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Abria Flack
Professor Ditch
English 115
27 September 2017
Abnormal Normalities
A life free of standards simply does not exist. As people advance through their lives, they
are constantly overcoming and approaching generalized instruction that must be abided by in the
name of societal declaration. Failure to accommodate these predetermined standards may result
in societal punishment typically dealt verbally, though occasionally physically. The way I
perform gender in certain spaces is determined by the environment and who I am surrounded by,
as is common among most people. Within each space that I encounter, a standard of what is
As a species accustomed to and embodied by societal assertion from birth, the behavioral
tendencies, mannerisms, what or who can prompt interest, and other identity aspects that
construct people, are greatly influenced and set forth by society. In the article, Becoming
Members of Society: The Social Meanings of Gender, the author Aaron Devor mentions how
[American] society demands different gender performances from us and rewards, tolerates, or
punishes us differently for conformity to or digression from, social norms (35). This statement
is often difficult for some people to absorb properly, as it attributes and derides the way of living
that they are most accustomed to; unless addressed directly, gender is perceived as an empty
label, one that merely offers a name in society. Personally, I could not agree more with the
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statement. Though I identify as a female, I favor quite a few masculine tendencies, always have,
and most likely always will. I was never one for nail painting or gossip, but more so for video
games, and sports. However, I would hardly express these qualities of myself because they were
not perceived as lady-like and as a result, I was often confronted with statements and questions
such as Isnt that a boy thing? or Ive never heard of a girl playing video games before.
engage with. For example, when speaking on subjects such as beauty preference or cosmetics,
my vernacular and body language fluctuates in a more flamboyant manner, I become more
gesticulative and extensively expressive. However, when speaking on subjects such as sports or
video game releases, I adopt an equally expressive language and manner, though they can be
activity as it is one that I have owned all my life and am therefore most comfortable with. Due to
the fact, my family would refer to me as a Tomboy, but never in a derogatory manner, and I
accepted the title. But when I truly evaluate the term, it is unnecessary. A label for a girl who
does not necessarily partake or favor feminine activity should not exist. I am a girl, purely, just
one who enjoys masculine activities in particular; I prefer it to be said that way. And although I
have experienced criticism for how I have behaved, my nonconformity was not and is not met
with nearly as much brutality as what is distributed to men who fail to conform to what is
perceived as the ideal masculine image. As opposed to feminine generalizations, the masculine
identity is stripped of the qualities that make them human. Society has determined that men are
not meant to, nor made for, emotional response. However, if that were true, men would not have
been physically born with the ability to do so. Humans are expressive beings that exhibit
this is another factor that contributes to the claim that labels the correlation between gender and
biology as invalid.
Due to the response that I received after vocalizing these hobbies, it took years of
concealing what I could potentially be shamed for to bring myself to the understanding of how it
was completely okay. As the years progressed, not only did I establish friendships with females
who had hidden the same interests, but also with people who did not necessarily favor them but
admired them in the unique setting that I offered. Judith Lorber in the article Night to His Day:
The Social Construction of Gender summarizes what my experiences were the product of, by
stating how gendered norms and expectations are enforced through informal sanctions of
gender-inappropriate behavior by peers and by formal punishment (28). If it had not been for
the gender norm that deemed females unlikely or incapable of video gameplay or athleticism, I
would have been confident in expressing those skills from the moment I contracted them.
However, despite the shameless exposure of these qualities that I now evoke, I continue to
exercise them toward male friends, primarily. And not because of embarrassment or unnecessary
caution, but of genuine consideration of interest. That trend resonates through most of my
behavioral tendencies. When around other females, I behave more femininely or in general
correspondence to how they behave. When around males, I behave more masculinely or in
general correspondence to how they behave as well. I believe that this is a result of gender
recognition and perception. Once gender is established and identified, actions and demeanor
commence in response to that specific gender. However, that gender perception is socially
constructed. Men expect women to perform a certain way and women expect men to perform a
certain way, but the way in which both of these identities act exists as standards of depiction,
illustrated by society. These standards generate social stigmas around certain activities and
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determine which gender can pursue them, therefore arousing wideset skepticism among all
people who prefer to prioritize adherence of social criticism, due to the fact.
Similar to awkward encounters where one may not know the name to refer to the other
by, or vice versa, the concept exists within gender identity as well. When people struggle to
society coexists with gender identity, therefore, incapability of labeling someone as a specific
gender leads to inability to establish correspondence to general aspects of society and norm,
therefore affecting comfort. In the article Night to His Day: The Social Construction of
Gender, Lorber also mentions how we are uncomfortable until we have successfully placed the
other person in a gender status, otherwise, we feel socially dislocated (20). However, it has not
always been this way. At the very commencement of human existence, society and its influence
on anything-- gender standards specifically-- did not exist; people were just people, equal in their
stances. But, as a result of false accusatory stereotypes and myths, qualities are now assigned and
social rhythm, chiefly. The concept provides a powerful crutch on general functionality than
most realize. However, with the founding of most recent organizations and programs in regards
to gender identity, American society may soon face a genderless future, free of both positive and
negative standards, therefore placing all personal identities as equal. And in spite of the
essentiality generated around gender identity in American society, the harsh existence of gender-
associated social stigmas, have gradually digressed and will hopefully continue to do so for the
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sake of people like me who want only for their natural, unacceptable behavior and interests to
Works Cited
Lorber, Judith. "Night to His Day: The Social Construction of Gender." Composing Gender: A
Devor, Aaron. "Becoming Members of Society: The Social Meanings of Gender." Composing
Gender: A Bedford Spotlight Reader. Boston: Leasa Burton, 2014. 35-45. Print.