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Shannon Flynt
John Bowlbys Attachment Theory states that children have a biological drive to attach to
a primary caregiver as a means of survival. The attachment style of ones main caregiver effects
the way a person interacts and preserves others, the world and themselves, building their internal
working model that they base their expectations of the world and how they are to relate to it. The
research of Bowlbys and many others shows a strong correlation between the way an individual
is raised and how that individual frames, not only the world in childhood but the way one
perceives the world throughout life. A persons attachment style effects adult friendships,
After the class covering Bowlbys original theorys (1944, 1956, 1969, 1988) I sought
more information and more recent research from Mary Ainsworth. I found this research helpful
for understanding my own childhood and indeed my adult attachment style. I talked to my
Mother about my infancy and early childhood. It was an interesting conversation about some
things that I found familiar from this research. confirming what I had expected based on my
However, it is helpful to recognize and reevaluate when I engaged in ineffective behavior. More
so, its helped me be compassionate and excepting of my husband, family and others.
I come from a large family (8 siblings, 40ish nieces and nephews) and am able to see a
wide verity of parenting styles and their children. Bowleys theory has helped me understand and
relate to my family and in-laws in a way I wasnt before. Not because I know their attachment
style or their internal working model but because Ive excepted that I cant.
This, now obvious, principal that children learn from their caregivers has made me more
aware of the dangers of modern parenting. With constant distractions and the ability to be
omnipresent in childrens lives, it will take restraint and engagement in the right balance to give
a child a secure base. I hope that Bowleys simple idea that as a caregiver one is literally building
a childs perception of self and the world. This should be commonly understood and taught. So
that possible parents have to understand and except the onus of mindfully raising children at the
My husband and I have been looking into classes to begin the process of fostering. His
family has a foster brother and experienced some conflict, as is often the case, but after
successful adoption, hes an adored part of the family. I have always wanted to foster but have
feared failing children coming from ineffective homes or abusive families that might need extra
patience and understanding. I hope I can use what Ive learned about development and
attachment to be an effective compassionate father and husband when I have the opportunity.
Citations
Johnson, S. C., Dweck, C. S., Chen, F. S., Stern, H. L., Ok, S.-J. and Barth, M. At the
Intersection of Social and Cognitive Development: Internal Working Models of Attachment in
Infancy. Cognitive Science. 2010.
Bowlby, J. (1944). Forty-four juvenile thieves: Their characters and home life. International
Journal of Psychoanalysis. 1944.
Bowlby, J. Attachment, communication, and the therapeutic process. A secure base: Parent-child
attachment and healthy human development. 1988.