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Explain childs need to be comforted: How do you help you child develop a worthy world view in an
Being comforted communicates that parents care and international setting?
understand, even if the situation cant be changed.
Parents should remember, particularyly in any By talking to them
transition experience, that the quietest, most compliant Being there for them
child may be grieving and need comforting the most. Trying to understand them
comfort them as best as possible
Why is it important to understand a childs What is the responsibility of the sending agency for family care
perspective of parents work? and health?
It is important to understand a child's perspective
to know how they are feeling because as a parent The responsibility is to check on the families care and see how
you might look at it differently than your child. So they are doing and or on their health to make sure that everyone
it is important you understand the perspective of a is healthy and if not to get them the assistance that they need.
child because there is a different mentality from a
child to an adult.
You might not feel what a child is feeling so it is
important to try and understand children and talk
to them about how they feel.
Chapter 14: Dealing with Transition: Explain following. On left explain the topics from the text. On
right column add your personal experiences or ideas concerning each topic.
Involvement through leaving: Building a Strong Foundation:
Having a comfortable transition Requires dealing with transition
Involvement Cant stop the transition issues or patterns of mobility but can deal
Talking to them about the transition with them in healthy manner!
Notifying them beforehand Very important to deal with transition issues effectively
Preparing them Leaving requires that TCKs: Face losses but look forward with hope!
Grieving
Building a RAFT: Reconciliation: any time we face a move from one place to another,
R- Reconciled its easy to deal with tensions in relationships by ignoring them.
A- Affirm Relationships Reconciliation includes both the need to forgive and be forgiven.
F- Farewells Affirmation: relationships are built and maintained through
T- Think Destination affirmation- the acknowledgement that each person in this
relationship matters.
*Raft links home culture with host culture!! have children identify who their special friends, teachers, adults in the
community are.
Encourage children to think of something they might like to give that
special person
As a family send a note letting them know about the transition.
Farewells: saying goodbye to people, place, pets, and possessions in
culturally and age appropriate ways is important if we dont want to
leave deep regrets later.
Think Destination: Need to think realistically about our destination:
Where we are going even though it is sad to leave and say good-bye.
Mourning Losses:
mourning is the conscious acknowledgement of loss.
Getting through the transition stage isnt only about
exploring the present but looking at our losses.
It includes the need to continue that planning for the
future that we began when we thought destination in
the leaving stage.
Entering right:
The more we have thought ahead about this time,
however, and the more we are consciously aware of
what we and our family will need to make a positive
entry to this place, the sooner and smoother we can
begin to positively move into our new life.
It is important for everyone to be involved
Getting reinvolved:
This doesnt always mean that we like everything
about the situation, but at least we can start to see why
people do what they do rather than only what it is they
do.
1. HAVING FUN!- never forget the best aspect of TCK lifestyle is the fun it can be. Having fun in the journey is another great way
to tie the many elements of a TCKs life together into a cohesive whole that is essential for building a strong sense of identity.
2.Unpack Your Bags and Plant Your Trees!- it means you have made a choice to embrace all the possibilities and live with an
openness to all the opportunities this life affords rather than to live in a self-protective mode.
3. Keep Relationships Solid!- Keep in touch with people you have met in different countries. Keep in touch with them, Try to
see each other again and or if you can meet up at another country. Just keep in contact do not lose those friendships, they are
worth a lot!
4. Build Strong Ties with the Community- By building this community you can build extended families that you will learn and
grow together from. You will learn from their culture and be part of that culture. Build strong ties with extended families. As
well stay in contact with them.
5. Explore and Become Involved in the Surroundings!- Learn about the countrys history, geography, and culture. Families
should pretend they are tourists once or twice a year and plan trips just to see the sights. Explore as much as possible when you
are in that country. Try things that you have never tried before, or try them again. Explore as much as possible, taste the food, be
adventurous and maybe try some crazy things.
Chapter 17 : Coming Home
Reentry Process: How does reentry become a plus?
Reasons for reentry stress are simply extensions of
the many factors we have talked about, particularly Relational
the normal challenges of any cross-cultural Emotional
transition: the grief of losing a world they have Creative
come to love, the discomfort of being out of cultural Volitional
balance once more, and the struggle to start to find Intellectual
a place of belonging in a new place with new people. Physical
Spiritual
Significant
Unified
It is difficult to adapt every single time you go to another country
You become stronger
They have to settle in and no one is treating them any more special
than anyone else, it can become a shock.
Reentry might not be quite so difficult if the unexpected differences
were merely in some of these more obvious ways.
Reverse Culture Shock: Have you ever had culture shock? Reverse culture shock?
experiencing a new culture they are not use too When I went to go study abroad in Costa Rica, I did not have culture
Confuse cultures they have experienced shock when I was there. I was very excited to be there, I wanted to
they have a difficult time adapting to new culture experience and take everything in. I wanted to try everything that the
Language might be a barrier native people in Costa Rica would do. I really enjoyed my time there.
I did not want to come back.
But when I got back I think I did have reverse culture shock because
in Costa Rica everyone is very nice and welcoming. Because I would
catch myself always thinking of why Americans are so rude and not
welcoming and how we are so self centered here. I really missed the
culture I was living in, in Costa Rica and I wanted to go back. I felt
like I wasn't fitting in, it was different. Simple things as saying good
morning to everyone I saw I was being looked at weird. They were
very generous over there and I really enjoyed it but the American
culture and Costa Rican culture are very different.
Supporting a reentrant: How might you be What advice would you give someone considering working
supportive to a TCK/A? abroad?
Prepare for reentry before leaving host country. If someone was going to go work abroad I would tell them to research
Remind TCKs that the foundation stones of their lives the country and to familiarize themselves with the country itself. To
can never be taken away. look up their culture, their values, norms, what they do, what they do
Remind TCKs that foundations are meant to be built not do, etc.
on. You want to at least be a little familiar with how the country works in
Remind everyone this is the time a mentor can be their social, political, cultural life.
helpful.
parents must remember its okay when their children
dont share the same sense of national identity as they
do.
Select 3 behavioral patterns that an ATCK should change and provide a rationale for your reasoning.
Listen and try to Understand
Comfort and be Gentle
Dont Preach
Forgive
Assume You are Needed
What do you need to learn more about in order to be a good friend/counselor for a TCK?
Listen to the story and ask good questions
Dont compare stories
Comfort is possible
Our goal is to help therapists understand the basic life patterns of the third culture experiences so they will be better prepared to
assist their TCK clients.