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The practice of suppressing sexual drives, that sometimes threaten social order
and harmony, has been a deciding factor in the emergence of civilizations and
complex human economic and cultural structures. It enables the full participation
of males/females in the system and the full investment of these males/females in
the system itself that turns them from rebellious vagabonds or indifferent
observers into defenders and guardians of the norm.
Since metaphor and allegory are the best ways to become precise while still
remaining discreet and indirect I begin by encapsulating my perspective of this
more noble form of monogamy with symbolism:
Let us then take wine as a substitute for mating, since it is an unnecessary
aspect of individual survival, as sex is, while still retaining the attraction and
sweetness associated with coupling.
But for a refined palate, one that can discern nuance and subtlety, not all wines
are created equal. His discriminating tastes are not a consequence of pretentious
snobbery and feigned aristocracy but a result of an oversensitive taste-bud and a
hypersensitive nose. He cannot ignore, no matter how much he may try, the faint
fragrances, the quiet bouquets, the textures, the aftertastes or the colorations of
each Olympian nectar; for him the wines history, its symbolism and art are just as
relevant as its simple drinking. He may drink an inferior fermented grape, from
time to time so as to not insult a host or as to not make an unwarranted fuss, but
given a choice he will prefer abstinence from indulging in pigswill and fire-water.
The refined palate, therefore, will choose asceticism rather than to debase and
degrade one self by settling for inferior products and individuals just to quell an
inner instinctive need or desire. He will see any submission to his hunger and
thirst, which often demand compromises of great proportion, as a defeat, as an
insult to self and a loss of dignity that is often felt in hindsight.
We must keep in mind again that this refined taste is not an act of conceit but a
product of awareness. It stems from this extreme sensual perceptiveness
[hypersensitivity] that is inescapable, as no man can blind himself to what he
sees or ignore for long what he hears, and it also stems from a deeper
appreciation of emotions and of self. It is an appearance of pride we call nobility.
It is possible for two individuals to experience the same thing but perceive it on
different levels, levels of lucidity if you will.
It is this lucidity that gives reality, life and emotions more substance for the noble
man. His love is more precious to him and not something he gives out lightly, his
compassion is more profound, his loyalty more true, his friendship more deep
and weighted down with meaning and not mere words he flings around to appear
civilized and moral or to ensure another’s respect.
This noble man of refined tastes takes responsibility seriously and that’s why he
enters it so rarely, he takes commitment more austerely and that is why he rarely
commits. For him love/hate, loyalty/betrayal, compassion/cruelty, mean so much
more than for the common man that enters relationships of enmity or cooperation
blindly and full of insincere innocence, delusional confidence and naïve hope
derived from an absence of awareness or an inability to self-discipline.
Their rarity and value is due to the fact that they are based on more than just
mere lust but exhibit a spiritual interconnectedness where two people become
united in more than a physical way, although the physical is always the first
connection. Here the mind takes precedence and decides when to suppress or
express desire and need, when to expose or hide vulnerability and strength,
when to love, commit and remain loyal because only it can comprehend the full
breadth and depth of the issues involved.
This nobility of spirit, this refinement of taste forces the individual endowed with
it, into some uncomfortable choices: Either find solace in solitude and asceticism
through the denial of instinct, as many sages have done, so that no compromises
are made and no loss of self worth ensues or search and wait for that single one,
that diamond in the dirt that lives up to heightened standards and meets reality
eye-to-eye, that gives as much as it takes and understands the entirety of what
commitment, loyalty, trust, compassion and finally love entails.
Only nobility can truly love whereas a common man merely lusts and covets.