Multicultural

Conversations
and the Four-Square Relational Model
Multicultural Guidelines

Lean into discomfort and take risks - Try things on.

Maintain confidentiality - Create a safe space for people to share.

It’s okay to disagree - It’s not okay to blame or shame yourself or others.

Be aware of intent & impact - Be responsible for how you have affected others,
regardless of intent.
Multicultural Guidelines

Practice self focus - Use “I” statements and speak from your own perspective.

Practice ‘both/and’ thinking - Use “yes, and” to acknowledge there can be 2

conflicting truths and continue to move forward.

Notice process and content - Acknowledge the “how” and the “what” of your
experience.

Approach with a beginner’s mind - We are all learning together.

Lean into
discomfort and
take risks.

Safety is
mandatory.

Comfort is
optional.
What do you see?

Both/And Thinking

Multiple perspective thinking

benefits everyone.
WHO AM I?
Four Square
Relational Model
Present Day Relationships

From Respect for All Project

 Bullying
Behavior
This quadrant locates those
times when one engages in
behaviors that are intended to
devalue someone, assert
power, or hurt another either
physically or emotionally.
 Being an Ally

This quadrant locates those times

when an individual engages in an
act of support or intervention on
behalf of someone who is being
targeted. Ally behavior can be
demonstrated through words,
emotional support, or direct action.
 Being a
Bystander
This quadrant locates those times
when an individual observes an
act of bullying and takes no action
to stop the behavior, or to stand
up as an ally for the target. This
quadrant is a space of inaction,
and passive, indirect support of
bullying behavior.
Being a Target
This quadrant locates those
times when an individual is a
target of bullying behavior.
This quadrant is a space of
anger, fear, and oftentimes,
isolation.
 Personal
Junction
This section of the model
indicates the space/process
where all individuals
make choices not only about
their behavior on a case by
case basis, but also about the
environments they face in
making those choices.
Bullying Behavior This quadrant locates those times when one engages in behaviors that are
intended to devalue someone, assert power, or hurt another either physically or
emotionally.

Being an Ally This quadrant locates those times when an individual engages in an act of support
or intervention on behalf of someone who is being targeted. Ally behavior can be
demonstrated through words, emotional support, or direct action.

Being a Bystander This quadrant locates those times when an individual observes an act of bullying
and takes no action to stop the behavior, or to stand up as an ally for the target.
This quadrant is a space of inaction, and passive, indirect support of bullying
behavior.

Being a Target This quadrant locates those times when an individual is a target of bullying
behavior. This quadrant is a space of anger, fear, and oftentimes, isolation.

Personal Junction This section of the model indicates the space/process where all individuals
make choices not only about their behavior on a case by case basis, but also
about the environments they face in making those choices.
How Does This Apply to What We Are Learning?
Four Square Oppressor Ally

Relational Model

Bystander Oppressed

Historical Relationship Lens

On One
Hand Game