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Ralph Frem
English 115
4 October 2017
In American Society today, many people feel obligated to tweak the tone of who they are
to adapt and conform to socially construct norms. The simple awareness of social construct
norms would be being dominant for males, and being submissive for females. Unfortunately, this
creates a made-up ideology for peer-interaction. This notion does not allow people to be who
they truly are, and aim only to please socially construct norms. This concocted notion of
interaction in certain spaces has been implemented from an early age for everyone. With that
said, I am no different in my daily life. From my job as a Stage Technician where the possibility
of feeling out of place and not be accepted with my co-workers, to interacting with my friends
depending on their gender, I will always have a plan in how I adapt to, and or alter my gender
performance. This ideology has become a norm, especially in American Society today, people
will always feel the need to enhance their gender performances depending on the specific gender
space. The reason why people feel this way is that the repercussions of being different in a
gender space can lead to criticism and shaming. These repercussions can make people hesitant
In American Society, many people conform to two identities, the masculine or feminine
identity. The reason people conform to these two identities is the cause of socially construct
gender notions. If people do not conform to their own identity, it can cause others to look at and
treat them differently, which is something not many people enjoy. When a child grows up, they
are taught that they are either female or male, and nothing in between. This contributes to how
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individuals think about gender, and most importantly replicates their ideas through interactions.
It is a very restrictive way of thinking, and doesnt allow much room for a new perspective. In
the book Composing Gender, Judith Lorbers Night to His Day, Lorber states We have to
look not only at the way individuals experience gender, but gender as a social institution (21).
When looked at as a social institution, it is easy to see that gender is important to society because
it helps people organize their lives. If people are unable to fit someone into a gender, they feel
uneasy. This is just an example of the way we have adapted to societys gender predicament.
When looking at gender as a social institution, it also explains why we feel the need to perform
differently in gender spaces. If people are not in their preferred institution, they may be shamed
for being a part of an incorrect identity. It helps to show aspects of all genders and how
individuals are expected to perform in their spaces, similar to criteria to follow for a class
project. This is the main cause of why people feel the need to fix the way they act in different
spaces, which does not allow them to be their true selves with interaction.
One of the most recognizable ways I conform to these socially construct norms is at my
work. I am a Stage Technician at Six Flags Magic Mountain, and this job occasionally requires
hefty labor, from building Fright Fest mazes to moving heavy stage equipment. In this job, I feel
the need to attribute more masculine traits and prove myself to my superiors and other co-
workers. If I do not attribute masculine features, I feel that I would be looked upon in an
unacceptable way. As Aaron Devor states in Becoming Members of Society: The Social
Meanings of Gender To the degree that children absorb the generalized standards of society
into their personal concept of what is correct behavior, they can be said to hold within
themselves the attitude of the generalized other. This generalized other is what nudges me to
believe that I have to act a certain way to not be criticized. To avoid this way of thinking, I will
always offer to do jobs or take up a lead position in certain projects. The tone in which I speak
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also changes between my female and male co-workers. I feel the need to soften my tone with my
female co-workers, but once I am with my male co-workers, I attribute a much different tone.
This is seen all around, my male co-workers are also very aggressive with each other by making
rude jokes and demeaning others works. However this is completely different when they are
with female co-workers, especially because they know how rude their jokes can be. But
something that I found out is that my tone does not change to my female superiors, because they
attribute much more masculine traits due to the nature of the job. I realize even sometimes my
female superiors might be a little more intimidating than my male superiors, this forces me to
talk to all my superiors in the same way, which would be my masculine tone. All these examples
prove that I have conformed to social construct norms because if I did not, I would feel out of
Masculinity is very important to many males, it is what defines them in society, and
without masculine features, males feel that they are in a low position. Aaron Devor states
Masculinity, like femininity can be demonstrated through a wide variety of cues (42). Said
cues are vital to showing ones gender, especially to males. For example, when I began gym
class in high school, I did not enjoy changing in the locker room in front of all my peers. This led
to ridiculing by my peers which made me feel very uncomfortable. This is an example of a type
of cue, that If I do not change in the locker room, I am not as masculine as I may seem to be.
Cues like these are how men strive to achieve a certain status which will define them in their
lives. None of my male friends have ever felt comfortable with being looked upon as feminine,
and this has only grown from middle school to college. The average male, to social construct
norms, would be tall, deep voiced, and of course muscular. If one does not fit this norm he may
be looked down upon and not seen as a fit to be part of the male conformity in society.
Therefore, some cues are significant to prove to peers in spaces. That is also why I choose to
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attribute much more masculine features during my shifts at Six Flags. I feel that to conform to
norms, I need to prove myself through said cues or else I will not be looked at as masculine.
And as it is today, if I am looked at as feminine for certain traits, I will be disgraced for not
This ideology has been true since my first day of school, I always knew there was a
specific way to interact with my female friends. By specific way, I mean tone and actions around
these female friends. I would talk in a softer tone and try to discuss ideas that did not revolve
around masculinity. I believed that some topics of discussion might cause my female peers to
back away a little. I especially remember the different games that we would play with our female
friends in middle school, reason was so the girls did not feel left out. Today, I still act a little
differently around my female friends, but not as drastically as before. I believe when I attribute
to female conformity with my female friends, it has helped me gain their respect and trust as a
friend. For example, throughout high school many girls chose the words sweet and kind if
they were asked to describe me. However, if you ask my male friends theyll most likely tell you
otherwise and might even have evidence to back up their claims. This is even more true in
previous relationships I had, where girls will realize the softer side to me that is not shown to
anyone else. My tone has a very noticeable shift between these two groups, and it has allowed
social groups. This proves that ever since my early age, I felt the need to adhere to certain social
norms to feel accepted, and it has sometimes not allowed me to be my true self with some people
Aaron Devor states Speech and dress which likewise demonstrate or claim superior status are
also seen as characteristically masculine behavior patterns (43). An example would be if one
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person was to control the direction of the conversation, this is a more masculine trait. This is
something that I have noticed, and that is why usually in a conversation with a female friend I try
to back down a little bit, and allow that friend to speak more than I. This allows her to feel that
she is a friend, and that I am not as aggressive as I seem with my male friends. I feel that if I
attribute too much masculine characteristics I will come off as too much and seem
unappealing. This demonstrates that whatever space I am confined to, my instinct will be to
male friends.
Due to Societys socially construct gender norms, many people feel the need to have their
tone changed depending on their space. As I have discussed, my tone will vary in a drastic way,
depending on what I am doing and who I am with. I feel that If I do not act the way I do, will be
looked upon differently and incorrectly. The obligation to feel this way is the cause of a series of
teachings and experiences that have impacted me in the past. Without the ways, I have acted
through my social interactions, I believe that my personality will be completely different. Acting
this way in society does not allow individuals to truly be the way they are, unfortunately this has
become a norm and allows the concocted notion of interactions to continue in society today.
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Works Cited
Groner, Rachel, and John F. OHara. Composing Gender: a Bedford spotlight reader. Bedford/St.
Martins, 2014. Judith Lorber Night to His Day Pg.21 We have to look not only at the
Groner, Rachel, and John F. OHara. Composing Gender: a Bedford spotlight reader. Bedford/St.
Martins, 2014. Aaron Devor Becoming Members of Society: The Social Meanings of
Gender Pg.42 Masculinity, like femininity can be demonstrated through a wide variety
of cues
Groner, Rachel, and John F. OHara. Composing Gender: a Bedford spotlight reader. Bedford/St.
Martins, 2014. Aaron Devor Becoming Members of Society: The Social Meanings of
Gender Pg. 43 Speech and dress which likewise demonstrate or claim superior status are
Groner, Rachel, and John F. OHara. Composing Gender: a Bedford spotlight reader. Bedford/St.
Martins, 2014. Aaron Devor Becoming Members of Society: The Social Meanings of
Gender Pg. 38 To the degree that children absorb the generalized standards of society
inot their personal concept of what is correct behavior, they can be sadi to hold within