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Self-Esteem
Ximena Lopez
Chiquita Waters
12/9/2016
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Introduction
Our daughter, Isabella, who is three years of age clapped proudly as her father walked
across the stage, to receive his diploma. We were inside the auditorium celebrating this grand
accomplishment with family and friends. Outside of the auditorium, there was extra security in
case of an anti-police protest. Two days after his graduation there was an Officer involved in a
shooting a block from our residence. Reality began to settle in. Just four short days after his
graduation, he started patrolling the streets of the city of Los Angeles. His new career was a
blessing to our family of three, although many changes were to come. Our daughter no longer
saw her daddy, seven days a week. Due to my husbands schedule we no longer ate dinner
together as a family. Our daughter, no longer had her daddy, in her daily routine. Her reaction
to the absence of her father caused me to wonder just how deeply his job affect her self-esteem.
Literature Review
I am the child of a police officer, a phrase that may not be the easiest for a child to say
with a parent in law enforcement. Children who are part of a law enforcement family can
occasionally be affected in many ways due to the obligations of their parents daily duties.
Absent parenting, negative comments, and trauma are three things out of many a child may face
on a day to day basis. Police officers have an unsteady and complex schedule that prohibits them
from spending quality time at home every day of the week. Their schedule may interfere with
special occasions, performances, or just having a simple family dinner in the evening. As a
result, the child may feel he or she is little or no importance to his parent. Parents absence may
affect a childs life in different ways. It is important to be able to communicate and explain the
Hiding the truth from a child in regards of his parents work duties might confuse them,
making it easier for them to believe everything that they see in the media. Police officers have
been given a negative reputation the past few years. It is very easy to find videos of police
officers fist fighting, tasing, and even shooting civilians. The media presents such videos making
police officers look like the bad guys. The main stream media hardly ever presents a video that
allows us to see the police officers point of view. The part of the video that shows the suspect
reaching for an unknown object, putting the officers life on the line.
Just like in any other job there are police officers that stand by their promise to protect
and to serve their community and others who abuse their power. Children who have parents in
law informant could be targeted by other children at their school. Making it hard for them to live
their everyday life. Children could suffer from bullying, name calling, and rejection making it
hard for them to create healthy relationship with other children. Absent parent, hearing negative
comments in regards of mom or dads job, and not being able to fit in might cause trauma in a
child. The trauma could occur at any time without the parents noticing.
Methodology
In order to get different points of view in regards of this topic I met with 3 different
people. The first person I met with was officer Anderson. He has been part of LAPD for 20 years
and is a father of 2 children. We spoke for thirty minutes; he expresses his opinion on the
importance of talking to the children in the household. The second person I met with was a 25-
year-old male, who we will call Max. He is the son of a police officer. The interview lasted for
an hour at a coffee shop. He spoke in regards of the negative view people have towards police
officers, and how it has affected him socially and emotionally in his life. The last person I spoke
with was a female, we met at the park for fifteen minutes. She has been married to her husband
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for 3 years and she recently became a police officers wife, after her husband graduated the
police academy about a year ago. She touched on the subject of communication with the
Results
Police officers dont have a traditional work schedule, that allows them to make It to
every Saturday game or every recital their child might have. Missing important event in a child
life could be crucial for their self-esteem. Children create emotional attachments with their
parents or caregivers from a very early age. The book Teaching with the brain in mind by Eric
Jensen explains healthy emotional attachment during a childs 24 months helps develop the
social and emotional skills fundamental for life (Siguel, 19990). In other words, the first 2 years
of a child life are the most important in order for them to have a strong foundation in their
Unfortunately, the shift that officers are assigned might not allow them create such
bond with their child. The article Police Work and Its Effect on the Family written by Donna
Fratesi informs us how shift work disrupts family life and interferes with holidays and special
family events (3). Making it difficult for an officer and their child to create a strong
relationship. Having an absent parent might cause the child to have change his or her behavior.
According to Stephanie when her husband started patrolling her children reacted in different
Ways. Her three years old was sensitive, he would cry about anything that he found unfair, like
his brother getting the blue ice pop and him getting the red ice pop. She explains that her little
boy had never been so sensitive prior to his dads new job. She continues my seven-year-old
who was usually calm starred getting aggressive, hitting his younger brother and me when his
dad wasnt home. According to the article Children of the Badge written by Mark Bond
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explains the type of behavior Stephanies kids demonstrated are completely normal during a
stressful change. Mark Bond explains a childs anxiety is display in many different behaviors
such as sudden unprovoked crying, mean or angry talk (unusual to the child) or acting needy.
Childrens self-esteem who tend to have an absent father tend to diminish according to
Beth Wood in the article An absent parent and self- esteem in children. She states children in
homes where fathers are not involved in their lives experience diminished self-esteem,
well as teen pregnancy. Woods also shares that anger, insecurity, fear of rejection, impulsive
behaviors, self-destructive behavior and poor self-esteem happen because of the mother's
absence.
In the world we live in is easy to see or hear negative comments about police officers.
Children who are part of a law informant family might be one of the most affected by such
comments. Max explains how hard it was for him growing up when people found out his dad
was a cop High school was rough for me, I would get tease and called names because my dad
was a cop. He continues now that I got older is hard for me to see the news or social media
because of all the messages full of hate towards police officers. It upsets me because I know for a
fact not all cops are bad. My dad is a good man and a great role model that I cant brag about
because people will lose their mind. Many children just like max suffer from bullying everyday
according to stopBullying.gov, 49% off student report being bullied by other students.
Children whose parents are police officers are not the exception to bullying. The article
Supporting family & Children of law enforcement Officers state's Children become targets of
anger and bullying by peers at school. Bullying could cause severe damage to a childs self
Esteem, not only children of law enforcement but any child could be affected. The article
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Effects of Bullying in a child Self-Esteem gives a list of effect a child might experience due to
Bullying might lose their self-confidence and might start doubting them-self. Along with
bullying comes fear which might cause a child to wet their bed at night. Being bullied might
make the child feel insignificant and unimportant causing them to distant themselves from
people, and spend the majority of their time on their own. Children might truly believe all the
negative things they hear of them self or people close to them and those negative thoughts might
Children of law informant have to deal with many stressful situations such as, not knowing
if their parent will make it home, hearing negative things of their parents job, and on time even
hearing harsh details of a case their parent encounter throughout the day. All these elements
might be too hard for a child to process properly, consequently causing them to suffer from
trauma.
Children might experience trauma in different ways which parents might not be aware of.
Trauma could happen for many reasons like being bullied or going through some traumatic event
in life. On times children dont have to go through a traumatic event to become traumatized.
Lessening to a conversation full of harsh detail could be more than enough to cause trauma.
Children who have an officer in their family, may be more exposed to such conversations.
According to Mark bond children can even share the same memories or re-enact the LEOs
(Law Enforcement Officer) trauma by knowing that a traumatic event was experienced by the
parent. Many times parents are not aware of how much impact their conversation might have on
their child.
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Trauma is hard on a child especially if they can't really identify as where it came from but
it is also bad for the child's self-esteem. A child who experiences trauma is more likely to have a
lower self-esteem than other children. According to Nelson Goff, Crow, Reisbig, & Hamilton
(2007) they believe people who have experienced a traumatic event report lower self-esteem
and less relationship satisfaction than those who have not experienced a traumatic event (16).
Trauma does not only happen to children who have lived a traumatic moment in their life.
Trauma could also happen to children who hear horrifying details during a conversation.
Having a parent or spouse who is a cop might not be ideal, due to their work schedule,
and the stress they might bring to the family. Luckily for those families there are something they
could do in order to have achieved a healthy relationship. The key to having a healthy
relationship despite one of the parents being a cop is communication. According to officer
Anderson the only way he was able to keep his family together was by communicating with
them. When I first join LAPD, I felt like my family was falling apart. My children would not
speak to me as often as they did before, and my wife and I were having many issues. He
continues I started calling to the house whenever I had a break. My sons and I would have a
quick conversation and I would let them know how much the mean to me, I would also talk to
my wife and I would let her know how much I loved her. When I was home I spend most of the
time with my family and I tried to be fully present in every conversation we were having. I
honestly think this is what save my family. Finding the time to speak with one another could be
just what a family needs in order to make it through all the obstacles.
Children who are part of a law informant family have many things to deal with for
example the absence of their parents, as well as negative comments in regards of them or their
family, Bullying, and trauma. This might cause the child to separate from their parents and
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friends. There really is no way preventing your child to feel a certain way. The best thing a
parent could do is to communicate with the child as often as possible and clear any inquiries they
might have. Having a good support system will help the child feel better and their self-esteem
won't be compromise.
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