Escolar Documentos
Profissional Documentos
Cultura Documentos
Cynthia Banham
First published in 2018
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1 The Boxes 1
2 Trieste 51
3 Searching 113
4 Alfredo 167
5 Michael 227
6 Loredana 287
7 Crashing 343
Acknowledgements 377
Notes 381
Bibliography 387
PROLOGUE
A Letter to My Son
MY LITTLE CUB.
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When you were four, you kissed my ‘bumpy’ grafted skin. Rather
than being repelled by it, you wanted to make it better for me.
At five, I carefully wash your precious little toes when you have
your bath and, yes, I do think of my losses as I feel the smooth
bridges of your feet underneath my fingertips. When I notice the
pale brown birthmark on one of your ankles, I remember that I
had a similar mark on one of mine.
Right now I am your world, I am all you want, I am all you know.
But I am damaged. I don’t feel whole. I couldn’t walk you to sleep
when we brought you home from hospital; others had to do that.
I couldn’t breastfeed you beyond the first few weeks because of the
burns on my left breast. I couldn’t lay you down in your bassinet;
my wheelchair was too low. I couldn’t place you in your pram and
go for a walk to the local park as I watched other mothers do.
I couldn’t grab your hand and take you down to the beach like the
mother in The Big Big Sea.
I am in so many ways broken. When you were a toddler,
I wondered how you would feel about me when you got older,
when you became more aware of my limitations and compared
your mamma to the more ‘normal’, able mothers of your friends.
‘Mummy, I wish you could walk,’ is something you have said to
me at night in your bed as we waited together for you to fall asleep.
‘I wish you had your legs back, Mum,’ is another.
There was a day in the summer just before you turned four.
We were at the coast, the beaches swarmed with families, with
parents playing in the sand and running in the waves with their
children. Your daddy took you to the beach while I waited back at
the house and when you got back you saw I was upset.
‘Why are you crying, Mummy?’ you asked.
‘I’m crying because I can’t run with you and Daddy on the sand
and in the waves,’ I said, then immediately regretted it.
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Your mamma
March 2017
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throat so sore? A breathing tube had been inserted down it, the
anaesthetist told me.
Later, I asked Michael about his reluctance to leave me that
morning. ‘Why did you look so sad when they wheeled me away
to theatre?’
‘Because in Perth, when they wheeled you away, I never knew
whether the doctors would come back and tell us “Sorry—we did
everything we could for her”, and you would be gone.’
It was June 2015. Eight years had passed since my legs were
amputated to save my life after a plane crash in Indonesia. My
career as a journalist officially ended in 2012, the year my son was
born. I finished a five-year PhD thesis on human rights and the
‘war on terror’ in October 2014.
Then, my life substantially rebuilt, I opened the boxes.
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How to describe the boxes? There are two kinds; a set of boxes for
each set of difficult memories.
First, there are the boxes from the crash. They’d been stored in
the garage for over seven years. They held all the documents from
my time in the Royal Perth Hospital Burns Unit, where I spent
nearly three months, and the rehabilitation hospital, another three
months. Cards, emails, letters, notebooks, newspaper clippings,
phone messages, photographs that covered a wall of my hospital
room, CDs, small gifts, books of poetry, religious icons, postcards,
children’s artwork. All the well-wishes and thoughtful sentiments
people sent me during that period. Among them was a bright red
lipstick; an olive-green shawl that somebody, a stranger, knitted for
me; a painting of a beach scene from Stradbroke Island.
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keep him alive. In 1945, Alfredo was liberated by the Russians and
repatriated to Italy. Two years after the war ended, my mother was
born. Amelia departed Italy for America in 1951. Nine years later,
she died in the United States in troubled circumstances.
I had carried the bones of this story around with me since I
was fourteen, when Nonno showed me his tag. I learnt about the
intriguing role of Amelia on a visit back to Trieste many years later,
in 2001 (I was 29 by then). I was a little like the wilful, freedom-
loving Amelia, relatives told me, and I was happy to believe them.
Amelia had chased adventure and refused to settle down. I suppose
they saw a likeness in my restlessness, determination to see the
world, and independence. When I returned home, my mother told
me about Amelia’s diary. Mum had read it as a teenager following
her aunt’s death. She told me it contained disturbing details of
Amelia’s life in America, including the physical abuse she endured
there. Nobody knew where the diary was now.
Amelia’s life had an allure and romance about it. She was a
figure who was only distantly connected to my life, yet her story
gripped me in a way that I still find hard to explain. Knowing more
of it today, I doubt I was anything like Amelia: a woman who took
huge risks and defied the social norms and conventions of her day.
She was an outlier, unlike anyone else in our family.
I resolved, after that 2001 trip, to write a book about Amelia,
my grandfather’s resourceful sister, his brave protector during the
war, whose life ended violently and too soon. However, things—
career, travel, love—meant I kept putting it off.
Then 2007 happened.
I was foreign affairs and defence reporter for the Sydney Morning
Herald, and that March I travelled to Indonesia with the foreign
affairs minister. En route from Jakarta to Yogyakarta, where I
was meant to meet the minister and fly back to Australia in the
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III
How do you visit your grandparents’ house for the last time,
the house where you spent every Saturday of your childhood,
knowing they are both gone forever?
It was a childhood of Saturdays spent eating my
grandmother’s lunches of spaghetti, schnitzel and radicchio salad;
of listening to my mother and her sister conversing across the
table with their parents in the Trieste dialect; of learning,
gradually, to drink coffee, which Nonna made in a small pot on
the stove, disguising its bitterness with lots of milk and sugar.
Every weekend we’d take the number 492 or 494 bus to
my grandparents’ house in Campsie, in Sydney’s south-west,
us four children and Mum. It was a winding, interminable trip
through the back streets of Five Dock, Ashfield and Burwood,
that was always worse on the return journey with a full stomach.
I passed through the rickety front gate of the Fletcher
Street house for the final time in late 2010. Nonna had died in
Concord Hospital the previous year; her funeral was on my
birthday. The house had been sold. Now its contents were being
packed up, picked through for memories and keepsakes her
children and grand children couldn’t yet let go of, the remainder
donated to the Salvation Army, or just thrown away. My sister
took a rolling pin and Nonno’s
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