar41
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Dude
Thanks--your tips have been helping lots...recommending this..try it..it does work....
Stay super
MwC
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Challenging jurney
4 good tips and one bad. Religion has no part of this process. An all powerful god would also have created the
And Ili, quoting bible verses to condemn porn actresses is not fair or productive. This is your problem.
Rejoice in you strength in defeating a dangerous, life consuming addiction. I can promise you did it yourself!
fightthefight
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MwC, while not wishing to hijack this thread with an argument, you have sort of already done it by rubbishin
saying God created the porn and ignoring the fact that porn is actually a human creation. Many addiction prog
power as a core component of their addiction programme. Whether or not you believe, it has clearly been extr
certainly does have a place!
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lte
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For the record: Attacking other members for believing in God or for not believing in God is not allowed at RN
expressions of those opinions are respectful of others.
Remember, porn and masturbation are never the reward. Freedom from porn and masturbation is the reward
lte
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If u read my post I'm afraid that the life after will not be good for me because I cannot stop this ug
him I am saved but still I'm going through hell because of this sin..
To everyone the last book in the bible Gods shows us that porn was coming and will stay until he destroys it.. the famous prostitute
"With her the kings of the earth committed adultery and the inhabitants of the earth were intoxicated with the wine of her adulteries
famous prostitute.
God will punish all these porn actresses for what they have done to us.
Read revelations and you'll see.
Therefore in one day her plagues will overtake her.. death mourning and famine. She will be consumed by fire for mighty is the Lo
"Come out of her, my people so that you will not share in her sins so that you will not receive any of her plagues for her sins are pil
Give back to her as she has given.. pay her back a double portion from her own cup
Give her as much torment and grief as the glory and luxury she gave herself.
In her heart she boasts.
One last verse..
The merchants who sold these things and gained their wealth from her will stand far off, terrified at her torment. They will weep an
This is war.
Stay strong fellow brothers this is much more powerful than we originally thought..
Good luck to all and never give up
With full respect for your opinions, I tend to differ regarding the harlot of Revelation. I have always thought i
Creator of all things.
While some porn actresses are indeed brazen prostitutes intent on exploiting their sexuality for gain there are
trafficking is common and many a divorced mom has had to dance to pay the bills only to find herself forced
in her life. These are real situations.
One of the most famous and notorious porn actresses in history claims, and took polygraph tests to substantia
drug habit and that she performed in porn movies at the very real threat of her life, at times with guns at the re
famous her entire working career spanned only 17 days and it destroyed the rest of her life. Even though she h
as her true identity was discovered. By this point she was married, a Christian and a mother, but she still had
Prostitutes are much the same story, in many cases. Human trafficking is rampant and women forced into pro
police that they are being forced into prostitution chances are that they will be the one arrested, not the (litera
As far as forgiveness is concerned; remember, we are in forgiven for our sins because of Christ's sacrifice. So
ancestors was Rahab, a former harlot. Don't judge anyone more harshly than you would want to be judged yo
Remember, porn and masturbation are never the reward. Freedom from porn and masturbation is the reward
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thank you for that! the main pillar of a religion revolving around love should always be forgiveness! it is the o
and violence.
I am not (very) religious anymore. I very much respect every religion as a way of life, if this religion is of no
However, I am not very fond of the connection between the Book of Revelations and Porn, especially if this m
WE WATCHED PORN - WE ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR WHAT WE DO!. If we do not thake responsibility
having fallen for porn. It is easy to plead unguilty in this regard. But it is more like: I can't do anything else, t
there is no eays way out. If you are drunk and hurt somebody it is easy to put blame on the "sin" of alcohol. It
were not in charge.
I am well aware that it gives a lot of strenght to overcome a strong addiction like this with the help of ones be
others who don't as one likes them to.
In my opinion the first and most important step to overcome any addiciton is to take responibility and accept
is free to believe what they want here and everyone can find his/her own way through the difficult times. The
different. We can give our advice to everybody and nothing more.
Vincent/over.
dkg8877
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I have a question, hopefully someone can give some thoughts or feedback. I'm 3 weeks into my reboot. Aside
significant flatlining or depression. I'm worried that I'm not experiencing the up's and down's widely describe
serve as signals that we're moving through the process. Has anyone else felt like they were not experiencing t
lte
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worried that I'm not experiencing the up's and down's widely described. Obviously these signs are not something to look forward to
like they were not experiencing the reboot process?
I didn't go through any profound symptoms of withdrawal. No real flatline, the depression was sub-pathologi
Remember, porn and masturbation are never the reward. Freedom from porn and masturbation is the reward
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lee
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Do u ever have (before u recovered) whole day sleepy symptom and brain fog? Does these symptom gone aft
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