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Indira Hood-Esparza
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11/14/17
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Well, we all have the same basic steps our body takes to interpret
information and respond to it. Neurons are a big part of this process. Sensory
neurons detect whats happening (for example what we see), and pass the signal to
interneurons which relay the messages to and from the brain via the spinal cord,
and finally motor neurons pass the signals to tissues in the body which cause the
reaction. Thats how all basic nervous systems work, so why dont we all interpret
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Ever since my father passed away when I was 4 it has just been my mom
and I. She raised me by herself, she took the role of both mother and father. She
outfit and my brown cowgirl boots. She helped me with my homework and my
projects for school, like creating a desert scene with cacti and lizards. She was
always the one to cook dinner for me, taco tuesdays and pizza on Friday while we
watched a movie. This was our routine, something I was used to, I knew what to
expect.
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Never have I ever felt like only having one parent put me at a disadvantage,
that is just how I was raised. I only had a mom and I was perfectly content with
that. (PAUSE) Yes it was sad that my dad passed and it was something I would
have to deal with when I got older but as a 10 year old I was happy with my life.
Dave and Busters. My mom seemed hopeful and excited, she was so happy I
wanted to be happy like her too. But I just wasnt. I was nervous and I didnt know
what to expect. This was my moms first time meeting Nathan, who was Bobs
Hi. and he was gone. Bob had made the mistake of letting go of his hand
when he was introducing us. I remember thinking how my mom wouldve never
let me do that. Its not polite. But she didnt seem to mind when Nathan left. She
just shrugged and laughed, saying her hellos to Bob. I wandered through the aisles
of basketball hoops and life sized motorcycles. There were families everywhere,
parents putting the coins in while the kids jumped up and down eagerly, excited to
play. I admired them, how they all looked alike, how the siblings helped each
other. I couldnt blame my mom for wanting that, even I wanted that. But I
couldnt shake the feeling that it wouldn't be the same. These families had always
been together, grew up together. My mom, Bob, Nathan and I would never be like
that. They both felt like strangers to me. Why didnt it feel like that to my
mom?.(PAUSE)
It had been a few months and I had heard whisperings of what was coming,
(PAUSE) Ill admit it I did eavesdrop a tad when my mom was on the phone with
Bob. He lived all the way in Carlsbad so they didnt see each other often and when
they did my mom would go to him and I would be left on the doorstep of my
grandparents house. This became the new routine. I got relatively used to this
routine, I had the mindset that as long as I didnt have to spend too much time with
them it was fine. A win-win situation. My mom was happy with them and I was
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Yeah that sounds good, you come down Thursday and we can go look at a
Look at a few what? I asked, what would her and Bob be looking at in
Eastlake. My mom cut her eyes at me mildly irritated that I didnt respect her
phone privacy.
Houses. She said. (PAUSE)
there was no way that Bob and Nathan could be in her life without being in mine.
She was excited to start a new chapter in her life, I however was feeling anger, a
need to resist. For me it was like I was betraying my dad, saying I have a new one
I heard the door creak open and slam shut. Bob and my mom came up the
stairs while I was emptying the dishwasher. They had been gone all night at some
hotel in Coronado for their anniversary. I felt Bob come up behind me, when I
looked over my shoulder I saw a small black box. I knew what it was because he
had showed me it a few weeks ago after my mom and him had gone ring shopping.
They had said that they just went ring shopping, just to look. It had already
been 4 years and Bob would always make a face when my mom would mention
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should be, I knew she wanted me to be. I couldnt force myself to feel happy, I
nerves can send signals at the speed of 119 miles per second, but my brain wasnt
signaling my body anywhere near as quickly as that. I had avoided thinking about
this moment for so long. I think I was in shock. (PAUSE) Eventually I just gave
them a small smile and said congratulations. My mom said we might be able to go
I put the last dish in the cabinet and started to head downstairs.
Wait, dont you want to hear about how it happened? My mom asked, she
seemed so eager to tell me. Im sure she wanted to share her happy moment with
me. (PAUSE) I went back up the stairs and sat down with them on the couch. My
mom told me all the details of how he had asked her. I dont know how I came off.
But my mom didnt go off on me for not being pleasant or ruining her big night so
anything in that moment. I never thought the relationship would go that far.
Trinity, be pleasant. My mom said through her teeth as we walked
through the ridiculously cold rain pouring down on us, on our way to Thanksgiving
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I dont get how she could interpret my irritation at getting soaking wet in 40
get her hair wet and her makeup wiped off by the unrelenting sheets of rain that
This was our first holiday with Bob and Nathans family, I felt bad because
Bobs dad always tried to talk with me. He asked me how I felt about the
engagement, I would just put on a fake smile and say I was excited, but I think they
could all see through me. Every time I met one of Bob and Nathans family
members I couldnt help but think of my own aunt or uncle or cousin that I already
had.
Even though my mom and Bob were engaged I could never picture his
family as my family.
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after, saying, Theyre so nice, all they want to do is get to know you and youre so
rude to them., You make them think somethings wrong with them, they think
adamant believer in therapy. I felt that the therapy I had been in since I met Bob I
would answer. Everytime we walked through that hallway and sat on the brown
couch with our backs facing the window, I had a sinking feeling that I was in
trouble. Most of my therapy sessions ended with me feeling like the problem, just
Well Trinitys been doing pretty good. I think we just need to work on
being more pleasant. This was the most frustrating sentence in the world. I
legitimately did not understand how I could get in trouble for not being happy. Its
how can I be expected to act just like her when I didnt feel just like her?
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September 23rd, 2017. The day that Bob and Nathan would officially
become my step dad and step brother. The day of the wedding. My mom and I had
gotten up at 8:30 to go get our hair done all the way in downtown San Diego. In
the car on the way back I was staring out the window looking at the skyscrapers. I
was thinking about the wedding that was about to happen in 7 hours. How I
wished it wouldnt happen. I wished my mom would come to her senses and
realize she doesnt need a new family. That Im good enough for her. (PAUSE)
Do you want me to take you home or do you want to come with me and
wait while I get my makeup done? She asked, breaking the silence.
You know what Trinity Im sick of this. You can never be happy you can
never be pleasant. You always want everything to be about you. You cant just let
That hurt.
That was probably one of the worst feelings in the world. I didnt understand how
She lost a husband, and soon she will have another one. Notice how both of them
and soon I was going to have a stepdad. Not the same thing. I will never have
another biological father. I will never have someone who was there when I was
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or prom, watch me graduate from high school, or walk me down the aisle.
was it wrong to feel like this? Why was it wrong to say this is hard for me?
it is hard. (BREATHE)
During the wedding I clapped when I was supposed to clap, smiled when I
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Everything was going as expected but then my mom took a paper out of her dress
and read a speech to Nathan. Everyone was crying. But me. I was nervous as she
was reading the ending to her speech because I knew what was coming next. I
promised myself I wouldnt cry. I would keep a straight face, keep smiling like my
Trinity, Ive known you for almost 5 years, and in those 5 years I have seen
you grow from a child to a young adult, and I am amazed at how youve grown
and changed into a young woman who has accomplished so much. Dont cry,
dont cry. I felt the tears start to come. I looked up and into the wind to try to get
Youre smart, energetic, and confident. I couldnt have asked for a better
role model for Nathan. I know that whatever path you choose youll be successful.
I am so proud to call you my daughter. The tears were falling now, there
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I was crying for my dad, I felt like this day would truly be the day he was
replaced. (PAUSE)
I was crying from frustration, I felt like I was silenced by the person I loved
the most. (PAUSE) I was crying from self hatred, look at all the nice things Bob
was saying to me, he had never done anything truly bad to me but I still wanted
nothing to do with him. (PAUSE) Why couldnt I just be happy for my mom? Why
did I have to be the problem? I looked around at my family members, they were all
crying like me. I shared a look with my grandma, she was the only one I would tell
about how I was struggling with the wedding. She understood how hard this was
Ill never replace your dad, but I promise I can be someone who you can
What he was saying was right, he had finally said what Id been thinking this
whole time, but that didnt really change my feelings or the facts of what
really changed, my acting has just gotten better. To this day, I struggle to behave
Mine.