Welcome to Anger Management!

Character Traits Addressed

* Responsibility
* Self-Control
* Respecting & Valuing Self
* Respecting & Valuing Others
* Tolerance & Allowing
* Justice & Fairness
* Valuing & Respecting Authority
* Leadership

Conflict Resolution Strategies Addressed

* Basic Needs
* Three Outcomes of Conflict: WIN-WIN, WIN-LOSE, LOSE-LOSE
* Passive, Aggressive, & Assertive Responses to Conflict
* I Messages
* Fight or Flight
* Anger Management Techniques
*Cognitive Change

Other Concepts Addressed

* Reading
* Critical-Thinking Skills
* Oral-Speaking Practice

Cognitive/Instructional Objectives
a. Participants will learn to define and recognize their Anger Triggers, their Anger Cues, their Anger
Styles, and the possible Consequences of letting their anger out in an inappropriate fashion.

b. Participants will learn several Anger Management suggestions and techniques.

c. Participants will learn to identify the risky thoughts and feelings that occur during conflict, why they are
occurring, and how to make better choices.

Emotional Objectives
a. I value and respect myself; therefore, I will learn how to manage my feelings of anger better.

b. I want people to like and respect me; therefore, I am careful about how I let my anger out.

c. I value other people; therefore, I will consciously work on how I give vent to any angry feelings I might
be feeling.

d. I value and respect myself; therefore, I will try to distract myself from feelings of anger, worry, guilt,
sadness, or fear and replace those thoughts with good-feeling daydreams and activities.

Behavioral Objectives
a. Participants will decrease the number of times they give vent to their angry feelings in an inappropriate
fashion.

b. Participants will increase the number of times they work to feel good rather than cling to feelings of
anger, worry, guilt, sadness, or fear.

Allyson Drayton, Facilitator

July, 2010
Glossary Of Terms:

Anger Triggers – An anger trigger is the thing that causes any individual to feel angry.
This can be different for every person.

Anger Cues - Physical Cues include:

* Headaches or Head Pounds
* Stomach Ach Or Stomach Tight
* Neck Muscles Tense
* Flex Jaw Muscles Or Jaw Tightens Or Teeth Clench
* Face Feels Tight Or Face Flushed
* Chest Feels Tight; Heart Palpitates
* Breathing in Gulps Or Can’t Breathe Or Deep Breathing Or Fast Breathing
* Voice Gets High Or Voice Is A Whisper Or Voice Gets Rough
* Hands Sweat Or Hands Clench Or Shake
* Upper Back Hurts Or Lower Back Aches
* Legs Get Tight
* Feel Cold
* Eyes Tear Or Roll Eyes Or Eyes Get Hard Or Eyes Look Crazy Or Glazed
* Body Takes A Fighting Stance Or Feels Frozen & Stiff
* Hair Stands Up
* Arms Feel Heavy

Acting Out - This type of anger style is where someone has some kind of extreme lashing
out at another person or as a result of some particular incident or event. Without taking
time to think, the person immediately reacts to their anger trigger(s) in some kind of
extreme fashion. This person can be said to be ‘out of control’.

Consequence of Acting Out - The consequences of Acting Out is that nothing is solved
and the person is still angry. This is either a LOSE-LOSE Outcome or a WIN-LOSE
Outcome with the person who lost control being the one who definitely LOSES.

Displaced Anger - This kind of anger style is a classic example of the VICTIM-
VICTIMIZER Cycle. This is where you are mad at one person, but you take your anger
out on a possibly weaker or easier target who just happens to be passing by.

Consequence of Displaced Anger - The consequences of Displaced Anger is that an

innocent person gets hurt and the problem with the original person is still not solved
either. This is a LOSE-LOSE Outcome for both the one who is angry and for the
innocent bystander. It is either a LOSE-LOSE Outcome or a WIN-LOSE Outcome
between the person who got angry and the person who provoked that person’s anger. The
LOSER is still the one who took out his or her anger on another.

Ignored Anger - This kind of anger style is where a person holds his or her anger inside
or pretends to self that he or she is not mad. This internal anger often builds up and up

Allyson Drayton, Facilitator

July, 2010
until the person suddenly explodes in the form of physical or loud verbal attacks or the
person implodes in the form of severe depression or anxiety.

Consequence of Ignored Anger - The consequences of Ignored Anger is the problem is

definitely still not solved and the person or event who provoked that person’s anger is
probably either knowingly or unknowingly still activating that person’s anger. The
outcome is either a LOSE-LOSE or a WIN-LOSE, with the person with bottled-up anger
being the LOSER in both cases.

Avoidance - This kind of anger style is where a person avoids meeting the eyes or
communicating with the person who provoked their feelings of anger. They might even
avoid being in the presence of that person altogether. This anger style includes giving
that person what is known as the ‘Silent Treatment’.

Consequence of Avoidance - The consequences of Avoidance is that the problem is

definitely still not solved and the person or event who provoked that person’s anger is
probably either knowingly or unknowingly still activating that person’s anger. The
outcome is either a LOSE-LOSE or a WIN-LOSE, with the person who is avoiding the
person who angered him or her being the LOSER in both cases.

Allyson Drayton, Facilitator

July, 2010