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I once read an article on why porn is great for your relationship While thats a
nice fantasy, the reality is quite the opposite!
And if youre reading this article, you have likely discovered that not only is porn
possibly harming your relationship, its terrible for your self-esteem too.
Ive got 50 good reasons for you to take a stand against your porn habit and to
become a better, happier and more fulfilled man, in every way.
If youre busy doing the do often in the day, youre not going to have energy for
much else, including sexual intimacy with a partner.
You may have already experienced a lack of drive, and possibly the effects it has
on you and your partner. Reclaiming that energy can be exhilarating.
3. Restore your energy in general.
If youre watching porn, youre probably also masturbating once, maybe twice,
possibly three or four times a day.
Ive heard of extreme cases where just about every free minute of the day was
spent this way. Thats between lunch times at work, even bathroom breaks. This
will definitely drain your body of the physical stamina it needs to keep up with the
daily activities of life.
Ever feel like youre spending too much time in front of your computer screen
doing essentially nothing? Probably because thats exactly whats happening.
Consider for a moment what productivity means to you. Are you ambitious, are
you driven, are you ready to achieve your goals? Yes? Now consider how much
time your PMO habit takes from you.
Pleasures, desires and fantasies are all governed by the mind, to some extent.
Porn takes away the excitement of the unknown. In other words, it really kills the
buzz. Taking porn out of the equation deters the need for ever more, ever harder
content that distorts the view of those pleasures, desires and fantasies. It can,
and often does happen that expectations are set too high and are unrealistic after
sustaining a porn habit.
By kicking the habit, your dopamine levels return to normal and resets your
arousal patterns.
You know the old adage, absence makes the heart grow fonder? Well, it make
other things grow fonder too. Lets be honest: addiction removes the enjoyment
out of an activity. Once you start relying on that addiction, you can be sure it
wont be too long before you need to up the ante a bit, which means that you:
a) Will have less desire for the things that previously got you excited
c) Will have more desire for shock factor things. This takes the addiction into a
whole new level, especially if you have a partner. You may find that your partner
resents your approach to intimate matters.
The porn industry objectifies situations, people and sex. Theres nothing
romantic, or realistic about it whatsoever. The scenes created in a porn movie are
nothing like the reality of an intimate relationship.
However, its not uncommon for people to try to make porn scenes a reality. This
puts a lot of strain on the partner to live up. But your partner is not the only one
who stands to suffer from your porn-induced fantasies. You do. There are a wide
number of sexual dysfunctions in men that have been linked directly to porn.
When youve got a clean slate to work with, youll find it easier to build a healthy
relationship with someone emotionally, physically and sexually.
8. Prevents social isolation.
Many people report feeling pretty ashamed, or at the very least somewhat
guilty about their porn habits. This guilt, in turn, makes them feel awkward and
indifferent in public. If you no longer have to deal with this all-consuming habit,
you no longer have to worry about the shame that comes with it.
By nature, PMO is something that demands isolation, but isolation closes the
doors to true intimacy with another human being. Its not just intimacy that
suffers, valuable social time with friends, family and lovers also stand at risk of
being put low on the list.
Its amazing how many NoFap Reddit users report that their NoFap and NoPorn
commitments have helped them socially. There are a number of reasons for this,
but the most commonly mentioned is that there is a sort of victory over social
awkwardness around members of the opposite sex after quitting porn.
10. Prevents general anxiety
PMO can be hugely detrimental for those with low self-esteem. Negative feelings
about the adverse effects of masturbation, porn addiction and inability to quit or
manage porn effectively can slowly tear away at a persons buoyancy.
With that said, quitting a PMO addiction can help you feel free, more in control
over your own desires and more in control over yourself and your reactions to
situations.
With the two points mentioned above, its important to note that for some a PMO
habit can wreak havoc in their lives. Its not to say that everyone will be affected
in the same way, but the risk is there none the less. Depression is a very real and
very large part of a porn addiction, perhaps a self-perpetuating cycle. Depression
= a bigger porn habit, a bigger porn habit = deeper depression. Making that stand
against this can certainly break this cycle and hand you back the confidence you
have in yourself.
13. Prevents personal shame
No porn equals no shame, its simple. The secrecy surrounding that PMO habit
can contribute negatively to your persona. Shame can quickly settle in, even if its
not immediately noticeable. Conflicting religious beliefs, societal ethics, moral
standpoints all become part of the dilemma that adds to the shame associated
with porn. No better reason to quit porn, personal shame is truly the precursor to
so many of the other problems.
14. Reverses destructive behaviour
This effect is not always easy to track as there really are a number of things that
can contribute to destructive behaviour. Theres an obvious pattern of destruction
in porn, but the way this manifests itself is a bit more abstract. Loving
relationships can turn sour. Open and comforting associations can become
strained. Ideas and ideals change and sometimes severe pressure is placed on
the partner to perform or live up to the standards that the porn addict sets.
Quitting the habit allows you to assume responsibility and become accountable
for your own actions. That sounds pretty hectic, but its the best way forward.
15. Avoid matrimonial troubles that lead to divorce
The porn industry at best can be a bit dodgy. By quitting porn, you become an
advocate for personal and social positive change by simply refusing to contribute
towards the ever growing pandemic that is the pornography problem.
The industry is infamously known for profiting off the gross violations, sickening
abuses, moral degradation, exploitation and trafficking of minors, teenagers and
artists. With each click on a porn site, you become part of an ever-growing
problem and therefor just as accountable to exploitive activity masked as
entertainment.
User need and demand is what feeds the industry, and the production biggies are
smart enough to know the effects it has on the viewers, of that you can be sure.
17. Allows you to take back control
Excess of anything is not good and can lead to addiction. Quitting the physical
and mental demands of pornography is a far cry from being an easy break, but in
doing so you return the power to yourself to break free from the control that your
porn habit has over you. Letting go of this addiction opens so many doors to
never-before-experienced opportunities. Remember, you were meant to enjoy
the best things life has to offer.
18. Quitting porn saves you money
Have you ever tracked just how much youve spent on your habit? Even if you
havent literally spent money on watching porn its highly likely that your time
spent watching porn could have been spent more productively i.e. making
money? Time is money after all, and by spending both time and money on porn
youre basically stealing from yourself to give to a massive industry which:
b) Is not going to use that money for anything good. Trust me.
Its no secret that porn sites are riddled with spam-, hacking-, backdoor-, identity-
theft-, Trojan-, virus-, adware-, and malware software. These all work separately
or as a team to pretty much ruin your digital devices. Individuals, companies and
organizations have lost millions in revenue, integrity, and productivity thanks to
this little problem.
Virtual policies are in place for this very reason and safeguard confidential
content and files being stolen via the backdoor thats left open when on porn sites
(no pun intended!). Thats not to say it WILL happen to you, but it could. Even if
youre not watching porn at work, the fact of the matter is that if youre sharing
files between home and work via email, flash, or even using your home computer
for work purposes; you stand a good chance of sharing some of the nasties that
crawl onto your device through these sites.
20. Increases arousal towards partner
With the absence of pornography and masturbation the bodys natural desire for
release and intimacy can be redirected to your partner or spouse. (Hint THIS IS
A HUGE BONUS)
21. Prevents novelty-seeking behaviour
Ever heard of the Coolidge effect? Its also known as novelty-seeking behaviour
and can be pretty damaging to a healthy relationship. Porn most definitely
encourages this effect by rushing your brain with dopamine each time you see, or
experience, something appealing. That dopamine is your bodys way of saying
hmmm, I like. But,unfortunately, induced dopamine is not stable and less is
produced each time you watch porn, however, psychologically you still want and
need that feeling so you go to great lengths to get it.
Enter hard-core over the top porn. Its impossible for a spouse or partner to keep
up with this sort of boundary-pushing.
22. Freedom from controlling sexual desires
You are not your sexual desires and your sexual desires are not you. A
pornography addiction can certainly begin forming a sort of control over you. The
more you watch, the more you want. The more you want the more you desire.
The more you desire the more you wish to control the need, and inevitably, the
people on the receiving end of your desires.
The feeling of liberation that comes from kicking the PMO habit is exhilarating,
but enabling as well. It enables you to realise that your character (and your
happiness) is not controlled by sex.
23. Avoid the digital intimacy trap
The virtual love affair with pornography cannot substitute or replace the physical,
physiological and spiritual representation of an actual person, relationship or
feeling. This can be an emotionally dangerous and detrimental trap for those who
hope to find the joys of inclusion and association with social groups and people in
the workplace, home or otherwise.
24. Resolves premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction problems
Porn has no long-term benefits. Sure it offers short-term gratification and quick
release through masturbation, but thats where its good intentions stop. Many
people report that after prolonged exposure to porn, the body just cant deal with
the pressure and excitement of an intimate encounter. Luckily, this problem is
completely reversible but it takes dedication, time and patience and the desire to
change the pattern, so if your aspiration is to become a fully functional and
exciting lover for your partner, dump the porn!
25. Restores sexual functionality (and eliminates sexual awkwardness)
Practice makes perfect. The more you engage, the better youll become, right? A
commitment to no masturbation/porn restores an under-explored* sexual
functionality that actually improves the act itself each time you get down and busy
with your loved one.
Having sex with a woman supposedly affects your brain in a different way than
when youre alone and masturbating. Oxytocin is commonly called the love
hormone or cuddle hormone and plays an important part in intimacy and
bonding between two people. Where the release of Prolactin it is essential to their
sexual health. ALSO, the hormone Prolactin makes us feel satiated by
countering the effect of Dopamine, which is released during sexual arousal.
SOURCES:
This is exactly why PMO is so addictive. Just like drugs, the more you masturbate
the more the brain becomes used to and desensitized to the effects of
Dopamine and the more youll crave your next fix.
Heres another unexpected benefit of quitting porn a new lease on life. Believe it
or not, the combination of advantages mentioned throughout this article work
together to give you a heightened sense with a natural libido for life.
The great downside of PMO is that you can be left feeling all used up and
worthless for having engaged in an unproductive act. So naturally it makes sense
that saying sayonara to something so draining will leave you feeling new and
ready to tackle life again.
Therere two sides to watching porn. On the one hand, you get to watch
exhilarating and arousing videos. On the other, you get to watch something that
youre not taking part in. At first this may not seem like a problem, but it certainly
does chip away slowly at your self-esteem.
PMO exacerbates this dilemma. That empty feeling which is so different from the
real thing can dampen your spirits even more. Taking a stand against this cycle
offers you what is rightfully yours your confidence in all things sensual.
30.Prevent perverse and twisted stigma
If youd like to steer clear of being seen as perverse and twisted, perhaps now is
the time to stop your porn habit.
Perverse behaviour can be traced back to the excessive indulgence into an early
life of pornography, masturbation, sexual gratification, abuse and sexual and/or
aggressive conflicts in childhood. The inherent stigma of a perverse mind is
conceptualized and rooted in pornography.
Ok, so thats not to say that all people who engage in watching porn will pick up
these traits, but its a very real risk. Top that with the fact that women can
immediately detect insincere cues which are likely to be picked up by watching
porn. Again it boils down to porn being an unrealistic representation of
interaction between two people.
31.Puts you back at zero
Yup, quitting porn allows you to become a fresh scholar of love. Face it, porn
does not depict love in the least. Being intimate with a woman is all about those
hot, passionate moments in which she feels absolutely incapacitated in your love.
Those moments are the bingo moments, and certainly worth waiting for.
32.Experience more satisfaction from the small things in life
The small things in life are often more important than the bigger things, they are
what makes up the fabric of your daily living. Why miss out on those things sitting
behind your desk, glued to a screen, doing something that is at best, only mildly
enjoyable and in nature cannot be shared with anyone? Seems pretty lonely
when its worded that way. Free up some time and do the things that really do
offer satisfaction.
appreciate
33.Increases testosterone levels
The big T is a vital natural steroid hormone in men which is essential for
development, health, well-being and sexual functioning. During the absence of
PMO, a sexual act with a partner stimulates the release and increase of
Testosterone. Masturbation doesnt actually provide the same release, which
means your body may be experiencing the release that it needs but without all
the important benefits.
Have you been feeling shy or awkward around women? Are you unable to bridge
the gap for some reason? It may be that social anxiety is getting the better of you
here and that social anxiety is highly likely to have stemmed from the by-products
of a PMO habit. Remember that a lot of guilt and shame, even if it is self-
imposed, finds its way into the porn-masturbation relationship and this can keep
you from enjoying easy contact, as it should be, with members of the opposite
sex, or anyone youre attracted to.
36. Restores control over emotions
Having control over your emotions is not just important when youre dealing with
women, its about having confidence in yourself. Its about being sure that you are
able to withstand challenges and see them through as well as enjoy the
successes of life. Porn can strip you of your inner strength.
37. Enables clarity of vision and focus
SOURCES:
Norepinephrine / Noradrenaline
a) When you remove the negative emotions that stem from a porn addiction,
there is more emotional energy to devote to the important matters, daily tasks
and unfinished projects.
b) Theres literally more time to do things that you need or want to do.
motivation
39. Promotes a healthy view of women
This has been mentioned before, but I wanted to go into detail on this point. Its
so important that as men we remember that what women go through in order to
make porn is nothing compared to what we think theyre going through. It looks
hot, it looks sexy, but were watching actors who are hoping to get paid. 9 times
out of 10 they dont get paid what theyre worth. Add to that the shame and guilt
piled on them for what theyre doing. Its not at all as glamorous as wed like to
think watching from the other side of the screen. That woman is someones
daughter, sister, or possibly mother.
40. Prevents a sex obsession
An obsession is never a good thing, and it can so easily form. Porn keeps the
constant need for sex alive, but youre never truly being satisfied, as mentioned in
point 29. This cycle can quickly grow into an obsession which inhibits the ability
to function like a normal person in the company of people, especially women.
41. Quitting porn can help you understand women
Youll never truly understand a woman until she opens up to you, but you can
prevent misunderstandings by simply opting not to watch porn. Porn changes the
way men interact with women, and thats a fact. What may be a simple friendly
exchange, could be taken out of context as something much more, flirting, or the
go-ahead even. Porn movies make the exchange between men and women all
about sex. If she says hi, its because she wants sex, if she does something good
for you, its because she wants sex, if she is happy, its because she wants sex.
The reality is a bit more stark! Youve got to work for what you want.
42. New doors opening to conscious awareness
When pornography and masturbation take a backseat and the body and all its
senses are not occupied, conscious growth can occur. By becoming more aware
of everything, youre allowing yourself to grow and find things, experiences or
moments that will help you become a happy, satisfied person.
Courage favours and rewards the brave. In order to salvage a relationship that
was broken because of porn, communication is vital. Many NoFappers reported
that PMO was their number one go-to for problems.
44. Feeling of wholeness that is not reliant on an external source
The secrecy behind porn and masturbation creates a pretty lonely cavity in a
persons life. There is no room for intimacy and affection in this regard and
refraining from this habit promotes overall wellness without having to rely on an
external source to produce quick fix solutions.
45. No risk of arrest or legal troubles
Theres the good part of porn and then the really suspect part of porn. Pretty
much every normal person will turn away from the latter, right? However, over
time, the dodgy parts of porn become a little less obscene to the viewer as he (or
she, granted) goes in search of something more arousing. Theres a very fine line
between what is acceptable and what is not on porn sites and those lines can be
crossed before you even know it, or before youve gained control. Remember that
many of these sites are already tagged and are being watched in order to catch
potential sex offenders or individuals engaging in illicit behaviour which is not
consistent with online terms and conditions.
New technology can log and trace users activities and the smallest indiscretion
could cause you a run-in with law enforcement. So dont surf porn sites!
Masturbating and the visual stimulus of pornography dont require much focus or
deeper thinking and, therefore, can become a shallow activity that can actually do
damage to your creative thinking. If your ability to put things into perspective,
consider, ponder, analyse and implement sound solutions to problems is
affected, it may be time to quit your PMO habit.
Quitting pornography restores your inner moral compass. You can use it to help
others find their way back to the natural flow of things by redirecting them away
from their own similar challenges.
49. The joy of keeping promises
If a promise is kept to avoid returning to the detrimental habit of masturbation or
pornography, a powerful bond is formed. Keeping a promise to a loved one is one
thing, but keeping a promise to yourself can be even more powerful. The by-
product of such a sacrifice and commitment to your principles can help you reach
a new level of self-respect.
50.Develops a stronger sense of optimism about life
The fact remains that sexual intimacy is one of the greatest experiences two
people can share. When that dynamic is so over-shadowed by porn and what it
portrays, its pretty hard to identify where to draw the line.
Did you find this article motivating? Are you ready to make changes in your life?