TABLE OF CONTENTS:

INTRODUCTION
PHASE ONE: ATTRACT

A1 Open.

1. Direct
2. Indirect

A2. Banter/Neg (part 1 of 2)

1. Banter Lines
2. Funny Stories
3. Kino
4. Contingencies

A2. DHV (part 2 of 2)

1. Your Passion
2. Observations About Her
3. Super Optional Bubble Gum Routines

A3. Qualify (part 1 of 3)

1. Whats Beyond Your Looks?

2. Are You Passionate?
3. What Abilities Do You Have?
4. What Interests Do You Have?

A3. Statement of Interest (part 2 of 3)

A3. Isolate or Number Close (part 3 of 3)

1. Isolation Close
2. Number Close

PHASE TWO: COMFORT

Create an Emotional Connection

PHASE THREE: SEDUCTION

Setting a Romantic/Sensual Mood

1. Romantic Questions
2. Ross Jeffries Patterns
3. Sexual Subjects

Going for the Kiss

Extract to Seduction Location
END GAME: FOREPLAY AND SEX
CONCLUSION
INTRODUCTION
PLEEEEEEEASE dont overload yourself with routines. No, no, no. I
have before and it sucks. You just get Paralysis.
You need six things for an indirect approach to go well.
A reason for talking with her
A reason for talking with her
Banter within your first TWO sentences. Communicates Im not
trying to get you
Initiate a topic of conversation that gives value to her
Qualify her.
State your interest in her.
Either isolate her or make plans for a Day 2
The first six things take just a few minutes. Your goal? Qualification.
Get her one-on-one as soon as you can. Once youre one-on-one,
take your time. This is where the game is really played. One-on-one,
you need three things.
Create an emotional connection
Kiss her but dont make-out yet (during Comfort)
Invite her to a sex location (C3)
Dont move to sex too soon. Take a few hours to get to know her.
And the kiss is comfort-building. Keep the sexual tension alive by not
making out with her yet. The focus is getting to know her, not sex.
Theres basically one thing you need once youre in private with her.
Foreplay and give her orgasms. Alone in private, NOW you can
make-out. But still tease her and build anticipation. Seduction
happens in the mind. The more she wants it PSYCHOLOGICALLY
because she cant have it all yet, the wetter she becomes. The
wetter she becomes before you stick your dick in her, the closer to
the edge of orgasm she already is. (S1 S3 Seduction)
Attract first, create an emotional connection second, and seduce
last.
Couple of things before I get to the routines, and how you can fill out
this structure.
Have a reason for talking to her when you approach. If you dont
have a good reason, shes gonna wonder why are you talking to
me? What do you want from me? If you have a good reason (for
example, she looked cool and you wanted to say hi), shell know
WHY you went up to her to talk, and she can relax.
After you banter, appreciate her. Soften the play fighting with
appreciation. Too much disinterest and you push her away. Too much
interest and its too close for comfort. Calibrate your disinterest with
interest, as well as your interest with disinterest.
Make sure to qualify. If theres a mistake budding pickup artists
make, its not to qualify. The funny thing is, qualification is MORE
important than all the attract crap. Dont get me wrong, the attract
crap is important, but theyre just stepping stones to get to
qualification.
And APPRECIATE her after youve qualified her, too. That
appreciation is THE bridge to isolating/closing her.
Okay, thats a lot of stuff, I know. And I started this whole shebang
saying dont overload yourself with routines. And its true. So, to
start out with, just pick six really quick, simple gambits for your
attract phase. Again, its six things but taken all together, attraction
happens fasta few minutes at most.
Pick:
a reason for talking with her (i.e. an opener)
a banter line joined with appreciation (do this IMMEDIATELY after
your openerwithin TWO sentences)
a DHV (statement aboutwho you are)
a qualifier (question aboutwho is she?)
a statement of interest
a way to isolate/close her.
Dont forget to qualify.
If you get to qualification with five different sets in one night, youve
mastered the attract phase. Now you can move on to practicing
comfort. Add three more routines that:
creates an emotional connection
kiss close
extracts her to the seduction location
Practice up until foreplay. Once you get to foreplay, study how to
give women orgasms. Take things step by step.
Congrats. Youre a pickup artist to contend with.
Okay, here are some routines to choose from. Remember, just pick
ONE from each of the first six categories to start. Once youve
mastered the attract phase, then you can choose ONE from each of
the last categories. Make your life easy. Keep it simple.
PHASE ONE: ATTRACT
A1 OPEN. (Reason for talking with her)
For your opener, you can go either direct or indirect. The indirect
openers are a little longer. My personal favorites are direct. Short,
sweet, right to the point. Try on different ones for size and see which
fits you best.
Again, Ive given a lot to choose from, but JUST PICK ONE opener.
Practice it five times in the mirror, and five times in the field. THEN
you can try another opener. Dont have five different openers, for
example, swimming in your head at once. When you see that hot girl
you dont want to be confused. You just want to GO.
1. Direct
I. My Personal Favorites

Ive got this rule that whenever I see someone attractive I have to
say hi.
You look kinda cool, so I just wanted to see what you were like.
You look fun/friendly/interesting. Ive only got a sec, but I wanted to
come over and see what you were like.
II. Lance Masons Openers

::: MOVIE MOMENT ::: (The pauses create a lot of sexual tension)
I saw you over there and You are really Really . . Beautiful.
I just had to come over and say hi. Who are you?

::: BACK POCKET OPENER :::

Hey, do you have the time (touch her on wrist to stop her from
looking at her watch and pivot so youre standing next to her now)
actually I really came over to flirt with you. Is that bad? (Banter)
2. Indirect
I. Styles Opinion Openers

::: JEALOUS GIRLFRIEND :::

Hey, let me get your take on something. Ive only got a sec but Im
trying to give my friend over there advice, but were just a bunch of
menso were really not qualified to comment on these matters.
(She: whats that?)
Okay, its a two-part question. Imagine youve been dating this guy
for like three months and he doesnt want you to talk to a male
friend of yours. Now you guys are just friends and nothing would
ever happen. Whats the appropriate response? (She: Id probably
break up with the guy Im dating.)
Okay, makes sense. Now what if this guy was someone you used to
sleep with? Does that make a difference? (She: Well, Im friends
with some of my exes, but others I cant be friends with. So, it
depends.)
Okay. The reason I ask is my friend has been dating this girl for like
three months and she doesnt want him to talk to a female friend of
his. They havent seen each other for years and they really are just
friends. The problem is if he stops talking to his friend, hell resent
his girlfriend. But if he continues to talk to his friend, his girlfriend
will resent him. (She: Something like that happened to me once)
Wow, you guys are like from the View. (She: Laughter)
So, how do you all know each other? (She: Response)
I wonder which one of you is the black sheep. (She: Laughter and
Response)
Hey, before I go I couldnt help notice your ring. Do you always wear
a ring on that finger?
(go into Rings, neg while doing it, then qualify)
::: CHEATING :::
There was this article in Esquire magazine that asked different
people what cheating was. Well, let me ask first. How would you
define cheating?
(go around the group)
Its Fascinating that a basic concept like cheating, everyones
definition of it is different. My answer is its not being honest with
the other person. In other words, you could go and have sex with
someone else and as long as shes okay with it, its not cheating. If
your girlfriend said okay to have sex with her friend, its not
cheating because you had a mutual agreement. So, cheating is not
being honest, being deceptive, and breaking an agreement you had
with another person. So, for someone else, just talking to another
girl at a party could be cheating, if she didnt want you to and you
had agreed. Or, staying touch with an ex. Thatd be cheating if she
asked you not to and you said okay.
II. Mysterys Openers

::: OCEANS ELEVEN

Were celebrating like its the end of Oceans Eleven

::: GIRL FIGHT ::

Hey did you see the fight outside?
Two girls were fighting over this guy. And the two girls that were
fighting were both taller than him, it was the craziest thing. One of
the girls was being held back by a guy, and Im not sure if the guy
who was holding her back worked there or not, but it was like two
against one. The girl who was being held back, her blouse ripped
open and her boob popped. Normally Id be like, Hey, how YA
doing, (Joey from Friends voice) but in this case (make grossed out
face) it was a saggy, baggy boobie, like from National Geographic. It
was just wrong.
Anyway, that girl ran off and the tall girl won the little guy. Good for
her! I talked to him afterwards and I was like, What the fuck
happened, and he said Horhay. I asked him to spell it and he was
like, (in French accent) jjjee,-ee-oh-ar-jjjee-ee. (Pause) Thats not
Horhay thats fucking George. You cant pull wool over my eyes.
Thats a (pointing) deal breaker name right there.
Like if your name was Olga, I dont care HOW good looking you can
make yourself in a day, I couldnt date you. Beatrice. Maud.
Gertrude. Helga? I dont even want to know your name just in case. I
mean everythings going fine, just keep your mouth shut. (Smile)
III. Brad Ps Banter Openers

::: HORSE GIRL:::

I have to ask. Do you like horses? I thought so. Okay, check this out.
When I was in the third grade there was this girl, and she loved
horses. She loved them more than anything. She used to draw
horses all over her binder, shed be making horse noises, shed be
running around the schoolyard galloping. We used to call her The
Weird Horse Girl. (She: So why are you telling me this)
Well, you look JUST like her! (She: Its not me)
You know what? Im 90% sure its not you, but if it was me, I
wouldnt admit it either. So, just in case its youand Im not saying
its definitely youbut just in case its you and you dont want to
admit it, I just want to say Im sorry (She: Sorry for what?)
Sorry for all the times I used to make fun of you. See, back in school
I was one of the cool kids and I was a bit of a bully and I used to
make fun of the The Weird Horse Girl. NOW, I feel so bad. I feel so
guilty. Ive been going to therapy and my therapist says I should
find this girl and right all the wrongs of my past, so I just want to
say Im sorry and see if youd EVER forgive me. (She: Yes)
(Hugging her) Oh my God you are so cool! I cant believe you turned
out to be cute and cool. This is like the craziest thing!
::: LAST NIGHTS LAY:::
You look familiar. Have we had sex? Oh my God! Yes, its you! Its so
good to see you!
Hey, listen, sorry I havent called. Been kind of busy. My, um, phone,
um, stopped, um, working and my tire got a flat, and my dog ate my
homework. But tell your friend I said hi and that she was great too.
It wasnt you? I could have sworn it was you. You look just like this
girl I had sex with last weekactually I cant quite remember what
she looks like, I was kind of drunkNo, Im pretty sure it was you.
::: ONE LINERS :::
Youre the third cutest girl here!
Hey watch out for these girls here. They are professional pick
picketers! Theyll steal your phone and purse.
YOU and I are STUNNING! But MOSTLY me!
I have to compliment you. Youre very reasonably attractive (Only
say this to 9s and 10s)
To a Short Girl: Youre the Tiny Dangerous one here! Gotta watch out
for you.
My mom told me to come to the club and find a nice girl. Youre the
perfect girl to take home to my mom!
To a Girl SUPER dressed up: Youre the most stylish girl here! I bet
youre a shopaholic.
Stop looking at my ass whenever I walk by. Its JUST. NOT. COOL.
Lets go steal a car.
A2 ATTRACT, part 1 of 2. (Banter/Neg with Appreciation/Smile)
This is THE key to attraction. Hands down.
Do this within your FIRST TWO SENTENCES. It sets the tone right
away. If you wait too long to banter/neg, it will be harder to do it
down the line, because it might seem out of character. The beauty of
the Brad P openers is youre bantering right from the get go.
Mysterys Girl Fight and Styles Jealous Girlfriend have banter lines
built into them, too.
Im giving you a shit-ton of lines to choose from. They go great with
the direct openers I gave you above with the possible exception of
the Movie Moment opener.
Buuuuuut, again, just pick ONE banter line. Practice it five times in
the mirror before going out. Then practice it at least on five different
sets out in the field. This one routine here will completely transform
your game. I know it did for me.
Also, KINO when you say your banter line. Kino and banter arent
separate. Theyre one. Kino here would be something like a light tap
on the arm or hand before you deliver the banter.
I broke the banter lines into five different characters. Thats where
the humor comes in. The words themselves are kind of funny, some
arent at all. The real humor comes from how you say the words.
From how you act out the character.
Also, each character has a sexual charge to it, because the
underlying character in all the banter lines is youre the dominant
one and shes cute. Youre the sexual selector, and shes chasing
you.
When you banter, honest-to-God ACT OUT the character, as if youre
pretending to be him or in some cases her.
Again, I know I sound like a broken record, but I want to drive this
point home PICK ONLY ONE LINE AT A TIME.
Dont make the mistake I made and try to learn all of them at once.
It will end in tragedy, I promise.
Pick one line, practice saying it in the mirror as a cocky guy, or a hot
valley girl, or a principal. Then go out in the field and practice it on
at least five sets. Thats the way I learned. Theres something about
practicing banter with another human that drills it into your bones.
Once you feel like the banter line is natural, THEN you can learn
another line. This is like learning another language. How to speak
Woman
Remember, learn just ONE line at a time.
Okay, here goes.
1. Banter Lines from Lance Mason, David DeAngelo, Brad P, Mystery,
and Style
I. The Judge (Judge Her)

What are you doing in a bar for godsakes? Cant you find a nice
normal guy? Are you desperate?
Wait. Youre a republican, arent you.
You girls are BAD girls. I have to watch out for you.
You guys are trouble. I can already tell.
I dont know about you yet.
She looks sweet and innocent but something tells me shes not.
Part of me wants to stay here and talk to you guys and part of me
wants to run as fast as I can.
Let me see you flirt. Wow, now that was terrible. It actually made
me go gay for a second.
Thats it, Im going to talk to those more interesting girls over there.
Oh my God you guys are like Charlies Angels. You can be Drew
Barrymore, you can be Lucy Liu, and you can be Bosley (to the
target) Lovedrop
Did you know that 93% of all women masturbate in the shower?
(their response) Do you know what the other 7% do? (they say
no) Oh. So youre one of the oneswho(nod knowingly) Brad P.
Did you know that when you sleep your heart actually stops for 45
minutes every night? Option A. She believes you: No you dork! You
know, you just failed the smart test. I dont know if I can hang out
with you anymore (smile of course to soften) OR Option B. She
doesnt believe you: You know what, you just passed the smart test.
I think you might be smart enough to hang out with me. Brad P.
II. Cocky Casanova
1. I AM GORGEOUS

Dont look at me like that. Youll get hypnotized and start thinking
naughty thoughts.
Stop it! Youre looking at me like a fat kid looks at a cheeseburger.
Stop looking at me like an ice cream cone. Its creeping me out.
Im not just a slab of hot young beefcake. Im a feelings man. I have
feelings you know.
2. STRAIGHT UP, IM AWESOME

Come here. Ill let you stand next to me for a minute.

Its ok. Im just a sexy man.
I used to be too modest. But, I worked at it, and now Im perfect.
Im not sure if youre aware of this, but Im sort of a big deal around
here. (Imitate Will Ferrell from Anchor Man)
No autographs please.
3. YOURE NOT MY TYPE

Note to self: Do NOT date this girl.

I can already tell, you and I are NOT going to get along. Were too
similar. If I hung out with you Id be bald with all the hair Id be
pulling out of my head.
I can already tell. You and I would NEVER get along. So dont even
try hitting on me.
Too bad youre not my type.
Youre not my type. Your boyfriend must be a really cool guy.
You are so beautiful, its a shame youre not my type. Its weird.
Logically I know youre a pretty girl. But I dont feel for you the way I
do with girls Im into. But we have such a good conversation.
Youd make a good friend.
I dont think Im your type (she: yes you are) But Im really weird
(she: I like that) Yeah but sometimes Im just like a little boy.
Man I would be such a horrible boyfriend. Id probably cheat on you,
never shower, your heart would be broken. You should go for that
guy over there. Lets go talk to him right now.
We definitely should not get to know each other. Youre too much of
a nice girl for me.
Its too bad that you (pick a random quality of hers, like she has
blonde hair) because I would totally get together with you.
Go talk to that guy over there (the most dorky guy there). Hes
perfect for you. Want me to introduce you? Because I will(walking
towards him)
(look her up and down) You cant have me.
Ive eaten girls like you for breakfast. You dont scare me.

4. I LIKE YOU KINDA

Thats it. Im making you my new girlfriend. Wait. Can you cook?
Im making you my new girlfriend. But on Tuesdays only. Youll be
my Tuesday Girlfriend. And if youre good you can work your way up
to my Friday Girlfriend. Thats where the real fun begins.
Oh my God you are so CUTE! Im going to take you home in my little
pocket and ask my roommates if I can keep you. Wait. Are you
housebroken?
Thats it, were getting married. Were gonna fly to Vegas tomorrow
and get married by a midget Elvis. Youll be Catwoman, and Ill be
Batman. Itll be awesome.
You know what Id do with you? Id totally dress you from head to
foot in a red PVC Devil outfit. With horns, pitch fork, tail, and of
course the bitch boots that go up to your thighs with the five inch
heels. Now your friend here (the target because everyone wants to
be the devil), Id dress her head to toe in a white, PVC angel outfit.
With a halo, fuzzy wings, a harp, and the bitch boots that up to your
thigh with the five inch heels. And then wed roll through the club
with one on each arm and wed make all the girls jealous. And
whenever Id have to make a decision, Id let the two of you fight
over which one is more fun. And whichever is more fun, wed do
that. (Tyler Durgen)
You know what I wanna do with you? I want us to go to the beach
together. Youd wear a nuns outfit and Id wear a priests outfit and
wed hold hands and make out in front of everybody. And everybody
would be like, what the fuck? Itd be awesome. -(Style)
You know what? Im gonna take you back to my place tonight. Ive
got aHoney I Shrunk the Kids machine. Id shrink us down to the
size of Ken and Barbie dolls and wed swim and explore my fish
tank. And wed find magical new lands and have amazing
adventures. (Love Drop)
You know what Id do with you? Id dress you up in black leather
head to toe because youre the bad one and Id dress you in white
leather head to toe because youre the good one. Then Id take you
in my space ship, wed travel the galaxy, and youd be my space
princesses. And then when wed come back to earth wed make all
the girls jealous. (Mehow)
Thats it. Im in love with you. Now what?
Youre way too sexy. Get out of here. No really go!
5. WERE BREAKING UP!

Im sorry this had to come our here tonight, but its over between
us.
Thats it. Im demoting you to my Tuesday girlfriend. But if you work
hard enough you can become my Friday girlfriend. Thats where the
real fun happens.
Im breaking up with you. You keep the cat. Ill keep the CDs.

6. ARE YOU GRABBING AT ME?

Did you just go for a feelsky?

Hey, hey, hey. Hands off the merchandise. This shit aint for free.
Thatll be forty dollars, missie.
Stop, dont touch me. I dont even know you.
Lady Im not going to make out with you! I have a girlfriend! Jeez.
Will you PLEASE stop touching me? (She: Oh, Im sorry, I didnt know
I was touching you.) Well you did. And if youre going to keep doing
it, Id appreciate it if youd touch a little Lower. (She: Touchy touchy)
Yes, I dont like being touched. So keep a foot or so between us
please. *Smile*
So, this is the part where you grab my ass.
7. OH YEAH? WANNA FIGHT?

You think you can take me? Lets take this outside.
III. Valley Girl
Quit looking at my chest. My eyes are up here!
I swear all you girls think about is one thing.
At least buy me a drink first.
Stop treating me like a mindless piece of meat.
Im not just a piece of meat. I have feelings. Im a feelings man.
I wore my old briefs tonight to make sure nothing happened.
I need lots of trust and comfort first.
Easy there, hardcore. Im dainty. Be gentle.
Why are girls always so logical? Why cant they just feel and be in
the moment?
Im CUTE! Not smart.
Youre getting me all emotional. I promised my friends I wouldnt go
home with anyone tonight.
Youre my new BFF! Best Friends Forever!
Uh, whatever.
You would.
You would say that.
Im putting you in my friends zone.
Im leaving you for someone richer and older. My inner-woman is too
high maintenance for you. -Style
Um, I have to go to the bathroom.
Whats that stuff they put in peoples drinks? (Roofies) Whoa!
Roofies? I was going to say vodka. I put vodka in my drinks. I dont
know what the fuck is up with you guys. I cannot trust you girls. Do
not leave me alone with these girls. This is a little creepy. -Lovedrop
IV. The Authority Figure

1. IM YOUR TEACHER DETENTION

Youve just earned yourself detention. Go to the Principals Office!

2. IM YOUR EMPLOYER HIRING OR FIRING YOU

Youre fired!
Youre hired. Im making you my new assistant.
Youre off the island!
3. IM YOUR POLICE OFFICER YOURE IN TROUBLE

Im giving you a ticket.

4. IM YOUR FATHER SPANK!

I dont know who your boyfriend is, but he is NOT spanking you
enough. Dont look at me. Im not doing the spanking. Im just
saying you need a good one.
Bad Girl! Go to my room.
I think someone needs a time-out.
No more love for you. Tough love is all you get from here on out.
V. The Innocent Victim Shes Sexy or Putting The Moves On YOu
Youre bad. Youre making me think impure thoughts.
I think I need permission to talk with you.
Quit corrupting me. Were wholesome people here.
My mom definitely wouldnt approve of this.
VI. Negs

1. NAME CALLING

Youre such a brat.

Youre such a dork.
Youre such a Power Puff Girl.
You usually hang out at the library, dont you.
Youre like my little sister. Lovable, but a little annoying.
So, how long have you been a crack head?
So, what was it like living in the half-way house?
Ok, little drunk girl.
Dear Diary, Renaissan is such a jerk (fill in with her complaint)
(After you do something she dislikes and she complains about it.)
(If she curses) Uh-oh, turret syndrome. (Imitate: Shit, fuck, mother-
fucker)
You are such a nerdat least youre nice
You would look so cute with a mowhawk!
You are so bad at being pretty.
Check this girl out. Shes amazing, and so bright and funny. Would
you believe shes never had a date?
You know what I love about you? Absolutely nothing.

2. OBSERVATIONS ALA MYSTERY

Nice nails, are they real? Oh. Well. I guess they still look good.
You have the cutest crooked smile.
Your nose wiggles when you laugh. Ha! There it goes again!
Nice hair, did you dye it? And you dyed it to that?
Nice shoes. I bet they were beautiful when they were new.
Do you always wear that lipstick?
I thought I loved you, then you pulled your straw out like that. That
was the most gross thing. You probably pick your toe nails.
Ew, you spit on me.
Theres something in your teeth.
Delicate shoulders, slim waist, birthing hips (and smile)
3. REACTING TO HER BAD BEHAVIOR

Man, you can dress her up but you cant take her anywhere.
How do you roll with this girl? Is she always like this?
Youve gotta get her out of the library more.
Did you forget to take your medication today?
Wheres your fun switch?
Is she always like this?
How do you guys roll with her?
Does she have an off button?
Wow, she poops words. I should have brought my raincoat.
Whatre you doing? Jeez. You mustve drove your parents crazy.
Alright, youre losing me. (turn away) (say if she says something
weird after a DHV spike)
Did you just wake up?
Oh I get it. You probably act like this all the time and probably get
away with it too, but I dont buy it. You probably act like a bitch and
convince people you are a bitch because so many dorks hit on you.
But I bet youre actually a really nice person. I bet youre really
loyal, and you really care about your friends and family, going out of
your way for them. Youre like a piece of hard candy thats rock hard
on the outside, but at the center is soft and sweet. (Brad P)

4. NON-VERBAL

Squint.
Put a finger up in her face while shes talking so you can hear the
other person talking.
Body Rock Away
Roll off.
Here hold this for me. (Then turn back and talk to someone else)
Mimic her
Stick your tongue out at her
2. Funny Stories VERY, VERY OPTIONAL! In place of a banter line
you can tell a funny story to make her laugh. But stories are way
longer and kinda cumbersome. You really dont need them. Banter
lines do the trick faster and theyre more interactive. Interactive =
way better.
These stories work only if you ACT THEM OUT. I know I keep
hammering this point home. But the humor comes in the personality
beneath the words. Make these stories visually fun, expressive,
emotional. Act out characters whenever they speak. Also, make sure
to check in with your audience, so its interactive.
I. The Restaurant

Get this. I was at this restaurant having lunch, the waiter walks past
and I say, Hey man, can I get the check? And hes like, Its been
already taken care of. Has that ever happened to you guys? Well,
its never happened to me. So I say to him, Who took care of it?
And he says, I cant tell you. So, Im likeright, one of my friends
must be fucking with me. So I look around and I see some couples
some business lunchesand THEN I see this guy smiling at me from
across the way. And Im like, great. So, I go over to him and Im like,
Listen, I appreciate it, Im really flattered, but its not going to
happen. Im not GAY (goofy, dorky voice). And he looks me straight
in the eye (do weirded out look) and say, I have no idea what
youre talking about. I was so embarrassed. Lovedrop
II. Wrong Number

Do you ever answer phone calls you dont recognize? Dont you
think sometimes its a mistake though? Cuz I totally made this
mistake last weekend. I get this phone call and its this chick. Shes
like Hey is Renaissan there? I say Yeah, this Renaissan. Shes
like Oh my God, this is Melissa youll never believe what happened
to me today. She totally shoots off into this whole story about her
day. The whole time Im thinking, who the fuck is Melissa? And so
finally I had to stop her and was like wait a minute how do I know
you? And shes like (frustrated) Among other things, I meet you at
the bars over the weekend. I was like, its still not ringing a bell.
She goes: Well, do you even remember FUCKING me? So, now Im
like holy shit what happened here? Wait, who did you say you were
calling? This is Renaissan. RIGHT? Yeah. Renaissan who?
Renaissan D. RIGHT? Noooo-ho-ho. Youve got the wrong phone
number. Cuz, you see Renaissan D is my really good friend who
apparently likes to give my number out to girls he never wants to
talk to again. But Ill tell you though I know he wasnt ready for
the phone call he got because I gave her the right number. Bam.
Joey from Pickup 101
III. Revolving Door

What should a guy of for a woman at a revolving door? Well, get

this. Im at Neiman Marcus, right? And Im kinda walking up to a
revolving door and in the reflection I see this really hot girl walking
up, and Im like Oh my God I wanna open the door. So, Im
pushing the door and I kind of get stuck in the compartment behind
the girl. And Im pushing the door so Im like (demo dry humping
her) Anyway, the door opens and she kinda stumbles out (act out
stumble out) and she like (pause, weird look) Um, am I like
supposed to tip you are something? Anyway, I got 20 bucks out of
it. Not a bad gig. Lance Mason, Pickup 101
IV. Bisexual Thug

Did you just grab my ass? Everyone keeps grabbing my ass. Get
this. Im out with my friends having a kick-ass time and I meet this
girl that I totally hit it off with. One of my friends walks up to me and
whispers in my ear (exaggerated watch out voice), Hey man, I
think she has a boyfriend and hes standing over there. I turn to
look and I see this HUMUNGOUS 250 pound guy. Bald headand he
does not look happy AT ALL. His arms were folded and hes eyeing
me, looking me up and down, like this (demo) while this girl is all
giggly and touching my arm (demo)and Im FREAKING out. So I go
back to my friends and later that night I walk past the two of them
and I overhear the girl say to the big guy, Hey, there goes that
guy. And I hear this HUMUNGOUS guy say in this REALLY effeminate
voice, Too bad. He was thooooo cute. Go hurry up and find me
anotfer one. Style
V. Accidental Threesome

Have you ever had a threesome? Well, I had my first one last week.
Get this. This girl took me home and I wake up at like 4 am to take a
leak. I crawl back into bed to cuddle with her and the next thing I
know this guy and girl are screaming at me, What the fuck are you
doing feeling up my girl? Ahhhh! Rapist! I was disoriented, so it
took me a few minutes to figure out what had happened. I had
crawled into bed with my girls roommate and her boyfriend. It was
my first threesome. And let me tell you it was fantastic. adapted
from Cosmo magazine

3. Kino. Do within 30 SECONDS of opening, with Banter. Again just

PICK ONE.
Touch her arm, step back, banter. (Example: Hey you guys seem
fun. Touch arm. Wait. Step back. Youre Republican, arent you.
High Five or Knock Fists a girl if she says something cool.
Fun Handshakes and High Fives
DOWN LOW: Slap me five. To the side. Down low. (Pull hand away)
Too slow.

DRUNK GIRLFRIEND HANDSHAKE: Do you know the San Diego

handshake? Ok hold out your hand (slap each side of the hand then
knock fists) But a little more loose. Loosen up. Go like this (horse-
like blowing out of air and shake) Good job Ok go like this. (Do
handshake again) But not so hard. It hurts. (Do it a third
time) Thats cool. Do you know the L.A. handshake? Okay, go like
this. (shake hands, curl fingers together, thumb lock, knock
fists) Nice. Okay, do you know the NY handshake? Make a fist. Now
go like this. (bump fist from top, then from bottom, knock fists) Very
good. Okay, now go like this. (put out forearm, squiggle each other
down each others forearms) Again. (Do it a second time) Now one
more time? (Do it a third time.) (She: whats that? I dont know.
Some drunk girl showed me that. (She laugh but Back turn/roll off
like you dont care) (-Love Drop)
SAN FRANCISCO HANDSHAKE: Heres the New York Handshake. Now
do you know the San Francisco Handshake? This is how they
actually shake hands in San Francisco. (Two air kisses on either side
of her cheek) (in a really gay voice) Oh my gawd! You look
FANTABULOUS! (Spin her around maybe?) Have you lost weight? We
so have to go shopping together. Youd buy me the best cashmere
sweater ever! Thats actually how they shake hands in San
Francisco, I swear to God.
Spin Moves

STEAL HER SEAT: Wait, so go like this for a sec? (put out your hand
so she puts her in yours) Now stand up? (Stand her up) (Steal her
seat/sit in her spot) Oh! Just kidding. I can only stay a sec. Hey, stay
close. Now, get this(story, trivia, DHV game)
SPIN MOVE: Here go like this (take her hand, lift it up, and spin her
around) Very niceI bet you were a ballet geek OR Very nice, very
graceful. Thats what you get for being good. (she: what do I get for
being bad?)
Hugs

HUG TEST
Okay weve been talking for like 5 minutes and I have to see if you
give good hugs or not. Otherwise Im going to have to stick you into
the friend zone. (She hugs you)
B -.
(Hug her so both your hearts touch)
So many of us hug without our hearts touching. A true hug is when
your hearts touch. Now thats a hug. A +.
Okay, thats enough. Get off me.
Daring Kino

SPANK HER ASS

PICK HER UP
Kino Test: The kino test is HUGE. Its like asking a question. If she
answers yes, then take a step further. Then break it off first. Dont
wait for her to do it. Always leave HER wanting more. This is the
dance of seduction.

KINO TEST #1

Youve made the girls laugh. When youre about to leave (a.k.a.
false takeaway) reach out your hand and see if she takes it.
If she takes your hand, squeeze it. If she squeezes back, STAY!
KINO TEST #2

Heres another trick. After the handshake, slide your fingers off her
hand. That way its no longer a business as usual handshake, but
a sensual one in a subtle way.
Get your ass back in the set, qualify her dammit! Are you a creative
person? You can then test her creativity by isolating her within
the set and doing something like the Cube on her.
If shes slow to go for the high-five, shes probably not attracted yet.
Continue with your takeaway and leave. You can come back later.
When you do, demonstrate value to her friends. If youve won over
her friends, youll probably win her over, too.
KINO TEST #3

Heres another kino test. Lets say you high-five her instead of
shaking her hand. If she complies, dont release her hand yet.
Instead, take her hand thats still in yours and put it behind your
back, out of the view of the others.
Squeeze her hand. If she squeezes back, move your fingers to her
fingers and play with them. This is EXTREMELY sensual. And the best
part is its discreet. If she doesnt move her hand away, shes
definitely attracted. Throw her hand away and roll off.
As always, youre balancing interest with disinterest here. It also
shows you have self-control.
4. Contingencies. Its good to have a few contingencies prepared.
Youll hear the same old questions over and over. And the same shit
tests. And the same interrupts. And the same whatever else. Its
good to be prepared, so youre not thrown off guard by any of these
patterns that WILL come up.
I. What do you do?

Im a glorified bum.
My passion is (fill in whatever your passion is speaking
EMOTIONALLY rather than factually)
II. Where are you from?

From the glimmer in my fathers eyes.

Well, my mother is Caribbean and my father is Italian. Its funny
because Caribbeans are know for their incredible carnivals, and
Italians are known for food, wine, festivities, the fine things in life.
And I turned out to be a bookworm. Go figure.
III. Whats your name?

JustinTimberlake.
IV. How old are you?

Im 65. Let me order. I get the senior discount.

V. Do you have a girlfriend? (Credit: Brad P)

No (ashamed, sad). I have 8 girlfriends (happy like a 4 year old)!

Yeah its no big whoop, its not big deal. They all get together and
swap recipes so they can learn how to cook my favorite food. But Ill
tell you somethingand I dont usually do thisbut Ive been
searching for a ninth girlfriend. And I dont know you very well yet
but I have a really good feeling about you and I want to know if you
want to be my ninth girlfriend. Right now. (she wants to be #1)
I know, I know. Ill tell you what. I NEVER do this, so please dont tell
anyone, but I can make you #6, right now. Im making you #6. (she
still wants to be #1)
You know what? I can make you #3, but thats my final offer. Final
offer. (She accepts)
Hey guys, I dont know if she told you, but were boyfriend and
girlfriend, so Im going to spend a little alone time with my
girlfriend. Well be back in a little bit.
VI. Youre short.

Yes I am. Great things come in small packages.

VII. Will you buy me a drink?

Id be happy to. But let me get to know you better first.

Why dont you buy me a drink?
I dont even know you yet.
What, do you go around asking all the guys this?
This is moving too fast.
Oh my God! Are you trying to get me drunk?
VIII. Will you hold my purse?

You gotta be kidding me you just asked me to hold your purse. Do I

have to give you the look?
IX. Any other demand

Before I do that, give me at least one compliment.

X. I have a boyfriend.

Maybe he can make us breakfast in bed.

Cool. Anyway
Thats cool. I have an uncle that has 5 cats. 4 blue ones and 1 red
one. He dyed them blue and red. You should check it out sometime.
Anyway
XI. Do you say this to all the girls?

Yes, youre the 512 th person Ive said this to today.

XII. Does this make me look fat?

Yeah I wasnt going to say anything.

XIII. She says something egotistical:

Ive eaten girls like you for breakfast.

XIV. Any Shit Test.

Cute.
Anyway.
Whatever.
The capital of France is Jupiter.
7+3=947.
Do you always wear that lipstick? Anyway
XV. External Interrupts

Introduce me, its the polite thing to do.

XVI. Internal Interrupts

Hello Im talking here. Jeez. Is she always like this?

May I finish my sentence first?
XVII. She Gets Distracted

Hey ADD Partys over here.

Hey, Partys over here.
XVIII. Extreme Rudeness

Oh, that was weird.

Wow, that was rude.
Wow, youre really snotty, arent you.
Anyway
XIX. Playful Questions

I just figured out where youre from. The Congo! (or whatever
obviously is opposite to her nationality)
I bet I can guess your major. Underwater Basket Weaving.
I bet I can guess what you do. (Cold read her)
XX. Playful Compliments

You are so adorableits sickening!

Oh my God, youre a ballet dancer? Thats so cool! I cant even
talk to you right now.
You are the shittoo bad youre not my type.
A2 ATTRACT, part 2 of 2. (Introduce Who You Are a.k.a DHV)
Again, pick only ONE! Are you sick of me saying this yet? Practice it
five times to commit it to memory, five times in front of the mirror to
get the delivery right, and five times out in the field. Master just
one. Then you can move on and learn another.
I know Im giving you a lot of stuff here, and it can be overwhelming.
But remember it doesnt mean you gotta learn em all before you go
out. You only need ONE solid DHV, followed by one solid qualifier.
Okay, so where are we so far?
So far, youve opened, youve bantered, and youve softened your
banter with a little appreciation. For example, to soften your banter
you could say something like you guys seem cool. You dont mind a
complete stranger coming up to you and bantering. Or whatever
you come up with.
After youve done that, now its time to ANCHOR that attraction with
some substance. Shes probably asking herself now, who is this
person? Answer it. In other words, introduce who you are to her.
Some examples.
1. Tell Her What Your Passion Is. Below is my own personal passion.
Obviously fill it in with your own.
My passion in life is writing.And I cant think of better way to have
stuff to write about than to go up to complete strangers and talk
with them. Are you a passionate person? What lights you up?
2. Make An Observation About Her. These are great because youre
showing value but IN TERMS OF HER. Help her and her friends have
a good time. Show your personality by taking the spotlight off
yourself.
::: THE RINGS ROUTINE :::

I have to ask before I run. Do you always wear a ring on that finger?
(OR if shes not wearing rings) Do you usually not wear any rings?
The reason Im asking is the finger a person chooses to put a ring on
says something about their personality. Someone did this on me and
I dont how much truth there is to it, but she nailed me down pretty
good. The fact you wear a ring on that finger (OR that you wear no
rings) says something fascinating about you.
Here, let me see your hand. Back in ancient Greece, each mound
represented a different god. And a person back then would put a
ring on the associated finger to honor that god. (Save the finger she
has a ring on for last)
For example, the thumb represented Hades, the god of the
underworld. He was one of the few gods that lived separate from
Mount Olympus, just like the thumb is separate from the other
fingers. So, someone who wears a ring on this finger is independent
and doesnt like to follow other peoples trends. Instead, they like to
make their own.
The index finger was Zeus, and he was the king of the gods. And
just like when a mother is scolding their daughter (act this out),
someone who wears a ring on this finger has an inclination to take
charge.
The middle finger was Dionysus, the god of wine and partying and
having a great time. And just like this finger represents something
thats not G-rated, someone who wears a ring on this finger has a
little bit of a wild side.
The ring finger is one of the coolest. This was Aphrodite, the
goddess of love. And you can look this up, its true. This finger is the
only one that has a vein that goes straight to your heart without
branching off. (demo line going from finger to her heart). So anyone
who wears a ring on this finger is actually making a direct
connection with their heart. Thats why to this day well wear our
wedding ring on this finger.
Finally, the pinky finger was Ares, the god of war. And youll notice a
lot of mobsters will wear their ring on this finger. Someone who
wears a ring on this finger has some inner turmoil or conflict within.
They like to fight. And if you had given someone a pinky ring back
then it mean fuck you or go to hell.
And for someone who doesnt wear rings, like me that meant you
were aligned with Hermes. He was one of the most mischievous of
the gods. And he was the one that flew from Mount Olympus to
earth. So, someone who doesnt wear rings is open-minded, loves to
travel, likes to be helpful, but has a little bit of a mischievous side.
And thats definitely me.
So, you are
Is there any truth to that?
So, what about you. (Qualify) Style
::: THE BEST FRIEND TEST :::

Okay, I have to ask. How long have you known each other? (She:
answers)
See I knew that. (She: how?)
Well, for one, you have the same exact smile. And for two, well, let
me just give you the test. Ill give you the Best Friend Test. (She:
agrees)
Do you use the same shampoo? (They look at each other first)
You dont even have to answer, you already passed. You looked at
each other before even answering the question. You just did it again.
And again.
See, if you werent close, youd keep eye contact with me. But when
two people have a connection, they make eye contact first, even
over something as mundane as shampoo.
You guys are awesome. Too bad Im taken though. (or whatever
disqualifer/neg) How do you guys know each other? Style
::: EYE ACCESSING CUES :::

I just learned this cool thing. Whats amazing is you can learn
whether someones lying or telling the truth by reading their eye
movements. For example, if you could take a vacation anywhere in
the world, where would you go?
The reason I asked you is because I wanted to see how your eyes
moved. We all favor different directions when we think about
something. People who are visual will look up for a picture. (demo)
People who are logical, like lawyers and accountants tend to look to
the side when they think. (demo)
People who live in their emotions, or who learn by touch, look down
when they think. (demo)
You are a person because you looked
The thing is, we use them all at different times, depending on what
were experiencing. But you can tell a lot about how a person thinks
by what direction they favor the most.
Return to topic of their ideal vacation, connect then qualify Style
::: C & U SMILES :::

Smile for me again? Ah, you have a U Smile.

The U Smile is when you smile and your teeth go straight back into
your mouth like a horse. Its perceived as unfriendly.
The C Smile is when you smile and all you see is a row of pearly
whites in the front. Its perceived as friendly.
Brittney Spears has a C Smile and Christina Aguillera has a U Smile.
And if you ever look on the cover of like Cosmo or Glamour, youll
see the girl always has a C Smile.
I heard about this girl in L.A. who took the theory so seriously that
she actually had her teeth surgically removed so she could have a C
Smile. She wanted to become a Pop-Star and thought that would
help her chancesL.A. girls are crazy anyway.
But you have a U Smile. But dont worry, I still think youre hotin
that short school bus sort of way. Style
::: BRAD PS PALM READING ROUTINE :::

(Bend her wrist, so multiple lines show) One line means youre a
virgin, two lines means you have average sex experience, and three
lines means youre a super sex expert, sex guru, sex ninja. And you
have like 12 lines.
By looking at this, I can tell that youre great in relationships, you
make a great girlfriend. And right now youre kind of dating around,
seeing a few different guys, and the weirdest thing is happening to
you. You tend to go on one or two dates with a guy, and then you
think that you like him. After two dates, you lose all attraction for
him and you dont know why.
Now by looking at this, I can tell that you have a very good sense of
humor. Its kind of an off beat sense of humor. Okay, do you see this
line that intersects with it? That means sometimes you dont get the
joke. Like has your friends ever asked if you have blonde roots?
Okay, now this is your life line and you have another line thats
parallel to this. Now by looking at the parallel line I can tell what you
were in a former life. You were a mermaid/unicorn/butterfly/lady
bug/horse/or any other female friendly animal. Now your life line is
really long. Youre going to live to be very, very old. But theres a
split in it. Now what this is, is this is a near death experience. Youre
going to go into the tunnel, youre totally going to see the light, and
then youre going to come back and the world is going to look a lot
different to you. Its going to be a real intense experience.
Now, a little further down you have another cross and what that is,
is that is a life changing experience. Okay, hold on, hold on, (close
eyes) Im getting a vision, Im getting a vision, Im getting a vision.
Okay, I can see it. (open eyes) Youre going to meet a handsome,
caramel-flavored man when youre in you twenties (or however old
she is). Its going to be a life-changing experience. I cant quite
make out his face but hes wearing (describe what youre wearing)
and standing in a bar. Oh, its gone. I lost it. Im sorry. But thats
your future right there.
3. VERY VERY SUPER OPTIONAL. Honestly, I shouldnt even put these
in. You dont need any of these silly routines. They dont create
attraction. Theyre just entertaining filler, like bubble gum or soda or
a magazine quiz.
Theyre useful only if youd like something to multiple thread with.
That is, if you see one of the girls in your set losing attention, you
can bring her back by throwing one of these goofy things out there.
But seriously, you dont need em.
I. Trivia with Numbers (used to multiple-thread)

1. ::: 9s :::

Okay heres a piece of useless trivia. How many 9s are there

between 1 and 100. Its actually 20. Because you have to count 90,
91, 92, 93, and 99 you count twice. Mystery
2. ::: DAYS IN A HUMAN LIFE :::
Okay, heres a sobering fact for you. How many days do you think
there are in an average human life? Dont try to do the math or
anything, just tell me the number that you think it is. 28,000. Isnt
that sobering? It just goes to show how limited our time on this
earth is. Makes you ask what youre doing with your life, doesnt it.
My passion is Whats yours? Adapted from Mystery
3. ::: CONSECUTIVE DAYS :::

Heres a brain teaser for you that I couldnt even get. Can you say
three consecutive days without using the words Monday, Tuesday,
Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, or Sunday? Answer:
Yesterday, Today, Tomorrow.
4. ::: ESP :::

So, do you believe in ESP? No, yes? Well, lets try a little
experiment. Ill see if I can read your mind. Pick a number between
1 and 4. Dont say it outloud, just think it and Ill try to read you
mind. Ready? Was it three? Was it really? Okay, lets up it up. Think
of a number between 1 and 10 and Ill try to read. Dont say it out
loud, just think it. Was it seven? It wasnt? Youre shitting me.
Cmon. Well, thats why ESP is bullshit. Last try. Think of a number
between 1 and 1. Dont say it out loud, just think it Mystery
5. ::: THE LYING GAME :::

Okay, lets test to see how good of a liar you are. This is the Lying
Game. It makes it a little fun if get a wager involved. How about a
dollar? Okay, these are the rules. Im going to ask you 5 questions
and you have to answer each one of them wrong. If you get one
right, then I win. But if you get all questions wrong, then you win.
Okay? 1. Whats the color of my shirt? 2. What city are we in? 3.
What month is it? 4. How many was that? 5. Man, youre good at
this. Have you played this before? OH! I got you! Gets em every
time. If you ever want to get a free drink, this is how you do it. Oh,
and by the way, for playing you get to be part of the PEN15 Club.
Here (write PEN15 inside her forearm) Go ahead and read it. (Its
supposed to say penis) I swear, everything that was funny in
seventh grade is funny again as adults. Why is that? Style

II. Jokes, Unanswered Questions, and Trivia: (used as filler)

1. Bad Jokes
8 9: Why is 6 scared of 7? Because 7 ate 9.
AIR & SEX: Why is air a lot like sex? Its no big deal unless youre not
getting any.
POPCORN: What did the baby corn say to the mom corn? Popcorn.
PENIS IMPLANT: Yeah, I dont mean to brag or anything but I got a
bit of plastic surgery done, and it went really well. Yeah, well it cost
a lot of money, but it was totally worth it. Well, its a secret. Ok. I
got a penis implant. (Proudly with the feeling that youre enormous
now) Im 4 inches now. -Brad P
2. Unanswered Questions

CONGRESS: If con is the opposite of pro, then whats the opposite of

progress? (congress) Exactly.
ONE HAND CLAP: Whats the sound of one hand clapping?
3. Useless Trivia

ELVIS: Get this. Did you know that Elvis dyed his hair black? Guess
what his natural hair color was. Blonde. (Well, dirty blonde) No one
really know why he dyed his hair black. Some say it was because he
was a big admirer of Roy Orbison, others say it was because his
mother dyed her hair black, and still others think it was because he
thought it would bring out his blue eyes more. In any case, can you
imagine the man who revolutionized rock n roll, the king, as a
blonde Beach Boy. Just doesnt seem the same. See this? All natural.
What about you? Oh, cool. And you changed it to that? Adapted
from Mystery
CUTTING ONIONS: Did you know that if you chew gum while
chopping onions, it stops you from crying?
ANIMALS: Elephants are the only mammal that cant
jump. Kangaroos cant walk backwards. Penguins are the only bird
that can swim, but not fly.
THE THREE MOST TOLD LIES: What are the 3 most told lies? The first
is, the check is in the mail (or well call you) The second one is, look
this is only going to hurt a little bit. And the third one is, oh come
on. Im not going to come in your mouth. -Lovedrop
A3 QUALIFY, part 1 of 3
In my humble opinion, qualification is more important than DHV. Its
the turning point of the attract phase. Get to the turning point as
soon as you can so you can move the story along. And get to the
turning point within 3 5 minutes. Sometimes you can even open
with a qualifier if she shows signs shes interested before you
approach. Without qualification you wont get to the next phase, you
wont be able to connect with her.
Qualification is more important, in my opinion, also because it
makes her invest. DHV youre doing the work, in qualification, she
works. Besides, you get to learn about her. Along with DHV,
qualification creates mutual self-disclosure. Again, it begins a
connection with her, yet challenges her at the same time.
Qualification is basically banter/neg in question form. Its not just a
comfortable get-to-know-you question. Theres an edge. Its like
an interviewer wanting to see if a candidate makes the cut or not.
Same thing here. Does she make the cut for you? Youre evaluating
her. It implies youve got high status, and it makes her work to
convince you shes good enough for you.
The community makes a big deal out of negs/DHV. Banter is the key
to attraction. But so is qualification. Whats your goal when you
approach? Banter first. Then get to qualification. By the way, you
can qualify within the set or you can do it in isolation.
As always, Im gonna give you a ton of qualifiers, but guess what?
You only need to pick one. Amazing, right? Credit goes to Mystery for
most of these. Pick the one that sounds like it fits your personality.
Here goes.
1. Whats Beyond Your Looks?
What makes you unique?
So, what have you got going for you besides your looks?
Is there more to you than meets the eye?
What are your three best qualities?
There are lots of beautiful women here. But more important than
beauty is a positive outlook, a curiosity and willingness to grow (or
fill in three qualities that are important to you). Outside of your
good looks, what would make someone want to get to know you
better?
Who are you?
What type of character are you?
Are you adventurous?
Are you fun?
Are you spontaneous?
2. Are You Passionate?
Are you a passionate person?
What are you passionate about?
What lights you up?
If a genie came along and you could be POOF anything you want to
be what would you choose? And dont say princess.
Whats something you could do for hours?
Whats something you enjoyed doing when you were seven?
If you could be famous for anything, what would it be?
Whats the one thing you cant say no to?
You know, a lot of people say theyre going to do a lot of certain
things, but when it comes down to it, its just talk. Are you like this?
3. What Abilities Do You Have?
What talents do you have that would surprise me?
Can you cook?
Can you dance?
4. What Interests Do You Have?
If you could choose any art to do, what would it be and what would
it be about?
If you could wake up anywhere in the world tomorrow, where would
it be?
What would you do if money were no object?
Is there something youve dreamed of doing for awhile? Why
havent you done it?
If you came across a genie one day and he could give you any wish,
what would it be? And dont say I wish for more wishes.
If a genie gave you a million dollars, what would you do with it?
What do you want to be when you grow up? And dont say princess.
A3 STATEMENT OF INTEREST, part 2 of 3
Oh my God I LOVE this girl!
You know what? Youre actually pretty cool. Im curious about you.
Are you single?
A3 ISOLATE OR NUMBER CLOSE, part 3 of 3
1. Isolation Close
(To her friends) Hey guys, Ive been kind of mean to your friend. Is it
okay if I talk to her for a sec? Well be right over there. (kino: lead
her by the hand or put her arm on yours and lead her to an isolation
spot in the venue.)
(To her) Hey, check this out (turn your back so youre just facing
your target instead of the whole group and do something like the
cube. Mini-isolation. Credit: Lance Mason)
2. Number Close
We should totally hang out sometime. Lets exchange info and we
can grab a cup of tea. (After you exchange numbers, dont leave.
Talk for a bit. You could even call her right there and then on the
phone and flirt.) Hello, this is the sex god. Man, I just met this great
girl. Shes really cute and smart and Im really excited about
meeting her. (Whatever. Make her laugh, then hang up and make a
date) So, when are you free? (Set up the date right NOW to avoid
phone game later. Ask what HER schedule is like. Dont constantly
offer up days that she can say shes not free on. Now you can jet.
Talk a few minutes after you exchange numbers, and itll avoid
buyers remorse for her.)
Im having such a great time but I gotta get going. We should totally
get together again because I love talking with you. Whats the best
way to get a hold of each other again? (Note: the word because
increases the chance of her complying. Doesnt even have to be a
good reason. Just adding the word because in there makes it more
likely shell agree.)
PHASE TWO: COMFORT
CREATE AN EMOTIONAL CONNECTION
1. DHV/Emotional Connection. These can be done right after you
qualify her, during the attract phase. For example, Styles Eliciting
Values routines works great as a followup to the question what are
you passionate about? But you can use these in isolation too.
::: STYLES EV ::: (Taken from Rules of The Game, by Neil Strauss)

Hey, as long as were talking, lets do something interesting.

Someone just did this with me recently. Its a great, quick way to get
to know someone. In fact, a lot of people dont even know this about
themselves. (Whats that?)
Its just three questions. Its easy, and itll tell you what really drives
and motivates you in life. (That would be cool. Whats the first
question?)
The first one is: If you had to choose one thing you need to have in
your life in order to feel like life is worthwhile, what would it be? [OR
name something you really enjoy doing.] (She answers)
Okay, if you have {worthwhile thing} in your life, what kinds of
things does that allow you to do or experience? [OR Describe your
perfect experience of {worthwhile thing}. Either the best time you
had doing it or your ideal scenario of {worthwhile thing}]. (She
answers)
Okay, imagine a time in the future or even now hen you have
{worthwhile thing} in your life. And this enables you to do {use her
words to paint a picture of worthwhile thing}. How would that make
you feel inside? (I dont know) You smiled as you were imagining it.
What was that feeling you got inside? (names feeling)
Yes, thats it. {Feeling} is your core value. In other words, its what
really motivates you. Some people say they want to be an actor, and
they think its because they want to be famous. But the truth is,
what they really want is to feel {feeling}. And its funny, because
when we were talking about imagining it earlier, you actually felt it
for a second. It was really cool. (She: Yeah, I did)
Awesome. We fulfilled you life goal in five minutes. You can die now.
(She laughs). But seriouslyand this is the real lessonwhenever you
have to make an important life decision, whether its about a job or
a guy or a friend, just ask yourself if it brings you closer to that
feeling. If it does, then you should pursue it. If it doesnt, then you
should move away from it. (She: Wow, thats really interesting)
Thatll be fifty dollars. I dont do this shit for free you know.
::: ROSS JEFFRIES INSTANTANEOUS CONNECTION PATTERN ::: The
words in caps are words to emphasize slightly. They are embedded
commands for a woman to feel those feelings.

Have you ever felt an INSTANTANEOUS CONNECTION with someone?

Like maybe as you were there, looking at them, and you started to
LISTEN INTENTLY, it was like there was a CORD OF LIGHT going from
you to them? And as that cord began to GLOW, WITH THE WARMTH
of that connection, maybe you were even able to IMAGINE A TIME IN
THE FUTURE, say six months from now, still FEELING THAT SENSE OF
INCREDIBLE CONNECTION, and LOOKING BACK ON TODAY as having
been the start of it? (She: Oh yeah)
See, I think its so funny how some people can JUST DO THAT and
LET IT HAPPEN because for me it takes longer. But I do find that in
the course of an evening, as you REALLY LISTEN to someone, and
you START TO RECOGNIZE those values in them that you hold so
dearly for yourself WITH ME thats when you can MAKE THAT
CONNECTION and FEEL THAT GROWING BOND.
2. Emotional Connection. This is the meat and potatoes of emotional
connection. A lot of comfort is normal but interesting conversation,
but to create an emotional connection it can be very helpful to
sprinkle one or two of these routines.
::: STYLES SECRET SELF ROUTINE ::: (Taken from Rules of The
Game, by Neil Strauss)

You know, a lot of people try to repress the parts of themselves they
dont like. But that never works. When you try to repress something,
youre basically pushing it down on a spring. Eventually, its going to
release full force and take over your personality. Its interesting,
because a friend recently did this psychological test with me, and it
taught me that instead of denying the parts of yourself you dont
like, theres a better way to handle them. (Whats that?)
Ill tell you what. Ill quickly do it with you. Its just four questions.
But for it to work, you have to be totally honest. (Okay)
The first question is the toughest. Whats the part of your
personality that you like the least? This is the part of yourself that
you dont like to show other peopleyour secret selfwhich maybe
you sometimes even wish you could get rid of. (She says a negative
trait)
Okay, if you could give this part of you a name, what would it be?
For example, a friend of mine said his problem was that he was too
controlling, and he named this part of him Dexter. (Okay, Ill call it
)
Good. What does {name} look like? Describe her features and what
shes wearing. For example, my friend said Dexter was a red baby,
floating in the air with a pitchfork and a forked tail like a devil. (She
gives a description)
Okay. Now heres the key question. That part of ourselves that we
dont like probably once had a purpose that no longer serves us. So
if we give it a new purpose thats helpful to our lives, we dont have
to repress it anymore. For example, when my friend did the
exercise, he had to find a useful job for his controlling nature. And
since hes an actor, he made Dexter his manager. So Dexter helps
him rehearse, gets him to the set on time, critiques his
performance, and drives him to make the right choices about his
career. Another friend of mine had an anger problem, but now he
uses that energy as his personal trainer in the gym to make him
work our harder. So for {name}, what job can you give her that
would be constructive to your life rather than destructive. (She give
her a job)
Thats perfect. So {name} cam be your {job}, and help you with
your life rather than hindering it. Its a pretty amazing exercise. I
think we need to talk about something shallow now, though, like
reality TV.
::: THE CUBE ::: (Adapted from The Pickup Community)

Have you ever done the cube? Its a personality test. Once you do
the cube, you can never do it again. Its rumored to be of ancient
Sufi origin. Theres no right or wrong. Im just going to ask you to
imagine a few things, and Ill tell you what they mean afterwards.
Cool?
Imagine a landscape. And in the landscape theres a cube. Do you
see the cube? Is it big or is it small? Is it on the ground or is it
floating in the air? Is it transparent, can you see through it or is it
solid? Any particular color or design?
Ok, add to this a ladder. See the ladder? Where is it in relation to the
cube? Is it tall or is it short? Is it easy or hard to climb up it?
Now, picture some flowers. Do you see a few or a lot? Where are
they? Are they all one kind or different kinds? Okay, describe them.
What do they look like? What color are they? And when you see
them, whats your first thought? How do they make you feel?
Okay, add a horse. See the horse? Where is it? Whats it doing?
What does it look like? If you gave me three words to describe the
personality of this horse, what would they be?
Okay last thing. Add to the picture a storm. See the storm? Is it
violent or gentle? Where is it? Is it faraway or close up? Is it fucking
shit up or is it more quiet?
Do you want to know what all this means? I just made it up. Its a
joke. Are you mad? (laughs) No, Im kidding. It actually means
something. (joke ala Style)
Answer Key:
>>> 1. Cube : represents you. The bigger the cube, the bigger your
ego. If the cube is transparent, you are open to others, you dont
hide anything from your friends or family. If you cannot see through
the cube, it means that you are a private person and dont talk
much about yourself.
If the cube is made out of something solid and strong, it means that
you are a strong person. If it is soft, it means that you can be easily
influenced and you are emotional.
How you think about the cube represents how you think about
yourself. A cube which is on the ground indicates that you are down
to earth, while a floating cube shows that you are a dreamer. If you
see the flat side of the cube, you have a shallow personality, if you
see the cube in 3D, you have a deep personality.
If the cube is in the centre it means that you like the attention and
you like to be praised.
The color of the cube represents your personality. In general, if the
cube is light you are a positive person and the darker it is the more
negative you are. However it may not always be so, you should
always pay attention to how you feel about the color. If you like the
color then you are a likeable personality, it the color seems cold to
you, you seem distant to people.
Here is a general guide to the cube colors:
Black can represent the dark side.
White symbolizes innocence and a non-judgemental personality.
Red is the color of dominance and power.
Yellow color of the cube shows that the person loves attention. It
also represents playfulness and optimism like the sun.
Green represents compassion.
Blue represents knowledge and calmness.
Purple represents luxury.
Brown shows stability. Brown is the most common cube color among
men.
>>> 2. Ladder : The ladder represents your ambitions. If its easy to
climb you might feel your ambitions are easy to attain, hard to climb
and you might feel its difficult. Tall ladder is high ambitions, a low
ladder is low ambitions. If the ladder is far away, your ambitions
might feel distant, close to the cube and its attainable.
(The ladder can also represent your friends. The closer the ladder to
the cube, the closer you are with your friends. If the ladder is
leaning against the cube, this indicates that some friends are relying
on you or expecting you to act according to their wishes.
If the ladder is far away from the cube, it may mean that you either
have no friends or you dont consider their friendship important to
you. You either mentally or physically like to distance yourself from
your friends. The more rungs the ladder has, the more friends you
have.)
>>> 3. Flowers: Flower/s : The flower represents your children. If
the flower is close to the cube, that means you are close to your
children. Many flowers or no flowers represent whether you want
lots of children or none. What you feel about the flowers indicates
how you might feel about having children.
>>> 4. Horse : The horse represents your ideal partner and how you
behave in relationships.
If it is a wild horse, it means that you give freedom to your partner,
if the horse is tied it means you want to be in control and you always
want to know where your partner is and what he/she is doing. If the
horse is tied to the cube that shows that you are a very possessive
person.
The distance between the cube and the horse shows how close or
distant you are in relationships. How the horse behaves also shows
what kind of partner you would like to have.
If the horse is running or does not stand for long in one place, it
means that you want to have a partner that would like to travel,
would be full of energy and would always be involved in something.
If the horse does nothing but stands or eats, it means that you want
to have a partner that likes to be at home and rarely travels.
The look of a horse can also indicate the physical features of your
ideal partner. The better the appearance of the horse, the better
looking partner you would like to have.
>>> 5. Storm : The storm is the problems in your life and how you
deal with difficulties in life. If it is a big storm, then you always try to
make a drama out of something. If the storm is small and far away
from you, it means that you are a calm and positive person and you
dont like being angry and try to quickly shift your mood if you
notice that anger gets activated in you.
The storm can also represent current problems in your life. If, whilst
seeing storm in your minds eye, you think that it will stay there for
a long time, you think the same way about your current problems.
If you see a big storm, it means that you currently experience big
problems in your life. The proximity between the storm and the cube
also shows how intensely these problems affect you.
8. Isnt that cool? How accurate was it?
::: THE PSYCHOLOGICAL TEST :::
Wanna take a psychological test? Im gonna give you the
psychological test to see how screwed up you are. (Notice the neg)
Its just four questions.
1) Whats your favorite color and three reasons why. Like what do
you like about the color? What adjectives would you use to describe
it?
2) If you could be any animal, which would it be and three reasons
why. Like what are the three things you like best about the animal?
How would you describe it?
Okay the next two you have to use your imagination.
3) Imagine youre in an all white room. No windows, no doors. Just
you alone in this white room. What are three feelings youre feeling.
First things that come to mind.
4) Imagine youre waist high in water, any pleasant water that
comes to mind. What are three feelings youre feeling.
Ready for what it means?
1) Your favorite color is the impression you give off to others, how
others perceive you.
2) The animal you picked is who you are, how you really view
yourself.
3) The white room is how you feel about death. Have you ever heard
of those people who had a near death experience? You know what
they say they saw? Exactly, a white light. And when you die you
have to do it alone, and theres no escaping it. Thats why theres no
windows or doors. So your answers make perfect sense.
4) The water is how you feel about sex. In psychology they connect
water to sex, probably has something to do with the exchange of
bodily fluids. But anyway, thats how you feel about sex.
Pretty cool. Then I go into a story about how I first learned this test.
My freshman year in college, my roommates aunt who was a
professor of English gave us this test. And for the last question I said
I just want to keep going further and further. I was so embarrassed.
Can sometimes lead into a discussion about sex, death or their
personality
::: FOUR PERSONS :::

I gotta share this really cool thing with you. Are you into personality
tests at all? Well, theres this theory by that theres basically four
types of people in the world. We can find out which person you are.
Its three basic questions.
Question #1. Do you consider yourself to be more introverted or
extroverted? For example, if you felt like you had to recharge your
batteries, would being alone recharge your batteries or would you
prefer to be out among people?
Question #2. Do you consider yourself to be more emotional or
rational? For example, if you had a major decision to make, would
you get out a piece of paper and write out pros and cons, or would
you go by what your feelings told you?
Question #3. Think back to one of the best relationships you had. It
doesnt have to be with a boyfriend. It can be with a best friend or a
sibling or a parent or whatever. Got it? How did that person make
you feel? Powerful? The center of attention? Smart? Valued?
Okay, what Im going to do now and tell you the four persons. And
tell me which one YOU think you are. Not what others might say you
are. But what you think you are.
Ill draw a square on a napkin with a line down the middle vertically
and through the middle horizontally. At the top I write: RATIONAL. At
the bottom I write: EMOTIONAL. On the right I write: EXTROVERTED.
On the left I write: INTROVERTED. Top right quadrant: Red, Top left:
Blue, Bottom left: green, Bottom right: yellow.
The first person is called Red. These people make the best CEOs.
They like to take charge and be the boss. Theyre not afraid of
confrontation. They can be a little arrogant and pushy and assertive
but they tend not to be the best listeners. Their key emotion is to
feel powerful. Red is power. Theyre Rational and Extroverted.
The second person is called Blue. These people make the best
psychoanalysts and professors. They enjoy studying and reading
and knowing and analyzing. Theyre more calm. Sometimes they
can be a little indecisive. Their key emotion is to feel intelligent.
Blue is like the sky, abstract or birds eye view. Theyre Rational and
Introverted.
The third person is called Green. These people make the best
poets and artists. Theyre more the peacemakers. They dont like
confrontation, but like to get along. They make the best listeners.
Theyre supportive, and dont like to be the center of attention. They
tend not to be super assertive, and can get taken advantage of.
Their key emotion is to feel valued. Green is associated with peace.
Theyre Emotional and Introverted.
The fourth person is called Yellow. These people make the best
actors. Theyre the most fun people. They like to be the center of
attention. They like being in the mix of things and feel excited and
inspired. They can get distracted a little easily, their attention goes
wherever the most excitement is. Their key emotion is feel
important or the center of attention. Yellow is like the sunshine.
Bright and happy. Theyre Emotional and Extroverted.
Yellow is the complete opposite of Blue. And Red is the complete
opposite of Green.
Okay, out of all those, which one do you think youre more like?
Again what YOU think, not what others say you are.
(Point out how their answers to the first three questions match
which person they picked.)
So, heres the thing. The theory says were all born with a
temperament, and we lead with that one. But we actually have all
four colors in us. We also have a secondary personality. Which do
you think is your secondary color?
So, your third is probably
Jung thought your secondary can never be your opposite. In the rare
case that it is, youre either crazy or a genius. But your object in life
is to integrate more of the fourth color with your primary. So, if your
primary color is that means you need to integrate more of the
(fourth color). For example (list some of the characteristics of the
fourth personality). Jung would say once you do that, you become a
more whole, integrated human being.
Isnt that cool? Now, which one do you think I am?
Oh my God, were totally compatible! We should get married right
now.
::: THE QUESTION GAME ::: (Taken from Mystery Method, by
Mystery, and I put in my own questions as well as questions from
The Book of Questions by Gregory Stock)

Have you ever played the Question Game? Well, there are RULES
Rule One, you ask a question, then me, then you, and so on, back
and forth.
Rule Two, you have to tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing
but the truth. Like truth and dare because I dont know how weird
you really are. (Notice the neg)
Rule Three, you cant ask the same question thats already been
asked.
Rule Four, you have to ask questions that let skeletons out of the
closet. Take advantage of our anonymity.
Oh, and Rule Five you go first. (She: Thats not fair!)
(The following are some possible questions. You can create your own
of course. You probably dont need more than 10 questions.)
How many boyfriends have you had?
Tell me a secret.
If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
If I were to look in your DVD player right now, what would I find?
If you were down what would you watch as your comfort food
movie?
If I were to look on your iPhone, what would I see on your playlist?
What is your most favorite place that youve visited?
If you had to get away from it all, just to get settled down, where
would you go?
Ever had a rough breakup?
Ever been to the ER?
Ever performed on stage?
When did you first get drunk?
Can you cook?
Whats your favorite food?
Whats your favorite store to shop in?
If I could grant you any superpower, what would it be?
If you could be invisible for a day, what would you do?
If you had a penis for a day, what would you do?
If you could kiss any of your girlfriends, who would it be and why?
If you could fuck any guy here, who would it be and why?
How long should a girl wait before having sex?
Whats the craziest place youve had sex?
You know, when a guy first fingers a girl he usually only uses one
finger, but the girl almost always asks for two, sometimes three. Do
you think a guy should start off with one finger or two?
If you woke up tomorrow anywhere in the world, where would it be?
If you could take a one-month trip anywhere in the world and money
were not a consideration, where would you go and what would you
do?
Lets say youre all alone and you have no fear of being laughed at
or looked down upon by others, what sorts of things would you do?
If you were as outgoing and uninhibited as you want, what would
you like to do?
Youve been given the ability to travel to any period in history,
where would you go? Would you do anything to change the course
of history? Would you come back?
Youve been given the ability to travel to any period in the future,
where would you go? Would you do anything to change the course
of history? Would you come back?
Lets say a millionaire will donate a million dollars to you or to a
charity of your choice IF you stepcompletely nakedfrom a car
onto a busy downtown street, walk four blocks, and climb back into
the car. There is absolutely no risk of bodily danger. Would you do
it? It begs the question how comfortable we are with our bodies?
Whats the big deal about being nakedthats how we were born.
If you were to wake up on a warm morning by yourself in the nude
and were going to laze around the house, how long would you wait
to put clothes on? I think its great when a woman is comfortable
with her bodytheres nothing sexier or confident in the world.
If you could choose anyone in the worldliving or deadto be your
dinner guest tonight, who would you choose? What about as your
friend and as your lover? Which begs the question, what do you look
for in a friend that you might not want in a lover? And what do you
seek in a lover that you havent found yet, or that you had once but
want to find again? (And also, what did your last boyfriend not get
about you?)
If you could script the basic plot of the dream youll have tonight,
what would the story be about? Or, what would you want your
dream to tell you tonight?
Would you like to be famous? In what way?
Youve just found out that youre going to die next year suddenly. If
you knew this, is there anything you would change about the way
youre living now?
If a genie came along and *poof* could make you be anything in the
world you wanted to be (without fear of failurerock star,
supermodel, whatever) what would it be? And dont say princess.
If you could choose any art to do, what would it be and what would
it be about?
What would you do if money were no object?
Is there something youve dreamed of doing for awhile? Why
havent you done it?
If you came across a genie one day and he could give you any wish,
what would it be? And dont say I wish for more wishes.
If a genie gave you a million dollars, what would you do with it?
What do you want to be when you grow up? And dont say princess.
Whats your favorite Disney movie?
What was your favorite childrens book?
Who was your childhood idol?
Have you ever wished you were of the opposite sex? Which do you
think has it easier in our culture, men or women? And what do you
think is the main difference between men and women? Is the
difference inherited or learned?
Have you had satisfying sex in the last three months? If so, what
made it good or less than good? Or, whats the best sexual
experience youve ever had? What makes great sex for a
woman? Ill tell you what makes great sex for a guyenthusiasm.
Not just a girl who lies there like a dead fish. But a girl who gives it
her all, who really gets into it, isnt afraid to make noises, scream,
let loose, be uninhibited, willing to experimentthere was this
survey done on guys that asked what they would like to see their
woman do more of. One of the top 3 or 5 things wasnt anything
kinky at all but something as simple as a girl letting her guy go
down on her. That letting loose, enthusiasm really turns us on. Ill
tell you, theres nothing sexier in the world for a guy, than a woman
in ecstasy?
Do you believe in any sort of God? If not, and you found yourself in a
life-threatening situation, would you still pray? What about angels
and spirits? Do you believe in these at all?
If you were going on a long trip, would you roll your clothes, fold
your clothes, or just throw them into your suitcase?
In conversations, do you tend to talk or listen more? What kinds of
things do you usually talk about, or like to talk about?
Does the fact that youve never tried something before increase or
decrease its appeal to you?
(These are my personal turn-offs) Do you have tattoos?
Do you smoke, drink, do drugs?
Do you like horror movies?
Whats the craziest place youve had sex?
Who was your best lover?
What was your best sexual experience?
What was the one thing your last boyfriend didnt get about you?
What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
What is the greatest disappointment in your life?
If you could change anything about the way that you were raised,
what would it be?
What is your most treasured memory?
For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
What do you fantasize about when you masturbate?
Have you ever been attracted to a woman?
How often do you masturbate?
What do you like best about sex?
Whats your favorite position?
3. Your Grounding Story. This is part of the meat and potatoes, too.
::: YOUR GROUNDING STORY ::: Credit: Mystery
When your girl asks what do you? your Grounding Story is the
response. Instead of saying something factual like writer or
doctor or waiter you can tell her a story that helps her relate to
you better. It grounds your identity to her reality.

Well, when I was little I wanted to be (Tell stories and ambitions as

a child)
When I was a teenager (What may have changed in adolescence
maybe an obstacle to overcome)
Now Im a writer and where Im going next (what Im doing now and
what I want to do next, what I ultimately want to do).
A trick I learned from Mehow: at each story point in the way, ask
about her childhood, her teenage years, where she is now and
where she wants to go. This makes is interactive, and you get to
learn about her.
Also, Lance Mason has a great variation on this. Instead of telling
the story factually, you can tell your Grounding Story in terms of a
metaphor. For example, comparing your life to a caterpillar in a
cocoon on the verge of breaking free. What does your life feel like?
What image is it like, an image anyone can relate to?
4. Pre-Empt Last Minute Resistance. To avoid last minute resistance
later down the line in the bedroom, set the right frame early on
during comfort. Also, if you want to let her know you date multiple
women, let her know early on during comfort.
::: THE WORD SLUT IS BULLSHIT ::: (Improvised, based on Lance
Mason)
The word slut is such bullshit. Theres no equivalent word for a guy.
Call a guy a slut and its like a compliment. For a girl its degrading.
I think its awesome when a girl doesnt play by those outdated
standards. A girl whos spontaneous and adventurous. Theres
nothing sexier in the world.
::: DATING MULTIPLE WOMEN :::

BANTER. Banter that you have multiple girlfriends, or lots of girls

chasing you. See Brad Ps Eight Girlfriend Routine for an example.
Its listed under V. Do You Have a Girlfriend? in 4. Contingencies
in A2 Attract, Part 1 of 2 (Banter)
IM POLYAMOROUS. (Credit: Joshua Pelletier from How to Date
Multiple Women)

You: How did your last relationship end? (Ask pen-ended questions
about her last relationship)
She: Oh, he was jealous. It ended. Whatever.
You: I dont have that problem anymore because I changed
something about the way Im in relationships now. But yeah I
remember what that was like and it completely sucks!
She: Talking about jealousy, fear, lying, apathy, or selfishness.
You: You know that doesnt happen in a polyamorous relationship.
Have you ever considered just being polyamorous with guys that
make you feel that way?
OR You: That guy over there seems to be digging you. You want
me to introduce you to him? Seriously. You can hookup with any guy
you want to. Im polyamorous. Im completely comfortable with
that.
She: What is polyamory?
You: Well, poly means many and amory means love or lovers, so
polyamory technically means I have many loves or many lovers,
many girlfriends at the same time. Sometimes I might add I have
many girlfriends or many lovers, and if I meet someone not
comfortable with it, I dont date them. I am completely open and
they all know about each other ahead of time.
If shes not cool with it, then you dont date her.

7 POSSIBLE OBJECTIONS
Objection #1: I could never do that.
Response: You know, its not for everybody, but if you ever meet a
guy whos confident enough as a man, comfortable enough in being
polyamorous and whos actually really good at it, then I highly
suggest you try it out. I really think you should. Its one of the most
amazing experi- ences. A lot of women that are dating me are doing
it for the first time. They havent done it with any other man though
some of them have other guys that theyre dating and thats
awesome. There arent a whole lot of guys that know how to do it
right, but if you ever run into another one, I highly suggest you try it
out.
She: Okay, yeah, Ill try that out (they will),
You: continue talking as if nothing has changed.

Objection #2: Are you sleeping with all of them?Response: Well,

yeah, most of them. I mean Im not going to date them and then
depriving them of sex. But we also agree to have a complete 100%
protection rule. We always use protection. But, yeah, Im sleeping
with most of them.

Objection #3: What kind of girl would actually do that?

Response: Girls like you, girls that are confident enough,
comfortable with me, and trust me. Theyre no different than you or
some of the other girls in this place. Most of the girls with me are
polyamorous for the first time. They dont have a lot of experience
with it outside of me. But for some reason, they are just really
comfortable with me.

Objection #4: Do they all know about each other?

Response: Absolutely. It usually comes up in the first five minutes of
talking to a girl. And theyre completely comfortable with it. I can tell
pretty quickly if a girl is comfortable with it or not. Its very
important that if shes not comfortable with it or shes not interested
in learning how to be comfortable with it, then I dont date her. I
dont sleep with her, nothing.
OR: Do they all know about each other? Yeah, of course, they do and
if they dont, I dont date them at all.

Objection #5: So youre cheating then?

Response: Well, no, Im not cheating. These girls all know about
each other and they all know that Im sleeping with others. They are
all completely cool with it.
OR: No one is cheating. There is no cheating. You cannot cheat. If
anyone tried to cheat they wouldnt be able to because there is no
commitment, so there is no cheating.

Objection #6: So you never want to get married?

Response: Of course, I want to get married. I definitely do. But the
girls that Im dating are not the girl I am going to marry. Theyre just
not the one for me. Im not going to settle for anything less than
absolutely perfect for me. I dont think they should either. Neither of
us think that were right for each other, long term, and were both
very honest about that. Someday I will meet a girl that is perfect for
me in every way. I hope I get married to her.
OR: No, I dont ever want to get married. This is perfectly fine. Im
very happy with this lifestyle and the girls that Im with are very
happy and someday theyll probably get married and theyll leave
and thats okay.

Objection #7: What kind of girls are these girls?

Response: Well, they are from all sorts of walks of life. Theres a girl
that Im dating thats a profes- sional kite boarder. Shes really
athletic. Theres a girl that Im dating that is in poetry school.
Theres a girl that Im dating thats a barista. Theres a girl that Im
dating thats a doctor at a hospital. Theres a girl that Im dating
that is a stripper, one thats a hippie, and another thats a poker
dealer at a casino.

If you dont have any girlfriends: Are you sleeping with all of
them? No, not all of them, is perfectly fine. What kind of girls
are they? The girls Ive dated in the past are from all walks of
life.

4 REINFORCEMENT TECHNIQUES
#1. Ask her opinion of other girls: What do you think about that
girl? Do you think she is cute?

#2. Fish for jealousy: That girl is hot.OR: Approach another girl
with her: Hey we were just talking about how cute you are.If she
get jealous, bad sign. She wont be okay with you sleeping with
other girls.
#3. Dont be available: Hey, I wont be available to hang out until
Thursday.If she ever asks you to cancel plans, this is a problem.
Reinforce polyamory: I dont cancel plans for you but Ill around
Thursday night. Remember this is a polyamorous relationship. Im
still here for you, but on my own terms. If that doesnt work, run.
Youve got a jealous girl. #4. Dont build rapport too fast: Get
things sexual fast. THEN build rapport. Too much rapport before sex
can lead to hurt feelings, confusion or anger. Keep the emotional
connection mellow, until later.
AFTER SEX:
Its okay to cuddle and connect with her. But connect like a friend,
not a boyfriend. Keep things light with some fun banter, or go into
normal conversation or light rapport, not the deep rapport.
DONT make any plans with her. She can tell you about her
problems, she can ask your advice, she can share what is going on
in her life, but once she starts trying to talk about her future with
you, cut it off. Make it clear that this relationship is not shifting into
monogamy.If you can, let her stay. Have breakfast. If she needs a
ride, give her one. Once she leaves, keep searching.
5. Kino. Kino gradually becomes more intimate in comfort. Push the
boundaries slightly, but not too much. More specifically, move from
touching her on the arms and hands to her legs.
Touch her leg with your leg
Touch her leg with your hand
Lean in to smell her while her arm is in yours for example, Man, you
smell so fucking good. Then back off, You know what Im not even
in that head space OR Mm, Mm, no, none of that now.
Dance
Kiss
PHASE THREE: SEDUCTION
SETTING A ROMANTIC/SENSUAL MOOD
In my experience, you dont need any of these routines to kiss a
woman, except for the triangular gaze. You can actually go for a kiss
within 20 minutes of meeting her! If youve been doing kino all along
and shes laughing and having a great time, she wants to be kissed.
Just dont make out yet. Break off the kiss first. Keep the sexual
tension alive. The kiss is simply comfort building. Save making out
and foreplay for when youre alone.
So, really these routines are just training wheels. Again, if shes
laughing, talking with you, giving you her attention, you can lean in
and kiss her. But if you dont feel comfortable doing that yet, here
are some ways to keep your mouth moving while you make the
move. Again, the most important routine here is the last one the
triangular gaze. And remember, be the one to break off the kiss first.
Keep her chasing.
1. Romantic Questions. These questions can shift the conversation
from casual to romantic.
BEST BOYFRIEND: Who was your best boyfriend and why?
LAST BOYFRIEND: What was the one thing your last boyfriend didnt
get about you?
MOVIE ACTOR: Which actor do you find most attractive and why?
LOVER VS. FRIEND: What do you look for in a lover that you dont
look for in a friend?
IDEAL DATE: I was reading about this romantic date and it was
amazing. Imagine this: youre out with a man you really like and find
really attractive. You are sitting in this gorgeous outdoor restaurant,
overlooking a lake. The autumn colors are just perfect. The air is
fresh and smells so great, you feel like you dont even need to eat,
just sit there and breathe that sweet air. Anyway, thats how the
book put it. And you have this incredible date as the sun goes down
over the water, the stars come out and then the moon rises, and the
two of you feel so connected, so in love, you know what I mean?
What would you say is your most romantic moment ever? (Credit:
How to Succeed with Women, by Ron Louis & David Copeland)
ATTRACTED: What does it feel like when youre really, really
attracted to a man?
IN LOVE: what does it feel like when youre in love? How do you
know when you are in love?
KISSING: Whats your favorite thing about kissing?
2. Ross Jeffries Patterns. You dont need these. But they can set a
womans mood for sex beautifully.
::: DISCOVERY CHANNEL :::

I was watching the most interesting show on the Discovery Channel

about roller coasters. They were interviewing this guy who designs
rides for amusement parks and he said there are 3 things that go
into designing one: you need excitement, safety, and fascination.
Excitement: You know that first long, slow vertical climb on the roller
coaster? You can feel the adrenaline pounding through your body as
your body shudders with anticipation? The closer you get to the
peak, the faster your heart beats and the faster your breathing
moves. Youre scared as hell but you also feel this growing
excitement, like this tingling in your stomach. And when you reach
the peak, you surrender to the drop and scream with excitement.
Safety: At the same time you have to feel safe and secure, so you
can trust that being on the ride, youre not going to get hurt. You
have to know that this roller coaster is so secure and strong and
safe that youre not going to get hurt. You feel so totally safe and
secure that you can let go. Its the comfort and safety that allows
you to feel excitement.
Fascination: Lastly, if you want to get back on the ride and do it
again, youve also got to feel a sense of fascination and
unpredictability. This ride has to have so many twists and turns that
you dont know whats going to happen next, but you know its
going to be good. As soon as you get off, you just want to climb
back on and take it again and again, multiple times.
::: BLOW JOB :::

Step one: Compulsion vs. Anticipation. I find it so interesting that

whole subject of how people connect with their desires and their
hopes and dreams. You know, it reminds me of this article I was
reading about compulsion. And it got me to thinking about the
differences between compulsion and anticipation.
Step two: Define Compulsion. Compulsion is when you do something
without even thinking about it. Like, you ever find yourself just
reaching for the refrigerator? And before you know it, your hand is
already on that door handle and youre looking in the refrigerator
and you stop and think, Oh my God, what am I doing here? Well,
thats an example of compulsion.
Step three: Define Anticipation with 3 Examples. But anticipation is
where your mind anticipates pleasure before it actually arrives.
Example 1: Bath/Shower. For example, you ever come home from a
really rotten day at work? All you can think about is dropping every
stitch of clothing and climbing into that steaming hot bath or
shower. And before you can even get in, you can already imagine
that heat working its way through every part of your body. And then
there comes that actual moment, that moment of sliding in, where
you just release completely, and let that pleasure take you
completely.
Example 2: Chocolate. Or another example might be do you like
chocolate? Whats your favorite kind of chocolate? Well, do you ever
get a piece of chocolate; instead of eating it right away you save a
piece, you put it aside and you think about it all day long. You think
about what it would be like to put this in your mouth, where you
tease yourself, you hold it right in front of your lips. ANd you begin
to imagine the soft, creamy texture against your tongue. You
imagine that first moment where that first molecule, sweet, touches
your taste cubs. YOu imagine that moment where you just wrap
your tongue around this and theres this explosion of pleasure, like
an orgasm, in your mouth.
Example 3: First Kiss. The other example I can think of is, have you
ever been with someone and you both know theres a real attraction
here but you dont say anything? Theres that moment where you
stop talking and you just lock eyes with that person and you know
there something about to happen. You begin to imagine that first
wonderful kiss. You imagine that first soft brush of the lips. So soft
youre not even sure youre kissing yet? And then there comes that
moment where you do begin that first kiss and theres that jolt of
electricity that just goes shooting through you?
Step Four: Conclusion. See, I think what happens is that the
conscious mind can go down into the unconscious and come back
with all these idea and fantasies and thoughts. See, being very
intellectual, I used to think all my thoughts came from above me,
but now I know so much of the important thoughts come from below
me, Debbie, because youre coming from a much deeper place from
inside your mind.
::: BLAMMO :::

Step One: Discovery Channel

Step Two: Instantaneous Connection
Step Three: Sub-modality. See, everything in the mind has a
structure to it, even the experience of connecting with someone. I
learned this really cool things about NLP, a form of psychotherapy
that was mixed with hypnosis back in the 70s. Okay, check this out.
Think about someone you really like for a second. Got that? Now
point to where you see that person in your mind. Okay now think of
someone you dont like that much, maybe someone whos made you
feel bad about yourself. Now watch this. Take that picture of the
person you dont like and try as hard as you can to move it over into
the place in your mind where you see the person you do like. See
that? It doesnt want to move, right? Because you need a way to
sort out who your really like from who you dont. Isnt that cool?
Step Four: Visualization. Okay, now heres something else NLP
developed. Its called visualization. See if you can remember a time
when you were feeling exquisite pleasure in your body. Look at
yourself as if you were on a movie screen. Can you see yourself?
Okay, now instead of looking at yourself, enter into your body as if
you were there. See the colors youd see, the scents youd smell,
the sounds, the tastes, the feel of your skin. Now, the second felt
more real, right? This works great in everyday life. Because focus on
negative thoughts, and it puts you in a bad mood and creates a
negative reality. Focus on positive thoughts, and it lifts your spirits
and creates success.
Step Five: Anchoring. Now, heres the final piece to NLP. Its called
anchoring. If you want to snap out of a bad mood, this can help.
Have you ever heard a song that had good memories associated
with it, and instantly youre there in that good memory. Same idea.
You combine a great feeling with a sound or touch. Repeat that
sound and touch and youre supposed to feel those feelings again.
So, here, lets try it out for shits and giggles. Close your eyes. Feel
that exquisite pleasure in your body again, as if you were there in
your body. See how what you saw, hear what you heard, feel how it
felt. Just feel wonderful. Take all the time youd like. And when those
feelings of exquisite pleasure reach their peak, lift your thumb for
me. (Touch her on inside of wrist or elbow) Perfect. And just hand on
for a minute to how good it feels. Great. Okay, open your eyes and
look at me. Close your eyes again and put your mind back into that
place. Let your mind go. Surrender to how good it feels. Feel how
wonderful your skin feels, smell the lovely scents, taste the tastes,
hear the sounds. As you feel those feelings build and they reach
their peak, lift your thumb for me. (Touch her on the same spot)
Great. Hold onto those feelings as you open your eyes and look at
me. All right, now the third time is the magic time. So, close your
eyes again and allow yourself to enjoy that experience so deeply.
Notice how every inch of your skin feels. Notice every sound,
whisper, sigh, whatever sound you hear, every feeling, and all the
things youre seeing, the colors. And as it begins to reach its peak,
life up that thumb and let me know. (Touch) Great. Now hold onto
those feelings and really enjoy them. Open your eyes and look at
me. Now, as I said the idea behind anchoring is when you combine a
feeling with a touch or a sound, and when you repeat that touch or
sound, youll feel that feeling again. So, if I were to say to you, you
know, I fund that when I spend time with someone, and I really start
to feel that sense of incredible connection, maybe then you can feel
just perfect (Touch). And that feels great, doesnt it? Isnt this
interesting? Isnt the mind really cool?
Step Six: In Love Sub-modality. Now notice something else. You ever
just fall head over heels in love with someone? As youre
remembering that time, point to where you see that picture. (Touch)
So watch as you think about that space remember his voice and
allow his voice to come from that space. Its like the warmth of his
voice, the deep, rich warmth of it just starts to penetrate your
consciousness, and spread all through your body. As your heart
beats faster and your breathing increases, the warmth just heats up
into a fire. A fire spreading through your chest and down through
your belly. A fire pounding and pulsating all through you, down to
where you really long to have it go. Until that desire for him just
becomes utterly overwhelming and you just surrender to it
completely.
::: LOVE VS. IN LOVE :::

Have you ever thought about the difference between attraction and
being in love?
Could you say they take place in different settings? Attraction is
what you experience in the presence of that person. But falling in
love is when youre not in that persons presence. For example,
remember a time when you just totally fell for someone. Remember
what that feels like?
So, what may have happened was you spent some time with him,
had a great time, and when you went home, you thought about him.
You list all the qualities about him that you like. Then you get that
feeling, right in the pit of your stomach that starts to spread out and
you feel those feelings of love for him. Can you feel that as I
describe it to you?
And then heres the kicker. You start saying his name out loud,
bringing it up in conversations with friends, dance around the
house, singing his name hehe
Its almost like falling in love is a process. And when you do that
process with someone, and let it happen, thats when the magic
takes over, the magic were all really looking for. The real magic is
when it happens instantly and you know it right away. Thats an
incredible feelings, right?
::: RELATIONSHIP VALUES :::

Phase One: Eliciting Her Relationship Values. Whats most important

to you in a relationship? (She: Mutual admiration). That is an
important one. How do you know when you have mutual
admiration? (She: examples, experiences, stories, feelings) I agree
thats a powerful one. Well, what else is important to you in a
relationship? (She: sense of humor NOTE: this is a quality, not a
value. Steer her to values) Well, I know thats an important quality
fir a person to have, but what does a persons sense of humor allow
you to experience that you wouldnt otherwise experience? (She:
fun and enjoyment) Of course why be with someone if theyre no
fun? And what has to happen for you to know youve got fun and
enjoyment with someone. Do you have examples? (She: examples,
experience, stories, feelings) Wow.. that would be great to be with
someone like that. Well, what else is important to you in a
relationship? (She: trust) Wow that is an important one. How do
you know when you have trust with someone. (She: examples,
experiences, stories, feelings)
Phase Two: Ranking values from MOST to LEAST important. Of those
three values, mutual admiration, fun, and trust, which is most
important? If you could only pick one, which one would it be? (She:
fun and enjoyment) Well, I could see that. Of mutual admiration and
trust, which is more important? (Her: mutual admiration)
Phase Three: Later on (Hours or weeks later). I think weve got the
start of something here, and I think its based on fun and
enjoyment, trust, and mutual admiration. Isnt it a wonderful thing
to experience?
And BE that need she wants fulfilled.
3. Sexual Subjects. These will get a woman thinking about the
pleasures of sex within normal conversation. Best to wait to bring
these up after youve created an emotional connection with a
woman.
::: STYLES NANCY FRIDAY ROUTINE ::: (From Rules of the Game,
by Neil Strauss)

Women are so much more fascinating than men. For example, there
was this professor in the sixties who wrote a book and said that
women were incapable of sexual fantasies. (She: Thats not)
I know, exactly. Obviously its not true. So this woman named Nancy
Friday wrote a book in response called My Secret Garden. And to
disprove his theory, she interviewed hundreds of women about their
sexual fantasies. Where mens fantasies are handed to them on a
silver platter and encouraged, making most of them pretty much the
same, women live this much more exciting and varied fantasy life. I
think this is because womens sexuality is often repressed when
theyre found. Theyre told Thats bad. So their sexuality is held
back, and eventually starts to flower in dynamic, wonderful ways.
(She: Thats interesting)
Yea, so Nancy Friday interviewed these women who were basically
in relationships where they have even had oral sex and had sex only
in the missionary position, and they had these wild fantasy lives. So
she says that a womans mind is like a house. And each room
contains a different fantasy. Theres the anonymous sex room.
Theres being with other women, being watch by an audience, being
dominated, being a prostitute, or even transforming during sex into
something or someone else. Obviously not every woman has all
these rooms in her mind. Like, for example, when youre alone and
thinking about something that gets you excitedand it doesnt have
to be anything youve ever done or would ever do in real lifedo you
think about something thats in one of those rooms, or something
completely different? (She: I guess)
Its funny. A lot of people think things that get them excited but
actually want them to remain just fantasies. Like, I dated someone
whose fantasy was to be on stage strapped in stirrups in this
mechanical device, while these robots had sex with her and an
auditorium full of doctors in white lab coats watched. (Pause) And,
no, we never did end up doing that. (She: Describes her fantasy)
Thats interesting. Its amazing. Women can have all these different
kinds of orgasmsvaginal, clitoral, blended, full-bodyand usually
they can have many of them, back to back. While a lot of guys only
get this one little release that isnt nearly as pleasurable. So youd
think it would be women who chase men for sex and not the
opposite.
Change to a nonsexual topic to allow her to think those thoughts
::: NY TIMES ARTICLE ON FEMALE DESIRE ::: (Based on January 25,
2009 article I read in The New York Times Magazine by Daniel
Bergner)

I just read the most fascinating article in The New York Times about
female desire.
3 females scientists tried to figure out how it works. Scientists.
FEMALE scientists. Heres the problem they were tying to solve.
There was this experiment done where straight guys and girls and
gay guys and girls watched the same videos of: straight couple
having sex, 2 guys, 2 girls, naked girl doing aerobics, naked guy
walking down beach, bonobos having sex. Their desire was
measured objectively and subjectively. Objectively the guys had an
apparatus over their penis to gauge swelling. Girls had a plastic
probe in their vagina to measure blood flow and moisture through
their walls. Subjectively, the guys and girls had to rate how aroused
they were after watching a scene.
Guys were straightforward. Subjective and objective measurements
matched. Sexual orientation matched. No arousal at the bonobos.
Women were a whole different ball game. Their genitalia reacted
more to the bonobos than to the naked guy walking. They reacted
more to 2 girls than 2 guys. Not only that, the lesbians said their
desire was low for the straight couple, but their genitalia said
otherwise. The straight girls said their desire was low for the lesbian
couple, but their genitalia said otherwise.
Why did their vaginas differ from their words? And why they get
turned on by bonobos?
One scientist thought it was because womens desire is actually in
their minds, not in their bodies. Their bodies were more like an
evolutionary mechanism to detect sex. The naked man who was not
erect didnt give off sex signals, but the bonobos did.
The second scientist argued womens desire happens through
emotional connection or intimacy, not sexual preference. That
explains why women didnt respond according to their listed
orientation. Womens orientation transcends labels.
The third scientist said womens desire is narcissistic. Her desire
comes from being desired. This explains why the naked woman
turned her on more than the naked man. She imagined she was that
desirable woman, and the thought of being desired aroused her.
This also explains why the #1 sexual fantasy women have is to be
raped or dominated. Because the man desires her so much, he loses
all control for her, and this turns her on. As well as she gets to be
dominated.
The conclusion? No one knows what women want, not even women
who are scientists. But thats exactly what I love about women.
Theyre a mystery to be solved. They are desire itself. And they
want a man who knows how to allow her let go and just unleash her
desire.
GOING FOR THE KISS. You can kiss her within 20 minutes. The kiss is
just comfort building. Im repeating myself, but these routines are
just training wheels. You dont need them, except for probably the
triangular gaze.
::: STYLES EVOLUTIONARY PHASE SHIFT ROUTINE :::

Oh my God you smell good, what are you wearing? (She tells you)
Oh my God that smells good. (Smell her near her shoulders up
toward her ears) Its funny because animals when they mate, they
get all the information they need about someone just from the
scent. Scent tells us so much. And I dont think we guys value it
enough. A womans sense of smell is 40 times better than a guys.
And the animal part of us is actually wired to respond when
someone smells us.
And the thing I miss most about having hair OR the thing something
I really love is when someone reaches up and grabs your hair and
just pulls it from behind. (As you say this, go up the back of her
neck, get a good chunk, pull it back fairly hard) Its great because
youll notice that lions, when theyre mating will actually bite the
back of each others manes and theyre wired to respond to this. Or
cats will pick each other by the scruff of the neck.
Whats fascinating is that the parts of your body that bend the most
have the most nerve endings and the parts that you see the least
are the most sensitive, like behind the elbow (touch behind her
elbow), the knee (touch behind her knee). I dont know if anyones
done this to you or not but if you bite the crease in there its the
best feeling in the world. And next time youre with a guy you
should have him try that. (She: Why arent you trying that?) Okay,
what the hell. (Bite her inner elbow. Take a big chunk of skin and
bring it slowly and firmly together. She gets the chills)
You know what the best thing in the world is? Is biting on the neck,
right here on the side of the neck. This has to do with the fact that it
is where the jugular vein is most exposed and since most sexual
fantasies have to do with submission and vulnerability, it sends all
the fantasy signals flying. Bite my neck. (50% of the time she wont.
If she doesnt) Okay. (Turn away for 5 seconds) Bite my neck.
(Shell bite your neck) Oh my God on a scale of 1 -10, thats a 6.
Heres how you bite. (Bite her neck) Okay try again.
Triangular gaze, and kiss.
NOTE: You dont need all this preamble. Its just to keep your mouth
running in case youre nervous. You can cut right to the triangular
gaze and the kiss.
::: IM TRYING SO HARD NOT TO KISS YOU ::: (Credit: Style and
Mystery)

God, Im trying so hard NOT to kiss you right now. Stop looking at
me like that. (If she holds eye contact or looks down shyly, go for
the kiss.)
::: TRIANGULAR GAZE :::

Push hair out of her eyes or touch necklace

For one second each, look at her left eye, then her right eye, and
finally her lips, and back to eyes. Blink slowly, look deeply, and shut
up.
For the kiss, go 90% of the way, and let her come other 10%.
Dont kiss too long. Keep it short, sweet, and light. Leave her
wanting more.
EXTRACT TO SEDUCTION LOCATION.
The best way to extract her is by first bouncing her to another
venue. Invite to go to the bar across the street. Or get pizza or
something. When you enter a new place together, you get that
couple feel. Once she moves to one new location with you, its
more natural to invite her back to your place. Bounce her first.
Thats the best way to invite her up.
I wanna show you my <insert thing to check out, like
guitar/aquarium/movie>. Just for a sec. Then Im kicking you out.
END GAME: FOREPLAY & SEX
Smell her hair and neck for like ten minutes without kissing or
touching her. Creates massive sexual tension. (Credit: David
DeAngelo)
Styles Evolutionary Phase Shift Routine could work here too.
David DeAngelos Two Steps Forward, One Step Back.

Take two steps forward, and stop.

Continue where you left off, push the boundaries a little further, and
stop.
Continue where you left off, push the boundaries a little further, and
stop.
Until you get to sex.
Vin DiCarlos Escalation Ladder.
1. After making out with her, kiss her neck and ears. These areas are

immensely sensual for a woman. Heres a cool

move while youre kissing her. Reach up her neck, grab a fistful of
her hair and pull it from behind. Massive turn on for her. Probably
has something to do with your dominance, and her submissiveness.
2. Next, lift the back of her shirt up, and touch the skin of her back.
3. Lift the front of her shirt up and the front of yours so the skin of

your stomachs touch.

This is such a gorgeous moment. The first time your skins touch, its
like ahhhhhhhhh. And it turns women on A LOT.4. Now you can start
kissing her stomach and her sides, and slowly move up her body.

Or lightly run your fingers down her

body. Either way take your time and savor her body. Heres some
things you can do.
Take time to smell and enjoy how wonderful she smells. Isnt the
way women smell amazing? David DeAngelo once recommended
just smelling a woman for 10 minutes straight without touching her.
Creates FANTASTIC sexual tension.
Caress the parts of her skin where her clothes touch, like the skin
next to her bra strap, or where her skin touches the top of her
panties. Immensely sensitive.
As Style says, the parts of the body that bend the most have the
most nerve endings, and the parts you see the least are the most
sensitive. So touch her, caress her, lick her, even bite her behind the
elbow, behind the knee you get the idea.
You can also take her shirt off and feel her tits here. But warning
save kissing and feeling up her tits for LAST. And save sucking her
nipples for ABSOLUTELY last. Kiss or lick around her nipples before
kissing or licking her nipples. Most guys dive in for the nipples first.
Distinguish yourself by saving them for last.
5. After her shirt comes off, feel up her ass.

Her pussy is now a step away.

6. Stimulate her pussy from behind, rather than from her front.

This is Vins genius idea. He points out every guy who goes for sex,
moves in from the front, but its easy for her to resist. Moving in
from her ass is unexpected. And damn effective.
But dont dive straight for her pussy. Start by touching the area
around it first. Then you can start fingering her from behind. Once
she starts panting and moaning
7. finger her from the front. Take off her panties. Get her turned on
so much that shes begging for you to put it in.

The only thing I would add to DiCarlos plan, is DeAngelos two

steps forward and one step back. Escalation to sex doesnt have to
be this linear. Stop and smell the roses along the way. In fact,
definitely do this. It feeds sexual tension, and her desire.
8. Even though shes begging for you to put it in, you dont have to.
In fact itll turn her on if you dont yet. Penetrate her when youre
ready. And penetrate her inch by sweet tortuous inch, making her
ache for your cock for however long you can control yourself.

Shell be so close to the edge of orgasm before youve entered her

fully that by the time you slide your entire length of you cock inside
her, it probably wont be too hard for her to surrender to the drop.
9. Put a pillow under her pelvis or lift her pelvis somehow.
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It makes it easier to hit her G-spot with your cock. Oh, and have
plenty of condoms.
10. While youre in her, take the lead. Pull her hair. Suck her tits.
Vary the strokes and speedfast, hard and shallow, slow, soft, and
deep. Stop and continue later. Talk to her. And most important of all,
be PASSIONATE as all hell.

11. Make sure she has an orgasm before you do.

12. After youve both cum, hold her afterwards. Either share the
silence or tell her how beautiful she is.

Afterglow by Alonzo Adams

Obviously, giving her great sex is a whole other topic. Where your
opener was dominated by words spiced with kino, sex is dominated
by kino spiced with words.
But just as kino and words arent separate in the first step, theyre
not separate in step seven. David Shade once said your most
important tool isnt your tool, its your voice. So, talk. Make sounds.
Stimulating her mind as well as her body is one key to great sex.
CONCLUSION
I know Im beating a dead horse here but just pick six really quick,
simple gambits for your attract phase to start.
Pick:
a reason for talking with her (i.e. an opener)
a banter line joined with appreciation (do this IMMEDIATELY after
your openerwithin TWO sentences)
a DHV (statement aboutwho you are)
a qualifier (question aboutwho is she?)
a statement of interest
a way to isolate/close her.
Practice each gambit five times to memorize it, five times in front of
the mirror to get the delivery right, then five times out in the field.
This will get the gambits into your bones. Then you can learn a new
one, and go through the same process again.
If you get to qualification with five different sets in one night, youve
mastered the attract phase. Now you can move on to practicing
comfort. Add three more routines that:
creates an emotional connection
kiss close
extracts her to the seduction location
Practice up until foreplay. Once you get to foreplay, study how to
give women orgasms.
Congrats. Youre a Casanova. Better than that, the going through
this whole process will change your life. I know it did for me.
And do me a favor. Let me know how it goes for you. Best of luck.
Your Buddy,
Renaissan