Statement of Fact

July 20 2016
By Brenda Everall

1. My heart is breaking because of how I am being treated.

2. When Grandpa came home from the hospital I dropped everything to help him stabilize and to
settle into a routine.

3. Grandpa and I began a quest of healthier living and making improvements to his diet.

4. We were seeing great successes. Grandpa's breathing was under control, he was sleeping
properly, his bowels were functioning well, his anxiety was controlled, and his pain began to
slowly minimize and he had hope.

5. For three days in a row, Grandpa was up and about, going outside, fixing things and thriving in
his outdoor environment. He made some sales at the yard sale and he was feeling great.

6. When Grandpa is evaluated by nurses or other health care professionals his successes may not
have been noted simply because Grandpa has a dire need to gain attention from others and he
complains about everything that occurred since last seeing them and therefore he can seem
sicker than he actually is at that particular moment in time.

7. All of the success that Grandpa has made recently is regressing in my opinion.

8. Although Grandma wanted me around and appreciated my help in the first couple of weeks, she
is beginning to do what she did the last time I stayed there. She begins to get so jealous of my
attention towards Grandpa that she starts to sabotage our relationship. She tells papa flat out lies
about me and she exaggerates the smallest of issues to paint me as a bad person or a trouble
maker.

9. When I hold Grandma accountable for the way she treats Grandpa, Grandma then pouts and
contacts Aunt Brenda. This must change. Grandma triggered Grandpa into an attack so badly
last week that he was physically and emotionally overwhelmed. When I try to hold her to
account for how she acts she lies and manipulates her way out of it and points fingers at me as
being an instigator.

10. We need to be able to communicate better as a family. Because there is so much concern about
Grandpa's diet, I've suggested that we employ the services of a dietitian. It should not be
difficult to understand that cancer feeds off of sugar, however, it seems that particular family
members could use some basic education in this regard. If we all took the time to actually
understand Grandpa's condition then we would be better informed and less afraid about his
options.

11. Please look into the Budwig protocol, alkalizing the body, detoxing, spirulina, etc. if you care at
all about helping Grandpa to recover. There's no nicer way to say it!

12. It is disgusting how calculating particular people are acting in this situation, specifically Aunt
Brenda, Uncle Ed & Grandma. They treat me like dirt in private but then make a concerted
 effort to praise me and talk me up in front of Grandpa. In this sense, Grandpa believes that I am
being treated fairly and decently they Aunt Brenda, Uncle Ed & Grandma try to work with me.
It is so unbelievably sick to act the way that these alleged adults are! There's so much talking
behind backs, randomness and secrecy all working towards the fulfillment of personal agendas,
in my opinion, that one simply can't keep up with it all. Nor do I wish to.

13. I am seriously upset with the thanklessness of this family. Sure, Aunt Brenda or Uncle Eddie
with thank me in front of Grandpa for something that I did or whatever, but overall, I feel
feelings of resentment and/or hate when I am around either of them alone. They do not make
me feel supported and they are straight up mean, rude and disrespectful to me. I walked away
from my own life and all of my summer goals when my Grandparent's needed me. No one
knows the costs to me when simply drop my life on a dime. No one seems to care either. I don't
do what I do so that I can be a hero or to get attention, I do it because I care and I love my
Grandparents. But when I am constantly made to feel small and invalid it gets to a person. I am
treated like the stupidest person on the planet and as though I intend to bring harm to Grandma
and/or Grandpa in some way. The way I am treated is unimaginably abusive. I deserve far
better. I was there for my Grandparen't 24/7, dropped my own plans, did what it took and now
that everything is rolling smoothly I'm being alienated away. It's not fair!

14. I have taken courses on Grandpa's specific type of cancer as well as Elder Abuse Training. I
have a public facebook profile and the certificates are able to be viewed there in my notes. I'm
not some idiot shooting in the dark here... I actually took some training and I wonder how many
others in the family have done the same. I know that my Mother, Father and Siblings have
researched enough to know that we have alternatives available for Grandpa, however, it seems
that Aunt Brenda, Uncle Ed and Grandpa are actively opposed to any such efforts. We should all
care enough, in my opinion, to research and to work together as a family to make the best plan
possible with Grandpa's healthcare team. I become very frustrated in this regard and cannot
understand why my efforts to improve Grandpa's health are being so heavily opposed and
thwarted. It's a damn sad situation!

15. I will keep doing these statement of facts until there is some sort of resolution. This family is in
crisis and I believe Aunt Brenda is the main instigator and manipulator in question. I believe it
is time for Aunt Brenda to be accountable for her words and action. The lies, opposition and
manipulation are obvious at this point to everyone but Grandpa and I insist that this conflict
remain far removed from him as it is important to keep his stress to a bare minimum.

16. I'm waiting to hear how the Dr. appointment went in Kingston. I sent a list and some
supplements for approval and we will take things from there. I sent a note for Jennifer/Brenda
and I asked them to support Grandpa in his quest for healthier living by helping him
communicate his questions and concerns to the Doctor. I asked them to ask for a referral to a
dietitian if the Doctor was unable to give us immediate assistance with the questions and/or
concerns that Grandpa and/or other family members may have.

17. Please communicate accordingly.