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Im absolutely sure now that Im not myself and my work. I needed to
willing to give up on my sense of self reset that relationship in a way
again. which felt more sustainable for me.
I deliberately sought support from
But why does it occur? In our someone outside of my sector in
experience, people who find order to re-establish a more authentic
themselves at this crisis point are sense of self.
there as a result of two reasons.
First, the organisation they are
working for has a very strong belief I wanted help with re-establishing the
system and clear expectations in
terms of logic and rightness. There psychological contract between myself and
is a consciousness which demands
a way of being, for example, good
my work. I needed to reset that relationship
looks like this; the behaviours we in a way which felt more sustainable for
admire are these; and no thats not
the way to do things here. Over time, me.
individuals who are not aligned to
this way of thinking, begin to absorb
a set of alternative ways which then
conflict against their own values. / Broadening your reality
Second, after the formative years, In this situation, the style of coaching
very few people have the motivation required is very different. Rather than
to inquire into who they truly are, how focus on performance, measures and
they understand their self and how the transactional elements of a role;
that translates through their daily to achieve a deep understanding
lives. and re-connection with your sense of
self, the coaching must focus on the
If you combine the presence of whole person holding up a mirror
expectations and cultural norms with and help you to question what if?
the fact that very few people reflect
on where theyve come from and I knew I wanted someone who
where they are now; then its easy to wouldnt approach this from a classic
understand how people end up doing business coaching perspective
things and behaving in ways which and so I did some research and
are not necessarily aligned to who slowly became aware of the
they really are. Gestalt approach which Khurshed
[Dehnugara, Partner at Relume] has
At this point we have a choice. been trained in. I liked this approach
Continue as we are and try to lead because it paid attention to the whole
small change from the periphery as person.
a challenger; choose to be a different
person in that organisation, or find We initially agreed to eight coaching
an alternative organisation which sessions over one year, including
is more aligned with your way of participation in the five-day residential
thinking. Challenger Week. After
this we agreed to three more, spread
I wanted help with re-establishing over 12 months.
the psychological contract between
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Initially the priority must be clarity It was hard work. I needed to do
around what the individual wants some fundamental reflection and
to achieve; outlining a number of contemplation. And when you have
shifts that would, combined, create someone play back to you what
the transformation desired. In our youre saying, helping you see
example, this was a shift from feeling what possibilities lie beyond your
that the individual had lost a sense of understanding of the world and then
independence within the organisation help you push that thinking, its a
for whom they were working, to a really quite challenging place to be.
point where they were operating The conversation was fundamentally
authentically from a more sustainable about to what extent am I limiting or
sense of self; while still being aligned choosing to construct my reality.
professionally within the business.
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For me two things came out which
were particularly significant. First
was the introduction of regular
How I work now is fundamentally
contemplative practice, which Ive different because of a journey that began
sustained since. I knew I needed
to improve my capability to access with Relume and has been supported
to my own emotions, in order to
increase my awareness of others
throughout by them. I can achieve my
emotions. purpose in a way which is more authentic
Second, I decided to put that more to me.
authentic version of me more fully
in service of my work. I did some
different things, some of which felt
risky when compared to our usual
ways of working, but which at the
same time I knew were better
approaches and which used a wider
range of me. Ironically, those more
novel approaches got great feedback
what had really stopped me doing
this before? Probably just my
relationship with myself.
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